Yazi ukuhamba kwakho: Amaxesha atshintsha njani njengoko ukhula

Umxholo

• Ukuchitha ixesha lexesha
• Thatha iintlungu ngokungathí sina, nokuba umncinci
• Ulutsha kunye nolutsha: Rhoqo kubi, kodwa akukho nto uneentloni ngayo
• I-20s: Ukungena kwi-groove
• Ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo: Ukufumana okanye ukungabinako
• Xa iimpawu zinokuthetha enye into
• Ii-30s: Ingxowa edityanisiweyo, kodwa phantse ingcwele
• Ixesha lentetho yokukhulelwa
• Ixesha lokuphuma
• Ii-40s: Ukudlala umdlalo wokuqikelela
• Ii-50s: Zisa ukuyeka ukuya exesheni

Ukuchitha ixesha lexesha

Nantsi intwana yetrivas: I-Courtney Cox yayingumntu wokuqala ukubiza ixesha elithile kumabonakude wesizwe. Unyaka? Ngo-1985.

Ukuya exesheni bekuyinto kudala ngaphambi kweminyaka yama-80s, nangona. Zininzi izithethe zoluntu, ezenkcubeko, kunye nezenkolo kwihlabathi liphela zithetha ukuba yintoni enokuthi yenziwe kwaye ingenakwenziwa ngelixesha. Kwaye inkcubeko yepop nayo ayibonakalisi bubele.

Ngombulelo izinto zihamba kancinci, kodwa okuninzi kushiyekile kufuna. Enye indlela yokuchitha eli xesha le-taboo kukuthetha nje ngayo-yibize ngokuba yintoni.

Ayisiyo "umakazi uFlo oza kutyelela," "elo xesha lenyanga," okanye "iveki yookrebe." Lixesha.

Kukho igazi kunye neentlungu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukukhululeka okanye usizi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha konke oko kwangaxeshanye. (Kwaye enye into: Ayizizo iimveliso ezicocekileyo zobufazi, ziyimveliso yokuya exesheni.)

Sifikelele kugqirha nakwigquba labantu abanesibeleko ukufumana ezantsi ukuba kunjani ukuba nexesha - ukusuka ekukhuleni ukuya exesheni kunye nayo yonke into ephakathi.

Thatha iintlungu ngokungathí sina, nokuba umncinci

Ngaphambi kokuba siqale, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uninzi lwethu olunesibeleko iintlungu zethu azithathwanga nzulu. Mhlawumbi wafundiswa ukuba le yayiyindlela nje ozakuba ngayo ngamaxesha. Kodwa intlungu yakho ibalulekile.

Ukuba ufumana oku kulandelayo okanye ngexesha lakho, unganqikazi ukufuna umboneleli wezempilo:

• intlungu kummandla we-pelvic
• amaxesha abuhlungu
• iintlungu ezisezantsi
• iintlungu emazantsi esisu
• ixesha elide
• amaxesha anzima

Ezi mpawu zinokuthi zikhombe kukungabikho exesheni.

Uninzi lweengxaki eziqhelekileyo zokuya esikhathini ziya kufunyanwa kamva ebomini, njengakwiminyaka yama-20 okanye engama-30. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba baqala ukwenzeka ngelo xesha-kuxa ugqirha ekuqinisekisile.

Musa ukuthandabuza ukufumana uncedo, nokuba umdala kangakanani. Ufanele unyango.

Ulutsha kunye nolutsha: Rhoqo kubi, kodwa akukho nto uneentloni ngayo

Ngokomndilili, abantu baseMelika bafumana ixesha labo lokuqala ngeenxa zonke. Kodwa loo nto nje umndilili. Ukuba uneminyaka embalwa ubudala okanye umncinci, kuyinto eqhelekileyo, nayo.

Iminyaka okuyo xa uqala ukufumana ixesha lakho ixhomekeke ku, njengemfuza, ubungakanani bomzimba (BMI), ukutya okutyayo, umthambo owufumanayo, kwanalapho uhlala khona.

Kwiminyaka embalwa yokuqala, kuqhelekile ukuba ixesha lakho lingalingani kwaye lingaqikelelwa. Ungahamba iinyanga ungakhange ucinge nto emva koko uphume ubomvu, i-Niagara Falls ebomvu.

