Ama-20 oomama abaNokwenene malunga noMzimba wabo woSana-emva koSana (kwaye asithethi malunga nobunzima)

Umxholo

• Ukuphendula okumangalisayo komzimba
• 1. Ukuphola ngokoqobo
• 2. Ukuhlawulwa kwemali
• 3. Ukubheja ukubila
• 4. Ipati yepee
• 5. Ukuphilisa isihogo
• 6. Ukujikeleza kunye nokujikeleza
• 7. Bye, iinwele
• 8. Bleh, ukutya
• 9. Ibhafu yegazi
• 10. Amalungu awayo
• 11. Imingxuma enukayo
• Imiba yokondla
• 12. Iingono zeengono nangaphezulu
• 13. Ukuyekiswa emva komsebenzi?
• 14. Ukugunyazisa ngokusebenzisa
• Imiceli mngeni ngokweemvakalelo
• 15. Iinyembezi kunye noloyiko
• 16. I-PPD engalindelekanga
• 17. Ukuxhalaba emva kokubeleka
• 18. Kodwa kuthekani ngam?
• 19. Mama shame
• Umzimba womzimba
• 20. Akukho kubhampa
• Ukuthatha

Ukusuka kwimigodi enukayo ukuya ekulahlekelweni ziinwele (ungasathethi ke ngoxinzelelo kunye neenyembezi ezingalawulekiyo), utshintsho lwasemva kokubeleka kunye nengqondo onokuthi ube nakho kunokuba yinto emangalisayo. Siza kukunika iscops ukuze ungothuki kakhulu.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufunda kangakanani, bangaphi abahlobo bakho omama othetha nabo, okanye nokuba zingaphi iingqondo ze-doulas ozikhethayo, kunzima ukwazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba umsebenzi wakho kunye nokuhanjiswa kuya kuhla njani.

Ngaphandle koko, akukho mama umtsha unebhola yekristale embonisa ukuba ubomi buya kujongeka kanjani njengosuku, iveki, okanye iinyanga ezininzi emva kokubeleka. Kunye novuyo lokwamkela umntwana wakho omncinci emhlabeni kuza ipakethi eyahlukeneyo yemiceli mngeni emva kokubeleka. Ngaba singafumana iintloko kwixa elizayo, nceda?

Yiva ukuba bathini aba mama bangama-20 malunga neempawu zasemva kokubeleka ezibothuse kakhulu.

Ukuphendula okumangalisayo komzimba

1. Ukuphola ngokoqobo

“Ndibe nokungcangcazela okungalawulekiyo [emva kokubeleka] emva nje kokuba intombi yam ibekwe esifubeni sam. Abazalisikazi bam bathi yonke i-adrenaline emzimbeni wakho ngelixa utyhala inokubangela ukuba uyeke. Kwakukubi. ” -UHannah B., South Carolina

Ingcebiso yepro: Zama ukukhululeka, njengoko uzama ukulawula ukungcangcazela kusenza mandundu - kwaye ucele iingubo ezingaphezulu (okanye uze nezakho ekhaya), ukuba awuzinikwanga ngokuzenzekelayo.

2. Ukuhlawulwa kwemali

"Khange ndincancise ngenxa yezizathu zonyango, kwaye bendingazi ukuba kubuhlungu emzimbeni wam ukungakhishwa olo bisi." -ULeigh H., South Carolina

Ingcebiso: Ukuveliswa kobisi kuya kuyeka ukuba awuyibonakalisi okanye ubuhlengikazi, kodwa okwangoku, unokunyanga i-engorgement ngokuthatha amayeza eentlungu avunyiweyo yi-doc yakho kwaye ufake ipakethi ebandayo emabeleni akho imizuzu eyi-15 ngeyure nganye njengoko kufuneka.

3. Ukubheja ukubila

“Kangangeeveki ezimbini emva kokubeleka, ndandibila ngathi ndiyaphambana ebusuku. Kwakufuneka nditshintshe iimpahla zam kunye namashiti ezinzulwini zobusuku, ndandimanzi tixi. ” -Cainlin D., eSouth Carolina

Ingcebiso yepro: Amanqanaba asezantsi e-estrogen kunye nomzamo womzimba wokuzikhupha kulwelo olugqithisileyo kunokubangela ukubila ebusuku okanye ubushushu emva kokubeleka. Ukuthintela konke ukuvuza, zama ukusela amanzi abandayo (anokuthintela ukoma) kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuphumla ngokwenza ukucamngca okanye iindlela zokuphefumla nzulu.

