Iingcebiso ezi-8 zokuQala incoko nogqirha wakho malunga nesondo eliqaqambileyo

Umxholo

• 1. Nyaniseka kugqirha
• 2. Thetha nogqirha ohleli kakuhle naye
• 3. Sebenzisa imiyalezo ye-intanethi ngaphambi kokuba ubonwe
• 4. Ziqhelanise nento eniza kuyithetha
• 5. Yazisa ugqirha wakho ukuba unovalo
• 6. Zilungiselele ukuphendula imibuzo yobuqu
• 7. Yiza nomxholo kwangethuba ngexesha lokuqeshwa
• 8. Yiza nenkxaso ngokweemvakalelo
• Yise kude

Kuqikelelwa ukuba phantse iipesenti ezingama-80 zabasetyhini ziya kufumana isondo elibuhlungu (dyspareunia) ngaxa lithile. Oku kuchazwa njengokutsha, ukubetha, kunye nokuqaqamba ngaphambi, ngexesha, okanye emva kokwabelana ngesondo.

Izizathu ezisisiseko ziyahluka, kodwa ziyahluka ukusuka kuthambo lokungazibandakanyi kwezihlunu zelungu lobufazi ngexesha lokungena, ukuya kokoma kwilungu lobufazi okubangelwa kukuhla kwe-estrogen ngexesha lokuya exesheni.

Isini esibuhlungu ngamanye amaxesha siyasombulula sodwa.Xa imeko iqhubeka okanye iphazamisa impilo yezesondo, lixesha lokuba uthethe nogqirha wakho.

Kuyaqondakala ukuba uziva ungonwabanga ukujongana nesi sihloko nogqirha wakho. Endaweni yokuhlala neentlungu, nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokuxoxa ngesihloko sinobuzaza (kunye nabanye) nogqirha wakho.

1. Nyaniseka kugqirha

Unokuthandabuza ukuqala incoko malunga nokwabelana ngesondo okubuhlungu kunye nabahlobo bakho okanye abantu obathandayo kuba uneentloni okanye uziva ukuba abayi kuyiqonda.

Ngelixa ungasizisi isihloko kunye nabahlobo okanye usapho, sisihloko ekufuneka uxoxe ngaso nogqirha wakho. Ugqirha wakho ulapha ukukunceda kwaye angakugwebi. Ungaze uzive uneentloni okanye uneentloni zokuzisa umcimbi wezempilo nogqirha wakho.

2. Thetha nogqirha ohleli kakuhle naye

Unokuba nogqirha ongaphezulu kwesinye. Umzekelo, ungabona ugqirha wosapho okanye ugqirha jikelele kwizigulo zonyaka kunye nezinye izigulo ezizayo. Unokuba nakho ugqirha wamazinyo kwimicimbi ethile kwimpilo yabasetyhini.

Ugqirha wezifo zabasetyhini lolona khetho lubalaseleyo lokuxoxa ngesihloko kunye, kodwa zive ukhululekile ukubonisana nogqirha wakho ukuba unobudlelwane obungcono nabo. Ukuba uneentloni ngesini esibuhlungu, kunokukunceda ukuxoxa ngalo mbandela nogqirha uziva ukhululekile.

Abanye oochwephesha abaqeqeshwe ngokubanzi kwezempilo yabasetyhini, ke banokwenza izindululo kwaye banike amayeza okwenza ukuba isondo singabi buhlungu kangako.

3. Sebenzisa imiyalezo ye-intanethi ngaphambi kokuba ubonwe

Emva kokuba ucwangcise ukuqeshwa kwakho, ungafumana indawo ekuthunyelwa kuyo imiyalezo kwi-Intanethi ukubonelela ngolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nokuba kutheni ucwangcisa ixesha lokuqeshwa. Umzekelo, ungathumela umyalezo kumongikazi okanye kugqirha ubazise ngeempawu zakho zesondo ezibuhlungu.

Ukuthumela imiyalezo yenkxalabo yakho ngaphambi kwexesha kunokuba uxoxe nabo ngexesha lokuqeshwa kwakho kunokukwenza uzive ukhululekile. Kwaye, ngolu lwazi luphambili, ugqirha wakho unokuza kuqeshwa elungiselelwe ukukunceda.

4. Ziqhelanise nento eniza kuyithetha

Ukuba umyalezo wokungena kwi-Intanethi awufumaneki, ziqhelanise nento ofuna ukuyithetha ngaphambi kwedinga lakho. Oku kunokunceda ukunciphisa uvalo. Uya kufumana okuninzi ekuqeshweni kwakho ukuba uyakwazi ukuzichaza ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo kugqirha wakho.

