Ubudlelwane bezothando: Nini Ukuthetha okuhle

Umxholo

• Imiqondiso ubudlelwane ayinampilo
• Izinto ezakhayo ukuzama ngaphambi kokuvalelisa
• Iingcebiso zokuphelisa ubudlelwane
• Nini ukuvalelisa
• Cinga ngokufuna inkxaso
• Yiba nengqiqo
• Ukuzinyanga nokuzikhathalela emva kokwahlukana
• Ukuthatha

Abantu abanesifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo banamava okutshintsha kakhulu kwiimvakalelo ezinokubangela iziqendu zomntu okanye zokudakumba. Ngaphandle konyango, ezi nguqu kwiimvakalelo zinokwenza ukuba kube nzima ukulawula isikolo, umsebenzi kunye nobudlelwane kwezothando.

Kunganzima kwiqabane elingakhange lisondele kumntu one-bipolar disorder ukuqonda imiceli mngeni ethile.

Ngelixa ukuphazamiseka kwe-bipolar kungazisa imiceli mngeni, ayichazi iqabane lakho.

"Ukugula ngengqondo akuthethi ukuhlala unengxaki, kodwa kunokubakho iziqendu zamaxesha anzima ngakumbi," utshilo uGqirha Gail Saltz, unjingalwazi onxulumene nonyango lwezonyango kwizibhedlele zaseNew York-Presbyterian Weill-Cornell Medical College.

"Nokuba kukho ixesha lomzabalazo ongaphezulu, injongo iya kuba kukubabuyisela kwimeko entle kwaye bazigcine."

Esi sifo sinezinto ezintle. Abantu abane-bipolar disorder bangabonakalisa "ubuchule obuphezulu, ngamanye amaxesha, amandla amakhulu, avumela ukuba babe ngabantu bokuqala kwaye bacingisise," watsho uGqirha Saltz. Uye waphawula ukuba ii-CEO ezininzi zinengxaki yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwaye zabelana ngezi mpawu.

Ngelixa ingxaki ingenalo unyango, unyango lunokulawula ngokufanelekileyo iimpawu kwaye luncede ukugcina uzinzo. Oku kunokwenza kube lula ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane kunye nokukhuthaza ubudlelwane obude, obunempilo.

Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane bungabi nasempilweni naxa iimpawu zomntu oneempawu zokuguquguquka kwengqondo zilawulwa ngokufanelekileyo. Abanye abantu banokujamelana nemingeni eyenza kube nzima ukuba kubudlelwane.

Nazi ezinye zezinto ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo ukuba ucinga ngokuphelisa ubudlelwane neqabane elithe lafunyaniswa linengxaki yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Imiqondiso ubudlelwane ayinampilo

Kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nolwalamano olusempilweni, nolonwabisayo nomntu ophila nesifo esiyibipolar. Nangona kunjalo, kunokubakho izikhombisi ezithile eziphakamisa ukujonga olunye ubudlelwane.

Ugqirha Saltz uthe imiqondiso eliqela inokubonisa ubudlelwane obungenampilo, ngakumbi neqabane elifunyaniswe ukuba linengxaki yokuphazamiseka engqondweni.

• uziva ngathi ungumnakekeli kubudlelwane
• ukudinwa
• ukuncama iinjongo zakho zobomi, amaxabiso, kunye neemfuno zokuba kunye neqabane lakho

Iqabane lakho ukuyeka unyango okanye amayeza akho kunokuba ngumqondiso olumkisayo ngekamva lobudlelwane. Kananjalo, njengabo nabuphi na ubudlelwane, awusoze uvakalelwe kukuba iqabane lakho libeka wena okanye wena engozini.

Iimpawu ezingenampilo zihamba zombini iindlela. Umntu ofunyaniswe enesifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okukhoyo unokubona iiflegi ezibomvu kwiqabane lakhe, naye.

"Iqabane elibeka ibala kunye nelibi kakhulu malunga nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo, ngelishwa eliqhelekileyo eliqhelekileyo, kunokuba liqabane elinzima ukuba nalo," utshilo uGqirha Saltz.

