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Umxholo

• Yintoni i-Harness yesini, ubuza?
• Indlela kunye nokuSebenzisa i-Harness (kwaye kutheni unokufuna)
• Kulungile, kulungile, kodwa nantsi isizathu sokuba ndithande i-SpareParts Joque Harness Kakhulu
• Isondo ukuya kuHamba kwakho
• Uphengululo lwe

Kwezi ntsuku, ukufumana isidlidlizi esona silungileyo ~ kwiminqweno yakho yesondo ~ Kulula ngokunjalo, ukucofa (apha, apha, kwaye apha). Ngelishwa, ukubuyekeza ukubopha kunzima ukuza. Ke xa ukwintengiso yentambo entsha uhlala unyanzelwa ukuba uskrolele iphepha-kwiphepha elingakhange lisincede kwiAmazon. Ngethamsanqa lakho, ndilapha ukwenza lula izinto.

Emva kweminyaka elishumi yokuvavanywa kwezikrweqe, ndingatsho ukuba eyona ntambo yokubopha ibhetyebhetye ngaphandle kwesithunzi sokuthandabuza: The SpareParts Joque Harness (Buy It, $ 115, amazon.com; goodvibes.com). Funda kuhlolo lwam olupheleleyo ... uyazi ukuba uyafuna.

Yintoni i-Harness yesini, ubuza?

Ukubopha isondo sisixhobo esivumela ukuba ukhusele into yokudlala ngesondo emzimbeni wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ii-harnesses zinxitywe ngaphezulu kwendawo yesini ukukhusela i-dildo apho ipenis iya kuba khona kumntu owabelwe indoda xa kuzalwa (AMAB). I-SpareParts Joque lolo hlobo lokubopha. Nangona kunjalo, kufanelekile ukuba ukhankanye ukuba kukho neentambo zokubopha zethanga (Malibu Thigh Harness, Buy It, $ 45, babeland.com), umlomo kunye nezikrweqe zobuso (iLatex Face Fucker Strap On Mask, Buy It, $ 86, kinkstore.com), hayi ukukhankanywa, uninzi lwezixhobo zobukhoboka ezinxitywayo zikwahlelwa njenge "harness."

Enye into ebalulekileyo ukwazi ukuba igama elithi "strap-on" lisetyenziswa xa i-harness isetyenziswa kunye ne-dildo kwaye inaloo mandla.

Indlela kunye nokuSebenzisa i-Harness (kwaye kutheni unokufuna)

Ngeliphandle, i-IMO, zininzi izizathu zokuzama ukubopha imitya ebhedini, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ndingene kubo, yazi oku: Kukho intsomi exhaphakileyo yokuba iihasheyisi yinto yokudlala ngokwesini. Kodwa ihashe inokunxitywa kwaye yonwatyiswe ngumntu kunye neqabane lakhe nokuba sesini na, amalungu esini, okanye isini. (Kwaye, pssh, ayingawo onke amalesbians awathandayo!)

U-Andy Duran, umlawuli wezemfundo we-Good Vibrations ucacisa esithi: Zikwindawo yokunxiba eyaziwayo yemihla ngemihla phakathi kwabantu abadlula kwi-transmasculine abafuna ukufikelela kwinkangeleko yokuba nepenisi ngoncedo lwe-dildo egobekayo, enje ngeNew York Sex Toy Collective Mason (Yithenge, $ 175, goodvibes.com) okanye iArcher Silicone Packer (Yithenge, $ 60, goodvibes.com).

Umzekelo, umnini welungu lomntu obhinqileyo, unokufaka umtya ukuze angene ngaphakathi kwiqabane lakhe engenazandla, utshilo uDuran. Kubudlelwane apho omabini amaqabane ene-vulvas, i-harness inganxitywa kunye ne-dildo yokungena kwilungu lobufazi-kuhlala kwaziwa njengebhanti lobufazi-kwisini. (Ngaba unayo i-Q malunga nokwabelana ngesondo ngentambo? Oku kuya kunceda: Isikhokelo se-Insider sokulala nomnye umfazi okokuqala.)