4. Ipati yepee

“Andizange ndicinge ukuba ndiza kuba nolawulo lwe-bladder ngokoqobo kwiiveki zokuqala ezimbalwa emva kokuzalwa kwelungu lobufazi. Ndikhumbula ukuhleka into ethile esibhedlele ndimane ndichama ndingakwazi ukuyeka! ” -U-Lauren B., Massachusetts

Ingcebiso yepro: Ukuba unengxaki yokungaziphathi kakuhle okanye eminye imiba yomgangatho we-pelvic ngexesha nasemva kokukhulelwa, unokwenza kakuhle ukubona ugqirha womzimba ongaphantsi onokukunceda uze nesicwangciso somdlalo esijolise kuwo ukomeleza ezi zihlunu ziphambili zichaphazelekayo kukukhulelwa kunye ukuzala.

5. Ukuphilisa isihogo

“Akwaba bendazi ukuba ukuphilisa kungathatha ixesha elingakanani. Ndandinomgangatho wesithathu wokukrazula owam wokuqala. Ndakhala ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo iinyanga ezisi-7. Ndifuna ukukhasa kulusu lwam. Kwakubuhlungu. Kwaye wonke umntu wayendixelela ukuba bekufanele ukuba sele kulungile ngeeveki ezi-6. ”- UBrittany G., eMassachusetts

Ingcebiso yepro: Nangona ukukrazula kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo, kungathatha iinyanga ukuba kuphole iinyembezi zelungu lobufazi, kwaye iintlungu ayisiyonto ekufuneka ichithwe. Ukuzivocavoca kumgangatho wepelvic kunokuphucula ukujikeleza kunye nokunciphisa ukudumba kunye nentlungu.

6. Ukujikeleza kunye nokujikeleza

“Iinwele zam, ebezisoloko zilungiswe ngokwemvelo, ziqale ukukhula ngepini ngqo. Emva kokuba ndiyekile ukuncancisa, malunga nonyaka onesiqingatha kamva, yaphinda yaphothana kwakhona. Oku kwenzeke ngababini bam bokuqala, kwaye kungoku nje ndiphakathi nenani lesithathu. ” -U-Aria E., iNew Hampshire

Ingcebiso yepro: IiHormone ezinje nge-estrogen zinokuchaphazela ubume beenwele zakho emva kokubeleka. Ngelixa usuka kwi-'80s Cher ukuya kuKim K. inokubonakala ngathi iyangxola, uya kugungqa nasiphi na isitayile.

7. Bye, iinwele

"Akwaba bendazile malunga nokulahleka kweenwele okungagungqiyo kunye nenyani yokuba ingatshintsha inwele zam ngonaphakade." -Ashleigh B., eTexas

Ingcebiso yepro: Ukuphulukana neenwele emva kokubeleka, okubangelwa kukuhla kwamanqanaba e-estrogen, kusonjululwa ngokubanzi ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kodwa ukuba uyaqhubeka, okanye ukhathazekile, thetha nogqirha wakho ukuze akhuphe naziphi na iingxaki, ezifana ne-hypothyroidism okanye i-iron defence anemia.

8. Bleh, ukutya

“Ndandingenamdla wokutya emva kokuzalwa kwam kathathu. Yonke into endiyifunde kwangaphambili yandenza ndacinga ukuba ukutya yeyona nto ibalaseleyo, kwaye bendifuna isidlo esikhulu esicwangcisiweyo, kodwa ke bendinyanzelisa ukutya. ” -UMollie R., eSouth Carolina

Ingcebiso yepro: Zombini ezi nguqulelo zehomoni kunye noxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka zinokuba yingcambu yokutya okuncinci emva kokubeleka. Ukuba umdla wakho wokutya awubuyeli ngaphakathi kwiveki yokuzala, nxibelelana nomboneleli wakho wezempilo.

9. Ibhafu yegazi

Akukho namnye owandixelelayo ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuphola ekukrazukeni kabuhlungu kangaka. Ukuba wopha ukuya kuthi ga kwiiveki ezi-6 ngqo. Ngokusisiseko, ukwimo yokusinda kanye emva kokuba ubelekile. ” -UJenni Q., ​​eColorado

Ingcebiso yepro: Nangona ingeyiyo ipikniki, ukopha emva kokubeleka kuyinto eqhelekileyo - njengoko kunxitywe iipads. Kodwa ke, ubuncinci oomama be-celeb abanjengo-Amy Schumer kunye noChrissy Teigen bajike ii-undies zasemva kokubeleka zaba yingxelo yefashoni.

10. Amalungu awayo

"Bendingazi ukuba yinto engakanani into ehamba phambili kwaye amalungu ayenzelwe ukuhlala ngaphakathi emzimbeni wakho angawa. Into ebangela umdla nangakumbi kukuba, bambalwa kangakanani oogqirha ababenolwazi kwaye kungoku nje bangaphi abantu basetyhini abachongiweyo. Ichaphazele yonke indawo ebomini bam. ” -Adrienne R., Massachusetts

Ingcebiso yepro: Unyango alusoloko luyimfuneko kwisibeleko esaphukileyo, kodwa ukhetho lwezonyango lubandakanya imithambo yomqolo kunye nokunxiba ipessary, isixhobo esinceda ukuzinzisa isibeleko kunye nomlomo wesibeleko.

