Ukukhula kwabantwana abasakhulayo kunye noPhuhliso: Yintoni onokuyilindela

Umxholo

• Ukukhula kukhula ngokukhula okuncinci
• Inqanaba lomntwana
• Inqanaba lokuhamba komntwana omncinci
• Ukulinganisa ukukhula komntwana wakho
• Ukukhula okulibazisekileyo
• Abazali abafutshane
• Ukulibaziseka kokukhula komgaqo-siseko
• Ukukhetha ukutya
• Yise kude

Ngaba ukho omnye umntu obonakala ngathi unomntwana omncinanana otya ngathi ngumhadi ongenasiphelo? Hayi? Eyam nje?

Kulungile ke.

Ukuba ujongene nomntwana ongakwaziyo ukufumana ukutya okwaneleyo kwaye kubonakala ngathi ulambile ngalo lonke ixesha, usenokuzibuza ukuba ingaba umntwana wakho uqhelekile na. Makhe sijonge kwizigaba zokukhula kwabantwana abasakhulayo- kwaye ufumanise ukuba yintoni enokuthi iqhube zonke ezo zicelo zokutya okulula.

Ukukhula kukhula ngokukhula okuncinci

Ngokophando olwenziwe ngo-2017, kukho izigaba ezithathu zokukhula ebomini bomntwana:

• Isigaba 1. Ukukhawulezisa ukukhula kokukhula kosana okuhlala kude kube malunga neminyaka emithathu
• Isigaba 2. Inqanaba lobuntwana ngokukhula okuzinzileyo kokuphakama
• Isigaba 3. Ukukhula kwinqanaba lokufikisa kuya kufikelela kubude babadala

Ithetha ntoni kanye kanye yonke loo nto? Ewe, oko kuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ukwinqanaba eliqhubekayo lokukhula ade abe malunga neminyaka emithathu. Nangona kunjalo, oko kukhula - okwenzeka ngokukhawuleza okukhulu kwinqanaba labantwana- kuya kuncipha kancinci ekukhuleni.

Unokuluthelekelela ukukhula njengonxantathu ojonge ezantsi, ngesixa esikhulu sokukhula okukhawulezayo esenzeka ebusaneni, emva koko unciphise kancinci de ube neminyaka emithathu.

Inqanaba lomntwana

Iintsana ziyaziwa ngokukhula, kwaye kukho inani elikhulu lokukhula komzimba okwenzekayo, ngakumbi kunyaka wokuqala wobomi. Ngexesha umntwana wakho enenyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-6 ubudala, baya kuba sele bebaphindaphinda ubunzima babo bokuzalwa.

Khawufane ucinge ukuba umntu omdala wenze njalo kwiinyanga nje ezimbalwa ’? Kukukhula okuninzi! Iintsana ziyaqhubeka nokukhula ngesantya esikhawulezileyo kunyaka ophelileyo, nangona kungenjalo kwiinyanga zokuqala.

Inqanaba lokuhamba komntwana omncinci

Emva kweenyanga ezili-12 zokuqala, ukukhula kuyacotha nangakumbi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntwana omncinci uya kubeka kuphela malunga neekhilogram ezintlanu phakathi kokujika enye ukuya kwezimbini.

Emva kokuba bafikelele kwiminyaka emibini, inqanaba elifanayo lokukhula liyaqhubeka, kwaye baya kubeka kuphela malunga neepawundi ezi-5 unyaka ngamnye de bafike kwiminyaka emihlanu.

Ukuphakama kuyanda njengoko imilenze yomntwana omncinci ikhula kwaye ilingana nomzimba uphela. Yicinge njengoluhlobo lomzimba womntwana wakho omncinci "wokufumana" kuko konke oko kukhula ukusuka kunyaka wokuqala.

Iintsana nazo zisebenza ngakumbi, ngenxa yoko zichitha amandla amaninzi. Uya kuqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukuphulukana "nosana" jonga njengoko iivenkile zala mafutha athandekayo zisasazeka kwaye zanyamalala.

Nangona kunjalo, yonke iminyaka emi-3 yokuqala yobomi, yonke indlela yokuhamba ubuntwana, ithathwa njengexesha lokukhula okusebenzayo, ke gcinani engqondweni njengoko ubukele umntwana wakho ekhula.

Ukulinganisa ukukhula komntwana wakho

Indlela akhula ngayo umntwana wakho omncinci luphawu olubalulekileyo lwempilo kunye nophuhliso. Ugqirha wabantwana womntwana okanye umboneleli wakho uya kulinganisa ubude kunye nobunzima babo kuhlolo ngalunye kunye nokuceba iziphumo zabo kwitshathi yokukhula.

