Ukufuna iV egqibeleleyo: Kutheni le nto aBasetyhini abaninzi befuna ukuvuselelwa kwesini?

Umxholo

• Ihlabathi lokuvuselelwa kwelungu lobufazi
• Kutheni le nto abafazi befuna ezi nkqubo?
• Sivela phi isiseko ‘sokuhomba’?
• Nangona kunjalo, kukwakho ubungqina obucebisa ukuba iphonografi ayinakuba netyala.
• Imfundo engaphezulu inokukhuthaza ukomelela komzimba
• Ukufumana ibhalansi phakathi koxinzelelo lwangaphandle nolwangaphakathi

"Izigulana zam azifane zizazi ukuba zibukeka njani."

Ukujonga "unodoli weBarbie" kuxa iifolda zakho zobufazi zincinci kwaye zingabonakali, zinika umbono wokuba ukuvulwa kwelungu lobufazi kuqinile.

Amanye amagama kuyo? “Coca umsantsa.” "Ulungelelwaniso." “Ugqibelele.” Ikwayimbonakalo abanye abaphandi abathi "."

Nangona kunjalo, baninzi ngakumbi abantu basetyhini abafuna le nkangeleko, okanye umbono, xa kufikwa kutyando lokuthambisa lwamalungu ababhinqileyo.

“Ngenye imini mna nomyeni wam sasibukele umboniso kamabonwakude kunye kwaye umlinganiswa wenza isiqhulo malunga nomntu obhinqileyo ohlobo lwam. Ndaziva ndithotyiwe phambi komyeni wam. ”

Kodwa phambi kokuba sikhuphe ezi zinto zishukumisayo ngokwasengqondweni emva kokuvuselelwa kwelungu lobufazi kwaye apho zinokuvela khona, kufanelekile ukuba siqale ngokuxoxa ngesigama.

Ihlabathi lokuvuselelwa kwelungu lobufazi

Igama lobufazi linembali yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwimithombo yeendaba. Ngelixa "ubufazi" bubhekisa kumjelo wobufazi wangaphakathi, abantu bahlala bewusebenzisa ngokutshintshisanayo ukubhekisa kwilabhoratri, iklitorisi, okanye indunduma ye-pubic. Ke, igama elithi "ukuvuselelwa kwilungu lobufazi" lize lichaze iinkqubo ezingaphezulu kunokuba zimelwe bubuchwephesha.

Xa ujonga ukuvuselelwa kwelungu lobufazi kwi-intanethi, uya kufumana iinkqubo ezijongana neendlela zoqhaqho nezingafunekiyo kwilungu lobufazi lilonke. Oku kubandakanya:

• labiaplasty
• i-vaginoplasty okanye "i-vaginoplasty yomyili"
• hymenoplasty (ekwabizwa ngokuba yi "re-virginizing")
• O-shot, okanye G-indawo yokukhulisa
• ukunciphisa i-hood clitoral
• ukukhanya kwe-labial
• ukunciphisa i-pubic
• ukuqiniswa kwelungu lobufazi okanye ukuphinda wenze ubungakanani kwakhona

Uninzi lwezi nkqubo, kunye nezizathu zokuba uzifumane, zinempikiswano kwaye ziyathandabuza.

Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba ungenelelo lwalufunwa ikakhulu kwaye lwenziwa ngenxa yobuhle okanye izizathu zesondo kwaye zincinci kwiimfuno zonyango.

Kutshanje, iU.S.Ukutya noLawulo lweziyobisi (i-FDA) ikhuphe isilumkiso kwintengiso yokuvuselelwa kwelungu lobufazi.

Izibhengezo zithengise izithembiso kubantu basetyhini ubuchule bazo buya "kuqinisa buhlaziye" ubufazi babo. Ezinye zijolise ekuphuculeni iimpawu ze-postmenopausal, njengokomisa kwilungu lobufazi okanye iintlungu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.

Kodwa inye ingxaki. Ngenxa yokungabikho kwezifundo zexesha elide, akukho bungqina bokuba ezi ndlela zonyango ziyasebenza okanye zikhuselekile.

Uhlalutyo lweemagazini zabasetyhini ezili-10 zafumanisa ukuba kwimifanekiso yabasetyhini behamba ze okanye benxibe iimpahla ezixineneyo, indawo ye-pubic ihlala ifihliwe okanye imelwe njengokwenza igophe eligudileyo, elisicaba phakathi kwamathanga.

