Uziqonda njani iiMpawu zokuXhatshazwa ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo

Umxholo

• Ukuthotywa, ukungakhathalelwa, ukugxekwa
• Ulawulo kunye neentloni
• Ukutyhola, ukugxeka, nokukhanyela
• Ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuba yedwa
• Ukuxhomekeka
• Kwenziwe ntoni

Ushwankathelo

Mhlawumbi uyazi uninzi lweempawu ezicace gca zokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo. Kodwa xa uphakathi kuyo, kunokuba lula ukuphoswa kukuqhubeka kokuziphatha gwenxa.

Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasengqondweni kubandakanya iinzame zomntu zokukoyikisa, ukukulawula okanye ukuzahlula. Kukumazwi kunye nezenzo zomxhaphazi, kunye nokuzingisa kwabo kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha.

Umxhaphazi ingangumlingane wakho okanye elinye iqabane elithandanayo. Banokuba liqabane lakho kwishishini, umzali, okanye umgcini.

Nokuba ngubani, awufanelanga kwaye ayilotyala lakho. Qhubeka nokufunda ukuze ufunde okungakumbi, kubandakanya nendlela yokuyiqonda kunye nento onokuyenza ngokulandelayo.

Ukuthotywa, ukungakhathalelwa, ukugxekwa

Ezi ndlela zenzelwe ukuthoba ukuzithemba kwakho. Ukuphathwa gadalala ngqwabalala kwaye akupheli kwimicimbi emikhulu nemincinci.

Nantsi eminye imizekelo:

• Ukubiza amagama. Baza kukubiza ngokungacacanga ukuba "usisiyatha," "ungoyisakalanga," okanye amagama awoyikisayo ukuba ungawaphinda apha.
• “Amagama ezilwanyana”. Oku kubiza nje ngamagama ngokungazifihli. "Idonki yam encinci" okanye "Ithanga lam eliqobayo" ayingombandela wothando.
• Ukubulawa komntu. Oku kudla ngokuquka igama elithi “soloko” Uhlala ufike emva kwexesha, ungalunganga, uyajija, awuvumelani, njalo njalo. Ngokusisiseko, bathi awunguye umntu olungileyo.
• Ukukhwaza. Ukumemeza, ukukhwaza, nokufunga kwenzelwe ukoyikisa kwaye kukwenze uzive umncinci kwaye ungabalulekanga. Inokuhamba kunye nokubetha ngenqindi okanye ukuphosa izinto.
• Ukuxhasa. “Aw, sithandwa, ndiyazi ukuba uyazama, kodwa oku kungaphaya kokuqonda kwakho.”
• Ukuhlazeka esidlangalaleni. Bakhetha umlo, babhence iimfihlo zakho, okanye bahlekise ngeentsilelo zakho esidlangalaleni.
• Ukuchithwa. Ubaxelela ngento ebalulekileyo kuwe kwaye bathi ayiyonto. Ulwimi lomzimba njengokuqengqeleka kwamehlo, ukuncwina, ukunikina intloko, kunye nokuncwina kunceda ukuhambisa umyalezo ofanayo.
• "Ndiyadlala." Amahlaya anokuba nengqolowa yenyani kubo okanye abe yintsomi epheleleyo. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, bakwenza ubonakale usisidenge.
• Ukunyelisa. Rhoqo kukumba ngokuzifihla. Xa uphikisa, bathi bayakuhlekisa kwaye bakuxelela ukuba uyeke ukuthatha yonke into ngokungathí sina.
• Izithuko zembonakalo yakho. Bayakuxelela, ngaphambi nje kokuba uphume, ukuba iinwele zakho zimbi okanye iimpahla zakho zihlazekile.
• Ukuthoba impumelelo yakho. Umxhaphazi wakho angakuxelela ukuba impumelelo yakho ayithethi nto, okanye banokubanga ubutyala ngempumelelo yakho.
• Beka ezantsi umdla wakho. Banokukuxelela ukuba into oyithandayo kukuchitha ixesha komntwana okanye uphumile kwiligi yakho xa udlala imidlalo. Ngokwenyani, kokokuba bakhetha ukuba ungathathi nxaxheba kwimisebenzi ngaphandle kwabo.
• Ukutyhala amaqhosha akho. Xa umxhaphazi wakho esazi ngento ekucaphukisayo, bazakuyivelisa okanye bayenze ngalo lonke ithuba abalifumanayo.

