Abanye abantu abakhubazekileyo badubule i-‘Queer eye. ’Kodwa ngaphandle kokuthetha ngohlanga, ayiphosi ndawo

Umxholo

• Njengokuba ubukele isiqendu esiphantse sibe yimizuzu engama-49, akunakunceda kodwa ubuxabise ubuntu bukaWesley obuqaqambileyo.
• Kunokuba nzima ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni, kutheni le nto esi siqendu sivelise impikiswano enkulu phakathi kwamalungu angengomaNtsundu kuluntu olukhubazekileyo.
• 1. Ukukhawuleza (kunye nentumekelelo) awayebizwe ngayo-nokuba ngubani ezigxeko zazivela kuye- wayexela
• 2. Izinto ezenzekileyo zenzeke ngaphambi kokuba uWesley achaze amava akhe
• 3. Akukho sithuba sabanjelwa uhambo lukaWesley lokwamkelwa
• 4. Ababiziweyo bacime iindlela ezizodwa ezimelweyo ngabantu abamnyama kwesi siqendu
• 5. Ukubaluleka kwenkxaso kanina kwakuqhawule umtshato ngokungachanekanga kumava abagcini babafazi abaNtsundu
• 6. Esi siqendu besibaluleke kakhulu kootata abaNtsundu, ngakumbi ooTata abaKhubazekileyo abaNtsundu
• 7. Impembelelo esi siqendu (kunye nokubiza) kubantu abaNtsundu abakhubazekileyo ayithathelwa ngqalelo
• Xa ndithetha noWesley, ndambuza ukuba ngawaphi amagama anawo kumadoda akhubazekileyo aMnyama. Waphendula wathini? "Zive ukuba ungubani na."

Ixesha elitsha lothotho lwantlandlolo lweNetflix "Iliso leQueer" lifumene uninzi lwamva nje lwentlalo yabakhubazekileyo, njengoko ibonisa indoda emnyama ekhubazekileyo egama linguWesley Hamilton waseKansas City, eMissouri.

UWesley waphila ubomi obuchazwa "bububi boy" de wadutyulwa esiswini eneminyaka engama-24. Ngalo lonke eli thuba, uWesley wabelana ngendlela obutshintshe ngayo ubomi kunye nembonakalo yakhe, kubandakanya nendlela awujonga ngayo umzimba wakhe omtsha okhubazekileyo.

Kwisithuba seminyaka esixhenxe, uWesley wayeka "ukubetha imilenze ngenxa yokuba babengenaxabiso" wayila abantu abangenzi nzuzo Abakhubazekileyo Kodwa Hayi Ngokwenene, umbutho onika iinkqubo zokutya nezomzimba ezijolise ekuxhobiseni abantu abakhubazekileyo.

Njengokuba ubukele isiqendu esiphantse sibe yimizuzu engama-49, akunakunceda kodwa ubuxabise ubuntu bukaWesley obuqaqambileyo.

Ukusuka kuncumo lwakhe kunye nokuhleka ngokuzimisela kwakhe ukuzama izinto ezintsha, unxibelelwano alwenzileyo kunye neFab yesihlanu njengoko beguqula isitayile kunye nekhaya lakhe lihlaziya ukubukela.

Simbona esenza amalinge ngempahla awayecinga ukuba akanako ukuyinxiba ngenxa yesihlalo sakhe esinamavili; Simbukela ekwabelana ngamaxesha asengozini kunye no-Tan kunye no-Karamo, ecela umngeni kwimibono yesi-stoic, engenazimvakalelo yobudoda.

Sikwangqina nenkxaso yenkqubo ejikeleze uWesley, ukusuka ekuzameni kwakhe ukuba ngumama kunye nokuzingca ngokungapheliyo kwintombi yakhe emjonga njengoSuperman.

Kuzo zonke ezi zizathu nokunye okuninzi, esi siqendu sihamba ngokwenyani kwaye sicel'umngeni kwizinto ezininzi ezithiwe thaca eWesley - njengendoda eMnyama, ekhubazekileyo- ajongene nayo mihla le.

Kunokuba nzima ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni, kutheni le nto esi siqendu sivelise impikiswano enkulu phakathi kwamalungu angengomaNtsundu kuluntu olukhubazekileyo.

Kwakukho ukungxola okwabuza igama lombutho kaWesley, umzekelo, benenkxalabo malunga nokuba esi siqendu singayenzakalisa njani imbono iyonke yokukhubazeka kubaphulaphuli abangenakukhubazeka.

Ezi zicalulo zavela ngaphambi kwesiqendu. Ukanti bafumana ukubambeka kwimidiya yoluntu nangona kunjalo.

Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba amalungu amnyama akhubazekileyo oluntu aqala ukubukela esi siqendu, abaninzi baqonda ukuba "kushushu" okuvela kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo behlulekile ukuqaphela ubunzima bokuba bobabini abaMnyama nabakhubazekileyo.

Ke ngoku, yintoni kanye, ebiphosiwe? Ndithethile namazwi amane abalulekileyo kuluntu lwabantu abakhubazekileyo, abathe batshintsha incoko “ngeQabane laseQueer” ukusuka kwingqumbo engeyiyo bayisa kumava abantu abakhubazekileyo abaNtsundu.

Ukuqwalaselwa kwabo kusikhumbuza ngeendlela ezininzi, nkqu nakwiindawo "ezinenkqubela phambili," apho abantu abaNtsundu abakhubazekileyo batyhalelwa phambili elunxwemeni.

1. Ukukhawuleza (kunye nentumekelelo) awayebizwe ngayo-nokuba ngubani ezigxeko zazivela kuye- wayexela

Njengokuba uKeah Brown, umbhali kunye nentatheli ecacisa, "Kuyathakazelisa ukuba uluntu lutsibela ngokukhawuleza njani abantu abantsundu abakhubazekileyo endaweni yokucinga… ukuba kufanele ukuba kunjani ukusebenza ngokungazithembi kunye nentiyo."

Isiphumo? Abantu abangaphandle koluntu lukaWesley (nangokwandisa, amava aphilileyo) babenze izigwebo ngomsebenzi wakhe kunye negalelo, besusa ubunzima obuza nobume bakhe bobuhlanga.

"Kwakukho abantu ababalaseleyo ababengengobantu abamnyama bebala kunye namalungu oluntu olumhlophe onwabile ngeli thuba lokumdiliza ngemisonto kuTwitter nakuFacebook," utshilo uKeah. "Indenze ndabuza ukuba basibona njani abanye, uyazi?"

2. Izinto ezenzekileyo zenzeke ngaphambi kokuba uWesley achaze amava akhe

“Ngokwenene abantu bawuxhomile umpu. Bakhawuleze ukuyonakalisa le ndoda bengekasiboni nesiqendu, ”utshilo uKeah.

Ininzi yala reactivity yavela kubagxeki ababecinga ngegama likaWesley's nonprofit, Disabled But Not Really.

“Ndiyaqonda ukuba igama leshishini lakhe alilunganga, kodwa ngaphezulu, ucela into enye nale siyifunayo sonke: inkululeko kunye nentlonipho. Indikhumbuze ukuba abahlali banobuhlanga obuninzi ekufuneka basebenze ngabo, ”utshilo uKeah.

Ndibe nethuba lokuncokola noWesley malunga nokubuya okungqonge umsebenzi wakhe kunye nesiqendu. Into endiyifundileyo kukuba uWesley uyayazi kakuhle le ngxokolo, kodwa akakhathazeki yiyo.

"Ndiyichaza into ekhubazekileyo kodwa ayikho. Ndixhobisa abantu ngokomelela nangokondleka kuba oko kwandinika amandla, ”utshilo.

Xa uWesley wakhubazeka, waqonda ukuba uyazikhawulela kwinto awayecinga ukuba umntu okhubazekileyo uyiyo- ngokungathandabuzekiyo waziswa kukusilela ukubonakala kwabantu abafana naye. Ukuqina kunye nesondlo yindlela awayefumana ngayo ukuzithemba kunye nenkalipho ngoku anayo kwiminyaka esi-7 emva kosuku olubi.

Umsebenzi wakhe kukwenzela abanye abantu abakhubazekileyo indawo yokufumana uluntu ngezo ndlela zimnike ithuba lokukhululeka kulusu lwakhe - intsingiselo eyalahlekayo xa iingcaphephe zenziwa kakuhle ngaphambi kokuba awuchaze ngokwakhe lo mbono.

3. Akukho sithuba sabanjelwa uhambo lukaWesley lokwamkelwa

Ukubiyelwa kokukhubazeka kukaWesley kuye kwayilwa yindlela afunde ngayo ukuthanda umzimba wakhe omnyama okhubazekileyo. Ukuba ngumntu owathi wakufumana ukukhubazeka kwakhe ebudaleni, ukuqonda kukaWesley nako kuyavela, njengoko sizibonele ngokwakhe esitsho kwesi siqendu.

