Isigqibo esingekho kwiRadar yakho: Iindlela ezili-11 zokudibanisa kwakhona kulo nyaka

Umxholo

• Yibhale phantsi
• Landela
• Ngokuthobekileyo Yithi Hayi
• Uyeke AmaGrudge
• Izinto Zomoya
• Yothusa umntu
• Phatha umntu osebenza naye kwisidlo sasemini
• Yiba liLungu
• Yabelana ngoNcumo
• Sebenzisa iTekhnoloji kwiNzuzo yakho
• Hlaziya iRomance
• Uphengululo lwe

Unamakhulu oqhagamshelo kwi-LinkedIn kunye nabahlobo ngakumbi kwi-Facebook. Uthanda iifoto zabo kwi-Instagram kwaye uthumele rhoqo ii-selfie ze-Snapchat. Kodwa wagqibela nini ukuthetha nabo ubuso ngobuso? Ndacinga njalo. Kwaye oko kungabikho kobudlelwane bokwenyani kunokuba yingozi ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga.

"Ngelixa unxibelelwano nge-elektroniki luyintsikelelo enkulu kweli xesha lethu, lubeke emngciphekweni amandla okunxibelelana kwabantu ngokususa ukubamba kunye nokuzibandakanya," utshilo uEdward Hallowell, MD, umsunguli wamaZiko eHallowell kunye nombhali. Qhagamshela: I-12 Izibophelelo eziBalulekileyo eziVula Intliziyo yakho, Yandisa uBomi baKho, kwaye wonyuse umphefumlo wakho. Oku kunqanyulwa kuthabathe umthwalo omkhulu kwimpilo yethu nakwintlalo-ntle yethu. Ukuba nobudlelwane obubuthathaka bentlalo bulingana nokutshaya i-cigarettes ye-15 ngosuku, kuyingozi ngaphezu kokungasebenzi, kwaye ngokuphindwe kabini kuyingozi njengokukhuluphala, ngokutsho kweYunivesithi yaseBrigham Young. Abantu abanonxibelelwano olubi nabo babenomngcipheko omkhulu wokufa emva kweminyaka esixhenxe enesiqingatha. Ngaphaya kwezi zigulo zikhulu, abo banonxibelelwano olulinganiselweyo lwentlalontle babika imvakalelo yokungakhathali echaphazela ubomi babo. “Usalugqiba usuku, kodwa ucinga, ‘Ngaba yonke le nto ikhona?’” utsho uHallowell.

Ngaphandle kweshedyuli yakho exakekileyo, unayo ixesha lokomeleza ubudlelwane bakho kwaye utyebise ubomi bakho ngeenxa zonke-kwaye leliphi ixesha elingcono kunoNyaka oMtsha? “Zibophelele ekukhuthazeni unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kunye nokunxibelelana ubuso ngobuso,” utshilo uHallowell. Ngala manyathelo alula, awuyi kuvuna kuphela inethiwekhi yoluntu eyomeleleyo, unokuzonwabisa ngakumbi.

Yibhale phantsi

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Lininzi kakhulu inani labantu onokuthi uphinde uqhagamshelane nabo, ngoko qala ngabathathu, u-Hallowell uyacebisa, njengomntu ohlala naye ekholejini, umzala osuka kude, kunye nomntu osebenza naye. Bhala uluhlu lwamagama abo kwaye uphawule izikhumbuzo kwikhalenda yakho ukubabiza okanye ukubathumela i-imeyile inyanga nenyanga okanye njalo. [Tweet le ngcebiso!]

Landela

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Uninzi lwethu luyakhawuleza ukuthi, "Masenze isidlo sasemini" okanye "Kufuneka sibambe isiselo" xa sibona umhlobo wakudala okanye umntu esimaziyo, kodwa asikaze sizibophelele kuloo mihla. Kulo nyaka, misela ixesha kunye nendawo oza kubamba kuyo, kwaye ulandele ngayo.

Ngokuthobekileyo Yithi Hayi

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Ewe, awukwazi "ukwenza isidlo sasemini" nomntu wonke owakhe wambona okanye wonke umntu ohlangana naye. "Kubalulekile ukubeka phambili ubudlelwane bakho," utshilo ugqirha onelayisensi uJulie de Azevedo Hanks, umlawuli weWasatch Family Therapy kunye nombhali we Unyango lokutshisa: Isikhokelo sokusinda ngokweemvakalelo kubafazi abagqithileyo. Cinga ngonxibelelwano lwakho njengezangqa ezixineneyo, kunye nawe embindini, emva koko ubudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo, amalungu osapho, izihlobo, oogxa bakho, njalo njalo. Chitha elona xesha kunye namandla ukuqala kwiziko, kwaye ulinciphise ngaphandle. Ke xa ubona umntu kwisangqa esingaphandle, musa thembisa ukudibana. “Kulapho amajelo eendaba ezentlalo kunye nonxibelelwano lwe-elektroniki lusiza khona,” utshilo uHanks. Baxelele ukuba kumnandi ukubabona, kwaye usebenzise uFacebook okanye uTwitter ukuze uhlale unxibelelana nabo. [Tweet le ngcebiso!]

