IiBalms zoBomi - Umqu. 4: UDomininique Matti kunye noTania Peralta ngokuBhala kwakhona uMama

Umxholo

• Wamkelekile kwi-Life Balms, uhlelo lukaMama
• Iibalms zobomi zikaTania:
  
• IiBalms zoBomi zaseDominque:
  

Siyiqhekeza njani imijikelo? Kwaye sizalelwa ntoni endaweni yabo?

Andizange ndifune ukuba ngumama.

Ndiyithatha kwakhona. Inyani yile, ixesha elide, bendinexhala elininzi malunga nokuba ngumama. Ukuzibophelela. Ukugqibelela okulindelweyo kubomi bomfazi omnye, obusandul 'ukudityaniswa nolunye ixesha elide ukuba baphile bobabini - {textend} kwaye mhlawumbi emva kwenyani leyo.

Uxinzelelo lwendima luyancitshiswa kuphela xa ndicinga ngoomama ebomini bam abangena ngokulula kwindima efana nolusu lwesibini, aboyiki ukuyenza ibe yeyabo ngokupheleleyo.

Ukusekwa phezulu kolu luhlu ngumama wam, ngokuhamba kweminyaka, ndikhule ndibona njengomntu omkhulu kunesikhundla sakhe emhlabeni wam. Oko nako kubala oomama abandingqongileyo, abantwana babo ngokwenyani.

Ababini kwaba bafazi abenza ukuba umama abonakale njengomntu kwaye kunokwenzeka imbongi uTania Peralta, waseHonduras, Vancouver, naseToronto, kunye nombhali wezincoko uDominique Matti, waseJersey nasePhiladelphia.

Kolu fakelo lwee-Balms zoBomi, ndacela bobabini uTania no-Dominique ukuba bangathanda na ukuthetha omnye nomnye malunga nohambo lwabo njengababhali kunye neMamas - {textend} Tania, ukuya kwesinye seCapricorn starchild, kunye neDomininique, kwababini abahle Amakhwenkwe akrelekrele.

Ukuxhasa abadali abazimeleyo UTania ngoku umisela indlu yakhe yokushicilela ezimeleyo, iPeralta House, apha. I-Dominique ine-Patreon apho unokufumana khona ngokukhethekileyo kwizincoko zakhe ezikhanyayo, ezichukumisayo.

Njengababhali abaphuma ngaphandle kwezithintelo kushishino lwemidiya yemveli - {textend} nokuba lithetha ntoni eli gama - {textend} bobabini uTania noDomininique baqinisekile malunga neembandezelo kunye noloyiso lwabo ebomini nakumakhondo afanayo.

Bamba incoko yabo - {textend} kunye nokungenelela kwam, rhoqo rhoqo - {textend} njengoko bexoxa ngempilo yengqondo yasemva kokubeleka, ukusinda, kunye nokuba yintoni eqhuba izizathu zabo zokubhala (kunye nento abayifunayo ukuqhubeka nokuvelisa izinto ezintle sebenza ezivelisa zombini).

Wamkelekile kwi-Life Balms, uhlelo lukaMama

Amani Bin Shikhan: Kulungile, umbuzo wokuqala ke: bezinjani ii-2017 zakho? Kwaye u-2018 wakho uhamba njani, ukuza kuthi ga ngoku?

UTania Peralta: Ndisete iinjongo zam zango-2017 kunye neenjongo ezimbalwa emva kwexesha. Ndicinga ukuba kwakungoMatshi. Ndifuna ukufumana umsebenzi osisigxina ngomvuzo kunye nezibonelelo, ndiphucule ikhredithi yam, ndikhuphe incwadi yam yokuqala, ndiphume kwigumbi elingaphantsi [endandihlala kulo]. Ndifezekise yonke into ekolu luhlu kwaye ndiyenze ngeendlela ezikhawulezayo nezilula kunokuba bendicinga.

Ke ngoJanuwari walo nyaka, ndaye ndaphelelwa ngumsebenzi ndaza ndalizonda ikhaya lam elitsha ekuqaleni, ke kwavakala ngathi yonke into endiyenzileyo ngo-2017 iphelile. Ekugqibeleni ndabuya ndabuya kulonto kancinci kwaye ndaqala ngeenjongo ezintsha kunye nokuphuma, kwaye ndiyazibulela kuba xa ndijonga emva kwi-2017, nditsho ngayo yonke into endilahlekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo ndisendaweni engcono kakhulu.

