Yeyiphi intombazana ethetha noMakhulu wakho enokukufundisa ngobudlelwane obuphilileyo

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Ngaba ujonge ukunonga incoko yesidlo sangokuhlwa seholide ngaphezu kokusongelwa kwevenkile enkulu? Kuyavela ukuba, abanye abantu abayimizekelo emihle yezesondo ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu bakho (okanye nabani na ongowesizukulwana okanye ababini abadala kunawe), utsho uJoan Price, ingcali ngesondo kunye nombhali wencwadi. Zethu Kwixesha lethu: Ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo ngesondo sabadala.

"Isizukulwana ngasinye sicinga ukuba ngowokuqala ukuba neentlobano zesini, xa oko ngokucacileyo akunjalo! Kodwa ukuqonda ukuba isondo siqhubeka kulo lonke ixesha lobomi bakho, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, kunokuba ngcono ngakumbi kunye nobudala, kunokukunceda ukuba ujabulele oko unakho " ndikhona ngoku,” utshilo.

Ivakala ingakhululeki, kodwa inokuba luncedo kwizityhilelo. Apha, ezinye izizathu ezintathu zokuba uthethe ngesondo- okanye, heck, ukuzisa umakhulu ukuze abone 50 Izithunzi zeGrey-inokuba yinto enkulu kuni nobabini. (Ngokumalunga namalungu osapho athandekayo, fumana ukuba ungaJongana njani nezihlobo ezicaphukisayo ngexesha leeholide.)

Inika ukuqonda kwakho kwinto eyenza ukuba usapho lwakho luphawule

Asitsho ukuba kufuneka utshintshe iinkcukacha malunga nezikhundla zakho ozithandayo, kodwa ungene kwi-convo emsulwa ngokubuza ukuba isini sasinjani ngomhla wakhe, okanye iingcinga zakhe kwinqaku elenza ujikeleze phakathi kweentombi zakho. Unokufumanisa ukuba umakhulu wakho uthethelela ngokukrakra, okanye umama wakho unqwenela ukuba uchithe ixesha lokuthandana ngaphambi kokuba yena notata wakho bazinze. Nokuba yintoni na i-intel, ukuva ukuqonda kwabo kubudlelwane babo kunokukunika ilensi entsha yokujonga eyakho, amaxabiso athi.

Ikuvumela ukuba ubone ukuba ukusondelelana kuthatha zonke iiFomu

Mhlawumbi umakhulu wakho notatomkhulu basancamisana rhoqo kusasa, mhlawumbi umama wakho usaya kulala ngaxeshanye notata wakho-ukubona indlela izizukulwana ezikhulileyo eziziqhelanisa ngayo nokutshintsha kwemizimba yazo kunye nendlela yokuphila sisikhumbuzo esinamandla sokuba isondo kunye nolonwabo azikho. Ayisenzelwa abantu abatsha kuphela, ukhumbuza uXabiso. "Ngokuya ukhula, kokukhona uzithemba ngakumbi kokukusebenzelayo nakwinto ekufuneka uyifumene kwaye ugcine ulonwabo," utshilo. Ukwazi ukuba ootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu bakho bagcina uthando luyinto ephambili-kuyo nayiphi na indlela ebathathayo-sisikhumbuzo esinamandla sokwenza okufanayo ebomini bakho. (Kwimeko apho isikhumbuzi sethamsanqa wena kunye neswidi yakho nithatha indawo, funda ukuba ungabelana njani ngesondo kwindlu yabazali bakho.)

Sisikhumbuzo sokuba isondo libangcono ngokukhula

Ubuza umakhulu wakho ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndawo ilungileyo kuhambo lwakhe lwamva nje, kwaye yena notatomkhulu wakho batshintshiselana ngenkangeleko nokuba neentloni. Kuxhathise umnqweno wokurhaxwa, kwaye endaweni yoko, jonga oku njengesikhumbuzo sokuba isondo esimnandi, esinenkanuko, esingalibalekiyo sinokwenzeka kungakhathaliseki ukuba yeyiphi ishumi leminyaka ozalwe ngayo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuyatshintsha, kodwa kunokuba nobuchule ngakumbi kwaye buqine njengoko usiya ukhula kuba uyazazi ukuba ungubani,” ucacise watsho uPrice.

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