U-Maelee Johnson, umsunguli we-ChronicLoaf kunye nommeli wamalungelo abantu abakhubazekileyo, uthi kuhambo uWesley alwenzileyo: “Xa ubona umntu ofana noWesley owakhubazeka kamva ebomini, kufuneka ucinge ngeziphumo zoko. Umzekelo, waqala ishishini lakhe ngelixa wayefunda ngaphakathi kunye nenkqubo yokwamkela isazisi sakhe esitsha sokukhubazeka. ”

"Intsingiselo yegama lakhe leshishini inokuvela kwaye ikhule kunye naye, kwaye oko kulungile kwaye kuyaqondakala," uqhuba watsho uMaelee. "Singabantu abakhubazekileyo kufuneka siyiqonde loo nto."

UHeather Watkins, igqwetha lamalungelo abantu abakhubazekileyo, uphinda amazwi afanayo. "U-Wesley ukwayinxalenye yemijikelezo yenkxaso edla ngokunxulumana / ukunqamleza nabanye abantu abahlelelekileyo, oko kundinika umbono wokuba uzakuqhubeka nokwandisa ukuzazi kwakhe," utshilo. Akukho namnye kulwimi oluthethwayo kunye nokuzithemba okungapheliyo okwandinika ixesha elinzima kuba esendleleni. "

4. Ababiziweyo bacime iindlela ezizodwa ezimelweyo ngabantu abamnyama kwesi siqendu

Imiboniso eyayibonakala kuninzi lwethu yayiyeyo xa amadoda aMnyama avakalisa iinyaniso zawo omnye komnye.

Ukusebenzisana phakathi kukaKaramo noWesley ngokukodwa kunike umbono omnyama wobudoda obuMnyama kunye nokuba sesichengeni. UKaramo wenze indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuba uWesley abelane ngayo malunga nokwenzakala kwakhe, ukuphilisa, nokuba ngcono kuye, kwaye wamnika amandla okujongana nale ndoda imdubuleyo.

Ukuba semngciphekweni okubonisiweyo kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngelishwa kumabonwakude phakathi kwamadoda amabini aMnyama, into ekufaneleyo ukuba siyibone ngakumbi kwiscreen esincinci.

UAndré Daughtry, umsasazi weTwitch, utshintshiselwano phakathi kwamadoda aMnyama kumdlalo wawuyinto encinci yokuphilisa. Ukudibana kukaWesley noKaramo yayisisityhilelo, utshilo. “Kwakumnandi kwaye kuchukumisa ukubona. Amandla abo okuzola kunye nokudibana kuyiplani yawo onke amadoda amnyama ukuba ayilandele. ”

UHeather uyayiphinda le mvakalelo, kunye namandla ayo otshintsho. Incoko eququzelelwe nguKaramo inokuba ngumboniso uphela iyodwa. Yayingumbuzo ontununtunu lowo, [kwaye] wawumnandi - kwaye wamxolela, ”utshilo uHeather. “Ukwavakalise nokwazi ngokuziphendulela ngokupheleleyo ngobomi bakhe nangeemeko zakhe. Oku kukhulu kakhulu; obu bubulungisa bokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Oku kwakunyanga. ”

5. Ukubaluleka kwenkxaso kanina kwakuqhawule umtshato ngokungachanekanga kumava abagcini babafazi abaNtsundu

Umama kaWesley wayedlale indima ebalulekileyo ekuvuseleleni kwakhe kwaye wayefuna ukuqiniseka ukuba uWesley unezixhobo azidingayo ukuze aphile ngokuzimeleyo.

Ekupheleni kwesiqendu, uWesley wabulela umama wakhe. Ngelixa abanye abantu babecinga ukuba ugxile kwinkululeko bathetha ukuba ukukhathalela kwaba luxanduva- kwaye uWesley wayiqinisa ngokumbulela- aba bantu baphoswa kukuba kutheni ezo zigcawu zibalulekile kwiintsapho eziMnyama.

UHeather uchaza izikhewu: “Ngokombono wam njengomama nomkhathaleli womzali osele ekhulile, nokwazi ukuba abantu basetyhini abaNtsundu bahlala bengafakwanga ludwe okanye babizwa njengabantu 'abomeleleyo,' ngokungathi asikhe sibe nekhefu okanye sibe neentlungu, oku kuvakale ngathi ngumbulelo omnandi . ”

"Ngamanye amaxesha umbulelo olula ugcwaliswe ngo" Ndiyazi ukuba ubenomqolo kwaye uzinike ixesha lakho elininzi, ixesha, kunye nengqwalasela yam 'ingaluxolo nomqamlezo onokuphumla kuwo, utshilo.

6. Esi siqendu besibaluleke kakhulu kootata abaNtsundu, ngakumbi ooTata abaKhubazekileyo abaNtsundu

Kuyinto engaqhelekanga ngokumangalisayo xa ukukhubazeka nokuba ngutata kubonakala konke, ngakumbi loo mathuba abandakanya amadoda akhubazekileyo aMnyama.