UDominique Matti: I-2017 yam yayitshintsha ngokusondeleyo. Ndabeletha unyana wam wesibini kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kuyo kwaye ngenxa yezinto ezingathandekiyo zomninimzi, kwafuneka siphume kwindawo yethu iiveki ezimbalwa emva koko.

Ndiye ndachitha iinyanga ezintandathu zokuqala ndihlala endlwini kamama wam eSouth Jersey endinyanzele ukuba ndijongane kwaye ndicinge ngezinto ezininzi. Ngexesha esabuyela ngalo kuPhilly, ndandinombono ocacileyo weendlela endifuna ukuphila ngokwahlukileyo. Kudala ndisebenza ukufezekisa oko ukusukela ngoko.

TP: Ukuhamba - {textend} nabantwana okanye hayi - {textend} Kunzima kakhulu.

Xa ungumama, kufana nawe kwaye iyunithi oyenzayo nabantwana bakho iba lilizwe lakho elincinci kunye neentlekele kunye noloyiso.
- {umbhalo} Dominique Matti

AB: Oko kuvakala kuyinyani kumacala omabini. Ukuvuyisana emva kwexesha, Dominique! Kwaye uTania, ekuhambeni nasekufumaneni umbono! Dominique, waziva njani emva kokuzalwa?

I-DM:Yayiyintlekele yasemva kokubeleka, ukunyaniseka. Kukho oku kuxhalaba phakathi kwam evulekileyo kwi-intanethi, kodwa ndiyimfihlo ngokwenene ebomini bam, ngoko ke ukunyanzeliswa ukuba ndihlale ndedwa ngexesha apho ndifuna ukuhlukana nentsapho yam encinci kwakunzima. Tania, ndiyavuya ubuyile!

TP: Wowu, ndiqonda ngokupheleleyo. Intlekele endandinayo emva kokubeleka yayingacacanga, kodwa imeko endandikuyo ngelo xesha yandenza ndayifihla ukuze ndibeke usapho lwam kwindawo ebhetele.

I-DM: Umbono wetonela oomama uyinyani.

TP: Ndivakalelwa ngathi awazi nakude kube emva kwexesha kuba ungena kwimowudi yokusinda. Ndivakalelwa kukuba kuninzi okucacileyo (njengoko kuchaziwe kuwe) kuvela ekufumaneni ukuba yintoni eza kulungela abantwana kwixesha elide kwaye uyayithanda, ixesha elifutshane kakhulu. Njengaye, sitya ntoni namhlanje?

I-DM: Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ndisebenzise igama elithi "ngokusondeleyo" malunga ne-2017 kuba kuninzi okwenzekayo emhlabeni ngaphandle komnyango wethu. Kodwa xa ungumama, kufana nawe kwaye iyunithi oyenzayo nabantwana bakho iba lilizwe lakho elincinci kunye neentlekele kunye noloyiso.

Kwaye ngo-2017, kwathatha onke amandla am kunye nokugxila kunye namandla okulawula nje oko sonke sifuna ukuba kulungile. Kuzo naziphi na iindonga ezine esikuzo.

TP: Ndiyakuvela. Ndikhumbula ndibona izinto ezimbi kwi-Twitter, kodwa ubomi bokwenyani babusenzeka kanye ekhayeni lam. Kwafuneka ndivimbe kakhulu kunyaka ophelileyo ukuze ndijolise. Kunzima kuba ufuna ukukhathalela kwaye nawe yenza inkathalo kwaye nanjengomntu oyilayo, ufana, “Kulungile, ndingenza ntoni apha? Ndingalinceda njani eli hlabathi, ngandlela thile? ”

Kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo, iqala ekhaya, nokuba ivakala njani ukuba yintsimbi.

I-DM: Ewe! Kwaye, ngalo lonke eli xesha, iyakuchaphazela nawe kunye neyakho njengokungcungcutheka okanye iintlungu ezingapheliyo phantsi kwayo yonke into. Kodwa ayingxoli njengokulamba okanye isicatshulwa esivela kumnini-mhlaba okanye umbuzo wokuba ziphi na izibane.

