Xa uNyana wam eneAtism enyibilika ezantsi, Nantsi into endiyenzayo

Umxholo

• Kukho umahluko phakathi kokunyanzelwa kweendlela zokuziphatha kunye nokukhuthaza ukuzimela
• Kufuneka wenze ntoni ngexesha lokuphakama okukhulu, eluntwini
• 1. Yiba novelwano
• 2. Benze bazive bekhuselekile kwaye bethandwa
• 3. Shenxisa isohlwayo
• 4. Gxila emntwaneni wakho, ungajongi nje kubantu ababukeleyo
• 5. Yaphula izixhobo zakho zeemvakalelo
• 6. Bafundise iindlela zokulwa xa bezolile

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

Ndihleli eofisini yesayikholojisti yomntwana ndimxelela ngonyana wam oneminyaka emithandathu ubudala one-autism.

Le yayiyintlanganiso yethu yokuqala ukubona ukuba singakulungela na ukusebenza kunye ekuvavanyeni nasekuchongeni ngokusesikweni, ke unyana wam ebengekho.

Umlingane wam kunye nam ndamxelela ngokukhetha kwethu imfundo yasekhaya kunye nendlela esingazange sisebenzise ngayo isohlwayo njengendlela yoqeqesho.

Ukuqhubeka kwentlanganiso, iincwadana zakhe ziye zaba ngathi zii-hawk.

Ndisibonile isigwebo kwintetho yakhe xa wayeqala monologue malunga nendlela ekufuneka ndinyanzele ngayo unyana wam ukuba aye esikolweni, ndimnyanzele kwiimeko ezimenza angakhululeki kakhulu, kwaye ndimnyanzele ukuba ahlalisane nokuba uziva njani ngayo.

Nyanzela, nyanzelisa.

Ndaziva ngathi ufuna ukufaka isimilo sakhe ebhokisini, emva koko uhlale ngaphezulu.

Ngokwenyani, umntwana ngamnye one-autism wahlukile kwaye wahlukile kuluntu olubona luqhelekile. Awunakuze ulingane ubuhle babo kunye nobuhle babo ebhokisini.

Siyalile iinkonzo zakhe kwaye safumana ukulungela okungcono kusapho lwethu - kunyana wethu.

Kukho umahluko phakathi kokunyanzelwa kweendlela zokuziphatha kunye nokukhuthaza ukuzimela

Ndifundile kumava ukuba ukuzama ukunyanzela ukuzimela akukho nto, nokuba umntwana wakho une-autism.

Xa sityhala umntwana, ngakumbi umntu othanda ukuba nexhala kunye nokuba ngqongqo, imeko yabo yendalo kukumba izithende zabo kwaye zibambe ziqine.

Xa sinyanzela umntwana ukuba ajongane noloyiko, kwaye ndithetha ukukhwaza phantsi uloyiko, njengoWhitney Ellenby, umama owayefuna ukuba unyana wakhe one-autism abone uElmo, asibancedi ngokwenyani.

Ukuba ndinyanzelwe kwigumbi eligcwele izigcawu, ngekhe ndikwazi ukuzikhupha kwingqondo yam ngelinye ixesha ukuze ndinyamezele emva kweeyure ezingama-40 zokumemeza. Oko akuthethi ukuba ndinendlela ethile yokuphumelela okanye yokuphumelela ekujonganeni noloyiko lwam.

Ndikwacinga ukuba ndingazigcina ezo traumas kwaye ziya kuhlala zibangelwa kamva ebomini bam.

Ewe kunjalo, ukutyhala inkululeko akusoloko kugqithisile kwimeko ye-Elmo okanye kwigumbi eligcwele izigcawu. Konke oku kutyhala kuwela kumabala ahlukeneyo ukusuka ekukhuthazeni umntwana othandabuzayo (oku kuhle kwaye akufuneki kungabikho ntambo iqhotyoshelweyo kwisiphumo-Bayeke bathi hayi!) Ukubanyanzela ngokwasemzimbeni kwimeko apho ingqondo yabo ikhwaza Ingozi.

Xa sivumela abantwana bethu ukuba bakhululeke ngesantya sabo kwaye ekugqibeleni bathabathe elo nyathelo ngokuzithandela kwabo, ukuzithemba nokwenene kuyakhula.

