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Umxholo

• Izinto zokuqala kuqala: Ukwabelana ngesondo kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo
• Ngaphandle kwento esoloko ithethwe ngayo, isini sakho asinanto yakwenza nempendulo yakho kwisini
• Abanye abantu bafuna umtsalane ngokweemvakalelo ukuze babenomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni
• Abanye bafumanisa ukuba ukwenza umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni kunokukhokelela kumtsalane weemvakalelo
• Abanye banokufumanisa ukuba umtsalane ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni usebenza kwizithuba ezimbini ezahluke ngokupheleleyo
• Nokuba ujonga ntoni, isini kunye neemvakalelo zichaphazela iindlela ezifanayo kwingqondo
• Ngaphezu, uninzi lwabantu lufumana iimvakalelo ezifanayo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokukhululwa
• Kukwafanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuvuswa kwesondo kunokucima iinxalenye zecortex yangaphambili
• Ukuxhomekeka kwe-Oxytocin nayo iyinto
• Abaphandi basaqhubeka nokukhupha izinto ezahlukeneyo kwinkanuko, umtsalane kunye nokuncamathisela ukulingana
• Ukuba ufuna ukwahlula isini kunye neemvakalelo
• Ukuba ufuna ukwenza nzulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwesondo kunye neemvakalelo
• Umgca wezantsi

Izinto zokuqala kuqala: Ukwabelana ngesondo kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuba yeyona nto iphambili yokubonisa uthando kunye nokusondelelana. Okanye i-roller coaster. Okanye isiqabu soxinzelelo. Okanye konke malunga nokuzala. Okanye lixesha elilungileyo. Inokuba zizonke ezi zinto kunye nokunye.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo. Kwaye nokuba kuthetha ntoni kuwe akusoloko kufanelekile, nokuba.

Ingathetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo ebomini bakho, okanye nangosuku olunye ukuya kolandelayo.

Kwaye uyazi ntoni? Konke kuqhelekile ngokugqibeleleyo.

Ngaphandle kwento esoloko ithethwe ngayo, isini sakho asinanto yakwenza nempendulo yakho kwisini

Abasetyhini banenceba kwiimvakalelo zabo ezi-roller; amadoda azilawula ngokuqinileyo iimvakalelo ezimbalwa abanazo. Ubuncinane yiloo nto ubulumko obuqhelekileyo buya kuba nako ukuba sikholelwe.

Ezi zimvo zineengcambu ezinzulu, kodwa abantu bunzima kakhulu kunoko.

Kukho ukubonakalisa ukuba abantu ababhinqileyo bachaza ngakumbi malunga neemvakalelo, ubuncinci eMelika nakwamanye amazwe aseNtshona Yurophu.

Bacebisa ukuba amadoda anempendulo efanayo okanye enkulu yomzimba koxinzelelo lweemvakalelo.

Lo mahluko usenokubangelwa yimpembelelo yenkcubeko esihlala kuyo. Mhlawumbi besisebenza ngokulula koko besixelelwe ukuba kwamkelekile.

Kule mihla, abantu abanamdla wokuthobela ukwahlulahlula ngokwesini ngokulula.

Nokuba ungubani na, nokuba uyiveze ngokucacileyo okanye hayi, impendulo yakho kwisini yeyakho ngokukodwa.

Abanye abantu bafuna umtsalane ngokweemvakalelo ukuze babenomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni

Ngaba kufuneka uve inqanaba lokutsala ngokweemvakalelo ngaphambi kokuba nayiphi na ingcinga yesondo ingene engqondweni yakho? Ukuba oko kuvakala ngathi, ngokuqinisekileyo awuwedwa.

Mhlawumbi kufuneka uqhagamshele kwinqanaba lokomoya. Mhlawumbi yingqondo yabo okanye inyani yokuba wabelana ngefilosofi ezisisiseko zobomi.