Umbono wetonela oomama uyinyani.
- {umbhalo} Dominique Matti

AB: Niye nobabini nini mamas? Kwakunjani xa ufumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe?

TP: Intombi yam yazalwa ngenene luthando kunye nothando. Sihleli apho, sajongana kwaye sasifana, "Kufuneka sibe nosana ngoku." Yayintle. Emva koko ndakhulelwa kwaye akukho nto yahamba njengoko kuhleliwe. Andazi ukuba besicinga ntoni, ngaphandle kokuba sithandane.

Besingenamali. Besinethemba nje ngayo yonke into. Sinohlobo lokuthemba nje ukuba izinto zizakulunga. Sobabini sasazi ukuba singabantu abafanelekileyo ukuba nomntwana. Njengokuba, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, lo mntu uza kuba ngutata omkhulu kuba ungumntu obalaseleyo.

Kodwa njengokuba thina sobabini sihambile kubomi bethu ngaphambi kokuba sibe ngabazali, andicingi ukuba nokuba omnye wethu ebezibonele ngawakhe ukuba likhohlakele kangakanani ilizwe xa ungumntu oNtsundu okanye umntu onebala, okanye eyinxalenye Iyunithi yosapho.

Ndicinga ukuba umzuzu owafika usijikeleza yayikukuqeshwa kukagqirha. Ndiyakhumbula sithetha malunga nendlela nje Ndiyazi ukuba izinto ezininzi abaza kusibuza zona zazingabuzwa kusapho olumhlophe oluphakathi ubudala.

Uyazi xa abantu bekubuza, ungathini kumntu wakho omdala okanye nantoni na? Ndihlala ndicinga ngeli xesha elinye lokukhulelwa kwam. Njengakwiitrimes zokuqala nezesibini. Bendi sebenza imisebenzi emibini ndisiya eskolweni ... andazi ndenze njani. Yiyo enye yeenguqulelo kum ndiza kubuya ndize ndigone.
- {isicatshulwa} UTania Peralta

I-DM: Ndinonyana wam wokuqala ngo-2015, xa ndandineminyaka engama-22 ubudala. Ndandihamba nje ebomini. Ndandilinenekazi lokucoca emini kunye nentwana yemveliso ye-SoundCloud ebusuku. Ndandihlala kude kube sebusuku ndenza ii-beats kwilaptop yam ecekeceke kuba bendiziva ngathi ukuba ndibeka imibongo yam phezu komculo, abantu bayamamela. Khange ndicinge ukuba ngumbhali nje kunokwenzeka kum.Ngapha koko, xa ndafumanisa ukuba ndikhulelwe, ndandifana nokuthi, "Kulungile, nantsi into esiyenzayo ngoku."

Ndigqithile ekubeni ndingabinamntwana ndandifuna ngaphambili, kwaye oko kwabonakala kubuhlungu ngokungaphaya kokuphinda ubenaye.

TP: Ndoda, nam kule yokugqibela. Nam. Kwakhona i-LOL ku- "Kulungile, nantsi into esiyenzayo ngoku." Yilaa mandla amakhulu kamama akhaba kuwo.

I-DM: Ukuqonda kwam kwakuthandana kakhulu de kwaba yinto eyenzekayo. Ummelwane wandicela ukuba ndibancede basuse ingubo xa ndandineenyanga ezisixhenxe ndikhulelwe. Kwaye bendithanda, "Owu, nantsi into yokungeniswa kwiklabhu yabasetyhini abaNtsundu ekulindeleke ukuba babe luncedo kwaye bangaze banikwe mngcipheko okanye inkathalo okanye ukuthamba." Uxinzelelo kakhulu. Ngaphezulu koxinzelelo oluqhelekileyo lokuba ngumzali.

TP: Uyazi xa abantu bekubuza, ungathini kumntu wakho omdala okanye nantoni na? Ndihlala ndicinga ngeli xesha elinye lokukhulelwa kwam. Njengakwiitrimes zokuqala nezesibini. Bendi sebenza imisebenzi emibini ndisiya eskolweni ... andazi ndenze njani. Yiyo enye yeenguqulelo kum ndiza kubuya ndize ndigone.