"Ukuya exesheni, ukuqala kokuya exesheni, kubonakalisa kakhulu ukuyeka ukuya exesheni kuba ekuqaleni, kwaye ekugqibeleni, asivusi," utshilo uMary Jane Minkin, MD, unjingalwazi wezonyango we-OB-GYN kunye nenzululwazi zokuzala kwiSikolo iYale amayeza.

Umjikelo wethu wokuya exesheni ulawulwa ziihomoni zethu. Amava omzimba exesha-ukopha, iicramps, ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo, amabele athambileyo-konke kwehla ukuya kuthi ga kwinani lamahomoni umzimba wethu ukhupha nangaliphi na ixesha. Kwaye iihormone ezimbini zichaza umjikelo wethu.

"I-Estrogen ivuselela ukukhula kwesibeleko, ngelixa iprogesterone ilawula oko kukhula," utshilo uMinkin. “Xa singavali ovulation, asinalo ulawulo lolawulo lweprogesterone. Ke ungafumana la maxesha willy-nilly. Bayaza, abeza. Emva koko kunokubakho ukopha okunzima, okokoko. ”

UKatia Najd waqala ukuya exesheni kwiminyaka embalwa eyadlulayo xa wayeneminyaka eli-15. Ekuqaleni wayefumana umjikelo ongekho mgaqweni - nangona wayeqhelekile.

"Ixesha lam lalilula kakhulu ekuqaleni kwaye lathatha malunga neveki enesiqingatha," utshilo uNajd. "Ndikwanamaxesha amabini ngenyanga, yiyo loo nto ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndisebenzise ipilisi ukuyilawula."

Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive uneentloni, udidekile, kwaye ukhathazekile malunga nexesha lakho ekuqaleni. Eyona nto inengqiqo. Yinto entsha kraca, edla ngokudideka ebandakanya ilungu lomzimba wakho.

"Bendihlala ndisoyika ukuvuza kwisikolo samabanga aphakathi (bendingakhange ndiqalise nokuya exesheni, kodwa bendisoyika ukuba ndizoqala emva koko ndivuze) bendizokuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela njengaso sonke isiqingatha seyure ukujonga nje," utsho. U-Erin Trowbridge. "Ndandisoyika izinto ezinjalo iminyaka."

Ukukhula kwamaSilamsi, uHana Said wayengavumelekanga ukuba athandaze okanye azile ukutya ngeRamadan xa wayesesixesheni. Uthi oku kwamenza waziva engonwabanga, ngakumbi xa wayekunye nabanye abantu benkolo. Kodwa enkosi kwinkxaso katata wakhe, akazange afake ibala kakhulu.

"Utata wam ngumntu wokuqala owaziyo ukuba ndiye exesheni kwaye wandithengela iipads," utshilo. "Ke ihlala iyinto endithetha ngokukhululekileyo ngayo, ngakumbi emadodeni."

Kwangokunjalo, uNajd ukhankanya inkxaso yosapho lwakhe njengesinye sezizathu zokuba angaziva engonwabanga malunga nexesha lakhe.

Uthi: “Ndinoodadewethu ababini abadala, ngoko ke ndandikuqhelile ukuva ngalo nto. "Yinto wonke umntu obhinqileyo anayo, ke ayiyonto yokuhlazeka ngayo."

I-20s: Ukungena kwi-groove

Ke, amaxesha akho kuyo yonke indawo ekuqaleni. Kodwa uthini malunga nexesha elithe kratya?

Ama-20 akho yiminyaka yakho yokuzala. Eli lixesha lokuba umzimba wakho ulungele ukuba nomntwana. Uninzi lwabantu oku kuthetha ukuba imijikelezo yabo iya kuba yeyona ixhaphakileyo.

“Njengokuba umntu esiya esiba mdala ngakumbi xa esiya kwinqanaba lokuya exesheni, aqala ukudumba amaqanda. Xa uqala ukuphuma kwamaqanda, uthintela nayiphi na into engaqhelekanga, uqala ukuba nemijikelezo rhoqo ngenyanga, utshilo uMinkin.