Uyeke AmaGrudge

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Sonke sinomntu omnye ubuncinci esivakalelwa ukuba usonile kwixesha elidlulileyo-yenza u-2014 unyaka oxolelayo omnye wabo. Uxolelo sisipho osinika sona, njengoko sikukhulula kwityhefu yomsindo ongapheliyo nengqumbo, utshilo uHallowell, obhale le ncwadi Yiba Nosibindi Sokuxolela. Ayithethi ukuba uyayilibala-okanye uyayithethelela-okwenziweyo, wongeza ngelithi, uyeka amandla angalunganga ukuze kulungelwe wena. Ukuba ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo kunye nalo mntu, kungcono ukuxolela umntu, kodwa kwiimeko ezinamathele, omnye umntu akafuni ukwazi-uxolo kuye engqondweni yakho, kwaye uqhubeke.

Izinto Zomoya

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Njengoko uninzi lwethu lusazi mathupha, kuqhelekile ukungavisisani phakathi kwabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye namalungu osapho. Unxibelelwano olusondeleyo luza nembambano, kodwa ungquzulwano yinto eqhelekileyo-indlela ojamelana ngayo nayo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo, utshilo uHallowell. Imiba enzulu enjengokuxhatshazwa, ukuba likhoboka lomlingo, okanye ukungasebenzi gwenxa ecaleni, ucebisa ngokuzisa umba wakho phandle ukuze uqinise ubudlelwane bakho.

Ukuba ukhe waziva uxakekile kunye nomzala wakho othethe into engekhoyo kwitafile yokuBonga okanye umhlobo osenyongweni othethe ngasemva kwakho, fikelela kwaye uthi ubaphosile kwaye ungathanda ukuthetha ngayo. Ukudibana ubuso nobuso yeyona nto ilungileyo ukuze ufikelele kwizicatshulwa ezingasebenziyo, utshilo uHanks, kodwa ukuba akunakwenzeka, zama umnxeba okanye iSkype, emva koko uthumele umyalezo nge-imeyile.

Yiya kwisifundo esichukumisayo njengomdlalo wentenetya, uHanks ucebisa athi: "Gcina ibhola kwicala lakho lenkundla. Yithi, 'Ndivile kabuhlungu xa ungakhange ufikelele xa kusweleke umama wam kunyaka ophelileyo. Ndiyazi ukuba ubuninzi qhubeka ebomini bakho, kodwa ndibuhlungu andikuvanga kuwe. Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho ezisesichengeni-zibuhlungu, ulusizi, usoyika, ulilolo, uHanks uyacacisa. Ukuba abafuni kuthetha, shiya ucango luvuliwe ngokuthi uya kuba lapho ukuba baziva bekulungele ukuphinda baqhagamshele, okanye ubuze ukuba ungaphinda ubuyele kubo kwiinyanga ezimbalwa.

Yothusa umntu

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Ukuba ubudlelwane budinga i-TLC encinci kodwa ingeyiyo intliziyo epheleleyo, bonisa umnqweno wakho wokudibanisa kwakhona ngokubonisa inkathalo. Ukufikelela kancinci, ngeendlela ezingacwangciswanga, u-Hallowell uyacebisa. Thumela into engalindelekanga-ibhasikithi yeziqhamo, incwadi enomdla, okanye ikhadi elixhokonxayo ukumenza ahleke-ukunceda ukuqhekeza umkhenkce.

"Khumbula ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba abanye baziphatha njani, unokugqiba ukuba luhlobo lwentombi, udade, umhlobo okanye umqeshwa. wena ufuna ukuba, "uHanks uthi. Ke ukuba umphathi wakho akaze anqwenelele usuku olumnandi lokuzalwa, sehla ikhadi edesikeni yakhe. Ukuba awumva ku-anti wakho uSally rhoqo, cwangcisa utyelelo olothusayo. Okanye thumela nje elula Thumela umyalezo kubahlobo bakho abakude kunye noogxa bakho ukuba uthi, "Ndicinga ngawe. Ndiyathemba ukuba ube neveki emnandi!"