I-DM: Phew. Akukho sipili sifana nokuba ngumama. Ikubonisa into onokuyenza. Kwaye awukwazi. Khwaza kuwe.

TP: Undikrazule. Iphantse ikwenze ube ndindisholo - {textend} kodwa ngendlela elungileyo. Akukho nto ibonakala ingenakwenzeka. Kuthatha nje ukomelela.

I-DM: Kwaye xa ikubonisa ukuba awukwazi ukuba unjani, Ewe, ndinayo le, nayo. Ngokwenyani, ndinike nje umzuzu; Ndiqhekeza ikhowudi. Kodwa ukomelela kwakhona kuyirhafu njenge f— {textend}.

TP: Ke ukurhafisa nako, kubangele ukuba ilizwe liqale ukukufunda njengalo mntu onokuphatha yonke into - {textend} kwaye unako, kodwa akufuneki.

AB: Uqale njani ukubhala? Kwaye ubhale ngokomsebenzi, ukuba ezo zinto zimbini zahlukile kuwe?

TP: Ndabhala ekuqaleni nge-ESL kunye neenkqubo zokufunda ukufika kwam eCanada ndisuka eHonduras, kuba bonke babefana, “Usemva! Ukufumana okudlule!" Kodwa ndikuthandile ukufunda nokubhala kwinkqubo.

Kunyaka wam wesibini wesikolo sobuntatheli, umhleli ngelo xesha wandinceda kakhulu ekwakheni iphothifoliyo yam kubuntatheli bomculo. Lawo ngamanye amaxesha aluncedo kuba wayehlala endinika amathuba okwenza imali. Andizange ndigqibelele kodwa ndingaze ndoyike, ke ngalo lonke ixesha ndinikwa into, ndafunda lukhulu.

Ukukhulelwa kwam, ndaba ngumdla kubuntatheli bomculo. Ngelo xesha ilizwe lokubhala latshintsha ngokupheleleyo kum. Kwaye akukho nkcazo yokubhala ngobungcali, kum.

Ewe, ukuba ngumbhali oqeqeshiweyo kuthetha ukuba ndihlawulwa ngomnye umntu? Isayinwe kumntu? Kwaye ukuba andiyiyo, ngaba loo nto indenza ndibe ngumbhali ongasebenziyo?
- {isicatshulwa} UTania Peralta

I-DM: Ndiqale ukubhala ukujongana nezinto, ndiyacinga. Xa ndandikwibanga lokuqala, ndibhale eli bali esikolweni malunga nedayinaso ekhangela kuyo yonke indawo ngeqanda layo kodwa engalifumani. Uhlobo oluguquliweyo lwalo "Ngaba Ungumama Wam?" Incwadi yabantwana. Oko kwakuziva kulungile kwaye kwaqinisekiswa nyani ngutitshala wam ngelo xesha, ke ndiyithathile ndazazisa.

Kananjalo, kuwo onke amabanga okuqala abazala bam kwaye saba neqela lamantombazana elinamaphupha okufana ne3LW, kwaye ndonyulwa njengombhali wengoma. Ndiza kubhala la mazwi e-esile akhuleleyo kuthi andiqalise kwimibongo. Kwaye andizange ndiyeke ngokwenene.

AB: Oo thixo wam, u-Dominique. Bendihlala ndibhala namazwi engoma!

TP: OMG!!!!! Mna ke Ndinqwenela ukuba sibe ngabahlobo njengabantwana.

AB: Ngaba ungayichaza into oyithethayo ngokubhala ngobungcali, iTania?

TP: Ewe, ukuba ngumbhali oqeqeshiweyo kuthetha ukuba ndihlawulwa ngomnye umntu? Isayinwe kumntu? Kwaye ukuba andiyiyo, ngaba loo nto indenza ndibe ngumbhali ongasebenziyo?

Ndivakalelwa ngathi ndisathatha isigqibo sokuba ndithetha ukuthini ngale nto. Yile mbono "yokubhala ngobungcali" njengomnyango wentelekelelo ... Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, andiqinisekanga kangako ukuba abantu abangena kulomnyango bangaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kunababhali abalindele ukungena.

