Indlela yokujongana xa ugula njengenja ngelixa ukhathalela usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa

Umxholo

• 1. Ukuchaza ngokucacileyo kuqala: Tsalela umnxeba ugqirha wakho
• 2. Musa ukoyika malunga nokugulisa umntwana wakho
• 3. Ukuba uncancisa, musa ukuyeka
• 4. Fumana uncedo (siyathetha!)
• 5. Myeke ahambe
• 6 Khumbula, nayo le iya kugqitha

Mhlawumbi uchithe ixesha elithile ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakho ukuphanda iindlela zokugcina amajoni omzimba omntwana wakho omtsha efinya. Ungumntu kuphela kwaye impilo yomntwana wakho yinkxalabo yakho yokuqala!

Kodwa eyona nto wawungayilindelanga yayikukuba nguwe oya kugqiba ukugula xa unomntwana omtsha ekhaya.

Ugh, inzwa yendalo yonke! Kodwa masingene ngqo kuyo: Kuya kufuneka uzibeke wena kule meko.

Nokuba uvuka uziva ngathi ubethwe sisibetho, okanye ukukrokra emqaleni wakho kuvele nje, konke kuyangxama xa usana lwakho lutsha emhlabeni. Xa ithamsanqa ingekho kuwe, sikufumene ngeengcebiso zokukunceda ujongane (kwaye uphinde uchache) xa ugula nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa.

1. Ukuchaza ngokucacileyo kuqala: Tsalela umnxeba ugqirha wakho

Ngelixa indoda yakho yangaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana isenokungayibhukiseli kugqirha ekuqaleni okanye isifuba, nosana, izinto ziyatshintsha. Usengumlwi kodwa ukufumana ukuxilongwa ngokufanelekileyo kubalulekile. Kuya kufuneka uyazi into ojongana nayo ukuze wazi ukuba kufuneka ulumke kangakanani na malunga nokusasaza iintsholongwane kusana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa.

Nangona kungaze kulunge ukubhentsisa umntwana omtsha kuhlobo lweentsholongwane oziphetheyo xa ugula, kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokuzibeka kwimeko encinci yokurhabula kunye nokuzibeka kwintsholongwane yesisu enokubashiya bephelelwe ngamanzi emzimbeni.

Xa uqala ukuza nento, ukungena ngokukhawuleza kunye nogqirha kunokukunceda ubone indlela yokuthatha amanyathelo okunciphisa iintsholongwane ezinokudibana nosana lwakho.

2. Musa ukoyika malunga nokugulisa umntwana wakho

Ukuthetha ngokulula kunokuba kwenziwe, siyazi, kuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba inkxalabo yakho yokuqala imalunga nendlela yokukhusela umntwana wakho ekubambeni into onayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokubakho iimeko ezithile apho kufuneka unciphise unxibelelwano nosana lwakho, kodwa i-doc yakho iya kukucebisa ukuba kunjalo.

Buyela kwizinto ezisisiseko kwaye uqhubeke nemikhwa yakho yokuhlamba izandla kwaye unciphise ukunxibelelana nezandla kunye nemilomo emincinci (zama nzima ukuba ungabathisi ngokubanga). Oko kuyakuhamba indlela ende ekukhuseleni umntwana wakho.

3. Ukuba uncancisa, musa ukuyeka

Ukuba uncancisa umntwana wakho, enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenza ukuzigcina usempilweni kukuqhubeka uqhubeke. Imizimba yethu intle kakhulu, ngoko umzuzu wokugula, umzimba wakho uya kuba nzima emsebenzini uvelisa izilwa-buhlungu. Amachiza omzimba kwisigulo sakho athile ngoko.

Ukuba ukhathazekile malunga nonesi olusondeleyo lokudibana (okanye awunako ukuphakama ebhedini), cinga ukumpompa. Umlingane wakho okanye umncedisi unokutyisa umntwana wakho ngebhotile ngelixa ufumana ukuphumla okufuneka kakhulu.

Ubisi lwebele aluhambisi uhlobo lweentsholongwane ezibangela ukugula okwethutyana, ngenxa yoko akuyomfuneko ukuba ukhathazeke ngeentsholongwane ezingcolisa ubisi lwakho.

4. Fumana uncedo (siyathetha!)

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uluhlobo luni lwenethiwekhi yenkxaso onayo - iqabane, isihlobo, umhlobo- ngoku lixesha lokufumana uncedo lwabo. Baxelele ukuba uziva njani, cela uncedo lwabo, emva koko ubakhokele kuyo yonke into abanokuyenza ngelixa uphumle. Siyazi, kunzima, kodwa uyayidinga!

Ngomntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa endlwini, amathuba okuba wonke umntu sele evakalelwa kukuba udiniwe. Kodwa kunye nawe okwethutyana ukubala, kuya kufuneka bafumane amandla okuba liqabane lomlingane / umhlobo / umakhulu de ube ungcono (oh, kwaye banokukunceda naxa uziva ungcono).

5. Myeke ahambe

Nantsi inyani: Izinto zizakufika kancinci (Kulungile, mhlawumbi kakhulu) zinokuphazamiseka ukuba uyagula nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa. Kunzima ukubukela izitya zifumba kunye nenqwaba ye-intshi emdaka yokuhlamba kufutshane nophahla, kodwa eli lithuba lakho lokutshintsha esinye sezona zakhono zibaluleke kakhulu kubuzali: ukuyeka.

Vumela izitya zihlale. Vumela impahla ihlambe. Vumela indlu yakho ibe mdaka kwaye wazi ukuba uya kuyibuyisela ngolungelelwano kungekudala. Ukuba ubeka phambili ukuphumla, uya kuziva ngathi kwakhona kungekudala kwaye uya kuba nakho ukujongana nobundlongondlongo kamva.

6 Khumbula, nayo le iya kugqitha

Uludwayi. Ufuna amandla akho abuyele. Ufuna ukuziva ungcono. Ufuna ukuvuka ebhedini kwaye uphile ubomi bakho. Ewe, kwaye unakekele umntwana wakho osanda kuzalwa! Gcina nje engqondweni, kakhulu njengawo onke amacandelo acelomngeni wokuba ngumzali, nako oku kuya kudlula.

Ukuba unosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa ngengalo enye kunye ne-thermometer phantsi komnye, siziva ngathi. Alikho ixesha elibi kakhulu lokugula kunokuba ulunge nje emva kokuzisa umntwana ekhaya kodwa, ngoncedo oluncinci, ukuhlamba izandla okuninzi, ukwanga okumbalwa kosana, umonde omncinci, kunye nokuphumla okuninzi uyakuba kwimeko yokulungisa ngaphandle kwexesha. Ukuba ufuna ukukuva kwakhona: NGOKU ufumene le.

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