Mhlawumbi weva laa ntwana yokuchwayita xa bekuhlekisa ’ude ulile.

Okanye yimeko ye je ne sais quoi -into ethile ongenakukwazi ukuyibeka ngamagama, kodwa uyazi xa isenzeka.

Ufuna ulwalamano. Nje ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zikwingingqi kwaye wenze unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo, ungaqala ukuziva uvukile ngokomzimba.

Ngaphandle kwaloo ndawo, awungeni ngesondo. Ukwenza uthando.

Abanye bafumanisa ukuba ukwenza umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni kunokukhokelela kumtsalane weemvakalelo

Abanye abantu bazotywe kunye njengamazibuthe.

Kukho impendulo yamachiza, indlala, umnqweno wenyama kuphela wokufumana umzimba kunye nomnye umntu. Yinkanuko.

Xa i-chemistry phakathi kwabantu ilungile, ukufumana umzimba kunokukhula kube ngaphezulu kakhulu.

Uphengululo lokubuyela umva ngo-2012 lufumene iindawo ezimbini zobuchopho ezilandelela ukuqhubela phambili kwiminqweno yesini ukuthanda. Enye yindawo yokungena. Itholakala kwi-cortex yecerebral.

Enye enye yestriatum. Ibekwe ngaphakathi kobuchopho bangaphambili. Into enomdla kukuba, i-striatum ikwanxulunyaniswa neziyobisi.

Uthando kunye nomnqweno wesondo usebenze iindawo ezahlukeneyo zestriatum.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nokutya zezinye zezinto ezimnandi ezenza ukuba inxenye yenkanuko isebenze. Inkqubo yokulungisa imeko yomvuzo kunye nexabiso- iyenza isebenze icandelo lothando.

Njengoko umnqweno wesondo uvuzwa, uye ube sisiqhelo, esinokukukhokelela kanye kwindlela yothando.

Njengoko iimvakalelo zenkanuko ziqala ukujika zibe luthando, enye indawo ye-striatum ithatha indawo.

Abanye banokufumanisa ukuba umtsalane ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni usebenza kwizithuba ezimbini ezahluke ngokupheleleyo

Abantu zizidalwa ezintsonkothileyo ezinamanqwanqwa amaninzi.

Abanye bethu, kukho imigca ecacileyo eyahlula phakathi komtsalane weemvakalelo kunye nomtsalane womzimba. Azidibani ngokwenyani.

Unokutsala umntu ngokweemvakalelo ngaphandle kokufumana umnqweno wesini. Okanye unomtsalane ongokwasemzimbeni ophefumlela umntu ongakwenzeli ngokwasemphefumlweni.

Nokuba kubudlelwane bexesha elide, abantu banokutshintshana phakathi kokwenza uthando kunye nokwabelana ngesondo-okanye ukuyeka imisebenzi yesondo ngokupheleleyo-kwaye kulungile.

Nokuba ujonga ntoni, isini kunye neemvakalelo zichaphazela iindlela ezifanayo kwingqondo

Isifundo se-2018 sicebisa unxibelelwano oludibeneyo phakathi kweenkqubo zesondo, ezemvakalelo, kunye nokuzala kwengqondo ezinxulumene nenkqubo ye-endocrine kwaye, ngakumbi, ihomoni ebizwa ngokuba yi-kisspeptin.

Ngokwe-blog yaseTufts University ye-neuroscience blog, inkanuko yesini ayenzeki kwisithuba, kodwa kwimeko.

Kubandakanya iinkqubo zengqondo, zomzimba, kunye neze-neurological, zonke ezibandakanya kunye nefuthe kwiimvakalelo. Yenza ingqondo.

Ngaphezu, uninzi lwabantu lufumana iimvakalelo ezifanayo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokukhululwa

Ukukhawuleza kwamahomoni abandakanyeka kwisini kuthetha ukuba iimvakalelo ezithile ziqhelekile ngexesha okanye emva kokulandela isondo.