Oko kwathethi, ndiyaqonda ukuba wayevela phi umama ka-Elmo. Siyazi ukuba abantwana bethu bangonwabela nawuphi na umsebenzi ukuba bangazama nje.

Sifuna ukuba bazive bonwabile. Sifuna ukuba babe nesibindi kwaye bazalise ukuzithemba. Sifuna ukuba "balingane" kuba siyazi ukuba kunjani ukwaliwa.

Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sidinwe kakhulu ukuba sibe nomonde kwaye sibe novelwano.

Kodwa amandla ayondlela yokuphumeza uvuyo, ukuzithemba- okanye ukuzola.

Kufuneka wenze ntoni ngexesha lokuphakama okukhulu, eluntwini

Xa umntwana wethu ene-meltdown, abazali bahlala befuna ukumisa iinyembezi kuba kubuhlungu iintliziyo zethu ukuba abantwana bethu bayasokola. Okanye siphelelwa ngumonde kwaye sifuna nje uxolo nokuzola.

Amaxesha amaninzi, sijamelana nokunyibilika kwesihlanu okanye kwesesithandathu ngaloo ntsasa ngaphezulu kwezinto ezibonakala zilula njengethegi yehempe zabo irhawuzelela kakhulu, udade wabo ethethela phezulu kakhulu, okanye utshintsho kwizicwangciso.

Abantwana abane-autism abalile, benza isijwili, okanye bavutha ukuze basifikele ngandlela thile.

Bayalila kuba yinto ekufuneka yenziwe yimizimba yabo ngalo mzuzu ukukhupha uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo zokuziva bexinekile ziimvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo zovuselelo.

Iingqondo zabo zixutywe ngokwahlukileyo kwaye ke yindlela abadibana ngayo nehlabathi. Yinto leyo ekufuneka size kuyo njengabazali ukuze sikwazi ukubaxhasa ngeyona ndlela.

Ke singabaxhasa njani ngokufanelekileyo abantwana bethu kwezi zinto zihlala ziphakamile kwaye zigqibekile?

1. Yiba novelwano

Uvelwano luthetha ukumamela nokuvuma umzabalazo wabo ngaphandle kokugweba.

Ukuchaza iimvakalelo ngendlela esempilweni- nokuba kungokulila, ukulila, ukudlala, okanye ukubhala ijenali-kulungile kubo bonke abantu, nokuba ezi mvakalelo ziziva zinzima kakhulu kubukhulu bazo.

Umsebenzi wethu kukukhokela ngobunono abantwana bethu kwaye sibanike izixhobo zokuziveza ngendlela engonzakalisi imizimba yabo okanye abanye.

Xa sinovelwano nabantwana bethu kwaye siqinisekisa amava abo, baziva beviwe.

Wonke umntu ufuna ukuziva eve, ngakumbi umntu oziva ngathi akaqondwa kwaye aphume kancinci kunye nabanye.

2. Benze bazive bekhuselekile kwaye bethandwa

Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bethu balahlekile kwiimvakalelo zabo kangangokuba abasiva. Kwezi meko, konke ekufuneka sikwenzile kukuhlala nje okanye ukusondela kubo.

Amaxesha amaninzi, sizama ukuthetha nabo ngenxa yoloyiko lwabo, kodwa ihlala iyinkcitha yokuphefumla xa umntwana ekwimeko yokunyibilika.

Into esinokuyenza kukubazisa ukuba bakhuselekile kwaye bayathandwa. Oku sikwenza ngokuhlala sisondele kubo njengoko bekhululekile.

Ndiphulukene nomkhondo wamaxesha apho ndibone umntwana okhalayo exelelwa ukuba banokuvela kuphela kwindawo efihlakeleyo bakuba beyekile ukuncibilika.

Oku kungathumela umyalezo emntwaneni ukuba akafanelekanga ukuba phakathi kwabantu abamthandayo xa besenzima. Ngokucacileyo, lo asingomyalezo wethu ekujoliswe kuwo kubantwana bethu.

Ke, sinokubabonisa ukuba sikhona kubo ngokuhlala sisondele.

