Ubungqina bokuba awudingi ubudlelwane ukuba wonwabe

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Kwabaninzi, uSuku lweValentine luncinci malunga netshokholethi kunye neerozi kunokuba kukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba, ewe, awukatshati.Ngelixa kufuneka uyazi ukuba ukungatshati kunetoni yezibonelelo, sifumana ukuba isenokungasoloko iyimeko efanelekileyo. Kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka uzive ungaphantsi kokuchulumanca yimeko okuyo ngoku, uJennifer Taitz, Psy.D, ingcali kunyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo kunye nomhlohli wezonyango kwi-UCLA, wabelana ngobulumko kwincwadi yakhe entsha, Ungatshata njani kwaye Wonwabe.

Kule ncwadi, uTaitz uchaza ukuba ukuba ngoyena mntu wonwabileyo kukuba hayi malunga nokufumana iqabane lobomi. "Xa kuziwa ekujongeni uthando ngexesha apho itekhnoloji kunye nemigaqo emitsha inokuthi ibangele iimvakalelo ezifana nokuba awukhathali, kubalulekile ukufunda ukuziphatha kakuhle," utshilo uTaitz. "Ukungatshati akuthethi ukuba unesiphene kwaye ufuna ukulungiswa. Ubudlelwane bakho, okanye ukusilela kwakho, akunanto yakwenza nokuzazi kwakho." YAS.

Kuyinyani: Oososayensi bezentlalo (abafunda ngokoqobo ulonwabo ukuze baphile) bafumanise ukuba ulonwabo lunento yokwenza nengqondo yakho kunye nemisebenzi, endaweni yeemeko zakho. Kuhlolisiso olwenziwe kubantu abangaphezu kwama-24,000, umtshato wafunyanwa usandisa amanqanaba olonwabo ngokomlinganiselo — kodwa kuphela nge-1 ekhulwini!

Ngokwenene abantu baneemvakalelo ezomeleleyo kwiziganeko ezikhulu (njengomtshato), kodwa abaphandi bathi emva kokuphela kovuyo lokuqala, abantu bakhawuleza baziqhelanise nomgangatho wabo wokuqala wentlalontle. Uguqulo: Ubudlelwane bunokuba buhle, kodwa ayisitshixo solonwabo ukuba awonwabanga.

Uyakwazo oko yenza kuchaphazela ulonwabo? Ingqondo yakho. Ukuba uziva ubambekile ngokwengqondo, uTaitz ucebisa ngento ebizwa ngokuba Ukucinga kweengcinga. Zithathele ingqalelo iingcinga zakho, kodwa ukwenze oko ukude, uqonda ukuba ziyafika zidlule kwaye akuyomfuneko ukuba uleqe nganye. Imizekelo ephambili yeengcinga onokuthi uyeke ngolu suku lweValentine: Ndizophela ndedwa? Kutheni engazange aphendule? Wenza ntoni ex yam RN?

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