Ngelixa ukubandakanyeka kwe-FDA kuya kunceda impilo yabasetyhini ukuba ilawulwe ngakumbi kwaye ikhuseleke ukuya phambili, ukuvuselelwa kwelungu lobufazi kusafumana ukubambeka.

Ingxelo ka-2017 evela kuMbutho waseMelika woNyango lwePlastiki ityhila ukuba iinkqubo ze-labiaplasty zonyuke ngeepesenti ezingama-39 ngo-2016, ngophando olungaphezulu kwe-12,000. I-Labiaplasties zihlala zibandakanya ukunciphisa i-labia minora (i-labia yangaphakathi) ukuze ingaxhomi ngaphantsi kwe-labia majora (i-labia yangaphandle).

Nangona kunjalo, iAmerican College of Obstetricians kunye neGynecologists (ACOG) ilumkisa ngokuchasene nale nkqubo, ibiza inkqubo yentengiso- ngakumbi ezo zithetha ukuba olu tyando lwamkelekile kwaye luyinto eqhelekileyo.

Xa kuziwa kukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo, i-ACOG icebisa abantu basetyhini ukuba bavavanywe ngononophelo kwaye baziswe ngokupheleleyo malunga nobunzima obunokubakho kunye nokusilela kobungqina obuxhasa ezi nkqubo zonyango.

Kutheni le nto abafazi befuna ezi nkqubo?

Ngokophando olwenziwe ngo-2014 kwiphephancwadi lonyango lwezesondo, abaphandi bafumanise ukuba uninzi lwabantu lufuna ukuvuselelwa kwilungu lobufazi ngezizathu zeemvakalelo, ikakhulu ezisisiseko sokuzazi.

Nazi izicatshulwa ezimbalwa ezivela kubafazi kolu phando:

• “Ndiyayithiya eyam, ndiyayithiya, ndiyithiyile, ndiyithiye! Kufana nolwimi olunamathele ngaphandle ngenxa yezulu! "
• "Ungathini xa bangaxelela wonke umntu esikolweni," Ewe, mhle kodwa kukho into engalunganga phaya ezantsi. '”

UGqirha Karen Horton, ugqirha weplastikhi waseSan Francisco ogxile kwi-labiaplasties, uyavuma ukuba le nkqubo ingaqhutywa zii-aesthetics.

"Abasetyhini banqwenela ukuba i-labia minora yabo ibinyiwe, icocekile, kwaye icocekile, kwaye abafuni kuyibona ilebiya minora ilenga phantsi," utshilo.

Esinye isigulana samxelela ukuba "ndinqwenela ukuba kujongeke kuhle ezantsi."

Sivela phi isiseko ‘sokuhomba’?

Ngenxa yokunqongophala kwemfundo kunye nencoko evulekileyo ejikeleze into yesiqhelo xa kufikwa kwinkangeleko kunye nokusebenza kwamalungu angasese ababhinqileyo, ukufuna ubufazi obugqibeleleyo akunakuphela.

Abanye abantu basetyhini banokuziva bathambekele ekubhaliseleni iinkqubo ezinje nge-labiaplasty kunye ne-O-shot ukulungisa imiba "abayithiyileyo" okanye abayithathi njengengaqhelekanga. Kwaye apho bafumana khona uluvo lokuzonda imizimba yabo kusenokwenzeka ukuba ivela kwimithombo yeendaba, njengamaphephancwadi amabhinqa abonisa i-airbrushed, amalungu esini angenakwenzeka.

Le mifanekiso inokubangela ukungazithembi okanye ulindelo lwento "eqhelekileyo" kubabukeli, kwaye ngenxa yoko inegalelo ekuphakameni kwiinkqubo zokuvuselela ubufazi.

Uhlalutyo lweemagazini zabasetyhini ezili-10 zafumanisa ukuba kwimifanekiso yabasetyhini behamba ze okanye benxibe iimpahla ezixineneyo, indawo ye-pubic ihlala ifihliwe okanye imelwe njengokwenza igophe eligudileyo, elisicaba phakathi kwamathanga.

Khohlwa malunga nokubonisa i-labia yangaphakathi evelayo. Akukho nkcazo ye-labia majora.