11. Imingxuma enukayo

"Xa iihomoni zam zatshintshatshintsha emva kokulunyulwa, amakhwapha am anuka amandla e-skunks ayi-1 000!" -UMelissa R., eMinnesota

Ingcebiso yepro: Usuyazi ukuba ungasebenzisa i-deodorant okanye i-antiperspirants ukunciphisa loo nto ephosakeleyo, kodwa unokuzama i-DIY deodorant, ngokunjalo.

Imiba yokondla

12. Iingono zeengono nangaphezulu

“Ndimangalisiwe yindlela ekunzima ngayo ukuncancisa ibele. Ufunda iincwadi kwaye ucinga ukuba zi-latch nje. Kodwa uninzi lwamaxesha, kuninzi kakhulu. Kwafuneka ndisebenzise ikhaka lengono kunye neyam yokuqala kwiiveki zokuqala, kwaye ke, babenexhala lokufumana kwakhe ubunzima, ke bafuna ukuba ndipompe. Iimpompo azikaze zisebenze ngokufanelekileyo. Andizange ndifumane ukuhlala okuninzi. Kodwa bendisazi ukuba ndiyamtyisa ngoba ukuba bendilindile ndifakwa engorgeni. Ngomntwana wenani lesibini, kwakusebenza ngokugudileyo, kwaye wenza nje latch kwaye wondle kwaye wazuza. Kodwa ke, ukumpompa akuzange kube ninzi. ” -Umegan L., eMaryland

Ingcebiso yepro: Ukuba uziva unxunguphalo malunga nokuncancisa, cinga ukusebenza umntu-nomnye ngomcebisi we-lactation, onokugutyungelwa yi-inshurensi yakho.

13. Ukuyekiswa emva komsebenzi?

"Akwaba bendazi ukuba xa ubuncancisa ekuqaleni, uye uxhuzule kwaye wophe kuba isibeleko sakho siyancipha." -Emma L., eFlorida

Ingcebiso yepro: Njengokuba uncancisa, umzimba wakho uvelisa ihomoni yioxytocin, eyaziwa ngokuba yi "cuddle hormone." Kodwa injongo yayo ayisiyiyo yonke into efudumeleyo kunye nefuzzy: Inokubangela ukuphambana kwesibeleko kunye nokopha.

14. Ukugunyazisa ngokusebenzisa

“Iibunu zam zibuhlungu kakhulu njengoko bendinika amandla ngokuncancisa. Ekugqibeleni, ndigqibezele ukongeza kunye nokonga. Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu abaninzi ngeba bathi oku kulungile endaweni yokugweba kwaye bandixelele ukuba ndizame nzima kubongikazi. Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu baxhase ngakumbi. Ndikhuthaza oomama ukuba banamathele kunye kwaye bafumane uncedo ukuba uyaludinga. ” -Katie P., eVirginia

Ingcebiso yepro: Khumbula ukuba nokuba yintoni oyivayo, wonke umzali nomntwana bahlukile, kwaye wondliwe yeyona ilungileyo.

Imiceli mngeni ngokweemvakalelo

15. Iinyembezi kunye noloyiko

Kangangenyanga emva kokuba ndibelekile, nanini na ndizijonga esipilini, ndandidla ngokukhala. Ngesizathu esithile ndandiziva ngathi ndilahlekelwe lusana lwam - andizange - kuba ndandingasamthwali esiswini sam. Ukudakumba nasemva kokubeleka asikokuqhula! Ndiyazi ukuba inokuba mbi kwaye ndalumkiswa ngamanye umama kunye nabanikezeli bezempilo kodwa bendingabazi ubuzaza. " -U-Suzhanna D., South Carolina

16. I-PPD engalindelekanga

“Ukudakumba kwam emva kokubeleka kwakungakhange kufane ne-PPD yemveli ekuthethwa ngayo ngumntu wonke. Andizange ndimthiye umntwana wam. Phofu akhonto bendiyifuna ngaphandle kokuthatha usana lwam ndizimele ndingaphinde ndibuyele emsebenzini kwakhona. Ndandinomona wokuba umyeni wam abe ngutata ohlala ekhaya. ” -Cori A., Arkansas

Ingcebiso yepro: Ukuba ucinga ukuba unoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, musa ukuba neentloni ngokuthetha nogqirha wakho malunga neempawu zakho. Banokukuthumela kunyangi okanye ezinye izixhobo zasekuhlaleni. Iingcali zinokukunceda uze nesicwangciso sonyango esenzelwe wena.

