Endinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukundixelela ngomhlaza wamabele

Umxholo

• Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukusebenzisa ii-cliches
• Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukundixelela ngezihlobo zabo eziswelekileyo
• Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukutyhala unyango oluthi alunamsebenzi kum
• Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukuxoxa ngenkangeleko yam
• Ukuthatha: Into endinqwenela ukuba uyenze

Andisoze ndizilibale iiveki zokuqala ezididayo emva kokuxilongwa ngumhlaza wamabele. Ndandinolwimi olutsha lwezonyango ekufuneka ndilufundile kunye nezigqibo ezininzi endiziva ukuba andikufanelanga kwaphela ukuzenza. Iintsuku zam bezizaliswa kukudinga abagqirha, kwaye ubusuku bam ngokufunda okundindisholo kwengqondo, ngethemba lokuqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kum. Kwakulixesha eloyikekayo, kwaye andizange ndibafune ngakumbi abahlobo bam kunye nosapho.

Nangona kunjalo izinto ezininzi abazithethayo, nangona zithetha ngobubele, zihlala zingakhokeleli kwintuthuzelo. Nazi izinto endinqwenela ukuba abantu bangatsho:

Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukusebenzisa ii-cliches

“Unesibindi / ulijoni / ulixhoba.”

"Uya kuyibetha le nto."

"Khange ndikwazi ukuyenza."

Kwaye eyona nto idume kakhulu kubo bonke, "Hlala unethemba."

Ukuba usibona sinesibindi, kungenxa yokuba awuzange ubekhona xa sasine-breakdown kwi-shower. Asiziva sinobuqhawe ngenxa yokuba sibonisa ukuqeshwa kogqirha wethu. Siyazi nokuba ungayenza, kuba akukho mntu unikwe ukhetho.

Amabinzana e-cheery athetha ukuphakamisa imeko yethu yeemvakalelo zezona zinzima ukuthatha. Umhlaza wam unqanaba 4, kude kube ngoku awunyangeki. Amathuba alungile ukuba andiyi "kulunga" ngonaphakade. Xa usithi, "Uyakukubetha oku" okanye "Hlala uqinisekile," kuvakala ngathi kuyala, ngokungathi uyayityeshela eyona nto yenzekayo. Thina zigulana siva, "Lo mntu akaqondi."

Akufanele sicetyiswe ukuba sihlale sinethemba xa sijamelene nomhlaza kwaye mhlawumbi nokufa. Kwaye kuya kufuneka sivunyelwe ukuba silile, nokuba oko kukwenza ungakhululeki. Musa ukulibala: Kukho amakhulu amawaka amabhinqa amangalisayo kunye nezona zimo zengqondo ngoku emangcwabeni abo. Kufuneka sive ukuvuma kobukhulu bento esijongane nayo, hayi iingcinga.

Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukundixelela ngezihlobo zabo eziswelekileyo

Sabelana nomntu ngeendaba zethu ezimbi, kwaye kwangoko loo mntu uxela amava omhlaza wosapho. “Owu, umalume-khulu wam wayenomhlaza. Wafa."

Ukwabelana ngamava obomi omnye komnye yinto abantu abayenzayo ukubalisa, kodwa njengezigulana ezinomhlaza, sisenokungakulungeli ukuva malunga nokusilela okusilindeleyo. Ukuba uziva kufuneka wabelane ngebali lomhlaza, qiniseka ukuba lelo liphela kakuhle. Siyazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba ukufa kusenokuba sesiphelo sale ndlela, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba nguwe omele usixelele. Yiloo nto oogqirha bethu benzelwe. Okundizisa ku…

Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukutyhala unyango oluthi alunamsebenzi kum

"Awazi ukuba iswekile iyawondla umhlaza?"

“Ukhe wazama iinkozo zeapilkosi exutywe neturmeric okwangoku?”

"Isoda yokubhaka yinyango yomhlaza efihliweyo yiBig Pharma!"

“Kutheni ubeka la chemo inetyhefu emzimbeni wakho? Kufuneka uhambe ngokwendalo! ”

Ndine-oncologist eqeqeshwe kakhulu endikhokelayo. Ndifundile iincwadi zebhayoloji zekholeji kunye namanqaku eendaba angenakubalwa. Ndiyayiqonda indlela osebenza ngayo umhlaza wam, imbali yesi sifo, nokuba sinzima kangakanani. Ndiyazi ukuba akukho nto ilula izakusombulula le ngxaki, kwaye andikholelwa kwiithiyori zelenqe. Ezinye izinto zingaphaya kolawulo lwethu, nto leyo eyoyikisayo kwabaninzi, kunye nenkuthazo yezinye zezi nkolelo.

Xa ixesha lifika lokuba umhlobo afumane umhlaza kwaye angavumi unyango ukuze afake umzimba wabo kwisongelo seplastiki ukubila esi sifo, andizukuhambisa ezam izimvo. Endaweni yokuba ndibanqwenelele okuhle. Kwangelo xesha, ndingavuya ngembeko efanayo. Yinto elula yentlonipho kunye nokuthembela.

Ndinqwenela ukuba abantu bayeke ukuxoxa ngenkangeleko yam

“Unethamsanqa - ufumana umsebenzi wenkululeko!”

“Intloko yakho imile kakuhle.”

"Awukhangeleki ngathi unomdlavuza."

"Kutheni uneenwele nje?"

Andizange ndikuncome kangako ukubonakala kwam njengoko ndenzayo xa kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndinesi sifo. Ngokwenene kuye kwandenza ndazibuza ukuba abantu bacinga ukuba izigulana ezinomhlaza zijongeka kanjani. Ngokusisiseko, sijongeka njengabantu. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abanempandla, ngamanye amaxesha akunjalo. Inkqayi yexeshana kwaye, nokuba intloko yethu imile okwe peanut, idome, okanye inyanga, sinezinto ezikhulu zokucinga ngazo.

Xa ubeka izimvo kwimo yentloko yethu, okanye ubonakala umangalisiwe kukuba sijongeka ngokufanayo, siziva ngathi singaphandle, sahlukile kunabo bonke abantu. Ahem: Asifumani mabele amatsha. Ibizwa ngokuba kukuphinda kwakhiwe kuba bazama ukubeka into kwakhona ukuze yonakaliswe okanye isuswe. Ayisoze ijongeke okanye izive yendalo.

Njengenqaku elisecaleni? Igama "inhlanhla" kunye "nomhlaza" akufuneki libhangqwe kunye. Ngonaphakade. Ngayiphi na indlela.

Ukuthatha: Into endinqwenela ukuba uyenze

Ewe, thina baguli abanomhlaza sonke siyazi ukuba ubuthetha kakuhle, nokuba into oyithethileyo ibingaqhelekanga. Kodwa kuya kuba luncedo ngakumbi ukwazi ukuba uthini, andithi?

Kukho ibinzana elinye elisebenza kuzo zonke iimeko, nakubo bonke abantu, kwaye yile: "Ndibuhlungu kakhulu ngale nto yenzekileyo kuwe." Awudingi okungaphezulu koko.

Ukuba uyafuna, ungongeza, "Ngaba ungathanda ukuthetha ngayo?" Kwaye ke… mamela nje.

U-Ann Silberman kwafunyaniswa ukuba unomhlaza webele ngo-2009. Uye wenziwa utyando izihlandlo ezininzi kwaye ukwinkqubo yakhe yesibhozo ye-chemo, kodwa uhlala encumile. Unokululandela uhambo lwakhe kwibhlog yakhe, kodwa Gqirha… Ndiyayicaphukela iPinki!