Akukho mntu uziva yonke imvakalelo ngalo lonke ixesha, ewe.

Phakathi kwezinto ezilungileyo zezi:

• imincili
• Ukukhululwa ngokupheleleyo
• ukuphumla nokuzola
• ukwaneliseka

Kuxhomekeka kwiimeko, unokuba neemvakalelo ezingaphantsi kweemvakalelo ezintle, ezinje:

• Ukuba sesichengeni
• iintloni
• ubutyala
• ukuziva ukhathazekile emzimbeni okanye emphefumlweni

Ukuba une-postcoital dysphoria, usenokuziva ulusizi, uxhalabile okanye ulile emva kwesondo.

Kukwafanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuvuswa kwesondo kunokucima iinxalenye zecortex yangaphambili

Asisoloko siyibona xa isenzeka kuthi, kodwa iyacaca xa ujonga emva. Ayizizo izinto eziyintsomi yesayensi okanye intelekelelo. Yinyani kakhulu.

Ukuvuselela inkanuko yesini kunokuzenza zingasebenzi iinxalenye zobuchopho ezikunceda ukuba ucinge ngokunzulu kwaye uziphathe njengomntu oqiqayo.

Ewe, uthatha ikhefu leemvakalelo zakho.

Isigwebo esifanelekileyo kunye nokuqiqa kuphulukene nomnqweno wesini, kutshayelwa ngovuyo lwako konke.

Xa ubuyela emva kwinyani, unokuzibuza, ngokuzisola okanye ngeentloni, ukuba ucinga ntoni.

Inqaku: Ubungekho.

Ukuxhomekeka kwe-Oxytocin nayo iyinto

I-Oxytocin yihomoni eveliswe kwihypothalamus, evula amasango ezikhukhula xa usabelana ngesondo.

Ukukhawuleza kwe-oxytocin kuyabandakanyeka kwinxalenye yomzimba yesini. Inokonyusa iimvakalelo ezinje ngothando, uthando kunye nemincili.

Kufanelekile ukuba idume njengehormone yothando. Yeha, unokurhintyelwa yimvakalelo okanye unomdla wothando.

I-Oxytocin ikugcina ubuyela ngaphezulu.

Abaphandi basaqhubeka nokukhupha izinto ezahlukeneyo kwinkanuko, umtsalane kunye nokuncamathisela ukulingana

Ibhayoloji yenkanuko, umtsalane, kunye nokuncamathisela kude kube lula. IiHormone ngokuqinisekileyo zinendima eziyidlalayo.

Ukuthetha ngokubanzi, inkanuko iqhutywa yi testosterone kunye ne-estrogen, ngaphandle kwesini. Kwaye inkanuko iqhutywa yinkanuko yesini.

Umtsalane uqhutywa yidopamine, norepinephrine, kunye ne-serotonin.

Umtsalane unakho okanye ungabandakanyi inkanuko, kodwa iziko lomvuzo wobuchopho yinto. Kungenxa yoko le nto ufumana konke ukuthanda okanye uzive ngathi uhamba emoyeni kwisigaba sokuqala sobudlelwane.

Isinamathiselo siqhutywa yi-oxytocin kunye ne-vasopressin. Yiloo nto ebeka inqanaba lokudibana kunye nobudlelwane bexesha elide.

Kukho ukungqubana kwehomoni, amanqanaba ehomoni ahlukile, kwaye kuninzi kakhulu kunoko.

Masijongane nayo: Ukwabelana ngesondo nothando kuyinkimbinkimbi. Sitsibela kuphela umphezulu wento eyenza abantu baphawule.

Oososayensi phakathi kwethu bayaqhubeka nokungena kwiimfihlakalo zeminqweno yethu yesini kunye neemvakalelo kunye nendlela abadlala ngayo omnye komnye.

Nangona kunjalo kunokwenzeka ukuba asinakuze sisombulule i-equation, sishiya into encinci kwintelekelelo.