I-DM: Ndiqale ukubhala ubuchwephesha kuba xa inkulu yam yayifana no-1, ndandisebenza ubusuku obugqithileyo nge-10: 30 ebusuku. ukuya ku-6: 30 kusasa njengomlungiseleli weenkonzo zegumbi lasehotele, kwaye umyeni wam ebesebenza nge-7 ukuya kweye-7. Esibhedlele, kwaye ndandingalali. Kukonke.

Umyeni wam kunye nam sobabini sakhuliswa ngoomama abangatshatanga abangabasebenzi bemimangaliso bokwenyani, kwaye bobabini bayamangaliswa yindlela esixineke ngayo ngenxa yokuba sithandana, kodwa kusenjalo.
- {umbhalo} Dominique Matti

Kwaye sasisaphukile. Kwaye andinakukwazi ukubonelela ngononophelo lwasemini. Ngoko omnye wethu kwafuneka ayeke. Kwaye wenza okungakumbi, kwaye wayenayo i-inshurensi yezempilo, kwaye umntwana wancanciswa - {textend} ke yayingam ndiyekile.

Kodwa andinakukwazi ukungenzi mali, kwaye ukuba ngumama kufuna ukuba uphelise zonke izibonelelo kwaye sifikelele kwinqanaba apho ekuphela kovimba oseleyo bekubhala. Ke bendithanda, "Ewe ... mhlawumbi ndingayenza imali ngokwenza loo nto?"

TP: Ndiva yonke into oyithethayo emathanjeni am. Umlingane wam uphethe usapho lwethu ngeendlela ezininzi kunenye ngoku kwaye inkqubo yokugcina abantwana apha eCanada intle kakhulu, ngokunjalo. Ke ndikule nxalenye yomsebenzi wam apho ubutyebi bam bokubhala nokubhala imibongo kwimisitho.

I-DM: Uphethe i'all nawe! Xa ungenazo izibonelelo zokhathalelo lomntwana okanye ixesha okanye imali, okanye uxinezelekile okanye nantoni na, wonke umntu uphakama ethwele ngaphezulu kwesabelo esifanelekileyo kwaye anikezele kakhulu, naye.

Umyeni wam kunye nam sobabini sakhuliswa ngoomama abangatshatanga abangabasebenzi bemimangaliso bokwenyani, kwaye Bobabini bayamangaliswa yindlela esixinezeleke ngayo kuba sikunye, kodwa kusenjalo kakhulu.

TP: Ndiva oko. Bobabini umama wam kunye nomama wakhe ziingelosi zokoqobo: owam wayenabantwana abahlanu kwaye umkhwekazi wam wayenabasixhenxe. Sinomntwana omnye kwaye sidiniwe. Ndiyazi ukuba abafezekanga, kodwa ngokwenene bangumzekelo kuthi.

Njengomama, kundizisela uxolo lokwazi ukuba iqabane lam kunye nam sele siyaphule imijikelo emininzi esizalelwe kuyo sobabini.
- {isicatshulwa} UTania Peralta

AB: Kuyo yomibini imisebenzi yakho, uthetha ngokungagungqiyo ngezinto uninzi lwabantu olukhetha ukungazenzi, ubuncinci esidlangalaleni - {textend} unxunguphalo, uxinzelelo, ukungazithembi kwezemali, nothando olunzima. Ngaba ungathetha nesizathu sokwenza oko? Kwaye kuthatha ntoni ukuba wabelane ngeenyaniso kunye nehlabathi?

I-DM: Ewe, ukuba ndiyinyani, ndiyinyani, ndinemida engalunganga yokuzikhusela.

TP: Uthetha ukuthini ngaloo nto, Dominique? Imida ehlwempuzekileyo iyahlula?

I-DM: Indlela endikhule ngayo, ishishini lam elininzi ibingeyoyam. Ke umxholo wokugcina izinto kuwe njengendlela yokuzikhusela awenzeki kum ngokukhawuleza njengoko usenza kwabanye.

Kwangolo hlobo lunye, ndikhulele endlwini apho yayingeyonto iqhelekileyo ukuba neentloni ngezinto ezininzi abantu ababanentloni ngazo.

