Iinkolelo: Yingozi Njani?

Umxholo

• Iinkolelo Eziqhelekileyo
• Iimpawu ezimbi kunye nenhlanhla:
• Iikati ezimnyama
• Ukuhamba phantsi kweladi
• Ukophula isipili
• Inombolo 13
• Igqabi elinamagqabi amane
• Amagwababa
• Ukubhutyuza iinkuni
• Inhlanhla othandweni:
• Ukubona umtshakazi ngobusuku obungaphambi komtshato
• Into endala, into entsha
• Ukubamba isipha
• I-oracle yomlomo
• Musa ukuhlala ekoneni
• Ubutyebi, impilo kunye nokuchuma:
• Izirhawuzelela izandla
• Ukuphosa ityuwa
• Sithi “uThixo akusikelele”
• Umtshayelo omdala kwikhaya elitsha
• Ubilise ubisi kunye nelayisi
• Yintoni ebangela iinkolelo?
• Xa iinkolelo zichaphazela impilo yengqondo
• Ngaba lukhona unyango xa iinkolelo ziba yingxaki?
• Ukuthatha

Ikati elimnyama, iinzwane ezipinki kunye nelokhwe yokunxiba

Iinkolelo ziinkolelo ekudala zibanjiwe ezibonakala ngathi zisekelwe kwinto eyenzeka ngamabona-ndenzile okanye isithethe senkcubeko endaweni yokuqiqa okanye inyani.

Iinkolelo zihlala zinxulunyaniswa neenkolelo zobuhedeni okanye iinkqubo zonqulo ezazisasazekile ngaphambili.

Ookhokho bethu khange beze neenkolelo kuba babengazi nto okanye bengazi nto kunathi, kodwa ngenxa yokuba babeswele iindlela ezininzi ezibonakalayo zokuba nefuthe kwiziphumo zobomi babo. Iinkolelo zinikezela ngendlela yokuziva belawulwa ngakumbi, ngendlela efanayo nabo ngoku. Yiyo loo nto abantu abafunde kakhulu, nabanobuchule besakholelwa kwiinkolelo ezithile.

Uninzi lweenkolelo luyonwabisa kwaye alunabungozi, nokuba uyakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo okanye akunjalo. Kodwa ezinye iinkolelo zinokudlala kwiimeko zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngokunyanzelwa kokunyanzelwa (OCD).

Nantsi into ethethwa ziinkolelo kwaye xa kufuneka ukhathazeke malunga nokuziphatha kweenkolelo.

Iinkolelo Eziqhelekileyo

Makhe sijonge iinkolelo eziqhelekileyo, imvelaphi yazo, nokuba zithetha ntoni kuthi namhlanje.

Iimpawu ezimbi kunye nenhlanhla:

Iikati ezimnyama

Ngexesha elithile, iikati ezimnyama zadityaniswa nemikhosi emibi kunye nokutshintsha kwemilo. Ngokwesiko laseJamani kukholelwa ukuba ikati emnyama ewela indlela yakho ukusuka ekhohlo iye ekunene luphawu lweendaba ezimbi kunye nokufa kungekudala.

Into enomdla kukuba, ezinye iinkcubeko zikholelwa ukuba iikati ezimnyama luphawu lwethamsanqa.

Ukuhamba phantsi kweladi

Xa iileli zisetyenziswa, zenza imilo engunxantathu. Amasiko anjengamaYiputa amandulo afumana oonxantathu bengcwele, kwaye ukuhamba phantsi kweleri kuphazamisa imilo engunxantathu ogqibeleleyo.

Ukuhamba phantsi kweeleli kubonwa njengesenzo sokudelela kunye nesimemo senhlanhla.

Ukophula isipili

Ukujonga ukubonakaliswa kwakho kwakungeyona nje indlela yokuzihlola ngayo - kwiinkcubeko zasendulo, ukubonisana nesibuko kwakuyindlela yokubonisana nekamva. Ukujonga kwisipili esaphukileyo kungakhokelela ekubonakaleni okungalunganga, okuya kubonisa intlekele okanye amashwa ngaphambili.