Kodwa ukuba ukwiminyaka engama-20, usenokufunda le ndlela yokucinga: "Akukho ndlela yokuba ndiza kuba nabantwana nanini na!" Inyani: ukuba nabantwana kunanini na ngaphambili.

Kungenxa yoko le nto abantu abaninzi abakwiminyaka yabo yama-20s beqhubeka nokusebenzisa ulawulo lokuzalwa okanye ukungena kulo. I-BC inokuqhubeka nokulawula umjikelo wakho ukuba ibikuyo yonke indawo ngaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, kungathatha ixesha ukufumana uhlobo olufanelekileyo lwe-BC.

Kodwa kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lwezinto zokuthintela ukukhulelwa kunye nomntu, ukuqala kwe-BC kunokudala zonke iintlobo zotshintsho-ezinye zibi ngokwaneleyo ukuba umntu angazitshintsha.

U-Aleta Pierce, oneminyaka engama-28, usebenzise i-IUD yobhedu kulawulo lokuzalwa ngaphezulu kweminyaka emihlanu. “[Ixesha lam lokuya exesheni] liye laba nzima kakhulu emva kokuba ndifumene i-IUD yobhedu. Ngaphambili, xa ndandikwindlela yehomoni yolawulo lokuzalwa (ipilisi yeNuvaRing), yayikhaphukhaphu kwaye ingenampawu. ”

Ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo: Ukufumana okanye ukungabinako

Phakathi kweminyaka engama-20 nama-29, kunokuba lixesha elibalulekileyo lokufumanisa ukuba ngumntu omdala-kubandakanya ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwesini oluziva luluhle. Kwabaninzi, oku kubandakanya ukuthatha isigqibo ngendlela abaziva ngayo malunga nexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.

U-Eliza Milio, oneminyaka engama-28 ubudala uthi: "Ndikhululekile ngoku kunye nexesha lokulala ngesondo kunokuba ndandidla ngokuba njalo, ndihlala ndikhanyise kakhulu ekuqaleni komjikelo. Nangona kunjalo, kunqabile kakhulu ukuba ndilale ngesondo xa ndikwezona ntsuku zimbini zinzima zomjikelo wam kuba ndiyadumba kwaye ndinyoshoze kangangokuba yonke into endifuna ukuyenza kukutya iayisi khrimu kwizikipa. Ayimfanisi ncam. ”

KuNicole Sheldon, oneminyaka engama-27, ixesha lesondo yinto ayilungileyo ngokushiya ixesha elidlulileyo.

"Ukwabelana ngesondo ngamaxesha athile akuyona into endihlala ndiyenza. Bendihlala ndinayo ngexa ndandisemncinci, kodwa ngoku kubonakala ngathi kunokudideka ngaphandle kokuba ndihlamba, utshilo.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uthintele ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo ukuba awufuni, nangona kunjalo. Kukhuselekile ukuba-nje kancinci maxa wambi. Yenza into oziva ilungile kuwe nakwiqabane lakho.

Xa iimpawu zinokuthetha enye into

Ama-20s ahlala elishumi xa abantu abaninzi beqonda ngakumbi ukuba iimpawu zabo zingabonakalisa imeko yokuya esikhathini, njenge:

• I-polycystic ovary syndrome (i-PCOS)
• endometriosis
• ifibroids
• premenstrual syndrome okanye i-PMDD
• imijikelo yokopha okungaqhelekanga
• amaxesha abuhlungu (idysmenorrhea)

Ukuba usenentlungu, ukuhamba okuphezulu kakhulu, ixesha elide, okanye nayiphi na into ebonakala ngathi iyonwabisa okanye icimile ngokubanzi, khangela umboneleli wezempilo.

Ii-30s: Ingxowa edityanisiweyo, kodwa phantse ingcwele

I-30s yakho mhlawumbi ibhegi exubekileyo xa ifika kwixesha lakho. Kwasekuqaleni kweshumi leminyaka, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uhlala usenza i-ovulation rhoqo kwaye unokulindela ukuba ixesha lakho libe ngathi lalikho kwiminyaka ye-20.

