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Umxholo

• Thatha imbonakalo entsha
• Ziqhelise ukucoceka ngokweemvakalelo
• Hambela phambili
• Uphengululo lwe

Njengesityalo esikhula ematyeni, ungayifumana indlela yokutyhala kuyo nayiphi na imiqobo ojamelene nayo kwaye uphumele kwilanga. Amandla okwenza oku avela ekubetheni uphawu olulodwa olubizwa ngokuba yi-transformative resilience.

Ukomelela ngokwesiko kumalunga nokuba nomdlandla kunye nokunyamezela kunye namandla, kodwa uhlobo lwenguqu luya kwinqanaba elingaphezulu. "Kukukwazi ukuthatha imiceli mngeni yobomi kunye nezithintelo kwaye ufunde kuzo kwaye uzisebenzise njengenkuthazo yokukhula kumacala amatsha, utshilo u-Ama Marston, ingcali yobunkokeli kunye nomlingani Uhlobo lwe-R: UkuQiniseka koQinisekiso lokuPhumelela kwiLizwe eliDubayo (Yithenge, $ 18, amazon.com). Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba nabani na angakhuthaza iimpawu zohlobo R. Nalu icebo lakho lokuqalisa.

Thatha imbonakalo entsha

Ukufunda ukubona imiceli mngeni njengamathuba, kufuneka utshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo, utshilo uMaston. "Sonke sinelensi esilijonga ngayo umhlaba nayo yonke into eyenzekayo, utshilo. "Yakha imbonakalo yethu, iinkolelo, indlela esizibona ngayo izinto, kunye nezenzo zethu. Amaxesha amaninzi, kunokuba kubi ngakumbi kunokuba sicinga." (Idibeneyo: IziBonelelo zezeMpilo zokuba noLindelo oluqinisekileyo kunye noPessimist)

Ukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi ingqondo yakho, cinga emva kobunzima obutshanje kunye nendlela osabele ngayo kubo. Yitsho ukuba kufuneka urhoxise iholide ekudala uyilindile. Ngaba uye waxinga ekuphoxekeni kwaye waba nengxaki yokukushenxisa? Ngaba ujikeleze nzulu kwaye uzixelele ukuba indlela izinto ezihamba ngayo, ngekhe ukwazi ukuhamba okwethutyana? Ezo ngcinga ziya kukutsalela phantsi, zikushiye ulusizi kwaye woyisiwe.

Nje ukuba uyiqonde indlela osabela ngayo kwiimeko ezinzima, uya kuba nakho ukubona ipateni, uyeke, kwaye utshintshe indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana neengxaki, utshilo uMarston. "Endaweni yokuzibuza, 'Kutheni ndenza mna ?,' cinga, 'Ndingafunda ntoni kule nto? "'Ndingazenza njani izinto ngokwahlukileyo eziya kundinceda ndikhule?'" Ngale ndlela, isuka kwisenzo samashwa esinyanzelisiweyo kuwe ukuya kwinto onokuyibumba ukuze uzuze.

Kwimeko yeholide ephosiweyo, unokucwangcisa uthotho lweeholide zempelaveki kufutshane nekhaya kubo bonke ubusika nentlakohlaza. Hamba uhambe kwipaki yelizwe osoloko ufuna ukuyityelela. Phinda ufumane ukukhwela i-ice-skating, okanye ubhalisele izifundo zekhephu kwindawo ebusika. Ngale ndlela, uya kuhlala unento okhangele phambili kuyo kwaye onwabe ngayo, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kufunda isakhono esitsha ngelixa ukuso.

