Endikufundileyo malunga nePsoriasis yam kuMtshato wam ongaphumelelanga

Umxholo

• Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yincoko engathandekiyo
• Eyokuqala ityhila
• Wayeyibonile yonke
• Endikufundileyo emtshatweni ongaphumelelanga

Ukuba une-psoriasis kwaye uzive unxunguphalo malunga nokuthandana, ndingathanda ukuba wazi ukuba awuwedwa kwezi ngcinga. Ndakhe ndahlala ne-psoriasis eqatha ukusukela xa ndandineminyaka esixhenxe, kwaye ndandicinga ukuba andinakuze ndilufumane uthando okanye ndikhululeke ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingathandana nomntu. Kunokubakho icala elihlazo le-psoriasis elingenakho ukuqondwa ngabo bangenaso isifo: ukubhabha, ukurhawuzelela, ukopha, uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, ukuqeshwa koogqirha, nokunye okuninzi.

Kwaye, ukuthandana kunokuba nzima ngokwaneleyo ngaphandle kwengxaki eyongeziweyo yokulawula isifo esifana ne-psoriasis. Sele unovalo malunga nokuba uzothini kwaye wenze ntoni. Ngaphezulu kwelo, ukuziva ungazithembi ukuba umhla wakho unokuhlawula ngakumbi i-psoriasis yakho ebonakalayo kunawe? Ayisiyiyo kanye imbono yakho yangokuhlwa yothando.

Ayothusi ke into yokuba i-National Psoriasis Foundation ifumanise ukuba iipesenti ezingama-35 zabaphenduli kolu phando zathi "banqamle ukuthandana okanye unxibelelwano olusondeleyo ngenxa ye-psoriasis yabo." Abantu abaphila ne-psoriasis banokukwenza oku ngenxa yokoyika ukwaliwa okanye ukungaqondwa. Ukuba uthandana ngelixa uhlala ne-psoriasis, unokuzibuza imibuzo efana nale:

"Ngubani oza kundithanda ngala macwecwe okanye ulusu lwam?"

“Ndiza kumxelela njani umntu ngesifo sam?”

“Ndibaxelele nini?”

"Baza kucinga ntoni xa beqala ukubona ulusu lwam?"

“Ngaba basaya kundithanda?”

Ndilapha ukukuxelela ukuba ukusondelelana ngokuqinisekileyo kuyenzeka kuwe. Ndadibana nowayesakuba ngumyeni wam ngaphezulu kweminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo kwikhampasi yeAlabama State University. Yayiluthando ekuqaleni kokubona. Sibonane, sahamba ngomhla wethu wokuqala kwangolo suku, kwaye sahlulwa. Nangona ngoku siqhawule umtshato (ebengenanto yakwenza nesifo sam, ngendlela), ndafunda izinto ezintle ngokuthandana nangokutshata ngelixa ndine-psoriasis.

Eli nqaku alenzelwe kuphela umntu one-psoriasis, kodwa linokunceda iqabane okanye iqabane lomntu onesifo. Nantsi into endiyifundileyo.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yincoko engathandekiyo

Kwakumalunga nomhla wethu wesithathu kwaye ndandizama ukugqiba ukuba ndizophuma njani "egumbini" malunga nesifo sam. Bendingafuni ukwenza enye yezo ntlanganiso zihlala phantsi, ngenxa yoko bendifuna ukufumana indlela yokuyazisa ngokwendalo kwincoko.

Ngethamsanqa kwisigaba sokuqala sokuthandana, abantu bahlala bebuzana imibuzo emininzi. Oku kubanceda ukuba baqhelane ngcono. Ndithathe isigqibo sokuba ndiza kukhankanya i-psoriasis ngenye yeeseshoni zethu ze-Q & A.

Ngaxa lithile ngalo mhla, wandibuza into enje, "Ukuba ungatshintsha into ibenye ngawe ingayintoni?" Ndamxelela ukuba ndizakutshintsha into yokuba ndine-psoriasis. Emva koko, ndachaza ukuba yintoni kwaye yandenza ndaziva njani. Le yayiyindlela entle yokuvula incoko malunga ne-psoriasis, awayengazange weva ngayo ngaphambi kokudibana nam. Ndiyakwazi ukulinganisa inqanaba lakhe lokuthuthuzela ngesifo sam. Undibuze imibuzo eyongezelelekileyo, kodwa ngethoni yokufuna ukwazi. Emva koku ndikhululeke ngakumbi xa ndinaye.

