Ndinabantwana aba-5, kodwa akukho Magunya makhulu. Nantsi Imfihlelo Yam

Emuva xa ndandinomntwana omnye, ndacinga ukuba oomama abaninzi babazi ubuqili obungebubo.

Wakhe wajonga umama kunye neqela labantwana kwaye wacinga, "Wowu, andazi ukuba wenza njani? Nditshona ngomnye nje! ”

Ewe, mandikuxelele imfihlo encinci malunga nalo mama: Unokubonakala ngathi wenza umsebenzi ongcono kunawe - {textend} kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayisosizathu sokuba ucinge.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngaphandle ngaphandle ukhangeleka ezolile kunawe, kuba unamava eminyaka embalwa yokwazi ukuba xa umntwana ephosa ingqumbo embindini wevenkile kwaye kufuneka ushiye inqwelo egcwele ukutya ngelixa wonke umntu ejonge ubukhe (ubulapho), ayisiyonto enkulu kangangento njengoko ibonakala okomzuzwana.

Kodwa ngaphakathi, usadumbile.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, mhlawumbi abantwana bakhe bayaziphatha kwaye abayenzi into yeenkawu zasendle ezijinga phakathi kweendlela, isihogo sizimisele ukutshabalalisa izinto ezininzi ezinokwaphuka ngokusemandleni. Kodwa mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba oyena mdala ubambe omncinci ngesandla kwaye umama ubaqeqeshe iminyaka ukuba ukuba bayaphumelela kolu hambo, bafumana ikuki.

Into endiyithethayo yile, ukuba ujonga ngononophelo ngokwaneleyo - {textend} ukuba ngenene, ngokwenene jonga, kumama onabantwana abathathu, abane, abahlanu okanye nangaphezulu, uya kubona ukuba kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwakho naye, kwaye imfihlo enkulu yendlela aqhuba ngayo "ngcono" kunawe yile:

Sele eyamkele into yokuba akukho mama wakhe wakwenzayo, ngokwenene unayo yonke into. Kwaye ayisiyonto imbi leyo.

Unokucinga ukuba "injongo" yokuba ngumzali kukuba ngumama onayo kunye - {textend} ngumama ocacileyo ukuba angawulawula njani umkhuba wakhe wokukhathalela ulusu kunye nerejimeni yakhe yokuzilolonga, ukwazile ukuthintela ukusebenzisa ikhafeyini kuye ikomityi enye yekofu ngemini (hahahaha), umsebenzi wokugulisa, abantwana abagulayo, iintsuku zekhephu, impilo yakhe yengqondo, ubuhlobo bakhe, kunye nobudlelwane bakhe ngokulula - {textend} kodwa andiyithengi.

Endaweni yoko, ndicinga ukuba injongo yokuba ngumzali kukuvulela ukusilela rhoqo, ngaphezulu nangaphezulu, kodwa ndisalwa ukuphucula.

Ukuba bendicinga ukuba ndenza yonke into "ngokuchanekileyo," ngekhe ndizame ukufunda iindlela zokunceda iintombi zam ngemicimbi abasokola nayo; Andizukuzama ngandlela zonke ukuba ndihlale ndisexesheni ngezindululo zezempilo kwaye ndiziphumeze; Andizukukhathalela ukuthatha amanyathelo ukuzama isicwangciso esitsha sobuzali okanye iqhinga elinokunceda usapho lwethu lonke ukuba luhambe kakuhle.

Inqaku lam lelokuba, andicingi ukuba "balungile" abazali bazalwa beneminyaka yamava okanye iqela labantwana. Ndicinga ukuba abazali "abalungileyo" bazalwa xa uthatha isigqibo sokuba ngumfundi wobomi bonke ngale nto ibizwa ngokuba ngumzali.

Ndibanabantwana abahlanu. Omncinci wam wazalwa kwiinyanga ezi-4 ezidlulileyo. Kwaye ukuba kukho into enye endiyifundileyo malunga nokuba ngumzali, kukuba ngamava okufunda rhoqo. Kanye xa ucinga ukuba ufumana ukuxhonywa kwayo, okanye xa usifumene isisombululo esisebenzayo, okanye xa sele uphethe ingxaki yomntwana omnye, enye iyavela. Kwaye emva xa ndandingumama omtsha womntwana omnye okanye ababini, oko kwakundikhathaza.

Ndifuna ukudlula kwinqanaba apho ndaziva ngathi yonke into yingxaki; Ndifuna ukuba ngumntu opholileyo, oqokelelweyo wokuhambahamba evenkileni nabantwana bam abaziphethe kakuhle. Ndifuna ukuhlala ngaphezulu komsebenzi wasekhaya kwaye ndigqibe ngexesha lesidlo ngaphandle kokufuna ukubalekela eBahamas unyaka.

Kodwa ngoku?

Ndiyazi ukuba andinakuze ndifike apho. Ndiyazi ukuba kuyakubakho amaxesha apho ndiziva ngathi sihamba ngokuhamba kamnandi nangamanye amaxesha apho ndiya kukhala ndibuze ukuba ndingayenza na le nto, ngamanye amaxesha, ndifuna ukukhala kwimiqolo yamehlo evela kumntu endikhule naye owam umzimba, owayekhe wanamathela kum akazange afunde ukukhasa kuba andinakukwazi ukumbeka phantsi ngokwaneleyo.

Ndinabantwana aboneleyo kwaye ndinamava aneleyo okwazi ukuba akukho nto ithi ngumama owenza "ngcono" kunabanye oomama.

Sonke senza konke okusemandleni ethu, sikhubekisa indlela yethu, sifunda rhoqo kwaye siyatshintsha, nokuba kudala siyenza le nto okanye bangaphi abantwana esinabo. Abanye bethu basandul 'ukunikezela ngokwenza iimpahla zihlanjwe ngaphambi kokuba abanye oomama baphose kuloo thawuli.

Uphakamisa isandla ngonaphakade

UChaunie Brusie ngumongikazi wezabasebenzi kunye nonikezelo wajika waba ngumbhali kunye nomama omtsha osandula kuvezwa wabantwana abahlanu. Ubhala ngayo yonke into ukusuka kwezemali ukuya kwezempilo ukuba uphile njani ngezo ntsuku zokuqala zobuzali xa konke onokukwenza kukucinga ngako konke ukulala ongakufumaniyo. Mlandele apha.