Ngaba uziva njani xa ukhulelwe?

Umxholo

• Kukuthini ukukhulelwa okunene
• Utshintsho lomzimba ngexesha lokukhulelwa
• Iimpawu zokukhulelwa zekota ezintathu
• Utshintsho lweemvakalelo ngexesha lokukhulelwa
• Ukufikelela kumgca wokugqibela wokukhulelwa
• Ukuthatha

Kubafazi abaninzi, ukukhulelwa kunamandla. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, wenza omnye umntu. Lowo ngumangaliso omangalisayo kwinxalenye yomzimba wakho.

Ukukhulelwa kunokuba yinto eyonwabisayo kwaye inika umdla. Abahlobo bakho kunye nabantu obathandayo baya kukuhlamba ngolonwabo kunye neentsikelelo. Uya kuphupha ngovuyo ngekamva eliqaqambileyo umntwana wakho aya kuba nalo.

Unokubhabha ujikeleze iivenkile zabantwana, ukhethe iimpahla, ifanitshala, kunye nazo zonke izinto ezinxulumene nosana oya kuzifuna kwaye uzidinge ngelixa ulinde ukuzala ifektri encinci, enomtsalane, entle.

Kodwa kuko konke ukonwaba kwalo, ukukhulelwa nako kunzima kwaye kunzima. Abanye abantu basetyhini bakufumanisa kunzima kakhulu ukukhulelwa.

Kukuthini ukukhulelwa okunene

Andikwazi ukuthatha ikhredithi ngokuvuma ukuba ukukhulelwa kunzima. USusan Magee, umbhali we "The Pregnancy Countdown Book" wasinika eso sityhilelo. Incwadi yakhe yandikhokelela ekukhulelweni.

Ngokukodwa, wabhala, "Ndiza kukuxelela into malunga nokukhulelwa endinqwenela ukuba umntu othile andixelele kona, ngokuthe ngqo, kwaye kwangoko: Ukukhulelwa kuyamangalisa, kuyavuya, kwaye kungummangaliso. Kodwa kukwangumsebenzi onzima. Ewe, ukukhulelwa ngumsebenzi onzima. ”

Utshintsho lomzimba ngexesha lokukhulelwa

Xa ndandithwele unyana wam oneminyaka eyi-1 ngoku, ndafumana into abaninzi abangayibiza ngokuba "lula" kwikota yokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, ngelo xesha ndi:

• wayenamabele athambileyo
• wayenesisu esirhawuzelelayo
• wayenomsindo
• Ndaziva ndisisifo esiqhelekileyo

Kodwa andizange ndilahle. Kwakungekho kwintlungu eninzi. Ndandisoloko ndihlala ndihlambile.

Yonke into yehle ezantsi ngexesha lekota yesibini yam, nangona kunjalo. Bendidiniwe ngalo lonke ixesha, nokuba bendilele iiyure ezisibhozo.

Ndachama Okuninzi. Besele ndinesinyi esigqithisileyo ukuqala ngaso, kodwa ngexa lokukhulelwa, bendibalekela kwigumbi lokuhlambela yonke imizuzu eli-10, ukuba akukho ngaphantsi. Bendingakwazi ukushiya indlu ngaphandle kokusebenzisa indlu yangasese izihlandlo ezihlanu, nokuba akukho nto iphumayo kum.

Imfuno eqhubekayo yokuchama eziswe kukukhulelwa ichaphazele ubomi bam bobuqu kunye nobungcali. Umzekelo, ndiphoswe yindibano yocweyo endandifuna ukuya kuyo kuba ndingakhange ndifumane igumbi lokuhlambela phakathi kwemizuzu engama-30 phakathi kokuphuma kwindlu yam ndize ndifike kwisikhululo sikaloliwe. Ndigqibele sele ndiguquka kwaye ndibuyela ekhaya ukunqanda intlekele.

Yile call isondeleyo ebangele ukuba ndithenge iipads zokungazinxibi xa ndizohamba kuba ndiye ndanexhala lokuba ndizokuchama esidlangalaleni.

Qaphela: Ukuba wawusempilweni ngaphambili, ukuchama rhoqo ngexesha lokukhulelwa akufuneki kuchaphazele ubomi bakho bobuqu okanye bobungcali. Ukuba kuyenzeka, jonga ugqirha wakho ukuze babone ingxaki.

