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Umxholo

• Kulungile phambi kwethu, kodwa asijonganga kuyo
• Qala ngokulala
• Chonga abantu bakho (okanye umntu)
• Ishedyuli yokuhamba
• Joyina amaqela omama
• Yazi konke iimpawu zokuphazamiseka komzimba
• Yenza isivumelwano

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Siyacetyiswa ukuba sicwangcise ukubhaliswa kwethu kwaye sicwangcise ukuzalwa kwethu, kodwa kuthekani ngokucwangcisela impilo yethu yengqondo?

Ndikhumbula ngokucacileyo ndimi kwindawo yokulala kwiintsana "R" Us (RIP) imizuzu engama-30, ndijongile nje.

Ndichithe ixesha elide kunelo ndizama ukufumana ezona bhotile zilungileyo kunye nokuhambahamba kwaye ndijikela umntwana wethu oyintombazana. Ezi zigqibo, ngelo xesha, zabonakala ngathi kukuphila okanye ukufa.

Nangona kunjalo ndichithe naliphi na ixesha kwinto ebaluleke ngokwenene: impilo yam yengqondo.

Ewe, andindedwa. Abaninzi bethu bachitha iiyure bephanda ngesitya sokulala, isihlalo semoto, kunye nombala wepeyinti kwigumbi lomntwana wethu. Sibhala ngocoselelo izicwangciso zokuzalwa, sizingela oyena gqirha wabantwana, kwaye sikhusele ukhathalelo oluqinileyo lomntwana.

Kwaye ngelixa ezi zibaluleke kakhulu, nazo (umbala wepeyinti mhlawumbi ungaphantsi), impilo yethu yengqondo iba yinto elandelayo - ukuba sicinga ngayo kwaphela.

Ngoba?

NgokukaKate Rope, umbhali we "Strong as a Mother: How to Stay Healthy, Happy, and (Most Most Most) Sane from Pregnancy to Parenthood," ngokwembali, sithatha ukuba ngumama njengotshintsho lwendalo, olulula nolonwabisayo esicinga ukuba yenzeke nje ukuba sizise abantwana bethu ekhaya.

Uluntu lwethu lukwazisa impilo yomzimba-kodwa luyisaphulelo ngokupheleleyo kwimpilo yengqondo. Yeyiphi, xa ucinga nyani ngayo, iyahlekisa. Njengokuba intambo isitsho, "ingqondo yinxalenye yomzimba wethu njengesisu kunye nesibeleko."

Kum, kwakusemva kokufunda incwadi enengqiqo kaRope, iminyaka eliqela emva Ndizale, ukuba ndiyakuqonda ukubaluleka kokubeka phambili impilo yengqondo kuyo yonke umama.

Kulungile phambi kwethu, kodwa asijonganga kuyo

"Impilo yengqondo yeyona nto iphambili ekubelekeni," utshilo u-Elizabeth O'Brien, uLPC, PMH-C, ugqirha wezengqondo ogxile ekukhulelweni nakwimpilo yasemva kokubeleka kwaye ungumongameli wesahluko saseGeorgia wePostpartum Support International.

Uyaphawula ukuba kwiintsuku zokuqala ezili-10 ukuya kwezili-14, malunga neepesenti ezingama-60 ukuya kuma-80 zeepesenti zoomama abaza kufumana uluvo lweentsana ezitshintsha-tshintshayo kunye neemvakalelo zokudinwa.

Esona sizathu siphambili? IHormone.

"Ukuba ujonga ukwehla kwehomoni yakho emva kokuzalwa kwitshathi, [yi] rollercoaster ukukhwela awusoze ufune ukuqhubeka," utshilo u-O'Brien. Ukwaphawula ukuba wonke umntu uphendula ngokwahlukileyo kolu hlobo, kwaye ngekhe wazi ukuba uza kuphendula uthini de ube ukuyo.

Ukuya kuthi ga kwi-1 koomama be-5 bayakufumana imeko ye-infinatal okanye uxinzelelo loxinzelelo, ethi intambo iphindwe kabini kunesifo seswekile sokukhulelwa.

Njengokuba ufunda, usenokucinga, Ndiyoyika ngokusemthethweni. Kodwa, ukuphazamiseka kokubeleka kunye nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo iyanyangeka kakhulu. Kwaye ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kuye kukhawuleze.

Isitshixo kukudala isicwangciso esibonakalayo sezempilo yengqondo. Nantsi indlela:

Qala ngokulala

Ngokuka-O'Brien, ukulala kubalulekile. "Ukuba umzimba wakho uqhuba ungenanto, kunzima kakhulu ukubamba naziphi na izakhono zokulwa okanye izicwangciso ezikhoyo phaya."