Okanye, ihashe inokunxitywa ngumnini welungu lobufazi nalo naliphi na iqabane lokwabelana ngesondo ezimpundwini okanye ukukhonkotha. "Ukubopha kuvumela umntu onepenis ukuba angene kwenye into ngaphandle komzimba wakhe," wongeza uDuran. (Oku kuxhaphake ngakumbi phakathi kwabantu abanelungu lobudoda kunye nabantu abanokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile.) Kwezinye iimeko, intambo yokubopha ingasetyenziselwa ukuvumela umnikazi welungu lobudoda ukuba agqogqe iqabane ngepipi lakhe kunye nenye into yokudlala ngaxeshanye Ukungena kabini.

Kulungile, kulungile, kodwa nantsi isizathu sokuba ndithande i-SpareParts Joque Harness Kakhulu

Ukuzibopha kuza ngeendlela ezimbini eziphambili: i-jockstrap- kunye nesitayile sangaphantsi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, i-jockstrap-style harnesses iphumelele ekuzinzeni nasekulawuleni, ngelixa i-underwear-style iphuma phezulu ukuze ithuthuzele. Kodwa ngeSpareParts Joque, awunyanzelekanga ukuba ukhethe enye yezi zinto zibalulekileyo kunezinye — uzifumana zombini.

"UJoque ukhululekile njengoko uzinzile," utsho uDuran. "Ungabeka i-dildo phantse nayiphi na isayizi kwi-harness, kwaye ayizukuwa phantsi okanye ijikeleze." Kungenxa yokuba, ukongeza ekubeni ne-O-ring ehlala i-AF (leyo yinxalenye yento edlulayo), imitya iyahlengahlengiswa ngokubanzi. Intsingiselo, ungayifaka umtya oqinileyo ngokuchasene nolusu lwakho.

Kwaye iza ngamasayizi amabini.Ubungakanani A bunokuhlengahlengiswa ukulungelelanisa iinyonga ezingama-intshi ezingama-20 ukuya kuma-50 ngeenxa zonke, ngelixa ubungakanani B bunokuhlengahlengiswa ukuze bulingane nesinqe ezingama-35 ukuya kuma-60 intshi ukujikeleza. Ukuba olu luhlu lubanzi lubonakala lunomtsalane, luyamangalisa. "UJoque yenye yeentambo zokubopha ezinokubamba uluhlu olwahlukeneyo lobukhulu bomzimba," wongeza uDuran.

Ezi mpawu azifiki ngexesha lokuthuthuzela. Yenziwe ngomxube we-spandex-nylon, i-front-paneling ithambile kwaye igudile ngokuchasene nolusu lwam kunye ne-pubes-nokuba imanzi. Kuyafana nje akunakuthethwa ngezinye iintambo endizizamile.

Into endiyithandayo kukuba iphaneli ekufutshane nolusu yahlulwe kubini kwaye inokushenxiselwa ecaleni ukuze xa ndibotshiwe ndibambe ingcinga yokuba i-dildo icinezela ngokuchasene nobufazi bam. Naxa i-dildo ayenzi ukungcangcazela, intshukumo yokunyanzelwa yenza uvakalelo oluvuselelayo.

Kwaye into endiyithandayo yesibini yeyokuba kukho iipokotho ezimbini (2!) Ezakhelwe kwiJoque ye-bullet vibrators-enye ingentla enye ngezantsi kwe-O-ring. "[Oku] kunokunyusa indlela umntu oyinxibileyo aziva evuselela ngayo ngelixa engena kwiqabane lakhe," utshilo uDuran. "Kwaye ukungcangcazela kungahamba nakwidildo ukukhuthaza iqabane ukuba lingene, nalo." (Idibeneyo: Ezona Vibrator ziBullet zibalaseleyo zaphina, Naliphi na ixesha lokuzonwabisa).

Enye into ebalulekileyo kukuba xa ugqibile ukudlala, unokulufaka olu sana xa uhlamba. Ungayisebenzisa ngolwesiHlanu ebusuku, uyihlambe ngoMgqibelo, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde `` ngayo ngeCawa ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokutshintshwa kwamanzi omzimba okanye izinto ezinokusuleleka. (Idibeneyo: Eyona ndlela yokuCoca iThoyizi yakho yeSondo).