Kwabanye, oku kunokuthetha ukuba buhlungu. Kwaye uninzi lwayo.

“[Ndiba namava] okuhlaba, okomqolo kumqolo wam ongezantsi kunye namaqanda, isifuba esincinci kunye nokuqaqanjelwa bubuthongo kwiintsuku ezizayo, kunye namaza amakhulu emvakalelo, endenza ukuba ndililele umnqwazi, utshilo uMarisa Formosa, oneminyaka engama-31.

Kodwa ngaphandle kokungahambi kakuhle emzimbeni kwakhe, uFormosa uziva enxibelelekile ngokweemvakalelo kumjikelo wakhe wenyanga.

Uthi: "Kule minyaka idlulileyo, ndiye ndaneqhayiya kunye nokuzikhusela kwithuba lam," utshilo. “Phantse ingcwele kum. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba indibopha emhlabeni, kumaxesha onyaka, kwiipateni ezijikelezayo kunye nemijikelezo yobomi nokufa. Inkcubeko kunye neentloni zamaxesha, endiye ndazifaka ngaphakathi njengomntu olandelayo, ziyandicaphukisa. ”

Ixesha lentetho yokukhulelwa

Imizimba yethu inokuba ilungele abantwana abakwi-20s yethu, kodwa oko akuthethi kuthi abanye. Ngapha koko, inqanaba lokuzala kwabafazi base-United States ngaphezulu kwe-30 ngo-2016.

Ukukhulelwa kunokwenza inani emzimbeni. Utshintsho alunakubalwa kwaye lwahluke kakhulu kumntu ngamnye. Kodwa inye into eqinisekileyo: Akukho mntu ufumana ixesha lakhe lokukhulelwa. (Nangona ukubonwa okuthile kunokwenzeka).

Kwiinyanga ngqo emva kokubeleka, unokufumana ixesha lakho ngokukhawuleza, okanye kungathatha inyanga ukubuya.

UMinkin ucacisa ukuba ukubuya kwethuba lomntu ubukhulu becala kuxhomekeke ekubeni uncancisa kuphela, ukongeza kwifomula, okanye usebenzisa ifomula kuphela.

"Xa uncancisa, wenza ihomoni eninzi ebizwa ngokuba yi-prolactin," utshilo uMinkin. "IProlactin icinezela ukwakheka kwe-estrogen kwaye ikugcina ungakhulelwa."

Ku-Allison Martin, oneminyaka engama-31 ubudala, ukubeleka yayiyindlela eyamkelekileyo yokuhamba kwakhe nzima ngokwendalo. Kodwa xa ixesha lakhe labuya, labuya linempindezelo.

"Kwakukho iinyanga ezintandathu ezizukileyo ngaphandle kwexesha ngenxa yokuncancisa," utshilo. “Kodwa ngoku ukopha kwam ebusuku kunzima kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha ndiye ndilale ngetawuli ukunqanda amashiti anegazi. Oku kuhlala kungobusuku nje obambini kumjikelo, kwaye kutshanje ndifumanise iipads zeesile ezaziwa kwihlabathi. Isicombulule le ngxaki! ”

Ixesha lokuphuma

Kweminye, i-30s ye-mid-to-late kukuqalisa kwebhola kuhambo olutsha kraca: ixesha lokugqibela.

Ukuchazwa njenge-8 ukuya kwi-10 iminyaka ekhokelela ekuyekeni ukuya exesheni, i-perimenopause sisiphumo somzimba wakho esivelisa i-estrogen encinci kunye neprogesterone.

"Ekugqibeleni umntu uya kufika kwi-perimenopause apho benza i-estrogen ngaphandle kokwenza iprogesterone, okanye ukukhulisa umgca wesibeleko ngaphandle kolawulo," utsho uMinkin. "Ke kwakhona unokuba nazo ezi ndlela zokuphambana zophayo."

Ngelixa kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuqala ixesha lokugqibela kwi-30s yakho, uninzi lwabantu luya kungena kwi-40s yayo.

Kwaye njengamaxesha onke, ukuba uva iintlungu okanye into ayiziva ilungile, bhukisha idinga kunye ne-doc.