Ukwenza i-labia ibonakale incinci okanye ayikho - ukubonakaliswa okungekho ngqiqweni-kunokwazisa ngobuxoki kunye nefuthe kwindlela abasetyhini abacinga ngayo ukuba iilabia zabo kufuneka zivele.

"Izigulana zam azinalwazi lokuba imichiza 'eqhelekileyo' imele ukubukeka kanjani kwaye kunqabile ukuba babe nombono oqinisekileyo malunga nokubonakala kwazo." -U-Annemarie Everett

Abanye abantu, njengoMeredith Tomlinson, bakholelwa ekubeni iphonografi yeyona nto iqhuba umnqweno wesini esifanelekileyo kunye nesini.

"Kuphi enye indawo apho sibona khona ukuvalwa kwamalungu angasese omnye umfazi?" Ubuza watsho.

Kwaye usenokuba unyanisile. I-Pornhub, iwebhusayithi eyaziwayo yamanyala, yabamba ngaphezulu kwe-28.5 yezigidi zeendwendwe kunyaka ophelileyo. Kwingxelo yabo yonyaka, baveze elona binzana laphandwayo ngo-2017 "yayingamanyala kwabasetyhini." Kwakukho ukukhula kweepesenti ezingama-359 phakathi kwabasebenzisi ababhinqileyo.

Iingcali ezivela eKing's College yaseLondon ziphakamisa ukuba "iphonografi" yenkcubeko yale mihla inokuthi iqhube amanqanaba okuvuselela ubufazi, kuba amadoda nabasetyhini banokubhengeza ngakumbi iphonografi nge-intanethi kunangaphambili.

"Ngokunyanisekileyo, ndicinga ukuba uluvo 'lwelungu lobufazi olugqibeleleyo' lubangelwa kukungabikho kolwazi oluchanekileyo malunga nokuba injani imazi," utshilo uAnnemarie Everett, ingcali yezempilo yabasetyhini eqinisekisiweyo ebhodini kunye nengcali yezomzimba.

"Ukuba ekuphela kwento ekufuneka sibhekisele kuyo kukungamanyala kunye nembono ngokubanzi yokuba ubukrwada kufuneka bube buncinci kwaye buthambeke, ke nantoni na engaphandle kwayo ibonakala ingamkelekanga, kwaye asinayo indlela yokuyicelomngeni loo ngcinga," utshilo. .

Nangona kunjalo, kukwakho ubungqina obucebisa ukuba iphonografi ayinakuba netyala.

Uphononongo lowama-2015 olujolise ekuqondeni ukoneliseka kwabasetyhini kwilungu lesini, ukuvuleleka kwi-labiaplasty, kunye nabaqhubi bolonwabo lwabo kunye nomdla wokuvuselelwa kwilungu lobufazi bakujongile oku. Bafumanise ukuba ngelixa ukubukela iphonografi kunxulunyaniswa nokuvuleleka kwi-labiaplasty, yayingeyiyo eyokuqala ukoneliseka kwezesini.

Ezi zinto zifunyanisiweyo ziyayithandabuzisa into yokuba iphonografi yeyona nto iphambili ekuvuseleleni ubufazi, kwaye "kukho ezinye izinto ezichazayo ekufuneka zibandakanyiwe kwiimodeli ezizayo."

Abafazi abaninzi kunamadoda adwelise ukungazithandi kwabo kunokuthanda malunga nobufazi babo kunye nelungu lobufazi.

Ngamanye amagama, ngelixa iphonografi ingenatyala kuphela, isenokuba yenye yezinto ezininzi ezinegalelo. Enye into inokuba ngabafazi babone kuphela umbono wento efunwa ngamadoda kunye nento ethathwa njengesiqhelo xa kufikwa kwilungu lobufazi kunye nelungu lobufazi.

"Izigulana zam azinalwazi lokuba imichiza 'eqhelekileyo' imele ukubonakala kanjani kwaye kunqabile ukuba babe nombono oqinisekileyo malunga nokubonakala kwabo," utshilo uEverett. "Ngokwesiko, sichitha ixesha elininzi sizama ukufihla imizimba yethu kunye nexesha elincinci lokufundisa ulutsha kwizinto eziqhelekileyo."

Amantombazana amancinci akhula ebona uBarbie ehleli ngokugqibeleleyo, iplastiki "V" njengomboniso kuphela we-"average" ye-vulva akuncedi zinto, nokuba.