Ulawulo kunye neentloni

Ukuzama ukukwenza uzive uneentloni kukusilela kwakho yenye indlela eya emandleni.

Izixhobo zehlazo kunye nomdlalo wolawulo zibandakanya:

• Izisongelo. Ukukuxelela ukuba bazakuthatha abantwana kwaye banyamalale, okanye bathi "Akukho nto ithi mandenze ntoni."
• Ukubeka iliso apho ukhoyo. Bafuna ukwazi ukuba uphi ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye banyanzelisa ukuba uphendule kwiminxeba okanye kwiicatshulwa ngokukhawuleza. Banokuvela nje ukuze babone ukuba ulapho ubufanele ukuba ubekhona.
• Ukuhlola kwidijithali. Banokujonga imbali yakho ye-intanethi, ii-imeyile, isicatshulwa, kunye nelog yokufowuna. Banokufuna neepassword zakho.
• Ukwenza izigqibo ngokungakhethiyo. Banokuvala iakhawunti yebhanki ngokudibeneyo, ukurhoxisa ukuqeshwa kukagqirha wakho, okanye ukuthetha nomphathi wakho ngaphandle kokucela.
• Ulawulo lwemali. Banokugcina iiakhawunti zebhanki ngegama labo kuphela kwaye bakwenze ukuba ubuze imali. Unokulindeleka ukuba uphendule ngayo yonke ipeni oyichithayo.
• Ukufundisa. Ukubetha iimpazamo zakho ngeemonologue ezinde kuyenza icace ukuba bacinga ukuba ungaphantsi kwazo.
• Imiyalelo ngqo. Ukusuka "Fumana isidlo sam etafileni ngoku" ukuya "Yeka ukuthatha ipilisi," ii-odolo kulindeleke ukuba zilandelwe ngaphandle kwezicwangciso zakho ezichaseneyo.
• Ukuqhuma. Uxelelwe ukuba urhoxise ukuphuma kunye nomhlobo wakho okanye ubeke imoto egaraji, kodwa khange uyenze, ke ngoku kuya kufuneka ubekezelele i-tirade ejongene nobomvu malunga nendlela ongasebenzisani ngayo.
• Ukunyanga njengomntwana. Bayakuxelela ukuba uza kunxiba ntoni, uzakutya ntoni kwaye ungatya ntoni, okanye ungabona abaphi abahlobo.
• Uncedo olungenanto Basenokuthi abayazi indlela yokwenza into. Ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukuyenza ngokwakho kunokuba uyicacise. Bayayazi le nto kwaye bayayisebenzisa.
• Ukungaqiniseki. Baya kuqhuma ngomsindo ngaphandle kwendawo, ngokukhawuleza bahlambe ngothando, okanye babe mnyama kwaye bahlaziyeke phantsi kwinqwelo yokugcina uhamba ngamaqanda.
• Bayaphuma. Kwimeko yentlalontle, ukuphuma egumbini kukushiya ubambe ibhegi. Ekhaya, sisixhobo sokugcina ingxaki ingasombululeki.
• Sebenzisa abanye. Abahlukumezi banokukuxelela ukuba "wonke umntu" ucinga ukuba uyaphambana okanye "bonke bathi" uphosakele.

Ukutyhola, ukugxeka, nokukhanyela

Oku kuziphatha kuvela kukungazithembi komxhaphazi. Bafuna ukudala ulawulo apho phezulu kwaye wena usezantsi.