Kukho lo mbono ndihlala ndibuyela kuwo: "I-monster ifumanisa njani ukuba i-monster?" Impendulo endinayo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kukuba, "iyahlangana nabanye." Ixesha elininzi ndipapasha izinto ezisemngciphekweni kuba iintloni azenzeki kum kude kube kungqinwa. Kwaye ukuba bucala akwenzeki kum de ndiqonde ukuba ndityhile inxeba.

TP: Wowu.

I-DM: Into yokuqala endiyibhalileyo, ndinabalandeli abahlanu kwaye bendiphefumla nje. Yenza ukuba ifane nokubonwa kwe-300K. Kwaye kwandiphazamisa. Ndandixhalabile ngeveki. Kwaye inefuthe kum.

Ngoku, xa ndihlala phantsi ukubhala, ndilindele impendulo yabaphulaphuli abacingayo. Ngandlela thile, oko kuyingozi, ngokubhala kwam njengendawo ekhuselekileyo kum. Ngenye indlela, kundinyanzele ukuba ndiziphendulele emsebenzini wam.

Andicingi ngeyona ndlela ibhetele yokubeka umntwana kunokuphilisa ilifa eliyingozi ngaphambi kokuba ndilifumane.
- {umbhalo} Dominique Matti

TP: Le yinto endizama ukuyisebenza kuba bendithulisiwe ekhaya, kwindawo endihlala kuyo ixesha elide kangangokuba ndivele ndiye kude. Xa ndandikhulelwe, ndaqala ukufunda uncwadi oluMnyama nolwesiLatinx yiyo loo nto ukubhala kwanditshintshela. Ndiqale ukubona amava am ngamagama kunye neemeko endikhe ndaphila kuzo.

Ndikhulelwe okokuqala ndifunda "Kumantombazana aBala aKhe acinge ngokuzibulala xa uThingo lwenziwe ngu-Enuf" nguNtozake Shange kwaye ibingathi ... yinto etshintshe ubomi yam le. Oko, kunye no "Mfazi Okhululekileyo" nguSandra Cisneros. Baye bangena ngokweenkcukacha malunga nezinto ezoyikisayo zokwenyani.

I-DM: Owu thixo wam, "uMfazi Okhwaza I-Creek" nguSandra Cisneros unditshintshile. Ndinendawo eguqukayo yokwenyani kulindeleke ukuba ndizithobe kwaye ndikufutshane nokuba ndingavi. Kodwa ndilahlile injongo yam amaxesha amaninzi ekuphenduleni kuloo ndawo. Ndisebenza nzima ngenene ekubeni ndithenda kwaye ndinenjongo. Esi sesinye sezifundo zam zango-2017.

TP: Ukuphendula umbuzo wakho Amani, andikwazi ukubhala enye indlela ngoku. Umsebenzi wam omninzi ndithetha ndedwa. Nokuba umthengi akayifundi ngale ndlela.

AB: Ngaba uyayifumana loo cathartic okanye yoyikisayo? Okanye zombini?

TP: Ndiyathetha, andikhathali. Ngethuba lokuqala ndibetha abantu abaninzi ngolu hlobo lomsebenzi kwakungu-Erika Ramirez xa wayesungula iphephancwadi lakhe, ILY. Kwelo qhekeza, ndatyhila izinto ezininzi zokuthula malunga nosapho lwam.

Kwaye ndicinga ukuba abanye abantu babekhathazekile kuba kukho usana kumxube. Ndicinga ukuba babekhathazekile ukuba ndiyazi malunga namahemuhemu amaninzi malunga nosapho lwam. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, ibuyise amandla kum. Ibindim lo ebalisa ibali. Lelona xesha liphezulu kum eli.

I-DM: Andikwazi ukucinga ngayo yeyona ndlela ibhetele yokubeka umntwana endaweni yokuphilisa ilifa eliyingozi ngaphambi kokuba alifumane.

TP: Olunye uluvo lubonise ukungonwabi kwabanye abantu kum ukuba ndibonise eli cala lithambileyo, lobuqu lomrepha (iqabane lam yimvumi). Kodwa andikhathali. Ndicinga ukuba isinike amandla okuxelela amabali ethu emsebenzini wethu, nokuba kunjani. Ukophula imijikelo.

