Ngaba ukunxiba iikawusi kuyanceda ngokwenene kwi-Orgasm?

Umxholo

• Apho yaqala khona iTale yeekawusi kunye ne-Orgasm
• Kulungile, Ngaba kunjalo ke iTheory Legit?
• Ngaba iyasebenza ngokwenene?
• Uphengululo lwe

Kudala, kwihlabathi langaphambi kobhubhani wehlabathi, ndandithandana nomfana waseBrazil ngelixa ndihlala eBarcelona. (Eso sivakalisi sisodwa sindenza ndilangazelele iintsuku zokuhamba kunye namadoda aseBrazil, kodwa yinto epheleleyo.) Lo mfo, u-Diego, wayeyincutshe yokutyibiliza etyibilikayo ekhangeleka kancinane njengoDonald Glover, nangona singakwazi ukunxibelelana IToliki kaGoogle - ebethetha isiPhuthukezi kwaye akukho namnye kuthi owasivayo iSpanish ngokwaneleyo ukuba athethe ngokufanelekileyo - wayeyonwabile ebhedini. Kodwa kukho into enye eyandicaphukisayo: Wayesoloko enxibe ikawusi yakhe ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Njalo.

Xa ndimbuza ukuba kutheni, iToliki kaGoogle indixelele ukuba ebethetha ntoni ngesiPhuthukezi, kukuba "isini besingcono ngale ndlela." Ndacinga ukuba oku kunokuba yinto enokwenza nokuba igcine iinzwane zakhe zifudumele kwaye zicocekile kwigumbi endandilibeke kuma-68 ° F ukuphelisa ubushushu behlobo laseBarcelona.

Xa ndabelana ngobudlelwane bakhe ngokunxiba iikawusi ebhedini kunye nomhlobo wam, wandixelela ukuba, "kucingelwa ukuba," ukusebenzisa igama lakhe ngokuchanekileyo, iisokisi zadlala indima ekukwenzeni i-orgasm. Ndiyikhabe njengentsomi yasezidolophini. Ndandixelelwe ukuba amadoda angabopha isiqu se-cherry ngolwimi lwawo ayenomdla wokunikezela ngesondo ngomlomo, kwaye lonto intsomi, yakwazi ukuyichaza ngoko nangoko. (I-clit yam zii-intshi ezimbini emantla, nceda.)

Kodwa njengakwintsomi yonke yakudala yomfazi, ilivo yasezidolophini, kunye namahemuhemu afunyenwe kumdlalo wefowuni yenkcubeko, ihlala isekwe into ethile. Kwaye kuloo nto, kukho ubuncinci benyani.

Apho yaqala khona iTale yeekawusi kunye ne-Orgasm

Ingcambu yanamhlanje yamahemuhemu ibuyela kwisifundo esithile se-orgasm esenziwe kwi-2005 yiYunivesithi yaseGroningen eNetherlands. Uphononongo, olubandakanya izibini ezili-13 ezichonga isini esahlukileyo phakathi kweminyaka eyi-19 kunye ne-49, lwaluncinci kwaye lusondelelene. Kwimeko-bume elawulwayo, isibini ngasinye sasitshintshana ngokuvuselelana, ngelixa iingqondo zabo ziskenwa ukuveza ukuba ngawaphi amacandelo akhanyisiweyo, njengoko kuchaziwe yi-BBC.

Esinye seziphumo eziphambili zophononongo yayiyikhonkco phakathi kokuthuthuzela kunye nokukwazi ukwenza i-orgasm. Abasetyhini, ngokukodwa, banokufikelela kuvuthondaba ngokulula xa uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo lwabo luthuthuzelekile. "Ukuba uyoyika, kunzima kakhulu ukuba neentlobano zesini," utshilo unjingalwazi uGert Holstege, okhokela umphandi wophando, uxelele i-BBC. "Kunzima kakhulu ukuyeka." Uphononongo lufumene ukuba amadoda, kwelinye icala, afumana intuthuzelo ngokwazi ukuba aya kuvuselelwa. Ke xa zivuselelwe, ukufikelela kuvuthondaba (kwiimeko ezininzi) akunakuthintelwa.