Ii-40s: Ukudlala umdlalo wokuqikelela

Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe ubaleke i-40s yakho ngaphandle kokuphulukana nee-undies ezimbalwa kuba, ngokufana neminyaka emva kwexesha lakho lokuqala, ixesha lokuphela kwexesha lilonke malunga nokopha okungalindelekanga.

Uninzi lobomi bakhe abadala, u-Amanda Baker wayeyazi into ayilindeleyo kwixesha lakhe. Wopha iintsuku ezine, eyokuqala yayiyeyona inzima kwaye ezintathu zilandelayo zancipha. Kwaye ngo-45 waphoswa lixesha.

"Ndibe yinto eyonakalisayo ukusukela ngoko, ndibona phantse yonke imihla, okanye igazi elingenakulinganiswa elingenakulindeleka, ukuphuma nje kwegazi ngohlobo oluthile. Kule veki [ibisopha] ngamandla namahlwili amakhulu, angangesundu, ”utsho uBaker.

Nangona i-40s lixesha eliqhelekileyo le-perimenopause, uMinkin ulumkisa ukuba amaxesha angaqhelekanga ayodwa akwanelanga ukutsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntu unamava.

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba une-perimenopausal, jonga ezinye iimpawu kunye neempawu, ezinje:

• isini esomileyo kunesiqhelo
• kushushu
• Ukugodola nobusuku ukubila
• ingxaki yokulala
• ukonwaba kunye nokuhla kweemvakalelo
• ukutyeba kwakho
• ukucheba kweenwele nolusu olomileyo
• ukulahleka kokugcwala kwebele

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubize ugqirha wakho xa uqala i-perimenopause, kodwa banokukunika amayeza ukuba ayimfuneko. Izinto ekuthiwa zii-goosos - ukwenza imithambo rhoqo kunokuba kunjalo, ukutya ukutya okufanelekileyo, ukulala kakuhle- kunokwenza lukhulu ekuphuculeni iimpawu.

Ii-50s: Zisa ukuyeka ukuya exesheni

Uninzi lweengcali ziyavuma ukuba umntu usexesheni ngokusesikweni xa engenalo ixesha leenyanga ezili-12 ezilandelelanayo. E-United States, oku kwenzeka, ngokomndilili, kubudala beminyaka engama-51.

Uninzi lwabantu lunokulindela ukuba iimpawu zabo zokugqibela ziphumelele kwii-50s zabo njengoko besondela esiphelweni se-ovulation. Abanye bayeka ukuya exesheni ngaphambi kwexesha okanye kamva.

U-Aileen Raulin, oneminyaka engama-64 ubudala, uye waya exesheni xa wayeneminyaka engama-50. Nangona engasayi exesheni ngenyanga, usahlangabezana nokuhla kwamadlala.

URaulin uthi: “Ngaphambi kokuba ndiyeke ukuya exesheni, ndandiziva ndicaphuka msinya kwaye ndandiba noxinzelelo lokungakwazi ukuzibamba. "Ngoku ndibona eli xesha lokudlamka rhoqo ngenyanga, kwaye kufuneka ndinxibe iphedi."

UMinkin uthi ukuba nje umntu unee-ovari, kunokwenzeka ukuba abone umsebenzi othile wehomoni. Nangona kuninzi lwabantu abangaphezulu kwama-60, ngekhe kubekho msebenzi ungako konke konke.

Ukuya exesheni kunokuba yinto yokutshintsha kwemvakalelo, kwaye hayi ngenxa yokutshintsha kwehomoni. Inkcubeko yabantu abamele ukuya exesheni kunzima ukufikelela kuyo. Ihlala ivakala ngathi sisihloko ekungafanelekanga ukuba sithethe ngaso.

Masitshintshe loo nto.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba senze enye into ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kwaye siyinyani, njengoko uViola Davis esandula ukwenza xa echaza ukuya exesheni. (Ukuba uJimmy Kimmel kwafuneka ambuze ngenkcazo yokuyeka ukuya kwelinye ixesha lelinye ibali.)

Ukuthetha ngokuhamba kwakho, nokuba unayo okanye awunayo, kuyanceda ukuba uzazi.

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