Ziqhelise ukucoceka ngokweemvakalelo

Ukuziqhelanisa neemeko kunye nokufumana izisombululo zobuchule akuthethi ukukhanyela iimvakalelo zakho ezibuhlungu okanye ukucima iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo, utshilo uMarston. "Abantu bajongana nemiceli mngeni enzima ngoku, kwaye kufuneka siwamkele amava ethu ukuze sikwazi ukujongana nawo, utshilo. Xa kwenzeka into embi, zivumele uzive ukhathazekile okanye ucaphukile. Yiya kusapho kunye nabahlobo bakho ukuze ufumane inkxaso yeemvakalelo kunye neengcebiso ukuba oko kuluncedo. Kodwa sukuvumela iingcinga ezimbi zikongamele kwaye zithathe indawo. Yiya ngaphaya kwabo, kwaye uzame ukungakhanyisi. (Eyeleleneyo: Ungazichonga njani iimvakalelo zakho ngesondo leemvakalelo-kwaye kutheni kufuneka)

Ewe, izinto ezithile ezinjenge-COVID-19 kunye nemeko yezoqoqosho zingaphaya kwamandla ethu. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka sizikhumbuze ngaloo nto, utshilo uMarston. "Kubalulekile ukubona umxholo omkhulu - ngakumbi ngeli xesha lokungaqiniseki okukhulu kwaye ngeli xesha lobunzima. Asinakulindela ukuba abantu bayenze yonke into; kufuneka ukhuseleko lwentlalo lube khona. Into esinokuyenza kukuthatha inyathelo kunye nokuxhasa Gxila kwizinto ezinamandla okutshintsha. "

Ke ukuba imeko yemali yangoku ithetha ukuba awungekhe uyivule i-vegan bakery okhe waphupha ngayo, yenze ibeyicala lakho kude kube lixesha elilungileyo. Qalisa iwebhusayithi kunye neakhawunti ye-Instagram, kwaye uthengise izinto zakho ezibhakiweyo ebusuku nangeempelaveki. Uyakwakha isiseko somthengi kwaye wenze imali.

Hambela phambili

UMarston uthi: "Into esihlala sisiva xa kufikwa kumba wokomelela yinto yokuzibuyisa." "Kodwa inyani yile, asihlali sibuyela umva kuba umhlaba uqhubeka ushukuma, kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukubuyela apho sasikhona. Kwaye uphando lubonisa ukuba xa sidlula kwinto enzima, siyatshintsha kwaye sikhule; 'Hlala unjalo. "

Imiceli mngeni yalo nyaka uphelileyo ibalaselisa indlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukuqhubela phambili. "Ukujonga ubhubhane kunye nezinto esidlule kuzo njengabantu ngabanye, njengabahlali, nanjengesizwe, kusitshintshe ngeendlela ezisisiseko," utshilo uMarston. "Kuye kwafuneka siziqhelanise nokusebenza ekhaya, ukuphulukana nomsebenzi, okanye ukuphulukana nomntu esimthandayo. Siye saqonda isidingo sokuhlaziya indawo esihlala kuyo, inkqubo yethu yokhathalelo lwempilo, kunye nendlela esidibana ngayo. ubuso bezi zinto, kufuneka senze izinto ngokwahlukileyo. "

Kwinqanaba lomntu siqu, oko kuthetha ukuba nicinga ngeengcinga ezintsha zokujongana nemingeni yakho. Thatha ukusebenza ekhaya, onokuqala ukubusebenzisa ubomi bakho ukuba uyakuvumela. Esikhundleni sokuhlala kwidesika yakho iiyure ekupheleni, cwangcisa ikhefu lasekuseni ukuya kwiintsuku zakho. Yenza uqeqesho, ucamngce, okanye ubambe ikomityi yekofu kwaye ubize umhlobo. Emva kwemini, hamba uhambo lwemizuzu engama-20. Ebusuku, vala ilaptop yakho kwaye ujabulele isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nosapho lwakho. Ngokwenza iipokotho ezizinikeleyo zexesha lokuphumla, uya kuba nemveliso ngakumbi, uyilo, kwaye uphumelele - kwaye uzive unethemba malunga nomsebenzi wakho kuphela kodwa nekamva.

Iphephancwadi iShape, ngoJanuwari/Februwari 2021

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