UAndré utyhila indlela ukubukela uWesley engutata kumnika ngayo ithemba: “Ukubona uWesley nentombi yakhe, uNevaeh, andibonanga nto ngaphandle kwamathuba wokuba ngenye imini ndibenethamsanqa lokufumana abantwana.

Ndiyabona ukuba iyafikeleleka kwaye ayinakufikeleleka. Ukuba ngumzali okhubazekileyo kufanele ukwenziwa into eqhelekileyo kwaye iphakanyiswe. ”

UHeather wabelana ngesizathu sokuba uyise-ntombi abonakalise ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo wayenamandla ngokwawo. "Ukuba ngutata oMnyama okhubazekileyo ontombi yakhe imbona njengeqhawe lakhe [yayiyinto evuyisa kakhulu, [yayingafaniyo] nemifanekiso emininzi yotata-ntombi."

Ngale ndlela, isiqendu sivelisa ootata abaKhubazekileyo abaMnyama njengoWesley hayi njengaNye, kodwa ngokuchanekileyo njengoko benjalo: abazali abakhohlakeleyo nabanothando.

7. Impembelelo esi siqendu (kunye nokubiza) kubantu abaNtsundu abakhubazekileyo ayithathelwa ngqalelo

Njengomfazi okhubazekileyo oMnyama, ndabona uninzi lwamadoda akhubazekileyo aMnyama endikhule nawo eWesley. Amadoda awayezama ukuzibonakalisa kwilizwe apho banokukholelwa ukuba uhlobo lwabo lobudoda obuMnyama lwalonakalisiwe ngenxa yokuba babekhubazekile.

Loo madoda ayesilela ekubonakaliseni ubudoda obukhubazekileyo obuMnyama obunokuthi buzele imvakalelo yekratshi ababefuna ukuzithemba kwimizimba neengqondo abanazo.

UAndré ucacisa ukuba kutheni ukubona uWesley kwi "Queer Eye" kwakubalulekile kuye kweli nqanaba lobomi: "Ndayamene nomzabalazo kaWesley wokuzifumana kulwandle lobunikazi obuMnyama kunye nobudoda obunetyhefu. Ndizibalisile kumanqanaba akhe aphezulu kunye nokuzimisela xa eqala ukufumana ilizwi lakhe. ”

Xa ebuzwa ukuba angathini kuWesley malunga nokubuya kwakhe, uAndré umkhuthaza ukuba "angabahoyi abo bangayiqondiyo indlela yakhe yobomi. Uqhuba kakuhle ekuqondeni ubudlelwane bakhe nokukhubazeka kunye noluntu, kunye nobumnyama bakhe nokuba ngutata. Akukho nanye elula okanye eza nesikhokelo samanyathelo ngamanyathelo malunga nokwenza. ”

Xa ndithetha noWesley, ndambuza ukuba ngawaphi amagama anawo kumadoda akhubazekileyo aMnyama. Waphendula wathini? "Zive ukuba ungubani na."

Njengoko kungqinwa kukuvela kwakhe kwi- "Queer Eye," uWesley ubona abantu abaNtsundu abakhubazekileyo njengabanamandla amakhulu. Ukusuka emsebenzini wakhe, ufikelela kuluntu lwabantu abakhubazekileyo iindawo ezininzi ezingazihoyiyo okanye ezingenakufikelela nje kuzo.

"Ndasinda ngobo busuku ngesizathu," utshilo uWesley. Leyo mbono inefuthe elibonakalayo kwindlela abujonga ngayo ubomi bakhe, umzimba wakhe okhubazekileyo oMnyama, kunye nefuthe afuna ukubanalo kuluntu olungakhathalelwanga kwaye olungachazwanga.

Esi siqendu "seQueer Queer" savula umnyango kwincoko ebifuneka kakhulu malunga nokuchasana noBumnyama, ukungqubana, kunye neembono zabantu abaMnyama abakhubazekileyo.

Masithembe ukuba sizilumkile kwaye singaqhubeki nokudlula okanye ukucima iindawo zoluntu lwethu xa kufanelekile ukuba ibe ngamazwi abo - ewe, amazwi afana ncam nakaWesley - ngaphambili.

UVilissa Thompson, i-LMSW, ngunontlalontle onengqondo enkulu ovela eSouth Carolina. Ramp ilizwi lakho! ngumbutho wakhe apho axoxa khona ngemiba ebalulekileyo kuye njengowasetyhini omnyama okhubazekileyo, kubandakanya ukungqubana, ubuhlanga, ezopolitiko, nokuba kutheni esenza ngokungathandabuzekiyo esenza ingxaki elungileyo. Mfumane kwi-Twitter @VilissaThompson, @RampYourVoice, kunye neWheelDealPod.