Imfundo engaphezulu inokukhuthaza ukomelela komzimba

Kubuzwe amadoda angama-186 kunye nabasetyhini abangama-480 malunga nezinto abazithandayo nabangazithandiyo malunga nobufazi kunye nelungu lobufazi ukuze baqonde ngcono izimo zengqondo kumalungu obufazi ngenxa yemiyalezo yenkcubeko nezentlalo.

Abathathi-nxaxheba babuzwa, "Zeziphi izinto ongazithandiyo malunga namalungu angasese abantu basetyhini? Ngaba zikho iimpawu othanda ukuba zincinci kunezinye? ” Kumadoda aphendulayo, impendulo yesine exhaphakileyo "ibingento".

Eyona nto yayixhaphakileyo kukungayithandi ivumba, kulandele iinwele zasesidlangalaleni.

Enye indoda yathi, “Ungathini ukuba ungabathandi? Nokuba ithini ingcaciso yenkcubeko yomfazi ngamnye, kuhlala kukho ubuhle kwaye wahlukile. ”

Amadoda nawo achazwa rhoqo ukuthanda iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zesini. "Ndiyazithanda iintlobo zeemilo kunye nobukhulu belebia kunye neklitorisi," uphendule watsho.

Omnye uxele, ngokweenkcukacha ezithile, “Ndiyayithanda imilebe emide, egudileyo, neyolinganayo- into evuselelayo, ethi ibambe amehlo nengcinga. Ndiyathanda ii-clits ezinkulu, kodwa andizukuchulumanca phezu kwazo njengoko ndenza ngaphezulu kwemilebe kunye neebhotile. Ndiyayithanda ukuba ngumntu obhinqileyo ukuba mkhulu, imilebe ivulwe, kwaye inzulu kububanzi bayo. ”

Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabasetyhini kunamadoda lubhale uluhlu lwezinto abangazithandiyo kunaleyo bayithandayo malunga nobufazi babo kunye nelungu lobufazi, nto leyo ekhokelela ekubeni ababhali bagqibe ngelithi: “Ngenxa yobuninzi bezinto abangazithandiyo ezikhankanywe ngabafazi, enye inkcazo enokubakho kwezi zinto zifunyanisiweyo kukuba abantu basetyhini bangena ngokulula kwimiyalezo emibi malunga amalungu abo esini nokulungisa ukugxeka. ”

Iiveki ezintandathu kunye needola ezingama-8 500 zeedola ngaphandle kweepokotho kamva, uMeredith uphilisiwe - kunye nomoya opholileyo.

Kwaye imiyalezo engemihle, xa isiza, inokuba yinkohlakalo kwaye ithethe, ngakumbi xa ucinga ukuba akukho V.

Amadoda achaze ukungathandi kwawo asebenzisa amagama anolunya, anjengokuthi “mkhulu,” “flappy,” “flabby,” “ukuphuma,” okanye “kude kakhulu.” Elinye ibhinqa labika ukuba indoda eyabelana ngesondo nayo yoyikiswa yimilebe yakhe emikhulu yangaphakathi kwaye isebenzisa ibinzana elithi "umkhusane wenyama" ukubachaza. Enye indoda yathi, "Ndicinga ukuba amalungu esini anenwele emfazini ayinyani, ayenza ibonakale ingakhathalelanga indawo yangasese."

Ukuba amaphephancwadi abonisa i-vulvas yangempela yabasetyhini kuyo yonke into yabo enkulu, encinci, eneenwele, okanye engenazinwele, mhlawumbi ezi nkcazo ezihlabayo, ezibuhlungu zingenza impembelelo encinci.

Ukuba bekukho imfundo enkulu ejikeleze indlela i-vulva kunye nelungu lobufazi elinokujongeka ngayo ebomini babo, mhlawumbi indlela eya ekwamkelweni komzimba kunye nokuzithemba inokukhuthazwa.

Ukufumana ibhalansi phakathi koxinzelelo lwangaphandle nolwangaphakathi

Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni okwangoku kwizizukulwana ezihambileyo ngaphandle kwemfundo yelungu lobufazi okanye zibone isidingo sokuvuselelwa kwelungu lobufazi?

UMeredith, okhankanywe ngaphambilana, wayehlala ezazi ukuba une-labia okoko wayeyintombazana encinci. Ngokukodwa, oku kungenxa yokuba i-labia yakhe yangaphakathi yayixhomeke kakhulu kunelabhayi yakhe yangaphandle, inani leesentimitha ngaphantsi kwelabia majora yakhe.