"Basenokuhlala bezithoba okanye bekugxotha, [bethetha izinto ezinje]" Awunangxaki yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, "[enokuthi] ijonge unyango lwakho," wongeze watsho. Kumlingane ofunyaniswe ukuba une-bipolar disorder, eli isenokuba lixesha lokujonga olunye ulwalamano.

Izinto ezakhayo ukuzama ngaphambi kokuvalelisa

Kukho izinto ezininzi onokuzama ngazo ukugcina ubudlelwane.

Okokuqala, khumbula ukuba kutheni ulwalamano. "Mhlawumbi uye wazibandakanya nalo mntu kwaye wakhetha lo mntu kuba zininzi izinto ozithandayo nothanda lo mntu," utshilo uGqirha Saltz.

Uye wacebisa ukuba uzifundise malunga nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ukuze uyiqonde ngcono imeko. Kwakhona kunceda ukufunda ukuqaphela iimpawu zokudakumba okanye i-hypomania ukuze ucebise iqabane lakho ukuba lithethe nomboneleli wabo wezempilo ukuba uyafuneka.

UGqirha Saltz ukwacebisile ukukhuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba liqhubeke nonyango kwaye lithathe nawaphi na amayeza amiselweyo.

"Ngamanye amaxesha, xa abantu bezinzile okwethutyana, bafana," Owu, andicingi ukuba ndiyayidinga le nto. Ngokuqhelekileyo leyo ngumbono ombi, utshilo.

UGqr.Alex Dimitriu, umsunguli we-Menlo Park Psychiatry & Sleep Medicine, uthe ungalixhasa iqabane lakho ngokunikezela "ngothantamiso, ukujonga okungagwebanga kunye nokukhokela" kunye nokukhuthaza isimilo esifanelekileyo.

Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zibandakanya:

• ukufumana ukulala ngokwaneleyo
• ukusebenzisa izinto ezincinci
• ukwenza umthambo
• ukwenza ukulandela umkhondo olula, wemihla ngemihla
• ukuziqhelanisa nokuzazi
• ukuthatha amayeza njengoko kumiselwe

Ukongeza, wacebisa ukuba iqabane lakho lichonge abantu abathathu abathembekileyo ukuba bazokungena kunye (unokuba ungomnye) ukuba baziva.

"Bayeke abo bantu banike amanqaku aphakathi, kwaye bathi," Hee, ewe. ‘Unentloko eshushu, okanye uphantsi,’ okanye nantoni na abanokukunika yona, ”utshilo.

Iingcebiso zokuphelisa ubudlelwane

Kuya kufuneka uphinde uvavanye kwangoko naluphi na ulwalamano olusongelayo, kwaye unakekele ukhuseleko lwakho. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba iimpawu ezingekho sempilweni ziyaqhubeka okanye zikhula zisiba mbi, isenokuba lixesha lokucinga ngokuphelisa ubudlelwane.

Nini ukuvalelisa

Ugqirha Dimitriu ucebise ngokuchasene nokwahlukana xa iqabane lakho linesiqendu somntu.

"Amaxesha amaninzi, ndicinga ukuba akukho nto unokuyithetha eya kuqinisekisa omnye umntu ngayo nantoni na, ukuba ngokwenene bakwicala le-mania," utshilo.

"Eyona nto inkulu, ndiyacinga, eneneni, kukulibazisa ukwahlukana ukuba oko kuyenzeka kwaye kunethuba lokuphumla," wongeze watsho.

Emva koko, "Sukuthatha izigqibo ezinkulu ngaphandle kokuba abahlobo bakho abathathu [abachongiweyo nabathembekileyo] bathe kwindawo eyiyo. Oku kuquka nobudlelwane. ”

Cinga ngokufuna inkxaso

Ukuba uyahlukana, uGqr. Saltz ucebise ukuba uqiniseke ukuba iqabane lakho linenkxaso yeemvakalelo, kwaye ukuba uyakwazi ukudibanisa nengcali yezempilo yengqondo, kunokuba luncedo.