Ngokucacileyo ndinezinto ezininzi zokujonga ngokutsha malunga namava am ngeSpareParts Joque Harness, kodwa uDuran uchaza imiba emibini abanye abantu abanokuba nayo ngokuxhomekeke kukhetho lwe-dildo kunye nobungakanani bomzimba.

Okokuqala, iphaneli yecrotch ziisentimitha ezimbalwa ububanzi. “Abantu abanemizimba emikhulu kunye nabo baneendawo ezinkulu zeenduli ze-pubis banokuqaphela ukuba nangona i-harness ilingana, idala inkangeleko ye-landing-stripe-esque," utshilo. Kubantu abangabuthandiyo obo buhle-naye nabani na othanda ngokubanzi intambo yokubopha enokhuselo oluthe chatha-ucebisa iSpareParts Tomboi Fabric Brief Harness (Yithenge, $90, goodvibes.com).

Emva kokuba ndizamile iTomboi, ndinokuqinisekisa ukuba i-O-ring izinzile njengaleyo ikwiJoque ukuze uzive ulawula ngokupheleleyo. Ikwanazo neepokotho ezimbini zokungcangcazeliswa, elinye kwicala le-dildo ke uya kuhlala unalo nalo.

Isondo ukuya kuHamba kwakho

Kwintengiso yehashe elitsha lokwabelana ngesondo kwaye ngandlela thile ungaqinisekanga ukufumana iJoque, oku kuya kufuneka kwenziwe ubuqhetseba: Okwangoku ungafumana i $ 20 nayiphi na iodolo engaphezulu kwe- $ 75 ngeVibrations ezilungileyo. Oko kwenza ukuba ii-harness zenze nje i-104.95 yeedola-ubusela!

Ngelixa ukuyo, yenza izinto ezimbalwa zesini eziya kuphucula yonke i-shebang. Ukuba ujonge idildo ejongeka ngokwenyani, akukho nkampani iyenza ngcono kuneNew York Sex Toy Collective. IMason (Yithenge, $175, goodvibes.com) lukhetho olukhulu lokuqalisa. Ngokubhekisele kwii-dildos ezingezizo ezokwenyani, ndiyacebisa iCharm Silicone Dildo (Yithenge, $ 45, goodvibes.com) yeepigger zokuqala kunye neWet yeBhanti yakhe kwiDildo Mnyama (Yithenge, $ 55, wetforher.com) zezinye iintlobo yokudlala ngentambo. Olunye ukhetho olukhulu: I-BJ Dildo (Yithenge, i-$ 90, i-goodvibes.com) yokuvuselela isondo somlomo kunye neFactory yokuzonwabisa i-ShareVibe (Yithenge, i-$ 115, i-goodvibes.com) ye-handjobs, i-gender euphoric masturbation, okanye i-strap-on play phakathi kwe-vulva -abanini.

Ukuba ujonge ukuthatha ithuba elinye (okanye zombini!) Zeepokotho zesidlidlizi, uDuran ucebisa ngeBullet Crave Vibrator (Yithenge, $ 69, amazon.com), iMicrosoft Touch Water Vibrator engamanzi (Yithenge, $ 15, goodvibes.com ), okanye i-We-Vibe Tango Mini Vibrator (Yithenge, i-$ 74, amazon.com).

Kwaye okokugqibela, ngena kwisenzo ngaphandle kwe-lube! Uninzi lwee-dilds zenziwe nge-silicone, ezinokudala ukukhuhlana-y okungathandekiyo ngokuchasene nolusu xa kungekho lubricant yaneleyo. Ke uya kufuna ukusebenzisa i-lube esekwe emanzini enje ngeSliquid Sassy (Yithenge, $ 12, amazon.com), Sutil Rich Botanical Lubricant (Thenga yona, $ 42, goodvibes.com), okanye Cake Toy Joy (Yithenge , $ 22, hellocake.com).

Ngaba uziva unomdla? Cinga ngokufaka iringi yeqhude engcangcazelayo okanye iplagi yempundu kwinqwelo yakho. ngokunjalo.

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