"Ndandihlala ndikrokrela ukuba ndohlukile, kodwa ndaqaphela xa ndihamba ze ndikunye namanye amantombazana ukuba ndandihlukile," utshilo.

Ngenxa yoko, uMeredith wakuthintela ukubhukuda kuzo zonke iindleko. Wayengafuni ukubeka umngcipheko kwi-labia yakhe yangaphakathi yokuphuma ukuze ibonwe lihlabathi. Wayeziva engenakukwazi ukunxiba ezo bhulukhwe ze-yoga ziqinileyo, nokuba, kuba becebisa ukumila kunye ne-anatomy yelungu lakhe lobufazi.

Xa wayenxibe ijean, kwafuneka asebenzise iphedi yemax, ukwenzela ukuba iilebhu zakhe zaqala ukothuka zize zophe. Uyakhumbula, "Ngenye imini, emva kosuku lokuhamba ngeebhayisikile, ndafumanisa ukuba ilebhu yam yayisopha. Kwakubuhlungu. ”

Oku kwabuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakhe bangaphambili, njengoko uMeredith wayeza kuba noloyiko malunga nokubonwa ehamba ze achukumiseke ezantsi. Ungathini xa bejonga, beqhekeza isiqhulo malunga 'ne-vaginas yenkomo egcadiweyo,' okanye bacinga ukuba yinto ecinywayo?

Kwaye nasemva kokutshata, uMeredith wayesenokungazithembi.

"Ngenye imini nomyeni wam sasibukele umboniso weTV kunye kunye nomlingisi wenza ihlaya malunga nomfazi onohlobo lwam lwe-labia," ukhumbula. Ndizive ndihlazekile phambi komyeni wam. ”

Emva kokufunda inqaku elikwi-Intanethi elithetha ngoqhaqho lweplastiki, uMeredith wakhubeka kwigama elithi "labiaplasty" - uhlobo lwenkqubo yotyando lweplastikhi enciphisa ilebhu yangaphakathi yomfazi.

"Ndandiqala ukufumanisa ukuba ikhona indlela yokutshintsha into endisokolayo kwaye uninzi lwalukwimeko efanayo nam," uyakhumbula. “Kulula ukuziva ulilolo kule micimbi. Oku kwakusikhulula. ”

Kungekudala emva kokufunyanwa kwakhe kwi-intanethi, uMeredith waya kudibana noGqirha Karen Horton. "Andizange ndibe nomfanekiso, kodwa uDkt. Horton wenza iingcebiso malunga nokuba ndiyinqumle i-labia yam yangaphakathi," utsho.

Kwaye umyeni kaMeredith akazange amcebise okanye amcinezele ukuba alandele i-labiaplasty. "Wayemangalisiwe kodwa wandixhasa," uyakhumbula. Undixelele ukuba akakhathali kwaye andifanelanga kuyenza, kodwa uzakundixhasa nokuba sekutheni. ”

Kwiiveki ezimbalwa kamva, uMeredith wafumana i-labiaplasty, inkqubo yosuku olunye ayichaza njenge “ilula, iyakhawuleza, kwaye ithe tye,” nangona kufuneka ianesthesia ngokubanzi. Ugqirha Horton ucebise ngokuthatha iveki emsebenzini, ukunqanda ukuzilolonga iiveki ezintathu, kunye nokuyeka isondo iiveki ezintandathu.

Kodwa uMeredith waziva enamandla ngokwaneleyo ukuba abuyele emsebenzini ngosuku olulandelayo.

Iiveki ezintandathu kunye needola ezingama-8 500 zeedola ngaphandle kweepokotho kamva, uMeredith uphilisiwe - kunye nomoya opholileyo.

Andizisoli, kwaye oko bekungeyonkcitha xesha. “Andisazifihli. Ndiziva ndiqhelekile. ” Ewe-ngoku unxibe iibhls zangaphantsi zeebikini, ijini ngaphandle kwephedi ye-maxi, kwaye uhlala ekhwela ibhayisekile ukukhwela ixesha elide.

Ukusukela utyando, uMeredith kunye nomyeni wakhe khange baxoxe ngenkqubo. “Ndizenzele ngokupheleleyo. Yayisisigqibo sam. ”

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