Bobabini u-O'Brien kunye nentambo bagxininisa uku-ayina indlela oza kufumana ngayo iiyure ezi-3 zokulala ungaphazanyiswa (ngumjikelo wokulala opheleleyo).

Mhlawumbi ungatshintsha iishifti okanye ubusuku bokuthengisa kunye neqabane lakho. Omnye umama kwincwadi kaRope waphakama phakathi kwentsimbi ye-10. kunye no-2 ekuseni, ngelixa umyeni wakhe evuka phakathi kwe-2 kusasa kunye ne-6 kusasa kwaye babenokujikeleza ebusuku.

Enye indlela kukucela umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho okanye uqeshe umongikazi wasebusuku.

Chonga abantu bakho (okanye umntu)

Intambo icebisa ukuba ufumane umntu omnye okhuselekileyo onokuthi kuye.

“Mna nomyeni wam senza isivumelwano ngaphambi kokuba sifumane umntwana wethu wokuqala. Ndingathetha nantoni na kuye [njengokuthi] ‘Akwaba bendingengomama’ okanye ‘ndiyamcaphukela usana lwam,’ utshilo uRope, owayenexhala emva kokubeleka. Endaweni yokusabela ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokuzikhusela, ebendifunela uncedo. ”

Ukuba akukho mntu uziva ukhululekile ukuthetha naye, tsalela umnxeba kwi "Postpartum Support International (PSI). Kwisithuba seeyure ezingama-24, umntu oyiqondayo into ohamba kuyo uyakubuyisa umnxeba kwaye akuncede ufumane isibonelelo sengingqi.

Ishedyuli yokuhamba

Ukuzilolonga lunyango oluqinisekisiweyo loxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kunye neminye imiba yezempilo yengqondo, utsho intambo.

Yiyiphi imisebenzi oyithandayo? Ungalenza njani ixesha labo?

Oku kunokuthetha ukuba ubuze umntu omthandayo ukuba abukele umntwana wakho ngelixa usenza i-yoga yemizuzu eli-10 kwiYouTube. Kungathetha ukuthatha ukuhamba kwasekuseni nosana lwakho okanye ukuzolula ngaphambi kokulala.

Joyina amaqela omama

Unxibelelwano lubalulekile kwimpilo yethu yengqondo, ngakumbi xa ixesha lokuqala lokuba ngumama linokuziva lodwa.

Ngaba isixeko sakho sinamaqela omama ngabantu? Bhalisa kwangaphambili. Ukuba akunjalo, i-PSI inoluhlu lwezinto onokuzenza kwi-Intanethi.

Yazi konke iimpawu zokuphazamiseka komzimba

Xa sicinga ngoomama abanokudakumba, sibonisa iimpawu zakudala. Usizi olunzulu ngamathambo. Ukudinwa.

Nangona kunjalo, intambo ithi kuqhelekile ukuba ube noxinzelelo kunye nomsindo obomvu. Oomama banokude babe ziintambo kwaye bavelise kakhulu. Intambo ibandakanya uluhlu olubanzi lweempawu kwiwebhusayithi yakhe.

Qinisekisa ukuba abantu bakho benkxaso bayayazi le miqondiso, kwaye isicwangciso sakho sibandakanya amagama kunye neenombolo zabaqeqeshi bezempilo yengqondo.

Ngexesha lokugqibela oomama bembona u-O'Brien bahlala bemxelela, "bekufanele ukuba ndidibene nawe kwiinyanga ezi-4 ezidlulileyo, kodwa bendinenkungu kwaye ndingazi ukuba ndifuna ntoni okanye ndize njani apho."

Yenza isivumelwano

Abasetyhini abaye balwa noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ngaphambi kokukhulelwa (okanye ngexesha lokukhulelwa) basemngciphekweni owandayo wokuphazamiseka kwemeko yengqondo. Yiyo le nto u-O'Brien ecebisa ukuba izibini zihlale phantsi zigqibe isivumelwano sasemva kokubeleka.

U-O'Brien uthi: "Ukuba ngumama kunzima. “Kodwa bekungafuneki ukuba ubandezeleke.”

Ufanele ukuba nesicwangciso esihlonipha impilo yakho yengqondo.

UMargarita Tartakovsky, MS, ngumbhali ozimeleyo kunye nomhleli onxulumene naye kwi-PsychCentral.com. Uye wabhala ngempilo yengqondo, isayikholoji, ukubonwa komzimba, kunye nokuzikhathalela ngaphezulu kweshumi leminyaka. Uhlala eFlorida nomyeni wakhe kunye nentombi yabo. Unokufunda ngakumbi kwi-https: //www.margaritatartakovsky.com.