Yintoni enokubangela ulutsha ukuba luzame ukuzibulala

Umxholo

• 1. Uxinzelelo
• 2. Uthando okanye iingxaki zentsapho
• 3. Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye utywala
• 4. Ukuxhatshazwa
• 5. Ukuxhwaleka ngokweemvakalelo
• Ungakuphepha njani ukuzibulala?

Ukuzibulala kulutsha kuchazwa njengesenzo somntu omncinci, ophakathi kweminyaka eli-12 nama-21 ubudala, ethatha ubomi bakhe. Kwezinye iimeko, ukuzibulala kunokuba sisiphumo sotshintsho kunye neembambano ezingenakubalwa zangaphakathi ezenzeka kwinqanaba lokufikisa kwaye, ke, kukho umngcipheko omkhulu woxinzelelo, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye nomntu omncinci ozinikela kuxinzelelo olubekwe ngabanye okanye luluntu.

Indlela yokuziphatha yokuzibulala yahlulwe ngezigaba ezi-3: ukucinga ngokuzibulala, ukuzama ukuzibulala nokuzama ukuzibulala. Umfana ocinga ngokuthatha ubomi bakhe, ukholelwa ekubeni akukho zisombululo kwiingxaki zakhe kwaye, ngesiqhelo, ubonakalisa iimpawu zokungalingani ngokweemvakalelo, ezinokuthi ziqatshelwe lusapho kunye nabahlobo, ngenxa yeempawu zokufikisa, umzekelo. Jonga ukuba zeziphi ezi mpawu zinokubonisa umngcipheko wokuzibulala.

Ezinye zezinto ezithandayo iingcinga kunye nokuzama ukuzibulala ngexesha lokufikisa kubandakanya:

1. Uxinzelelo

Uxinzelelo sesona sizathu sokuzibulala kulutsha. Umfana oxinezelekileyo ukhetha ukuhlala yedwa kunokuba ahambe nabahlobo kwaye unokuba neemvakalelo ezinje ngokudabuka kunye nesizungu, ezithanda iingcinga kunye nokuceba ukuzibulala. Ukungabinamhlobo ulungileyo okanye isoka onokuthetha nalo, okwaziyo ukubonisa ukuqonda nokuqonda ubunzima babo, kwenza ubomi bube nzima kwaye bunzima ukubuthwala.

Kwenziwe ntoni: Ukufuna uncedo kwisazi ngengqondo, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo okanye nakumaqela okuzinceda kubalulekile ukuqala ukunyanga uxinzelelo, njengoko ivumela ulutsha ukuba luthethe ngeemvakalelo zabo, bekhangela iindlela zokuthomalalisa iintlungu kwaye baphume kuxinzelelo. Ngamanye amaxesha ugqirha wengqondo unokuyalela amayeza.

2. Uthando okanye iingxaki zentsapho

Iingxaki zosapho ezinje ngokuswelekelwa ngabazali, ukwahlukana, ukulwa rhoqo kunye neengxabano, ukungabinandawo ekhaya yokuveza iimvakalelo zabo okanye ukungaziva bethandwa kwaye beqondwa liqabane kubudlelwane, zizinto ezonyusa uxinzelelo kunye neentlungu eziviwa ngumntwana ofikisayo, kukhokelela ekubeni acinge ngokuzibulala.

Indlela yokusombulula: Ukufumana ixesha lokuthetha ngokuzolileyo nangokucinga kwaye ubonelele ngendawo elungeleleneyo ekhaya okanye kubudlelwane bothando kunokunceda abantu abancinci ukuba bazive bebhetele. Okubaluleke ngakumbi kunokwalatha iimpazamo zomnye, kukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho uzolile kwaye ngaphandle kokugweba, ukubonisa kwangaxeshanye ukuba ufuna ukuqondwa.

3. Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye utywala

Ukusetyenziswa kotywala kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi nako kukhetha ukuzibulala. Ukusetyenziswa kwezi zinto ngokugqithileyo, sele kubonisa ukuba umntu omncinci akakwazi ukusombulula ukungavisisani kwangaphakathi, kwaye unokuhamba umzuzwana wokubandezeleka okanye ukukhathazeka. Ukongeza, ukusebenza kwezi zinto kwingqondo kuguqula ukusebenza kwengqondo, imeko yokuqonda kunye nokucinga, ukuthanda izimvo ezizenzakalisayo.