Iimpawu zokukhulelwa zekota ezintathu

Iimpawu zomzimba ziye zisiba mandundu ngexesha lekota yesithathu. Imilenze yam ibibuhlungu mzuzwana ngamnye wosuku. Khange ndikwazi ukunyuka izinyuko ndingakhange ndibethwe ngumoya kwaye namathanga am atshile. Kwafuneka nditshintshe ukuhamba kwam ukuze ndikwazi ukufikelela kwizinyuko ezinyukayo kunye neekhetshi. Esi sisikhalazo esiqhelekileyo endisivileyo kwabanye oomama nabasetyhini abakhulelweyo.

Umzimba wam waziva ungonwabanga ngakumbi kunye neekram ezininzi nge-intshi nganye esikhulayo isisu sam. Ukuba bendihamba ixesha elide, bendiya kuva iintlungu emilenzeni yam kangangeentsuku.

Ezo yayiyinxalenye nje yotshintsho lomzimba.

Utshintsho lweemvakalelo ngexesha lokukhulelwa

Emotionally, ukukhulelwa kwandiphosa kwisaqhwithi. Ndalila kakhulu kunokuba bendidla ngokukhala. Ndaya ndisiba nexhala. Ndinexhala malunga:

• ukuba ngumama ombi
• ukungakwazi ukubonelela ngokhuseleko olwaneleyo nothando
• ukusebenza nokuya esikolweni ngezo nyanga zisithoba

Ndaye ndalumka ngakumbi malunga nento endiyenzileyo kunye nento endiyithethileyo, ngeendawo endizakuya kuzo, kwaye ndiza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani apho.

Kwiflipside, ndaziva ndinomlingo ngakumbi. Usuku ngalunye oludlulayo, ndandikulangazelela ngakumbi ukudibana nonyana wam. Ndazigcina izandla zam esiswini sam, ndihlala ndimkhusela. Ndiza kubeka izandla zam esiswini sam iiveki emva kokubeleka.

Kwakukho ipep kwinyathelo lam elicothayo, lokuqobeka. Kwaye ndinokukhanya, ngokosapho lwam. Ndandinokuphikisana: Njengokuba bendicinezelekile njengoko ndiziva, bendonwabile.

Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba uhambo lwaluphela kwaye ndiza "kubuyisa umzimba wam," njengoko besitsho.

Ukufikelela kumgca wokugqibela wokukhulelwa

Umsebenzi ngokwawo yayingamava, ukutsho nje okuncinci. Ndandinomva obuhlungu emqolo nasemva kweeveki ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba ndibeleke. Kwafuneka ndinyanzelwe kuba ndiphose umhla wam wokufika.

Ngexesha lokusebenza, unyana wam ebengazukuhla, ngoko ke bendinokuhanjiswa ngokukhawuleza. Ukuthi ndiyoyika ingayinto encinci. Ndandisoyika. I-cearean yayiyinkqubo yam yokuqala yokuhlinzwa. Kwaye ndandisoyika eyona nto imbi kakhulu.

Ngethamsanqa, ndibeleke umntwana oyinkwenkwe, ophilileyo, onwabileyo. Ndacinga ukuba uvakala ngathi yikati xa wayeqala ukukhala ezingalweni zikagqirha. Lo mzuzu wenza yonke into yesibini, ebuhlungu yokukhulelwa kufanelekile.

Ukuthatha

Isifundo, ngokwenene, kukuba ukukhulelwa kunzima. Kunzima ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kubantu abahlukeneyo. Ezinye iimpawu zikho jikelele. Uya kuziva iintlungu zomzimba. Unokuba nokuqhina. Uya kuziva ungonwabanga. Kodwa indlela ophatha ngayo ezi mpawu iya kuxhomekeka kuwe nasemzimbeni wakho.

Okubaluleke ngakumbi, musa ukoyika ukuthi ukukhulelwa kunzima. Ayenzi uthando lwakho ngomntwana wakho ukuba abekho ngaphantsi kwaye abe yinyani. Kuthetha nje ukuba uyayiqonda into efunyanwa ngumzimba wakho ngelixa uqhubeka nale nkqubo inzima. Kwaye ngu inkqubo enzulu. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyithande. Usenokungayithandi. Kodwa akufanele uzive uneentloni ngendlela oziva ngayo ngayo.

Ukukhulelwa ngumsebenzi onzima, kwaye kulungile ukuyamkela loo nto.