Ukuba unolwazi lokuqhagamshelana nonyango lwabo ungashiya umyalezo, nangona usazi ukuba ingcali yabo ayinakukwazi ukuthetha nawe ngenxa ye-Inshurensi yezeMpilo yokuPhathwa nokuPhendula (HIPPA).

"Ungashiya umyalezo kunyangi wabo esithi," Siyahlukana, ndiyazi ukuba kuzakubanzima oku, kwaye ndifuna ukukwazisa ngaloo nto, "utshilo.

Ucebise ngokuhoya naziphi na iingcinga zokuzibulala. Ngokwe-2014 yophando, malunga neepesenti ezingama-25 ukuya kuma-50 zabantu abanesifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo baya kuzama ukuzibulala kube kanye.

“Ukuba umntu nakweyiphi na imeko wenza isoyikiso sokuzibulala, leyo yimeko engxamisekileyo. Kuya kufuneka uthathe naziphi na iindlela ozibonileyo ezikhoyo ngoku ukuba bazenze kwaye uzise kwigumbi lezongxamiseko, utshilo.

"Yinkxalabo nokuba uyahlukana nabo."

Yiba nengqiqo

Ungazama ukuxhasa kangangoko ngexesha lokwahlukana. Ukanti, uGqirha David Reiss, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo oneeofisi eMazantsi nakuMbindi weCalifornia, wathi abanye abantu basenokungamkeli kuba beziva belahliwe.

"Basenokungakwazi 'ukusebenza' ubudlelwane obuphela ngendlela efanelekileyo, kwaye 'ukuvalwa' okuvuthiweyo akunakwenzeka," watsho.

"Yiba nobubele, kodwa ungabi ngongcikivayo, kwaye uqonde ukuba wakube uluphelisile ulwalamano, ububele bakho busenokungamkeleki, kwaye kulungile."

"Sukuyithatha njengokuhlaselwa buqu," wongeze watsho. “Yamkele into yokuba indlela asabela ngayo omnye umntu, kunye nokukwazi kwabo ukugcina ubudlelwane obuphezulu okanye obuchubekileyo emva kokwaliwa, kunokuba yinto encinci kwaye ingaphaya kwamandla akho.

“Yenza zama ukuba nemfesane, kodwa ukulungele ukuyilahla loo mfesane ungakhange uyithathe. ”

Ukuzinyanga nokuzikhathalela emva kokwahlukana

Nakuphi na ukwahlukana kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi ukuba ubuzinikele ixesha elide kwiqabane lakho. UGqirha Reiss uthe le meko inokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala.

“Ukuba uqala ukuziva unetyala xa inyani kukuba ubungazibophelelanga ekulindeleni omnye umntu, ityala lakho liya kubangela umsindo, uxinzelelo, njl.njl. Kuwe nakuye komnye umntu kwaye kuyenze mandundu,” utshilo uGqirha Reiss. utshilo.

Uye wongeza wathi, "Sebenza kwityala lakho kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngaphambi, ngexesha nasemva koqhawulo-mtshato."

Kuya kuthatha ixesha ukuphilisa. UGqr. "Kuhlala kulungile ukuba uphonononge ngokwakho ukuba kutheni ukhethe lo mntu, ibiyintoni kuwe," utshilo.

"Ngaba yinto leyo, xa ujonga emva, uziva ulungile ngayo, okanye ngaba iyahambelana nephethini engakulungelanga? Zama nje ukufunda kubudlelwane obungapheliyo kwaye uqonde ngakumbi malunga naloo nto. "

Ukuthatha

Unokuba nolwalamano olusempilweni nolonwabileyo neqabane olifumene unesifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Le meko inokuzisa izinto ezintle nezicel'umngeni kulwalamano, kodwa ungathatha amanyathelo okuxhasa iqabane lakho kunye nokubanceda baphathe iimpawu zabo.

Ukuba ubona iimpawu ezingenampilo kubambiswano ezingaphuculiyo, unokufuna ukwahlukana. Unokuzama ukuxhasa ngexesha lokwahlukana, kodwa ungathathi buqu ukuba abalwamkeli uncedo lwakho.

Njengabo nabuphi na ubudlelwane, jolisa ekufundeni kumava njengoko uqhubela phambili.