Ukuba ufuna ukwahlula isini kunye neemvakalelo

Kukho naliphi na inani lezizathu zokuba kutheni ungafuna ukwahlulahlula isini kunye neemvakalelo.

Ngumbono olungileyo ukuphonononga inkuthazo yakho ke, ukuba iyafuneka, unokujongana nayo nayiphi na imiba engasonjululwanga.

Kwimeko nayiphi na into, akukho nto ilungileyo okanye engalunganga apha. Awuvalelwanga kwindlela enye yobomi bakho bonke.

Ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo okanye imeko "yabahlobo abanezibonelelo", nazi ezinye zeengcebiso:

• Okokuqala nokuphambili, nyaniseka komnye umntu. Kulungile kuphela.
• Thetha malunga nokuba uzimisele-kwaye ungathandi-ukunika ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, kunye nento oyilindeleyo njengembuyekezo.
• Xoxa ngolawulo lokuzalwa kunye neendlela ezikhuselekileyo zesini.
• Sebenzani kunye ekumiseni imigaqo ukunqanda ukuqhobosheka kakhulu okanye ukuxhomekeka komnye nomnye.
• Thetha malunga nento oza kuyenza ukuba omnye wenu uqala ukufuna enye into.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba nokuba uyintoni na isicwangciso sakho okanye nokuba unononophelo olungakanani na, iimvakalelo zinokuvela kwakhona. Iimvakalelo ziyahlekisa ngaloo ndlela.

Ukuba ufuna ukwenza nzulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwesondo kunye neemvakalelo

Ke, ngaphandle kwamahomoni kunye nebhayoloji yayo yonke, mhlawumbi ufuna into eza kunceda ukomeleza iqhina.

Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokuqalisa:

• Ungavumeli ukusondelelana ngokomzimba kube yinto ocinga ngayo, into oyenzayo njengoko ixesha livuma. Ishedyuli. Yenza umhla. Yinike eyona nto iphambili.
• Faka umboniso wothando imini yonke. Bambani izandla. Stroke ingalo. Ukuwolana. Cuddle up. Nikezane umyalezo. Ukuchukumisa akufuneki ukuba kukhokelele kwisini kwangoko. Ukulindela okuncinci kuhamba indlela ende.
• Mjonge emehlweni uze uyibambe. Yenza oku rhoqo-xa uyavuma, xa ungavumelani, xa usabelana ngehlaya elingaphakathi, naxa ubomi buba nzima.
• Myeke umlindi wakho. Yiba sengozini ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ufumaneke omnye nomnye. Yiba ngumntu wabo.
• Ukwanga. Ngokwenene ukuncamisa. Kwaye uthathe ixesha lakho malunga nayo.
• Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho. Yithi "Ndiyakuthanda" ukuba yindlela oziva ngayo.
• Yintoni ejikayo kuwe? Ukukhanya kwamakhandlela, umculo wenyama, ukuntywila ixesha elide kwibhafu eshushu? Nokuba yintoni, thatha ixesha lokuseta inqanaba kwaye ungene kwimood.
• Yazisa ngeminqweno yakho yomzimba. Banikana amathuba ngokukhokelelana koko nikuthandayo.
• Xa izinto zifika ngokwasemzimbeni, zilungele iingqondo zakho. Chukumisa, ubone, uve, unuke, kwaye ungcamle ngayo yonke imicu yobukho bakho.
• Ngokwenene ubekhona ngalo mzuzu nalo mntu ufuna ukuba mzuzu kunye nawe. Makungabikho enye into. Kwaye ngazo zonke iindlela, yicime iTV kunye neselfowuni ngexesha lakho kunye.

Umgca wezantsi

Masijongane nayo. Umhlaba ungathandeka xa sonke siziva ngendlela efanayo. Xa kuziwa kwisini kunye neemvakalelo, akukho ndlela eyiyo yokuziva. Vele ubenguwe.