Inombolo 13

Kwezinye izithethe zonqulo, "i-12" ithathwa njengenani eligqibeleleyo. Inani eliza emva ko-12 liza kuthathwa njengelingafezekanga okanye elingcolileyo.

Kwizithethe zobuKristu zokuqala kunye nezaseNordic, undwendwe lwe-13 kwitafile ngulo uya kulizisa lonke iqela phantsi. Kukho igama lokoyika inani leshumi elinesithathu, elibizwa ngokuba yi-triskaidekaphobia.

Igqabi elinamagqabi amane

Akucaci ukuba kutheni ii-clover ezine zamagqabi zize zithetha ithamsanqa. Ngokufanelekileyo, i-clover enamagqabi amane iya kuba yinto engafumanekiyo kwisiqwenga samagqabi amathathu, kwaye ukufumana enye yinto enqabileyo.

Amagqabi amane egqabi elinamagqabi amane enzelwe ukufuzisela ukholo, ithemba, uthando kunye nethamsanqa.

Amagwababa

Amagwababa ziintaka ezixhaphazayo kwaye uninzi lukholelwa ukuba luyakuva ukufa ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke. Ngesi sizathu, abanye abantu bakholelwa ukubona unomyayi yedwa kuthetha ukuba intlekele ibalasele.

Ukubhutyuza iinkuni

Ukwenza intetho efana nale "iya kuba ngunyaka olungileyo" yabonwa njengekratshi kunye nesimemo kwimimoya engenelelayo enenjongo yokuphazamisa izicwangciso zakho.

Emva kokwenza ingxelo ukubonisa ukuba uxela kwangaphambili izinto ezintle ezizayo, kuye kwaba siko ukuba "unkqonkqoze elukhunini" lweendonga okanye ifenitshala ekujikelezile njengendlela yokugxotha le mimoya imbi.

Inhlanhla othandweni:

Ukubona umtshakazi ngobusuku obungaphambi komtshato

Kude kube namhla, abaninzi abaza kuba ngamaqabane abo bayakuphepha ukubonana ngobusuku bangaphambi komtshato.

Esi siko sinokubuyela kwimitshato ehleliweyo, apho abatshatileyo baya kudibana khona okokuqala ngaphambi kokuthetha ngezibhambathiso zabo. Ukugcina umtshakazi nomyeni behlukene nangaphambi komtshato bekholelwa ukuba kugcina amaqela omabini ekuxhaseni.

Into endala, into entsha

Le nkolelo ininzi malunga nesiko kunokuba iyinhlanhla. Ukugqoka "into endala kunye nento entsha" ngosuku lwakho lomtshato kwakuyindlela yokuhlonipha ifa lomtshakazi kunye nokuthwala ixesha elidlulileyo kwikamva.

"Into ebolekiweyo" yamema uluntu lomtshakazi kubudlelwane bakhe obutsha, kwaye "into eluhlaza" yayenzelwe ukumela uthando, ubumsulwa kunye nokunyaniseka.

Ukubamba isipha

Ngexesha nasemva komsitho womtshato, abafazi ababefuna ukutshata babenomdla wokufumana indlela yokuba ithamsanqa lomtshakazi elitsha libasulele. Umtshato, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ekuphela kokhuseleko lwamaziko ababhinqileyo babonwa benokufikelela emva kweminyaka ethile.

Abafazi abangatshatanga bazama ukuthatha iziqwenga zelaphu okanye amagqabi kwisinxibo somtshakazi, kwaye wayedla ngokujika, aphose isipha, abaleke. Isipha sabonwa njengento enethamsanqa kumntu onokuyifumana.

I-oracle yomlomo

I-trope endala yokubala iipalali ze-daisy ukumisela ukuba "uyandithanda, akandithandi" ngamanye amaxesha ubizwa ngokuba "kukuqhekeza idayi" okanye "i-daisy oracle" evela kumdlalo waseFrance.