Nantsi eminye imizekelo:

• Umona. Bakutyhola ngokudlala ngothando okanye ngokuqhatha kubo.
• Ukuguqula iitafile. Batsho ukuba ubangela umsindo kunye nemicimbi yokulawula ngokuba yintlungu enjalo.
• Ukuphika into oyaziyo kuyinyani. Umxhaphazi uyakuphika ukuba kwavela impikiswano okanye kwagqitywa kwisivumelwano. Oku kubizwa ngokuba kukukhanya kwegesi. Yenzelwe ukukwenza ukuba ubuze imemori yakho kunye nobunono.
• Ukusebenzisa ityala. Banokuthi into enje, "Unetyala kum eli. Jonga konke endikwenzele kona, ”ngelizama ukufumana indlela yabo.
• Ukuhamba emva koko ugxeke. Abahlukumezi bayayazi indlela yokukucaphukisa. Kodwa xa inkathazo iqala, yimpazamo yakho ukuyila.
• Ukuphika ukuxhatshazwa kwabo. Xa ukhalazela uhlaselo lwabo, abahlukumezi bayakuluphika, babonakala bedidekile xa becinga ngalo.
• Ukutyhola ngokuxhaphaza. Bathi nguwe onemicimbi yomsindo nolawulo kwaye bangamaxhoba angenakuzinceda.
• Ukunciphisa. Xa ufuna ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho ezibuhlungu, bakutyhola ngokwenza into ngobukrakra kwaye wenze iintaba ngenduli.
• Ukuthi awunangqondo. Abaxhaphazi benza iziqhulo ngawe. Ukuba uyaphikisa, baya kukuxelela ukuba ukhanyise.
• Bakutyhola ngeengxaki zabo. Nokuba yintoni engalunganga ebomini babo yimpazamo yakho. Awuxhasi ngokwaneleyo, awenzanga ngokwaneleyo, okanye unamathele impumlo yakho apho ibingeyoyakho.
• Ukutshabalalisa nokukhanyela. Banokuqhekeza isikrini sakho sefowuni okanye "balahle" izitshixo zemoto yakho, emva koko bayikhanyele.

Ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuba yedwa

Abahlukumezi bahlala bebeka ezabo iimfuno ngokweemvakalelo ngaphambi kwezakho. Abaxhaphazi abaninzi bazakuzama ukuza phakathi kwakho nabantu abakuxhasayo ukuze wenze ukuba uxhomekeke kubo.

Benza oku ngo:

• Ukufuna intlonipho. Akukho kuncitshiswa kuncinci kuya kungohlwaywa, kwaye kulindeleke ukuba uhlehlise kubo. Kodwa yindlela eya ngasendleleni.
• Ukucima unxibelelwano. Bayakuyihoya iinzame zakho kwincoko yobuqu, ngefowuni, okanye ngomnxeba.
• Kukukwenza isidima. Bayakujonga kude xa uthetha okanye bajonge enye into xa bethetha nawe.
• Ukugcina ekuhlaleni. Nanini na xa unezicwangciso zokuphuma, zeza nokuphazamiseka okanye zikucenge ukuba ungahambi.
• Ukuzama ukuza phakathi kwakho nosapho lwakho. Baya kuthi baxelele amalungu osapho ukuba awufuni ukubabona okanye wenze izizathu zokuba kutheni ungakwazi ukuya kwimicimbi yosapho.
• Uthando olubambayo. Abayi kukuchukumisa, nokuba bakubambe ngesandla okanye bakubambe egxalabeni. Basenokungavumi xa usabelana ngesondo ukuze ukohlwaye okanye wenze ukuba wenze into ethile.
• Ukuzilungisa ngaphandle. Baza kukujiwuzisa, batshintshe isihloko, okanye bakuhoye ngokucacileyo xa ufuna ukuthetha ngobuhlobo bakho.
• Ukusebenza ngenkuthalo ukujika abanye bakuchase. Baza kuxelela abantu osebenza nabo, izihlobo, kunye nosapho lwakho ukuba awuzinzi kwaye uqhelekile kwi-hysterics.
• Ukukufowunela uswele. Xa uphantsi kwaye uphuma phandle kwaye ufikelela kwinkxaso, baya kukuxelela ukuba uswele kakhulu okanye ilizwe alinakuyeka ukujikela iingxaki zakho ezincinci.
• Ukuphazamisa. Usefowunini okanye uthumela imiyalezo kwaye bangena ebusweni bakho ukukwazisa ukuba ingqalelo yakho kufuneka ibe kubo.
• Ukungakhathali. Bayabona ukuba wenzakele okanye uyalila kwaye ungenzi nto.
• Ukuphikisa iimvakalelo zakho. Nantoni na oziva ngayo, baya kuthi uyaphazama ukuziva unjalo okanye ayisiyiyo le uyivayo kwaphela.