Phatha umntu osebenza naye kwisidlo sasemini

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Iindawo ezininzi zokusebenzela zinqanyuliwe kwezi ntsuku, kwaye iimeko zomsebenzi ezixinzelelweyo zingakhokelela kwiingxaki zempilo yomzimba nengqondo. Inye into enokukunceda kukuba nomhlobo eofisini-ukuba unomntu osebenza naye omthanda kakhulu, unokuwonwabela umsebenzi wakho ngakumbi, u-Hallowell uyacacisa. Nikezela ngokuthenga ikofu yokutya okanye isidlo sasemini, kwaye umazi ngcono, okanye ulandele umzekelo kaHanks kwaye uqalise iintlanganiso zabasebenzi ngentetho encinci malunga nobomi bomntu wonke. "Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqaphele kwaye ubaxabise abantu osebenza nabo kunye nabasebenzi njengabantu, hayi abavelisi kuphela eofisini," utshilo uHanks. "Abantu benza umsebenzi ongcono kwaye bonwabile xa besiva ukubonwa, ukuva, kunye nokuxabiseka."

Yiba liLungu

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Izifundo zibonisa ukuba ukuba liqela okanye umbutho uphucula iimvakalelo zokuphila kunye nenjongo ebomini, utshilo uHallowell. Joyina nantoni na-inokuba yicawe, iqela eliqhubayo, isisa, okanye ibhodi yabahlali-edibana ubuncinane kanye ngenyanga. Amanqaku ebhonasi ukuba ubandakanyeka kwinto oyithandayo. “Uya kuba nobudlelwane nabanye abantu kwaye uthethe kwaye ubazi ngcono ukuba yinto eninomdla kuyo nonke,” utshilo uHanks.

Yabelana ngoNcumo

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Nokuba olona manyano luncinci lunokunyusa unxibelelwano lwakho lwentlalo, utshilo uHallowell. Ncumela lotata udlula kwi-dairy aisle yegrocery, ushiye ifowuni yakho kwi-purse yakho kwaye ubulise kumntu ongamaziyo kwi-elevator. "La maxesha amancinci akunika ukomelela kwempilo enokuthi ikonwabise ukuba uphile-kwaye uzive uphila," utshilo uHallowell. Enye intsebenziswano yemihla ngemihla enokwenza umehluko: Yeka kwivenkile yekofu yasekhaya okanye i-deli, kwaye wazi abanini ngamagama. Le mizuzu mithathu yencoko enobuhlobo inokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwimood yakho kulo lonke usuku. "Xa sinxibelelana nabanye kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, siziva sikhona kwaye sibandakanyekile kunalapho sihlala kumqhubi wenqwelomoya," utshilo uHallowell.

Sebenzisa iTekhnoloji kwiNzuzo yakho

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Imidiya yoluntu inokuba sisixhobo esihle sokuhlala uqhagamshelwe kubo bonke abantu odibene nabo kwiminyaka edlulileyo okanye ungababoni rhoqo-kwaye kuthatha ixesha elincinci kunye nomzamo. "Ndiyayithanda itekhnoloji kuba ikunika amandla okuthumela i-imeyile okanye ukubeka izimvo kwifoto ngoko nangoko, ukwazisa umntu ukuba ucinga ngabo," utshilo uHanks. Xelela umhlobo ukuba ujongeka emhle kwiposti yakhe entsha ye-Instagram, thumela i-ecard ehlekisayo, okanye uthumele i-imeyile kwikhonkco kwinqaku elikukhumbuze umfundi wangaphambili.

Hlaziya iRomance

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Ukuba uye waziva ukude nomyeni wakho okanye isithandwa sakho mva nje, ngokulula Isaziso kuye, utshilo uHallowell. Emva koko mxelele nge "tie entle;" "Ndiyayithanda indlela ondiphuza ngayo;" okanye "Ubonakala uphantsi. Nantoni na engqondweni yakho?" Unxibelelwano lungundoqo, ngoko musa ukoyika ukucela into oyifunayo ongafumaniyo, kunye noko akufunayo kuwe. Ukuchitha ixesha njengesibini kukwabalulekile ekuvuseleleni ubudlelwane. "Kungaba yimizuzu emithathu ngaphezulu kwekofu, iiyure ezintathu kwisidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya, okanye iintsuku ezintathu kuhambo lweempelaveki, kodwa akukho nto inokuthabathela indawo ixesha kunye," utshilo uHallowell.

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