Impostor syndrome: yintoni, uyichonga njani kwaye wenzeni

Umxholo

• Indlela yokuchonga
• 1. Kufuneka uzame kakhulu
• 2. Ukuzilimaza
• 3. Imisa imisebenzi
• 4. Ukoyika ukubhentsiswa
• 5. Ukuthelekisa nabanye
• 6. Ukufuna ukukholisa wonke umntu
• Kwenziwe ntoni

Impostor syndrome, ekwabizwa ngokuba lithemba lokuzikhusela, sisifo sengqondo, nangona singachazwanga njengesifo sengqondo, sifundwa ngokubanzi. Iimpawu ezibonakalisiweyo zihlala ziimpawu ezifanayo ezifumaneka nakwezinye iingxaki ezinje ngoxinzelelo, unxunguphalo kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi, umzekelo.

Esi sifo sixhaphake kakhulu kubantu abanemisebenzi yokukhuphisana, enje ngeembaleki, amagcisa noosomashishini okanye kwimisebenzi apho kuvavanywa kuvavanywa abantu ngalo lonke ixesha, njengakwezempilo nakwezemfundo, kwaye ihlala ichaphazela okona kukhuselekileyo kunye nabantu abangazithembanga.Oku kungenisa ngaphakathi ukugxeka kunye nokusilela.

Nangona kunjalo, nawuphina umntu angayiphuhlisa le syndrome, kwaye nakweyiphi na iminyaka, aqheleke ngakumbi xa umntu ekwimeko yokujolisa kwizigwebo zomsebenzi, njengaxa ufumana ukunyuselwa emsebenzini okanye ukuqala iprojekthi entsha.

Indlela yokuchonga

Abantu abaphethwe sisifo sengqondo somkhohlisi ngokubanzi babonisa ezi-3 okanye nangaphezulu kwezi ndlela zilandelayo:

1. Kufuneka uzame kakhulu

Umntu one-impostor syndrome ukholelwa ekubeni kufuneka asebenze nzima, ngakumbi kunabanye abantu, ukuthethelela impumelelo yakhe kwaye kuba ucinga ukuba wazi kancinane kunabanye. Ukugqibelela kunye nokusebenza kakhulu kusetyenziselwa ukuxhasa ukusebenza, kodwa kubangela uxinzelelo kunye nokudinwa.

2. Ukuzilimaza

Abantu abanale syndrome bakholelwa ekubeni ukusilela akunakuphepheka kwaye nangawuphi na umzuzu umntu onamava uya kuyityhila phambi kwabanye. Ke, ngaphandle kokuqonda, unokukhetha ukuzama okuncinci, ukuthintela ukuchitha amandla wento okholelwa ukuba ayizukusebenza kwaye inciphise amathuba okugwetywa ngabanye abantu.

3. Imisa imisebenzi

Aba bantu bahlala behlehlisa umsebenzi okanye beshiya amadinga abalulekileyo kude kube ngumzuzu wokugqibela. Kuqhelekile ukuthatha ixesha elininzi ukufezekisa ezi zibophelelo, kwaye konke oku kwenziwa ngenjongo yokuphepha ixesha lokuvavanywa okanye ukugxekwa kule misebenzi.

4. Ukoyika ukubhentsiswa

Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu abane-impostor syndrome bahlala bebaleka amaxesha apho banokuvavanywa okanye bagxekwe. Ukukhethwa kwemisebenzi kunye nobugcisa zihlala zisekwe kweziya kuthi zingabonakali kakhulu, kuthintelwe ukuba ziphantsi kovavanyo.

Xa kuvavanywa, babonisa amandla amakhulu okujongela phantsi impumelelo efunyenweyo kunye nodumo lwabanye abantu.

5. Ukuthelekisa nabanye

Ukuba ngumntu ogqibeleleyo, ofuna ngokwakho kwaye uhlala ucinga ukuba ungaphantsi okanye wazi ngaphantsi kunabanye, ukuya kwinqanaba lokuthatha konke okusemandleni akho, zezinye zeempawu eziphambili zesi sifo. Kungenzeka ukuba umntu acinge ukuba akanakuze alunge ngokwaneleyo ngokunxulumene nabanye, nto leyo ebangela uninzi lwentlungu kunye nokungoneliseki.

6. Ukufuna ukukholisa wonke umntu

Ukuzama ukwenza umbono olungileyo, ukulwela i-charisma kunye nesidingo sokukholisa wonke umntu, ngamaxesha onke, ziindlela zokuzama ukufezekisa ukwamkelwa, kwaye ngenxa yoko unokuzibeka kwimeko ezihlazo.

Ukongeza, umntu onesifo somkhohlisi uhamba ngamaxesha oxinzelelo olukhulu kunye noxinzelelo kuba ekholelwa ukuba, nangaliphi na ixesha, abantu abanesakhono ngakumbi baya kuthatha indawo okanye bamtyhile. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba aba bantu bahlakulele iimpawu zoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

Kwenziwe ntoni

Kwimeko apho iimpawu zesifo somkhohlisi zichongiwe, kubalulekile ukuba umntu enze iiseshoni zonyango lwengqondo ukuze ancede umntu afunde ngaphakathi kwizakhono zakhe kunye nezakhono, ukunciphisa imvakalelo yobuqhetseba. Ukongeza, ezinye izimo zengqondo zinokunceda ukulawula iimpawu zesi sifo, ezinje:

• Yiba nomcebisi, okanye umntu onamava nonokuthenjwa onokucela kuye izimvo neengcebiso ezinyanisekileyo;
• Yabelana ngezinto ezixhalabisayo okanye amaxhala kunye nomhlobo;
• Yamkela iziphene neempawu zakho, kwaye uphephe ukuzithelekisa nabanye;
• Zihlonele iintsilelo zakho, ungazibekeli iinjongo ezingafikelelekiyo okanye izibophelelo ezingenakufikelelwa;
• Yamkela ukuba ukusilela kwenzeka kuye nawuphina umntu, kwaye ufune ukufunda kubo;
• Ukuba nomsebenzi owuthandayo, ukubonelela ngenkuthazo kunye nolwaneliseko.

Ukwenza imisebenzi enakho ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, ukuphucula ukuzithemba kunye nokukhuthaza ukuzazi, njengeyoga, ukucamngca kunye nokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukongeza kutyalo-mali ngexesha lokuzonwabisa kuluncedo olukhulu kunyango lolu hlobo lotshintsho lwengqondo.