Kuthatha okuninzi ukugqiba izinto ngempilo enkenenkene yengqondo. Ifika idlule kum.
- {isicatshulwa} UTania Peralta

I-DM: Ewe! Yile nto ithethwa ngumgqirha wam xa bendixela amaxhala malunga nento endisebenza kuyo ngoku. Wayefana, "Kuhle kangakanani ukuba unethuba lokubalisa ibali abanye abantu abaqhubeka bekuxelela lona - {textend} ngokungalunganga, ngelo xesha?"

AB: Zithini "iibhalsam zobomi" okanye izinto ezibuyisela kuwe? Izinto ezikuzisela uxolo?

TP: Njengendawo yonke, ukugqiba izinto endithe ndiza kuzenza. Kuthatha okuninzi ukugqiba izinto ngempilo enkenenkene yengqondo. Ifika idlule kum. Ukusebenza kwimpilo yam kundizisela uxolo kuba ndenze ikhaya ngaphakathi kwam. Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, ndinokuba ndedwa - {textend} nditsho nangengqondo - {textend} kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba yonke into izakulunga.

Njengomama, kundizisela uxolo lokwazi ukuba iqabane lam kunye nam sele siyaphule imijikelo emininzi esizalelwe kuyo sobabini. Njengokuba, nokuba uThixo engavumi, nantoni na eyenzekayo kuthi, intombi yam ineekhathalogu ezimbini zomsebenzi kuthi ukufumana ukuba uvela kubani. (Kwaye ... ikofu!)

I-DM: Ukuhamba, amakhandlela, umculo, ukubhula. Ngengozi ndikhulise ukuziqhelanisa nokomoya ngelixa ndikhangele kwiinkolo zamanyanya kulo nyaka. Ndikhuliswe ndingumKatolika kakhulu - {textend} ngathi, ndenza zonke iisakramente kunye nezinto - {textend} kwaye ngaxa lithile ndayiyeka icawe, kodwa zange ndizalise eso sithuba ngayo nantoni na. Ndifunda ezinye izithethe kunye nezinto kodwa kwakungavakali ngathi yeyam, ke bendizikhupha izinto zam kunye.

Ndenza ikakhulu umsebenzi wekhandlela. Ndichithe igumbi, khetha imibala emele into endifuna ukuyitsala okanye ukuyifaka, ndibanxibe kwioyile yobusi kunye nemifuno, ndibethelele amagama ookhokho bam kubo, ndithethe nabo, ndibeke iinjongo - Khanyisa isiqhumiso, dlala umculo.

Iyahlakesi: Ndiyaqonda ukuba ndingu [ulwandiso] lomama wam kunye nomakhulu. Ubuntwana bam bonke, umama wayevele akhanyise iqela lamakhandlela e-jasmine vanilla avela eBhafini nakwimisebenzi yoMzimba, aqhume iFugees, kwaye acoceke. UNana wam ligorha lomthandazo. (Kwaye olu dliwanondlebe luziswa kuwe yi-iced lavender latte eneefoto ezintathu.)

AB: Kwilizwe elifanelekileyo, yintoni oya kuyidinga ukuze uzive uxhaswa njengomama? Njengombhali?

TP: Impendulo yam iqonde ngqo kwiToronto: Indawo kawonke-wonke yokwenza izimvo zam. Ndiva ngathi ndifuna ukuqhubeka nokwenza izinto kwaye ndiqhubeka ndibeka izinto, kodwa akukho sithuba sokwenza ngaphandle kwenkxaso-mali yam.

I-DM: Zombini ezi ndima, kodwa ubukhulu becala ukuba ngumama, indawo enkulu yokuziva ungaxhaswanga yindlela bambalwa abantu ababona ngayo into njengomsebenzi wokwenyani okanye abasebenzi abafanelwe yinkxaso. Yinto endifanele ukuba ndingoyiki ukuyenza. Malunga nemini. Ngonaphakade.

Ndifuna ukukhwaza, kodwa, ndifuna ukuba abantu babonelele ukubukela abantwana bam iiyure ezimbalwa xa umyeni wam ekwiiyure ezili-12 ukuze ndikwazi ukufikelela kumhla obekiweyo - {textend} okanye ukulala. Ndifuna nomntu oza ekhayeni lam ephethe ikofu efana nee-sitcom. Ngokubhala, ndifuna umvuzo olungileyo. Kwanele ukuhlawula irente.

