Ayindim, inguwe: Iprojekti ichazwe ngokweMigaqo yoLuntu

Umxholo

• Yintoni ingqikelelo?
• Kutheni sisenza oko?
• Ngubani owenzayo?
• Yeyiphi eminye imizekelo yengqikelelo?
• Ngaba zikhona iindlela zokuyeka ukubonakalisa?
• Phanda umphefumlo
• Buza umntu oqondayo
• Jonga ugqirha
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni ingqikelelo?

Ngaba kukho umntu owakha wakuxelela ukuba uyeke ukubonisa indlela oziva ngayo? Ngelixa iprojekti ihlala igcinelwe umhlaba wengqondo, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ulivile igama elisetyenzisiweyo kwiingxoxo kunye neengxoxo ezishushu xa abantu beziva behlaselwa.

Kodwa kuthetha ntoni ngokwenyani ngale ndlela? Ngokuka-Karen R. Koenig, M.Ed, LCSW, ingqikelelo ibhekisa ngokungazi ukuthatha iimvakalelo ezingafunekiyo okanye imikhwa ongayithandiyo malunga nawe kwaye uyinike omnye umntu.

Umzekelo oqhelekileyo kukuqhatha iqabane elikrokrela ukuba iqabane lalo alithembekanga. Endaweni yokuvuma ukungathembeki kwabo, bayadlulisela, okanye benze iprojekthi, oku kuziphatha kumaqabane abo.

Kutheni abanye abantu be projekthi? Kwaye ngaba ikhona into enokunceda umntu ayeke ukwenza iprojekhthi? Funda ukuze ufumane.

Kutheni sisenza oko?

Njengamanqaku amaninzi okuziphatha kwabantu, ingqikelelo yehla ukuzikhusela. U-Koenig uphawula ukuba ukwenza into ongayithandiyo komnye umntu kuyakukhusela ekubeni uvume iinxalenye zakho ongazithandiyo.

Wongeza ukuba abantu bathanda ukuziva bekhululeke ngakumbi xa bebona iimpawu ezingalunganga kwabanye kunakubona.

Ngubani owenzayo?

Uqikelelo lwenza ukuba zonke iindlela zokhuselo zenzelwe ntoni: ukugcina ukungazonwabisi ngathi kunye nangaphandle kolwazi lwethu, ucacisa uKoenig. Uthi abantu abona bathanda ukwenza iprojekhthi ngabo bangazazi kakuhle, nokuba bacinga ukuba bayazi.

Abantu "abaziva bephantsi kwaye bengazithembi" banako ukuwela kumkhwa wokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo zokungafaneleki kwabanye, wongeza ugqirha wengqondo uMichael Brustein, PsyD. Ukhomba kubuhlanga kunye nokuzonda abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye njengemizekelo yolu hlobo lokuqikelela kwizinga elibanzi.

Kwelinye icala, abantu abanokwamkela ukusilela kwabo kunye nobuthathaka babo- kwaye bekhululekile ekuboniseni okuhle, okubi, kunye nokubi ngaphakathi- badla ngokungakhathali. "Abana sidingo, kuba banokunyamezela ukuqaphela okanye ukuhlangabezana nezinto ezimbi ngabo," u-Koenig wongeza.

Yeyiphi eminye imizekelo yengqikelelo?

Ukuqikelela kuhlala kubonakala kwahlukile kumntu ngamnye. Ngale nto ithethwayo, nantsi eminye imizekelo evela eKoenig ukukunceda ufumane ukuqonda okungcono ngendlela yokubonisa okungadlala ngayo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo:

• Ukuba uphume uye kwisidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye umntu eqhubeka ethetha kwaye ethetha kwaye uphazamisa, banokukutyhola ngokungabi ngumphulaphuli olungileyo kunye nokufuna ingqalelo.
• Ukuba ukhuthaza ngamandla uluvo lwakho emsebenzini, umntu osebenza naye unokukutyhola ngokusoloko ufuna indlela yakho, nangona uhlala uhamba kunye nemibono yabo ixesha elininzi.
• Umphathi wakho unyanzelisa ukuba uxoke malunga nenani elikhulu leeyure ozibekayo kwiprojekthi xa ingabo abaphelisa iofisi kwangoko kwaye bangahlangabezani nexesha elimisiweyo.

Ngaba zikhona iindlela zokuyeka ukubonakalisa?

Ukuba uyaziqonda nakweyiphi na kwezi meko, akukho sidingo sokuzibetha malunga nayo. Oku kunokukhokelela kuqikelelo ngakumbi. Endaweni yoko, zama ukugxila kuyo ngoba uqikelela. Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa zokuhamba malunga noku.

Phanda umphefumlo

Indawo efanelekileyo yokuqala, utshilo uBrustein, kukujonga ukuba uziva njani ngawe, ngakumbi ubuthathaka bakho. Bazintoni? Ngaba zikhona izinto ozenzayo ngokubonakalayo ukuze ube negalelo kuzo? Ucebisa ukukhupha le mibuzo kwijenali.

UKoenig uyavuma ngokubaluleka kokucingisisa xa kusiziwa kuqikelelo. Kuye, ukuzibonakalisa kuthetha "ukuzijonga unomdla kwaye unomdla, ungaze ugwebe."

Jonga indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye ubone ukuba uhlala utyhola abanye ngezinto ozenzayo okanye ngokungafanelekanga unike abanye izinto ezimbi. Ukuba uyakwenza oko, qaphela kwaye uqhubeke. Zama ukungagxili kuyo kwaye uzigwebe ngokungqongqo.

Buza umntu oqondayo

Kuvakala ngathi iyoyikisa, kodwa uKoenig ucebisa ukuba ubuze umntu osondeleyo kuwe ukuba uyakubona uqikelela. Qiniseka ukuba ngumntu omthembileyo kwaye uzive ukhululekile ukuthetha naye. Kunokuba nzima ukukhulisa ekuqaleni, kodwa cinga ukunyaniseka kubo. Chaza ukuba uzama ukuqonda ngcono indlela ozibona ngayo wena kunye nabanye.

Qiniseka nje ukuba ukulungele ukuva izinto ekunokwenzeka ukuba ungafuni ukuziva ukuba ugqiba kwelokuba wenze oku. Khumbula, nangona kunjalo, ukuba olu lwazi lunokukunceda ufunde ukuyeka ukwenza iprojekhthi.

Jonga ugqirha

Ingcali yonyango elungileyo inokuba sesinye sezixhobo esona sigqibeleleyo sokoyisa ingqikelelo. Banokukunceda uchonge kwaye ulungise izizathu zokuba kutheni uqikelela kwaye bakunike izixhobo zokukunceda uyeke.

Ukuba iprojekti yonakalise ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ugqirha unokukunceda uphinde wakhe olo lwalamano okanye uluthintele ukuba lungenzeki kwixesha elizayo.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba ungaqala ngaphi? Nazi iindlela ezintlanu zonyango kulo lonke uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali.

Umgca wezantsi

Yindalo yomntu ukufuna ukuzikhusela kwiimvakalelo ezibuhlungu okanye ezimbi kunye namava. Kodwa xa olu khuselo luguqukela kuqikelelo, isenokuba lixesha lokujonga ukuba kutheni usenza oko. Ukwenza njalo kunokuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho, kodwa kunye nobudlelwane bakho nabanye, nokuba basebenza kunye, iqabane, okanye abahlobo abasenyongweni.