Konke oku kuhambelana njani neekawusi? Uphononongo luye lwaqaphela ukuba iinyawo ezibandayo zazimi endleleni ye-orgasm: Iipesenti ezingama-50 zabantu abatshatileyo babekwazi ukwenza i-orgasm ngaphandle kweesokisi, kodwa ngelixa bembethe iikawusi, loo pesenti yenyuka ukuya kuma-80 ekhulwini. Ngelishwa, uphononongo lophule iziphumo kuphela ngabatshatileyo (kwaye hayi ngesini), ke akucaci ukuba ngubani, kanye, owenze i-orgasm ngakumbi enxibe iikawusi. Nangona kunjalo, ukusukela oko uHolstege uxele ukuba abantu basetyhini, ngokukodwa, kufuneka bazive bekhuselekile kwaye bethuthuzelekile ukuze baphumle ngokwaneleyo ukuze bafikelele kuvuthondaba, iyavakala into yokuba ezi ziphumo zinokubonakalisa ngakumbi abantu basetyhini. (Izinto eziNxulumeneyo: IiNzuzo zeMpilo ezi-7 ze-Orgasms)

Kulungile, Ngaba kunjalo ke iTheory Legit?

Konke okuthethileyo, uphononongo okunzima ukulufumana olwenziwa kunye nezibini ezili-13 azikho ncam ubungqina besayensi. Nangona kunjalo, olunye uphando, iingcali zezesondo, kunye neengcali zezesondo zintle ebhodini ngokusebenzisa iikawusi ukunyusa amathuba okuba ne-orgasm.

Komnye, uHolstege wayekwinto "yokuthuthuzela" yonke. Ngokongeza uluhlu lwentuthuzelo - ngokoqobo, ngeesokisi - unokwandisa iimvakalelo zokhuseleko kunye nokuxhalaba okuphantsi, utsho u-Alex Fine, i-CEO kunye nomseki weDame Products.

Ngo-2016, iqela labaphandi eFinland lapapasha iziphumo zalo kuphando lwezesondo lwesizwe oluhlanu oluqhutywe kwiminyaka eliqela ukubona ukuba zeziphi izinto ezinxulumene nokonyuka kwabasetyhini kwi-orgasming. Iziphumo zafumanisa ukuba, kuninzi lwabasetyhini, ukufana kwabo nokuba ne-orgasm kuye kwaqina kukhuseleko lweemvakalelo; ii-orgasms zazinokwenzeka xa abasetyhini bekwimeko kunye nomntu "oziva kamnandi" okanye "usebenze kakuhle ngokwasemphefumlweni."

Ewe intuthuzelo iyinto yomzimba njengoko injalo ngengqondo- nangaphandle kwamava ezesondo, uninzi lwabantu lunokuyazi into yokuba ubushushu buzisa ukhuseleko ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, utshilo umqeqeshi wesondo kunye nolwalamano u-Irene Fehr.

"Kwinqanaba lokuphila elisisiseko, ukubanda kufana nengozi emzimbeni, nto leyo ebangela ukuba kuliwe okanye kuphendulwe inqwelomoya- kwaye leyo ichasene nempendulo yokuphumla efunekayo kwi-orgasm," utshilo uFehr. Xa kukho ingozi yokulumkisa ngengozi, i-amygdala, icandelo lokwenza uloyiko kwingqondo, ukukhaba ngokuzenzekelayo ukuskena okusingqongileyo kunye nokuqokelela ulwazi ukumisela ukuba ukhuselekile na. Emva koko, "njengakuwo nawuphi na umlo okanye ukuphendula ngenqwelomoya, igazi liphuma kude kwizitho zangasese nakwezinye iindawo eziphambili zomzimba ezifunekayo ukuze siphile, sibeka ukuvusa inkanuko kwaye siphazamise indlela eya kwi-orgasm, utshilo.

Nangona kunjalo, xa umzimba ukhululekile ngokwemvelo - nokuba oko kushushu ngokwaneleyo okanye kwindawo ekhululekile - uziva ukhuselekile, utsho uFehr. "Imisipha iyayekelela, ingqondo iyacotha, igazi lihamba liye ezitho zangasese- konke kudala ukuvusa inkanuko kunye nokongeza kumathuba e-orgasm."

UCarol Queen, Ph.d., umbhali, isazi ngentlalo yoluntu, kunye nabasebenzi beSexologist yeeVibrations eziLungileyo, uphinda olu luvo. "Iinyawo ezibandayo zinokuphazamisana ne-orgasm yabantu ngokuba ngumyalezo oqhubekayo we-neural ophazamisa umjikelo wokuphendula ngokwesondo," utshilo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, izivamvo zomzimba zisebenza kunye xa umntu evuliwe kwaye esondela kwi-orgasm.