5. Yazisa ugqirha wakho ukuba unovalo

Kulungile ukuba novalo malunga nokuvula ugqirha wakho, ngakumbi ngombandela ontununtunu njengesini esibuhlungu. KULUNGILE ukwamkela ukuba unovalo kwaye awonwabanga ngesihloko.

Ungaqala ingxoxo ngokuxelela ugqirha wakho, "Ndineentloni zokuyithetha le nto," okanye "Andizange ndibelane ngale nto nakubani na ngaphambili."

Ukwazisa ugqirha wakho ukuba esi sisihloko esinovakalelo siya kubanceda bakukhokele ukuba uvule. Ukuziva ukhululekile ngakumbi kunye nogqirha wakho, incoko engcono oya kuba nayo. Ukukhululeka kukwenza kube lula ukuchaza imiba ngempilo yakho yesondo.

6. Zilungiselele ukuphendula imibuzo yobuqu

Ukufikelela ezantsi kwinto ebangela isini esibuhlungu kufuna ulwazi oluthile lomntu. Zilungiselele ukuphendula imibuzo ngexesha lokuqeshwa kwakho enxulumene nobomi bakho bezesondo kunye neminye imiba yobuqu.

Kufuneka uvuleke kwaye uthembeke kugqirha wakho ukuze akunike unyango oluchanekileyo.

Ugqirha wakho unokukubuza malunga nokuba kubuhlungu nini. Ngaba iintlungu ziqala ngaphambi, ngexesha, okanye emva kokwabelana ngesondo? Ngaba uva kuphela iintlungu ekuqaleni kokungena, okanye ngaba iintlungu ziba qatha ngokugxotha?

Ugqirha wakho usenokubuza nangeemvakalelo zakho ngesondo. Uyayithanda? Ngaba ikwenza woyike okanye woyike? Le mibuzo inokumisela ukuba ingaba isini esibuhlungu sibangelwa yimeko efana ne-vaginismus, esisibophelelo sokuzibandakanya kwezihlunu zelungu lobufazi zihlala zibangelwa luloyiko lokusondelelana.

Ukuba ingxaki iqalile kutsha nje, ugqirha wakho angabuza imibuzo ukuvavanya ukuba ukhe wehlelwa kukulimala, ukonzakala, okanye usulelo kule ndawo.

Ugqirha wakho unokubuza malunga nomjikelo wakho wokuya esikhathini ukuba ukwiminyaka yama-40 okanye engama-50. Ukuba imijikelezo yakho ingahambelani okanye ime ngokupheleleyo, isini esibuhlungu sinokubangelwa yimeko enxulunyaniswa nokuyeka ukuya exesheni eyaziwa ngokuba yi-vulvar kunye ne-atrophy yelungu lobufazi. Oku kubangela ukoma kunye nokubhitya kweendonga zelungu lobufazi, kubangela isini esibuhlungu.

7. Yiza nomxholo kwangethuba ngexesha lokuqeshwa

Ukuba awukhululekanga ngokuthetha ngesini esibuhlungu, usenokuzibekela amangomso okuxoxa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzisa isihloko kwangoko xa kuqeshwa kuya kunika ugqirha wakho ixesha elingakumbi lokukubuza imibuzo malunga neempawu zakho.

Yiza nesihloko kwangethuba ukuze uqinisekise ukuba ugqirha unexesha lokuvavanya umba wakho kwaye anike unyango olululo.

8. Yiza nenkxaso ngokweemvakalelo

Ukuqala incoko nogqirha wakho ngesondo elibuhlungu kunokukhululeka xa unenkxaso. Ukuba uthethile ngale ngxaki neqabane lakho, umntakwenu, okanye umhlobo osenyongweni, cela lo mntu ukuba akukhaphe xa uye kwindibano yakho.

Ukuba nobuso obuqhelekileyo egumbini kunokukwenza ukhululeke. Kwaye, lo mntu angabuza eyakhe imibuzo malunga nemeko kwaye athathe amanqaku kuwe.

Yise kude

Intlungu, ukutshisa, okanye ukubetha ngokungena kunokuba namandla kangangokuba uphephe ukusondelelana. Ukuba isini esibuhlungu asiphucuki nge-over-the-counter (OTC) ukuthambisa okanye amayeza ekhaya, thetha nogqirha wakho. Iingxaki zesini kunokuba nzima ukuthetha ngazo, kodwa kuyakufuneka uchonge oyena nobangela ukuze inyangwe.