3. Shenxisa isohlwayo

Isohlwayo sinokubenza abantwana bazive beneentloni, unxunguphalo, uloyiko kunye nenzondo.

Umntwana one-autism akakwazi ukulawula ukunyibilika kwabo, ngenxa yoko akufuneki bohlwaywe ngenxa yabo.

Endaweni yoko, kufuneka bavunyelwe indawo kunye nenkululeko yokukhala ngokuvakalayo nomzali apho, ebazisa ukuba bayaxhaswa.

4. Gxila emntwaneni wakho, ungajongi nje kubantu ababukeleyo

Ukunyibilika komntwana kuye nawuphi na umntwana kungangxola, kodwa badla ngokuya kwinqanaba elipheleleyo xa ingumntwana one-autism.

Oku kugqabhuka kunokuziva kuhlazisa abazali xa siphakathi kwabantu kwaye wonke umntu ujonge kuthi.

Sisiva isigwebo kwabanye besithi, "ngekhe ndivumele umntwana wam ukuba enze ngoluhlobo."

Okanye okubi kakhulu, siziva ngathi uloyiko lwethu olunzulu luqinisekisiwe: Abantu bacinga ukuba siyasilela kuyo yonke le nto yokuba ngumzali.

Ngexesha elizayo xa uzifumana ukulo mboniso kawonke-wonke wesiphithiphithi, ungayihoyi inkangeleko yokugweba, kwaye uthule elo lizwi langaphakathi loyikisayo lisithi awonelanga. Khumbula ukuba oyena mntu usokolayo kwaye ufuna olona xhaso lwakho ngumntwana wakho.

5. Yaphula izixhobo zakho zeemvakalelo

Gcina izixhobo zemvakalelo ezimbalwa okanye iithoyi kwimoto yakho okanye engxoweni. Ungabanika ezi zinto umntwana wakho xa ingqondo yabo ikhathazekile.

Abantwana baneentandokazi ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ezinye izixhobo eziqhelekileyo zoluvo zibandakanya iipads zesisindo, ii-headphone zokucima ingxolo, iiglasi zelanga kunye nezinto zokudlala.

Musa ukunyanzela oku emntwaneni wakho xa enyibilika, kodwa ukuba ukhetha ukuzisebenzisa, ezi mveliso zihlala zibanceda bazole.

6. Bafundise iindlela zokulwa xa bezolile

Akukho nto ininzi esinokuyenza ngexesha lokunyibilika kude sizame ukufundisa abantwana bethu izixhobo zokuphelisa, kodwa xa bekwimo enoxolo kunye nokuphumla kwengqondo, sinokusebenza kulawulo lweemvakalelo kunye.

Unyana wam uphendula kakuhle ekuhambeni kwendalo, ukuziqhelanisa neyoga mihla le (ayithandayo yiCosmic Kids Yoga), kunye nokuphefumla okunzulu.

Ezi ndlela zokulwa nazo ziya kubanceda ukuba bazole- mhlawumbi ngaphambi kokunyibilika-nokuba ungekho.

Uvelwano lusentliziyweni yawo onke la manyathelo okujongana nokunyibilika kwengqondo.

Xa sijonga indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wethu njengendlela yoqhakamshelwano, iyasinceda ukuba sibajonge njengabasokolayo endaweni yokungahloneli.

Ngokugxila kwisiseko sezenzo zabo, abazali bayakuqonda ukuba abantwana abane-autism banokuthi: "Isisu sam sibuhlungu, kodwa andikwazi ukuqonda into endixelelwa yona ngumzimba wam; Ndibuhlungu kuba abantwana abayi kudlala ngam; Ndifuna ukuvuselelwa okungakumbi; Ndifuna ukukhuthazwa okuncinci; Ndidinga ukwazi ukuba ndikhuselekile kwaye uzakundinceda kule nkqwithela yeemvakalelo kuba iyandoyikisa nam. "

Ilizwi indelelo unokwehla kwisigama sethu sokunyibilika ngokupheleleyo, endaweni yovelwano novelwano. Kwaye ngokubonisa abantwana bethu imfesane, sinokubaxhasa ngokufanelekileyo ngokunyibilika kwabo.

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