17. Ukuxhalaba emva kokubeleka

“Akwaba bendazile ngoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka. Bendisazi konke malunga ne-PPD, kodwa emva kokuba ndinomntwana wam wesithathu bekungekade kuhlolwe iiveki ezi-6 xa bendihlekisa ngokuba 'ndifumana indlwane emva kwexesha,' kuba ndisiva isidingo sokuphinda ndenze ifriji yam ngo-3 kusasa, kwaye Ugqirha wam wayefana, 'Ewe… zikhona iipilisi zalonto.' Khange ndilale, kuba bendisoyika ukuba angayeka ukuphefumla ngesiquphe, kwaye xa ndilele, bendiphupha ukuba ubhubhile. Ndithathe konke oku kukuhlala kwakhe kwi-NICU, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba yayiyimbangela, kodwa ndandingazi ukuba ndonyangwa ngePPA / PTSD. Ndilahlekelwe yinxalenye yam kwezi veki zintandathu ndisazama ukuzifumana emva kweminyaka emi-3. " -I-Chelsea W., eFlorida

Ingcebiso yepro: Ukuba ukhathazekile unokuba noxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, thetha nogqirha wakho malunga nokukhetha unyango, kubandakanya unyango kunye namayeza ekujoliswe kuwo.

18. Kodwa kuthekani ngam?

Ukungalali ngokwaneleyo kwandenza ndabona izinto ezingekhoyo ngobunye ubusuku. Ndinqwenela ukuba bendazi ukuba kulungile ukucela uncedo, ukuba ulibale njani ukuzikhathalela (ukulibala ukuhlamba, ukutya, njl.), Indlela wonke umntu axhalabele ngayo umntwana kangangokuba abantu bayalibala ukuba umzimba wakho uyachacha sesona siganeko sibuhlungu. ” -UAmanda M., Nevada

Ingcebiso yepro: Unganqikazi ukufikelela ngaphandle kwaye ucele inkxaso kusapho kunye nabahlobo ukuze kuzuze umzimba nengqondo yakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho umntu omtsha othandekayo emhlabeni - enkosi emzimbeni wakho unyamezele ukukhulelwa nokubeleka, nto leyo ingeyonto yokuthimla nokuba. Ufanelwe kukuphumla, ixesha lokuphiliswa, kunye nalo lonke uncedo.

19. Mama shame

“Bendingakulungelanga ukuhlazeka kukamama okanye abantu abasoloko benoluvo malunga nokukhulisa umntwana wam. Ndizama ukungayivumeli loo nto ifike kum, kodwa iyandikhathaza! Unyana wam wonwabile kwaye usempilweni kwaye endaweni yokufumana ukhuthazo okanye uqhwatyelwe izandla, ngamanye amaxesha uziva ngathi ngumsebenzi ongenambulelo. Kodwa unyana wam unombulelo, kwaye ndiyamthanda ngenxa yoko! ”- UBriSha Jak, eMaryland

Ingcebiso yepro: Yazi ukuba uninzi lokungakhathaleli oluye lwafakwa kuwe lolunye uqikelelo lwabantu lokungazithembi kwabo. Asinguwe, ngabo.

Umzimba womzimba

20. Akukho kubhampa

“Bendingazi ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukubuyela umva.” Ndandimncinci ngaphambi kokukhulelwa. Wonke umntu uhlala endixelela ukuba ndiza kubuyisa njani kwakhona. Sasicwangcise umtshato wethu iinyanga ezi-6 emva kokubeleka, kwaye sele ndiyithengile ilokhwe. Ndineenyanga ezi-7 emva kokubeleka kwaye nangoku ungangeni kwilokhwe. Ngokwenyani andicingi ukuba umzimba wam uyakuze ufane. Kwakungumbono ebusweni emva kokuva rhoqo ukuba ndiza kuba njani 'sonke isisu' kwaye 'ndibuyise kwangoko.' ”- Meagan K., Arizona

Ingcebiso yepro: Ngelixa kunokuba nzima ukuhluza ingxolo ethi "buyela umva", yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukugxila kuhambo lwakho. Umzimba wakho wahlukile ngoku kuba ungqinile ukuba unamandla. Thatha ixesha lakho, nokuba kukufunda incwadi (inoveli yabantu abadala, oko kukuthi!) Ubhalisela iklasi yokuzivocavoca entsha, okanye uphume uye kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, kwaye ungabi nzima kuwe.

Ukuthatha

Onke amava omama emva kokubeleka kunye notshintsho lweemvakalelo, lomzimba kunye nolwengqondo ojamelana nalo emva kokuzalwa zahlukile.

Kodwa akukhathaleki ukuba zifika njani na izinto zomoya, zasendle, okanye ezintsonkothileyo, ungakhuthazeka kukwazi ukuba awuwedwa.

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