Emdlalweni, umdlali ususa amagqabi omthi ngexesha, atshintshe "uyandithanda" okanye "akandithandi." Xa ipalali yokugqibela itsaliwe, ibinzana umdlali ahlala kulo liyimpendulo yombuzo.

Musa ukuhlala ekoneni

Ngokukodwa kwizithethe zaseRussia, abafazi abangatshatanga bayakhuthazwa ukuba bangahlali ekoneni ngexesha lesidlo sangokuhlwa. Ukuhlala ekoneni, inkolelo iya, iya "kumlahla" loo mfazi kubomi bokungapheliyo.

Le nkolelo inokuba yinto nje esebenzayo, njengoko ukuhlala embindini wesidlo sangokuhlwa kuyindlela engcono yokuhlangana nabantu kunokuhlala ekoneni okanye esiphelweni.

Ubutyebi, impilo kunye nokuchuma:

Izirhawuzelela izandla

Anecdotally, ukurhawuzelelwa kwezandla kufanele ukuba kube sisalathiso sokuba ubutyebi busendleleni kwaye kungekudala uza kubamba imali. Ewe kunokuthetha ulusu olomileyo okanye enye imeko yolusu.

Ukuphosa ityuwa

Ityuwa kudala kucingelwa ukuba ithwala amandla okomoya. Ityuwa, ebikade kunzima kakhulu ukuyithenga kwaye ekuphela kwendlela yokugcina inyama ikhuselekile, ibaluleke kakhulu ukuba ingasetyenziswa njengemali.

Ukuchitha ityuwa kwabonwa kungakhathali, yayisisimemo sentlekele. Ukuphosa ityuwa egxalabeni lakho lasekhohlo, nangona kunjalo, bekucingelwa ukuba kungapheliswa ithamsanqa elibi lokuphalaza kwaye kubuyisele ukulingana kwezinto.

Sithi “uThixo akusikelele”

Ukuthi "uThixo akusikelele" emva kokuba umntu ethimle ngaphambi kokuba abantu baqonde ukuba zigqithiselwa njani izifo.

Kuba abantu abaninzi kumaXesha Aphakathi babulawa sisibetho, isenzo esithi "uThixo akusikelele" senzelwe ukukhusela umntu obonisa iimpawu, njengokukhohlela nokuthimla.

Intsikelelo isenokuba ikwalinge lokugcina imimoya emdaka ingangeni emzimbeni emva kokuthimla, abanye babekholelwa ukuba inento yomntu ozama ukubaleka.

Umtshayelo omdala kwikhaya elitsha

Ukuzisa umtshayelo omdala kwikhaya elitsha kwakucingelwa ukuba kugqithisa amandla amabi ukusuka kwenye indawo ukuya kwenye. Ngokufanayo, kwakuthathwa njengethamsanqa ukusebenzisa umtshayelo owawushiywe ngumntu owayekade engowakhe.

Sebenzisa umtshayelo omtsha xa usiya kwindawo entsha wawenzelwe ukuba ube sisenzo sokucoca esihlambulula indawo yokuhlala.

Ubilise ubisi kunye nelayisi

Kwezinye iinkcubeko, ukubilisa ubisi kunye nerayisi yindlela yokubhaptiza ikhaya elitsha. Ubisi kunye nelayisi zibonakalisa ukugcwala, ukuchuma, kunye nobutyebi bokwamkelwa kwindawo entsha.

Yintoni ebangela iinkolelo?

Iinkolelo zinezizathu ezibini eziphambili: isithethe senkcubeko kunye namava omntu ngamnye.

Ukuba ukhule ungena nzulu kwiinkolelo zenkcubeko ethile okanye inkolo ethile, unokuziqhubela phambili ezi nkolelo, ungazi.

Iinkolelo zinokuthatha uhlobo lokuhlala kwisitulo "esinethamsanqa" xa iqela lakho olithandayo lijongana nembangi yalo, okanye lenza uthotho lweempompo kwipleyiti xa lithuba lakho lokudlala kwi-baseball.

Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ziindlela nje zokuthomalalisa uxinzelelo okanye ukulungisa ingqondo yakho ukuze ikwazi ukugxila. Bafana nemikhwa enika umntu ukuba ayenze imvakalelo yokulawula okungaziwayo.