Iibalms zobomi zikaTania:

• "Tao Te Ching:" Iyandinceda ukuba ndifumane ingcaciso kubomi bam bemihla ngemihla. Imiyalezo elapho ayinyanzeli nto kuwe, isebenza njengezikhokelo kwaye inikezela ngeendlela ezizezinye zokujonga wena nabantu nezinto ezikungqongileyo. Kufana nokufunda ukuze uzilungiselele izinto [eziza kwenzeka], ezilungileyo nezimbi. Kufana nokuphefumla okukhulu kum. Ndiyaqikelela, endaweni yeyoga, le yeyona nto indigcina ndipholile.
• UPalo Santo: IPalo Santo ikhethekile kum kuba indincedile kunye nosapho lwam ukuba siphinde sibuyele ekhaya kwiindawo ezintsha. Yiphunga eliqhelekileyo kwaye iluncedo ngaphambi kwencoko nasemva kokuba incoko iphelile. Ndikunye noPalo Santo, ndiziva ngathi ndingalawula amandla endiwafunayo ekhayeni lam.
• Umxube wesidlo sakusasa se-Starbucks: Okwangoku ndiyayipheka kuba iimbotyi zivela kumazwe aseLatin America kwaye ungandiniki isisu okanye uxinzelelo. Ndisela ikomityi emva kwemini [yentombi yam] ndilele ukuze ndibenamandla okuphumla emini- {textend} kunye namandla okwenza iiyure ezimbalwa zomsebenzi xa sele elele ebusuku. Ndisebenzisa iFrance Press. Leyo yeyona ndlela ndiyithandayo yokusela ikofu.

Landela uhambo lukaTania njengoko eseka indlu yakhe yokushicilela ezimeleyo, iPeralta House, apha. (Kunyaka ophelileyo, upapashe ingqokelela yakhe yokuqala yemibongo, "IINKCUKACHA" - {textend} yinto ekufuneka uyifundile. Ndithembe.)

IiBalms zoBomi zaseDominque:

• UCristy C. Road's Okulandelayo kwiLizwe iTarot: Phakathi kukaTrump kunye noxinzelelo lwam, ingathi ndihlala kwi-cusp yokuphela kwehlabathi kakhulu. Lo mgangatho uphupha umhlaba esinokuthi siwakhe ukusuka kwinkunkuma, kwaye ukusukela ukuba umfanekiso ujongeka njengam nabahlobo bam, kuyandinceda ukuba ndicinge ngcono ngeziphumo endiziphumelelayo.
• Amakhandlela ombala we-chime ombala: Okwexeshana, ndiyithathele phantsi imfuno yam yokukholelwa kumandla aphezulu, kodwa andifumananga inkolo endiziva ukuba ndingowayo - {textend} okanye endiziva ukuba yeyam. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, amakhandlela nje. Ndiyathanda ukusebenzisa umlilo ukuthandaza kuba ndi-Aries kakhulu-ndinzima, kwaye isileyiti esingenanto kula makhandlela (ngokuchasene nalawo anenani elingcwele kuwo) indivumela ukuba ndinxibelelane nemibono kunye namandla azisa kum uxolo.
• Pocket Moleskine: Ndiyiphathe enye yezi ndawo kum kuyo yonke indawo, iminyaka elishumi. Ndiyisebenzisela ukubhala kuyilo kwaye kutsha nje, kwisindululo sonyango lwam, ukushicilela iindaba. Kuyandinceda ukuzixabisa iingcinga zam kunye nezimvo zam ngaphambi kokuba umgxeki wam wangaphakathi aziveze. Kuluyolo ukuba nendawo yokukhupha nokubhala ngaphandle kwabaphulaphuli.

Njengeengcinga zikaDomininique kunye noTania? Landela bona Apha kwaye Apha.

U-Amani Bin Shikhan ngumbhali wezenkcubeko kunye nomphandi egxile kumculo, intshukumo, isiko, kunye nenkumbulo- {textend} xa zidibana, ngakumbi. Mlandele phambili Twitter. Ifoto ngu UAsmaà Bana.