Itshathi yokukhula ibonisa imilinganiselo yomntwana wakho xa kuthelekiswa nabanye abantwana abakwiminyaka efanayo kunye neepateni zokukhula.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule malunga nokukhula komntwana wakho omncinci kukuba nangona ukukhula komncinci wakho kuya kulinganiswa kwitshathi yokukhula, akukho nto ifana nobukhulu obulingana nayo yonke ipateni yokukhula.

Endaweni yokugxila ekukhuleni komntwana wakho omncinci xa kuthelekiswa nabanye abantwana, ekuphela kwento wena kunye nogqirha wabantwana ekufuneka unomdla kuyo yindlela umntwana wakho omncinci akhula ngayo xa kuthelekiswa nenqanaba lokukhula kwakhe.

Itshathi yokukhula komntwana ngamnye iya kwahluka, kwaye ugqirha wakho uya kuvavanya ukuba ukukhula komntwana wakho kusendleleni ngokusekwe kumanani abo. Kukwakho, nangona kwakhona, itshathi nganye iya kufuna ukulungelelaniswa nombono ngamnye.

Ukuba ufuna amanani ekhonkrithi ukuba ujonge, ii-CDC kwaye icacisa ukuba abantwana abaneminyaka eli-1 kunye ne-1/2 ubudala abanobunzima obungama-10 eepawundi baya kuba malunga neepesenti ezingama-50 ngokobunzima, nto leyo ethetha ukuba ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha seentsana ziya kuba nobunzima ngaphezulu kwaye isiqingatha sabantwana siya kuba nobunzima obungaphantsi kolo ubudala.

Kodwa gcinani engqondweni: Onke amanani akwitshathi yokukhula yimilinganiselo nje kwaye ayizukuba “yinto eqhelekileyo” kulowo ngamnye usabhadazayo. Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ukhula ngokufanelekileyo ngokusekwe kwipatheni yokukhula komntu ngamnye.

Ukukhula okulibazisekileyo

Kuthekani ngolibaziseko lokukhula? Abanye abantwana baya kuncipha ekukhuleni xa befika kwiminyaka yobudala. Aba bantwana baya kuba bekhule ngokwesiqhelo njengeentsana kodwa baya kuncipha kwiminyaka emi-2 ubudala ngesinye sezizathu ezibini eziphambili.

Abazali abafutshane

Uxolo, mncinci. Ukuba abazali bakho (okanye omnye wabo) bufutshane ngobude, ungaphelela emoyeni, nawe. Yindlela yendalo-kodwa akukho zinkxalabo kwezonyango ngokuba mfutshane.

Ukulibaziseka kokukhula komgaqo-siseko

Kwaziwa njengokulibaziseka kokufikisa, abantwana abanokulibaziseka kokukhula komgaqo-siseko baya kuba ziintsana ezinobungakanani obuqhelekileyo, kodwa baya kuncipha ekukhuleni phakathi kweminyaka yeenyanga ezi-6 kunye neminyaka emibini.

Emva kweminyaka emi-2, ukukhula kwabo kuya kubuyela esiqhelweni. Baya kuqala ukufikisa kwaye ukukhula kwabo kwinqanaba lokufikisa kuya kukhula kamva, nabo.

Ukukhetha ukutya

Inxalenye yako konke oko kukhula lutshintsho olwahlukileyo kukhetho lokutya kosana lwakho. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho omncinane ubonakala ngathi ufuna ukutya ukutya okufanayo amaxesha ngamaxesha, ungakhathazeki. Umntwana wakho omncinci ukuba nje, kulungile, umntwana omncinci. Kwaye abantwana abaselula abasoloko besaziwa nge palati yabo ephucukileyo.

Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abasakhasayo bafumane ukutya okunzima “bekhaba” kweli xesha bakulo. Kumntwana wam omncinci omncinci, oko kutya kuya kuba yeyona soseji yintsapho yethu esiyithandayo yenkukhu. Unokuyisebenzisa ngobuninzi obundoyikisa ngamanye amaxesha.

Ukulwa nokukhaba, qiniseka ukubonisa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokutya okunempilo ngamaxesha okutya, nokuba umntwana wakho omncinci uswele inzondelelo ngaloo minikelo. Baza kufika apho ekugqibeleni!

Ukungaguquguquki kubalulekile kwaye eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ahlale ondliwa ngokutya okusempilweni eninokuziva kamnandi ngako nobabini.

Yise kude

Njengoko uhamba iminyaka emncinci, ukukhula komntwana wakho kunokucotha kancinci. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ezinye izizathu zokulibaziseka kokukhula ziqhelekile. Oko kwathiwa, ukuba unayo nayiphi na inkxalabo malunga nokukhula komntwana wakho omncinci, kufuneka uhlale uthetha nogqirha ukuze uphinde uvavanye.