Umzekelo, ukuba ubunxibe ijezi yomdlali oyithandayo kumdlalo webhola, kwaye loo mdlali wafumana amanqaku, unokukholelwa ukuba ezi meko zimbini bezinxibelelene - ukhetho olunye (olunxibe ijezi) kubangele Iziphumo zakho ezinqwenelekayo (ukuchukumisa). Mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba ezi zinto zimbini azidibananga, kodwa ukubambelela kwinkolelo uzive ungcono kunokukuyeka.

Omnye wabonisa ukuba nangona iinkolelo zeenkolelo azixhamli kwiziphumo ezingcono kwiimbaleki, isiphumo se-placebo senkolelo sasanele ukwenza ukuba kufanelekile ukukholelwa.

Ngokwe-American Psychological Association, abantu abaninzi bayazi ukuba amasiko abo okanye iinkolelo zabo azinanyani. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba bakulungele ukuyeka inkolelo.

Olunye uphononongo ngo-2016 lubonisa ngamandla ukuba iinkolelo zizinto ezinamandla ezinokuthi iingqondo zethu zingafuni ukuzilungisa. Ngelixa inxenye yethu isengqiqweni inokuthi yazi ukuba indlela esiziphatha ngayo ngenxa yeenkolelo ayizichaphazeli iziphumo, ukubambelela kuyo iseyindlela "yokudlala ikhuselekile."

Xa iinkolelo zichaphazela impilo yengqondo

Kubantu abaninzi iinkolelo aziyongozi. Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho iinkolelo zinokuba ngumqobo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.

Kubantu abane-OCD, iinkolelo zinokubonakalisa njengokulungiswa. Abantu abane-OCD banokuziva bengenakukwazi ukugxotha iinkolelo okanye iinkolelo. Oku kunokubangela iingcinga ezingafunekiyo okanye uxinzelelo, phakathi kwezinye iimpawu ze-OCD. Ngamanye amaxesha kubhekiswa kuyo njengokucinga "ngomlingo" i-OCD.

Abantu abanezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngengxaki yokuxhalaba ngokubanzi, banokuba nefuthe elibi ziinkolelo.

Xa iinkolelo ziba sisikhuthazo esomeleleyo sokuthatha inxaxheba okanye ukunqanda imisebenzi ethile, luphawu lokuba imeko yempilo yengqondo isenokubakho.

Ukuba uziva ngathi uyalawulwa okanye woyika iinkolelo zakho, awuwedwa. Iimpawu zoxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, uloyiko, kunye nokuziphatha kokuthintela yonke le miqondiso unokufuna uncedo. Ungaqhagamshelana nengcali yezempilo yengqondo okanye ufune iingcebiso kwiinombolo zomnxeba ezidweliswe ngezantsi.

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Ngaba lukhona unyango xa iinkolelo ziba yingxaki?

Ukuba iinkolelo zibe ngumqobo kuwe, uya kuthunyelwa kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo enokukunceda. Iinketho zonyango zibandakanya unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo, unyango ngokuchaseneyo, kunye noqeqesho lokuguqula imeko.

Kwabanye abantu, amayeza anje nge-serotonin reuptake inhibitors (i-SSRIs) ekhethiweyo, ii-beta-blockers, okanye kunqabile, zinokumiselwa ukuze kunyenyiswe uxinzelelo. Kuba ukuthomalalisa ngamanye amaxesha kungakhokelela ekusetyenzisweni gwenxa okanye ekuxhomekekeni, ayisiyonyango yonyango yokuqala.

Ukuthatha

Kwiimeko ezininzi iinkolelo aziyongozi. Ngapha koko, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubambe iinkolelo oziqhelileyo kangangokuba ungazazi kwaye zingabuchaphazeli ubomi bakho.

Kukho iimeko apho oko kubizwa ngokuba "kukucinga ngomlingo" kunokudala umsantsa phakathi kokucinga kunye nenyani. Kwezo meko, unyango olusuka kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo lunokunceda.