Eyokuqala ityhila

Abanye abantu abane-psoriasis banxiba iimpahla ezifihla ngokupheleleyo isifo sabo. Ngenxa ye-psoriasis yam, andizange ndinxibe iimpahla eziveza ulusu lwam. Kuthathe ixesha elide ukubonisa umfana endandithandana naye imilenze neengalo zam.

Ixesha lokuqala awabona ngalo ulusu lwam kwakusemini yemovie endlwini yakhe. Ndize ngehempe yam emide enemikhono emide nebhlukhwe. Uye wandixelela ukuba andinantloni yokundicela wandicela ukuba ndiyokutshintsha ndinxibe enye yehempe zakhe ezinemikhono emifutshane, endenza ngokungathandabuzi. Ukuphuma kwam, ndikhumbula ndimi apho ndingonwabanga kwaye ndicinga, "Ndim lo, ndim lo." Uye wandiphuza enyusa nengalo yam wandixelela ukuba uyandithanda okanye akanalo ukhwekhwe. Kancinci kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, mna naye sasakha ukuthembana xa kufikwa kwisifo sam.

Wayeyibonile yonke

Ekugqibeleni, mna kunye naye baba sisondelelene, kwaye ngokungaqhelekanga yena nangoku khange ndibone ulusu lwam. Ndiyagigitheka ndicinga ngayo ngoku kuba inyani yokuba bendimthembe ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndimnye naye, kodwa ndingabonisi ulusu lwam ibonakala ngathi ayisosidenge.

Ekugqibeleni, wazibona ndedwa-kwaye hayi ulusu lwam kuphela, kodwa nayo yonke eminye imicimbi endijongene nayo ngenxa ye-psoriasis yam. Wayelingqina kuxinzelelo lwam, uxinzelelo, ixhala, ukuqeshwa koogqirha, ukuvutha komlilo, nokunye okuninzi. Saba bodwa ngeendlela ezininzi kunokuba ndandicinga ukuba siza kuba njalo. Nangona wayengenayo i-psoriasis, wajongana nayo yonke imiceli mngeni eza nayo kuba wayendithanda.

Endikufundileyo emtshatweni ongaphumelelanga

Nangona mna ne ex yam singasekho kunye, ngoncedo lokucamngca kunye neengcebiso siye sakwazi ukuhlala singabahlobo. Kuwo onke amahla-ndinyuka obudlelwane bethu, ndafunda into entle kumtshato wethu ongaphumelelanga: Ndiyathandwa kwaye ndamkelwe ngumntu ngentliziyo yam iphela nge-psoriasis yam. Leyo yinto endakha ndaziva ngathi ayinakwenzeka. Ngaphandle kweminye imicimbi awayenayo kunye nam, i-psoriasis yam ayizange ibe yenye yazo. Akazange, nakanye, asebenzise isifo sam kum xa enomsindo. Kuye, i-psoriasis yam yayingekho. Wabuxabisa ubumnandi bam, obungagqitywanga sisifo sam.

Ukuba woyika ngokungaze ulufumane uthando lobomi bakho ngenxa ye-psoriasis yakho, mandikuqinisekise ukuba unakho-kwaye uya kuyenza. Usenokudibana nezinye iidud ezingacaciswanga ngelixa uthandana, kodwa loo mava aya kukunceda ekubambeni kufutshane nomntu ekufanele ukuba abe kubomi bakho. Umntu olungele wena uya kulithanda kwaye alixabise lonke icandelo lakho, kubandakanya ne-psoriasis yakho.

Ngoku ndiqhawule umtshato, ezinye zezo nkxalabo zakudala ziye zabuya. Kodwa njengoko ndicinga, ndiyaqonda ukuba ukuba ndifumene uthando nokwamkelwa kanye ngaphambili, ndingaphinda ndikufumane kwakhona. Eyona nto intle endiyifundileyo kwi ex yam kukuba uthando yeyona nto ingaphezulu kwesikhumba.