Ewe, iinyawo ezibandayo ayikokuphela kokuphazamiseka okanye ukuphazamiseka umntu anokuhlangabezana nako, utshilo u-Queen. Ukunkqonkqoza ngequbuliso emnyango, umzekelo, kunokukhuthaza impembelelo efanayo yokulwa-okanye-ukubhabha, ukubeka uvakalelo lokhuseleko engozini.

"Iyabila ukuthuthuzela nokusasaza," uyavuma uGigi Engle, isini se-SKYN kunye nengcali yokuthandana, umqeqeshi wesini oqinisekisiweyo, ugqirha wezesondo kunye nombhali Zonke Iimpazamo ze-F * cking: Isikhokelo sezesondo, uthando kunye noBomi. "Ukuba ucinga ngeenzwane zakho ezinqabileyo, kuyakususa kwingqondo yolonwabo-oku kubalulekile kwi-orgasms kuba i-orgasm yingqondo kunye namava omzimba. Ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuziva ukhuselekile ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo yinxalenye enkulu yokonwaba amava. Kwaye ukuba neenyawo ezifudumeleyo yinxalenye yaloo ntuthuzelo." (Eyeleleneyo: Indlela i-Kinky Sex enokukwenza ukuba ukhumbule ngakumbi)

Ngaba iyasebenza ngokwenene?

Ndabuza abahlobo kunye noogxa, okokuqala, ukuba bakhe beva ngale nto, kwaye okwesibini, ukuba bakhe bayifumana. Nangona uninzi lwabantu luvile ngeli qhinga, abo babelizamile- iipesenti ezingama-43, kodwa oku kuvela kwi-Instagram poll yabantu abangama- ~ 80, khawukhathalele-bonke babekwezempilo yezesondo nakwinkalo yemfundo yezesondo.

"Ndandicinga ukuba ukuze ulalane ngesondo kufuneka uhambe ze," utsho uMelissa A. Vitale, intatheli kunye nomsunguli we-Vice PR Agency, esebenza neenkampani zokudlala ngesondo kunye neeklabhu zesini, kubandakanya ne-NSFW. "Ndakhe ndeva ibali labafazi abadala malunga neekawusi ezenza ukuba isondo zibengcono ngendlela efanayo xa unxibe iiglavu awubandi kakhulu. kunceda ube nesiphazamiso esinye ngexesha lokudlala. "

Intetho endala yokuba iziphelo ezifudumeleyo zilingana nomzimba ofudumeleyo azichanekanga ngokupheleleyo, ubuncinane ngokutsho kwezinye izifundo eziye zafumanisa ukuba izandla ezibandayo azinampembelelo kubushushu besisu. Nangona kunjalo, iphepha elisebenzayo le-2015 liZiko likaZwelonke loPhando lwezoQoqosho laqaphela ukuba utshintsho lwemozulu lwalunefuthe kumazinga okuzalwa, ecacisa ukuba "ubushushu obugqithisileyo bunokuchaphazela ukubakho rhoqo." Intsingiselo, imizimba zi uchatshazelwa bubushushu xa kufikwa kwisondo.

Kodwa amava kaVitale abuyela kwisifundo esaphuma kwiDyunivesithi yaseGroningen: ukuziva ukhululekile, ukhuselekile, kwaye ukhuselekile kwiimpawu zengqondo ezivuthiweyo ze-orgasm. Ngokwenene, uthi konke oko kunye kwenze ukuba abe neekawusi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. U-Engle uyavuma: “Andifane ndilale ndinganxibanga ikawusi kuba indinceda ukuba ndifumane i-orgasm ngokulula kuba, ke, andicingi ngokubanda kweenyawo zam.

Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba wonke umntu obeka iikawusi kwixa elizayo xa beza kulala ngesondo uqinisekisiwe nge-orgasm? Akunjalongo noko. Kodwa ukuba awukazami ukuyizama- okanye uhlala ubanda- kufanelekile ukuba udutyulwe.

Ngapha koko, akukho nto uphulukana nayo; tyibilika kwisibini seekawusi osele ungumnini, okanye utyalomali kwisini esithandekayo, esiphakamileyo samathanga esikufaka kwimood. Unokufumanisa ukuba into obuyilahlekile ngalo lonke eli xesha ziisokisi ezicocekileyo zokubeka ingqondo yakho ngokukhululeka, ukunciphisa loo manqanaba oxinzelelo, kwaye vumela unyibilike uye kwi-orgasmic ecstasy.

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