Ukuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga ne-Endometriosis: Iingcebiso ezi-5

Umxholo

• Ukuthetha nentombi yam malunga ne-endometriosis
• Iingcebiso zabanye abazali
• Ukuthatha

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Ndandineminyaka engama-25 ubudala ukuqala kwam ukufumanisa ukuba ndinesifo i-endometriosis. Intshabalalo eyalandelayo yeza ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza. Ubomi bam bonke, bendinamaxesha aqhelekileyo kunye namava amancinci kakhulu ngeentlungu ezingalawulekiyo zomzimba.

Kwinto evakala ngathi kukukhanya, yonke loo nto yatshintsha ngokupheleleyo.

Kwiminyaka emithathu eyalandelayo, ndenziwa utyando ngesisu kangangezihlandlo ezihlanu. Ndikucingile ukufaka isicelo sokukhubazeka ngaxa lithile. Intlungu ibinkulu kwaye ixhaphake kangangokuba bendisokola ukuphuma ebhedini ndisebenze yonke imihla.

Ndizamile imijikelo emibini ye-invitro fertilization (IVF), emva kokuba ndixelelwe ukuba ukuchuma kwam kuyaphela ngokukhawuleza. Yomibini imijikelo ayiphumelelanga.

Ekugqibeleni, ugqirha otyandayo olungileyo kunye nenkqubo efanelekileyo yonyango bandibuyisa ngeenyawo. Kwaye kwiminyaka emihlanu emva koxilongo lwam lokuqala, ndasikelelwa ngethuba lokukhulisa intombazana yam encinci.

Kodwa ndandisenayo i-endometriosis. Ndisenentlungu. Kwakukho (kwaye kuhlala) kulawulwa ngakumbi kunakwiminyaka yokuqala, kodwa ayikaze ihambe nje.

Ayisoze.

Ukuthetha nentombi yam malunga ne-endometriosis

Apho bendihlala ndijongana nentlungu ebandayo yonke imihla, ndichitha uninzi lweentsuku zam ndingenazintlungu ngoku- ngaphandle kweentsuku ezimbini zokuqala zexesha lam. Ezo ntsuku ndiye ndiqhele ukubethwa kancinci.

Akukho nto isondele kwintlungu engathethekiyo ebendikhe ndibenayo. (Umzekelo, andisayihlanza kwintlungu.) Kodwa kwanele ukundishiya ndifuna ukuhlala ebhedini, ndizisonge ngephedi yokufudumeza, ide iphele.

Ndisebenza ekhaya kwezi ntsuku, ke into yokulala ebhedini ayongxaki emsebenzini wam. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ngumntwana wam-intombazana encinci eneminyaka emi-6 ethanda ukuhamba nomama wakhe.

Njengomama ongatshatanga ngokuzikhethela, kungekho banye ekhaya ukugcina intombi yam ihleli, mna nentombazana yam kuye kwafuneka sincokole kakhulu ngemeko yam.

Oku kubangelwa kukuba akukho nto injengeyimfihlo emakhayeni ethu. (Andikhumbuli okokugqibela ndakwazi ukusebenzisa igumbi lokuhlambela ngoxolo.) Kwaye ngokuyinxenye kungenxa yokuba intombi yam eneliso elibukhali iyaziqonda iintsuku xa uMama engenguye uqobo.

Iincoko ziqale kwangoko, mhlawumbi nokuba mncinci njenge-2 yeminyaka ubudala, xa wayeqala ukungena kum ejongana nengxaki ebangelwe lixesha lam.

Kumntwana omncinci, igazi elininzi loyikeka. Ndiye ndaqala ke ngokucacisa ukuba "uMama unama-owies esiswini sakhe," kwaye "Yonke into ilungile, oku kuyenzeka ngamanye amaxesha."

Kule minyaka, le ncoko iguqukile. Intombi yam ngoku iyaqonda ukuba loo ma-owies esiswini sam sesona sizathu sokuba ndingakwazi ukumthwala ngesisu ngaphambi kokuba azalwe. Uyabona ukuba uMama ngamanye amaxesha uneentsuku azidingayo zokulala ebhedini- kwaye unyuka nam xa sisitya kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya nanini na ngezo ntsuku zibetha ngamandla.

Ukuthetha nentombi yam malunga nemeko yam kumncede waba ngumntu onovelwano ngakumbi, kwaye kuvunyelwe ukuba ndiqhubeke nokuzikhathalela ngelixa ndinyanisekile kuye.

Zombini ezi zinto zithetha umhlaba kum.

Iingcebiso zabanye abazali

Ukuba ujonga iindlela zokunceda umntwana wakho aqonde i-endometriosis, eli yingcebiso endikufumene yona:

• Gcina iminyaka yengxoxo efanelekileyo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba bazi zonke iinkcukacha ngoko nangoko. Ungaqala ngokulula, njengoko ndenzile kwinkcazo ye "owies" esiswini sam, kwaye wandise oko njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula kwaye enemibuzo emininzi.
• Thetha ngezinto ezikunceda uzive ungcono, nokuba ulele ebhedini, uhlamba ngokufudumeleyo, okanye uzisongele ngephedi yokufudumeza. Thelekisa izinto ezibanceda bazive ngcono xa begula.
• Chaza umntwana wakho ukuba ngezinye iintsuku, i-endometriosis ikuthintela ukuba ulale-kodwa ubameme ukuba bakujoyine kwimidlalo yebhodi okanye kwimidlalo bhanyabhanya ukuba bayilungele.
• Kubantwana abaneminyaka emi-4 nangaphezulu, ithiyori yecephe ingaqala ukuba nengqondo, ke khupha amacephe kwaye uchaze: ngeentsuku ezinzima, kuwo wonke umsebenzi owenzayo unika icephe, kodwa uneepuni ezininzi ongazigcina. Esi sikhumbuzi somzimba siya kunceda abantwana ukuba baqonde ngcono ukuba kutheni ezinye iintsuku usiya kubaleka ujikeleze nabo eyadini, kwaye ngezinye iintsuku awungekhe.
• Phendula imibuzo yabo, zama ukunyaniseka, kwaye ubabonise ukuba akukho nto kwaphela malunga nalo mbandela.Awunanto uneentloni ngayo, kwaye akufuneki babe nesizathu sokoyika ukuza kuwe nemibuzo okanye inkxalabo yabo.

Ukuthatha

Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana bayazi xa umzali efihla into ethile, kwaye banokukhula babe nexhala ngakumbi kunokuba kufanelekile ukuba abayazi ukuba yintoni loo nto. Ukuba neencoko ezivulekileyo kwasekuqaleni akuncedi nje ukuba bayiqonde ngcono imeko yakho, ikwanceda ukuba bakuqonde njengomntu abanokuthetha naye ngayo nantoni na.

Kodwa ukuba uziva ungaqinisekanga ngokuxoxa ngemeko yakho nomntwana wakho, kulungile ke. Bonke abantwana bahlukile, kwaye nguwe kuphela owazi ngokwenyani ukuba zeziphi izinto onokuziphatha. Ke gcina iincoko zakho zikwelo nqanaba de ucinge ukuba umntwana wakho ukulungele ngakumbi, kwaye ungaze ube madolw 'anzima ukufikelela kwingcali ukuze ufumane uluvo kunye nesikhokelo ukuba ucinga ukuba kunokunceda.

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