Umisa njani: Kwimeko yokuba likhoboka, okona kubonakalisiweyo kukufuna unyango ngokuchasene nokuxhomekeka kwimichiza, kodwa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwezi zinto kuyenzeka manqaphanqapha okanye kutshanje, kunokwenzeka ukuba uyeke ukuzisebenzisa, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokulaliswa esibhedlele. Ukuthatha ixesha nezinto zangaphandle kunganceda ukuphazamisa ingqondo, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ube ngumntu omncinci athathe isigqibo sokuba akasafuni ukusebenzisa iziyobisi okanye ukusebenzisa iziselo ezinxilisayo. Ukongeza, ukukhangela umhlobo olungileyo ukuze uphume xa uziva ukhathazekile okanye uxinezelekile kunokunceda.

4. Ukuxhatshazwa

O ukuxhatshazwa kuyenzeka xa abanye abantu bejongela phantsi umfanekiso okanye bahlasele ngokwasemzimbeni ixhoba eliziva lingenakuzinceda, le meko iyinto eqhelekileyo ebuntwaneni nasebusheni, nangona kulityala.

Indlela yokusombulula: Yazisa abo banoxanduva malunga ukuxhatshazwa kwaye ufumane isicwangciso kunye ukuyeka ukwenzeka. Yazi ukuba yintoni ukuxhatshazwa kunye neziphumo zayo.

5. Ukuxhwaleka ngokweemvakalelo

Ukuba lixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye ukuphathwa gadalala zezinye zezinto ezixhasa ukucinga ngokuzibulala, kuba umntu uziva ebambekile ziingxaki kwaye akakwazi ukumelana nentlungu ayivayo mihla le. Ixesha elingaphezulu, iintlungu azinciphisi kwaye umntu uyaxinezeleka kwaye adandatheke, nto leyo ethanda iingcinga zokuzibulala, kuba umntu unokuziva ukuba ukuthatha ubomi bakhe sesona sisombululo sisiso sokusombulula ingxaki.

Indlela yokujongana nentlungu: Unxunguphalo lweemvakalelo kufuneka luphathwe kunye nonyango lwengqondo, ngamayeza okuzola okulala okungcono. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kumaqela enkxaso yokuzixhasa kukwaluncedo olukhulu ekumiseni iintlungu, nangokomzimba, iintlungu. Ukumamela amabali abanye abantu abaye bakwimeko efanayo kwaye benza imisebenzi ebonakalisiweyo kula maqela, ikwayinxalenye yonyango ukoyisa ukwenzakala. Jonga iziphumo kwaye ujongane njani nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo.

Ukongeza, abantu abaye banamatyala okuzibulala kusapho, abazamile ukuthatha ubomi babo, amantombazana akhulelweyo ebusheni kunye nabantu abancinci abanengxaki yesikolo nabo banokucinga ngokuzibulala.

Enye into engafanelanga ukungahoywa kukuba ukuva malunga nomxholo kumabonwakude, unomathotholo okanye uthungelwano lwasentlalweni nako kuyaphembelela kwaye kugqibe ukuthanda abantu abanokuzibulala, kuba baqala ukuyicinga njengendlela yokusombulula iingxaki zabo ngendlela efanayo.

Ungakuphepha njani ukuzibulala?

Ukuthintela iingcinga kunye nokucwangcisa ukuzibulala kulutsha, kubalulekile ukuba wazi imiqondiso enokubonisa ukuba umntu ucinga ngokuthatha ubomi bakhe.Ukutshintsha ngesiquphe kwemood, ubundlongondlongo, uxinzelelo kunye nokusetyenziswa kwamabinzana, anje ngala: ‘Ndicinga ukuzibulala; umhlaba ungangcono ngaphandle kwam, okanye yonke into ibinokusonjululwa ukuba andisekho apha ’ndisebenza njengesilumkiso.

Kodwa ukuchonga nje le miqondiso akwanele, yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha, kunye nogqirha wezengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo ukuchaza iindlela zokuyeka ukucinga ngokuthatha ubomi.

Ukomeleza ukudibana ngokweemvakalelo nosapho, izihlobo kunye noluntu lwezenkolo ezifana necawa, umzekelo, kunokunceda ukuba nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye nokwandisa umbono wenkxaso, ngaloo ndlela kuphuculwa impilo kunye nomgangatho wobomi bomntu omncinci.

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