Ukuxhomekeka

Ubudlelwane obunokuxhomekeka kuxa yonke into oyenzayo isabela kwindlela yokuziphatha komxhaphazi wakho. Kwaye bayakufuna nje ukubakhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo. Ulibale ukuba ungayiyo nayiphi na enye indlela. Sisangqa esikhohlakeleyo sokuziphatha okungenampilo.

Unokuxhomekeka kwikhowudi ukuba:

• Abonwabanga kubudlelwane, kodwa boyika ezinye iindlela
• Rhoqo zityeshele iimfuno zakho ngenxa yazo
• umsele abahlobo kunye ecaleni usapho lwakho ukukholisa iqabane lakho
• soloko ufuna imvume yeqabane lakho
• uzigxeke ngamehlo omxhaphazi wakho, ungahoyi iimvakalelo zakho
• yenza amadini amaninzi ukukholisa omnye umntu, kodwa ayibuyiswa
• ndingathanda ukuhlala kwimeko yangoku yesiphithiphithi kunokuba ube wedwa
• luma ulwimi lwakho kwaye ucinezele iimvakalelo zakho ukugcina uxolo
• baziva benoxanduva kwaye bathathe ityala ngento abayenzileyo
• khusela umxhaphazi wakho xa abanye besalatha ngokwenzekayo
• zama ukubahlangula kubo
• ndiziva ndinetyala xa uzimela
• ucinga ulufanele olu nyango
• kholelwa ukuba akakho omnye umntu onokuze afune ukuba nawe
• tshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo uphendula ubutyala; umxhaphazi wakho uthi, "andinakuphila ngaphandle kwakho," ke hlala

Kwenziwe ntoni

Ukuba uyaxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo, thembela iimvakalelo zakho. Yazi ukuba ayilunganga kwaye akufuneki uphile ngale ndlela.

Ukuba woyika ubundlobongela bangoko nangoko, tsalela umnxeba ku-911 okanye kwiinkonzo zongxamiseko zasekuhlaleni.

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Ngaphandle koko, ukhetho lwakho luza ngqo kwimeko ethile. Nantsi into onokuyenza:

• Yamkela ukuba ukuxhatshazwa ayiloxanduva lwakho. Sukuzama ukuqiqa nomxhaphazi wakho. Unokufuna ukunceda, kodwa akunakulindeleka ukuba bayophule le patheni yokuziphatha ngaphandle kwengcebiso yobungcali. Olo luxanduva lwabo.
• Disengage kwaye usete imida yobuqu. Thatha isigqibo sokuba awuyi kuphendula kuxhatshazo okanye ukutsala iingxoxo. Namathela kuyo. Nciphisa ukubhengeza umxhaphazi kangangoko unako.
• Phuma kulwalamano okanye kwimeko. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, sika onke amaqhina. Yenza kucace ukuba iphelile kwaye ungajongi ngasemva. Unokufuna kwakhona ugqirha onokukubonisa indlela esempilweni yokuqhubela phambili.
• Zinike ixesha lokuphola. Nxibelelana nabahlobo abaxhasayo kunye namalungu osapho. Ukuba usesikolweni, thetha notitshala okanye umcebisi ngezikhokelo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba izokunceda, fumana ugqirha onokukunceda ekubuyiseni kwakho.

Ukushiya ubudlelwane kunzima ngakumbi ukuba utshatile, unabantwana, okanye unee-asethi ezidibeneyo. Ukuba leyo yimeko yakho, funa uncedo lwezomthetho. Nazi ezinye izixhobo ezimbalwa:

• Yaphula umjikelo: Ukuxhasa abantu abancinci abaphakathi kwe-12 kunye ne-24 ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nokwenza inkcubeko engenazimpatho-gadalala.
• I-DomesticShelters.org: Ulwazi ngemfundo, umnxeba wonxibelelwano, kunye nesiseko sedatha esikhangela iinkonzo kwindawo yakho.
• Uthando luNhlonipho (iNombolo yeLizwe yokuSetyenziswa gwenxa kweMpatho-gadalala): Ukunika ulutsha ulutsha kunye nabantu abadala ithuba lokuncokola kwi-Intanethi, ukufowuna, okanye ukuthumela umyalezo kubameli.