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Uyazi ukuba ukwahlukana kunokuchaphazela ubunzima bakho-nokuba ngcono (ixesha elininzi lokuzivocavoca!) Okanye okubi kakhulu (oh hai, Ben & Jerry's). Kodwa ngaba ubusazi ukuba imiba yobudlelwane inokubangela ubunzima nokuba ukubudlelwane ozinikeleyo? (Funda ngezinye iindlela ezothusayo umzimba wakho uphendula ngazo kuxinzelelo.)

Iminyaka emine, abaphandi beYunivesithi yaseMichigan balandela ngaphezulu kwama-2 000 abantu abatshatileyo abatshatileyo abendawonye iminyaka engama-34 kwaye babhala irekhodi lesinqe, umgangatho womtshato ongalunganga, inqanaba loxinzelelo kunye nokunye. Bafumanise ukuba okukhona indoda ixinezelekile malunga nemeko yobudlelwane bayo, kokukhona benobunzima bobabini kwaye Inkosikazi yakhe yazuza ukuya kutsho kwii-intshi ezine ezinqeni zabo ngexesha lesifundo. (Ngokungaqhelekanga, xa abafazi bebenayo zimbalwa izikhalazo zobudlelwane, amadoda kunokwenzeka ukuba atyebe. Abaphandi bacinga ukuba oku kungenxa yokuba kuthetha ukuba umfazi akakhathali.)

"Umtshato uneempembelelo ezinamandla kwimpilo," umbhali okhokelayo uKira Birditt, Ph.D., uprofesa onxulumene nophando kwiYunivesithi yaseMichigan Institute for Social Research wathi kwi-press release. "Uxinzelelo olufunyanwa ngamaqabane, kungekhona uxinzelelo lomntu, ludibene nokunyuka kwesinqe. Le mpembelelo yoxinzelelo yayinamandla ngakumbi kubudlelwane bomlingane."

Kwaye sukucinga ukuba ngenxa yokuba ungatshatanga iminyaka engamashumi amathathu ukuba uthando lwakho oluncinci luyakukhusela. UBirditt uthi iimpembelelo zoxinzelelo lwamaqabane ziyafana kwizibini ezitshatileyo, nangona eqaphela ukuba ungaziva iimpembelelo zempilo njengabatshatileyo abadala. (Kodwa wakuba nje ufumene obu bunzima, loo manqanaba anyukayo amafutha omzimba anokubangela umjikelo wokufumana ubunzima.)

Nokuba sithini na isizathu, nangona kunjalo, umyalezo ucacile: Uxinzelelo kubudlelwane buchaphazela omabini amaqabane, ke bobabini kufuneka nidlale indima enkulu ekulawuleni. “Kubalulekile ukuba abantu abatshatileyo bafumane iindlela zokuhlangabezana sisebenzisa iindlela ezakhayo zokuhlangabezana nazo ezifana nokwenza umthambo kunye, ukuba neengxoxo ezolileyo, kunye nokudala usukelo olwabelana ngalo,” utsho.

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