Kuthetha Ukuthini ukuba neSinisexual?

Umxholo

• Ithetha ukuthini i-pansexual?
• Ubungqingili ≠ polyamory
• I-Pansexual vs. bisexual
• Ixhaphake kangakanani ipansexuality?
• Ndiyazi njani ukuba ndiyintlobano yesini?
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Amandla ombane azenzele wona uTess Holliday, uJanelle Monea, uBella Thorne, uMiley Cyrus, kunye noKesha bashukumisa ukutya kwakho kwezentlalo kunye neqonga nge-badassery yabo, ubunyani, italente kunye ... neqhayiya le-pansexual! Ewe, ufunda ngokuchanekileyo. Zonke ezi ntsana zitshintsha ihlabathi zichonga njenge-pansexual.

Igama elithi 'pansexual' likho kwaye lisetyenziswa iminyaka emininzi-mininzi, ngokwesini, ngokwesini, kunye nomphandi wobuhlanga uDella V. Mosley, Ph.D., unjingalwazi oncedisayo wezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseFlorida. Kodwa ukuba ngequbuliso uyiva ngakumbi kwaye uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini i-pansexual, awuyicingi. UMosley ucinga ukuba, ngenxa yokuba bekukho "inani elandayo labantu abadumileyo ngokwesini ngaphandle bezibonakalisa njenge-pansexual, kuye kwakho ukonyuka kokuchaphazeleka kweli xesha." Inyani eyonwabisayo: Kukho neflegi ethile ye-pansexual ebandakanya umbala obomvana, omthubi noluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka.

Nangona kunjalo, ukukwazi ukudwelisa abanye abantu abadumileyo be-pansexual kwahlukile ekwazini ukuba kuthetha ukuthini. Ukuba uyonwaya intloko uzibuza, "yintoni ipansexual?" ufike endaweni elungileyo. Apha ngezantsi, uMosley noJamie LeClaire, utitshala wezesondo ojolise kwezesini kunye nesini, phendula yonke imibuzo yakho, kubandakanya: Yintoni ubufanasini? Nguwuphi umahluko phakathi kwepansexual kunye nesini? Wazi njani ukuba uyatshata?

Ithetha ukuthini i-pansexual?

Ngokwenxalenye, inkcazo ye "pansexual" ixhomekeke ekubeni ubuza bani. Kungenxa yokuba akukho namnye, kodwa Mbini Inkcazo eyamkelwe ngokubanzi ye-pansexual, utsho uMosley.

"Ngamanye amaxesha i-pansexuality ichazwa njengomtsalane kumntunokuba yesazisi sabo ngokwesini okanye isini," utshilokonke ubuni besini okanye isini, utshilo, nto leyo icacisa gca isimaphambili "pan-", esithetha "konke."

Zombini iinkcazo ze-pansexual ziyavuma ukuba uchazo lwesini lukhona kwi-spectrum. Intsingiselo, kunokuba umiselwe nje indoda kwayeumfazi, isazisi somntu othile sinokuba yi-agender, androgynous, bigender, okanye isini-fluid, isini-queer, okanye esingezizo ezambini (ukubala nje ezimbalwa). Kwaye i-pansexuality kuthetha ukuba ungatsala abantu abachonga njenge / ngayo nayiphi na kwezi zinto zichaziweyo ngokwesini. (Bona ngakumbi: Eyona nto ithethwayo kukuba yiSini Fluid okanye uchonge njengeNgekho -Bhinary

Ke, ngokulula, yintoni ipansexual? Ukuba ne-pansexual kuthetha ukuba uyakwazi ukutsaleleka emntwini kwaye akuxhomekeke kwisini okanye kwisini, utshilo uLeClaire. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo banokuya kwintliziyo-iso-emoji yomntu nakoluphi na ulwalamano ngokwesini, isazisi, ukubonisa ngokwesini, okanye isini (aka amalungu esini).

Kwaye, hayi, ukuba ngokwesiniayenzi kuthetha ukuba uzolala nabani.

Ukuba ufunda oko njengokuqhwaba-thetha, uyifunda kakuhle. "I-pansexual yoluntu ijongene nale ntsomi kakhulu xa beveza isazisi sabo kubantu abangaziyo ukuba kuthetha ntoni," utshilo uMosley. Kodwa i-pansexuality ayihambelani nokuziphatha okubi okanye ubulili obugqithisileyo. (Eyeleleneyo: Kukangaphi wonke umntu esabelana ngesondo ngenene?)

Ubungqingili ≠ polyamory

UMosley uthi enye intsomi eqhelekileyo ayivayo malunga ne-pansexuality kukuba lelinye igama elithi polyamory. Ayiyo.

"I-Polyamory inento yokwenza nokuba uvuleleke ekubeni nokuba neqabane elingaphezulu kwesinye ngexesha-ngokuchasene nokuba neqabane elinye kuphela, oko kukuthi kubudlelwane obunye bokuthandana ngexesha elinye," uyacacisa. Ukuba kwi-pansexual akunyanzeli uhlobo lobudlelwane umntu aya kuba nalo. Umntu ongatshatanga ngokwesini unokukhetha ukuba, kwaye onwabe, nokuba kungobudlelwane be-polyamorous okanye i-monogamous, utshilo. (Bona ngakumbi: Nantsi into ebubudlelane bePolyamorous eyiyo-kwaye ayisiyiyo)

I-Pansexual vs. bisexual

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-pansexuality kunye ne-bisexuality? Uninzi lwabantu lunjalo. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu babhidanise ukungathandani nomntu ongatshatanga naye (aka ukuthandana nothando ngesini esinye kunye nesini), utshilo uLeClaire. (Le LGBTQ + Iglosari iya kucacisa amanye amagama, nayo.)

Kuyinyani: Ezi lebhile zinendawo enye, utsho uMosley. Kwaye njengokuba ubungqingili bunezincazelo ezimbalwa, kunjalo nangokwabelana ngesondo.

Okokuqala, yintoni ubundlobongela?

Ngokwembali, ubungqingili babuchazwa njengomtsalane wothando, umtsalane wesini, okanye umdla wesini kubo bobabini nabasetyhini. "Inkoliso yeenkcazelo zokuziphatha ngokwesini ozifumanayo kwiincwadi zezifundo zazenziwe ngexesha apho inkcubeko noluntu ngokubanzi lwalusaqondwa njengesini njengebhanari," ucacisa uLeClaire.

Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ukuqondwa kwesini kuye kwavela, injalo nenkcazo yesini esibini.Ngoku, ngokweZiko leZibonelelo zoLuntu oluNgezelelweyo, isini ngoku kuthetha "ukutsalwa kukuthandana kunye / okanye ngokwesondo ngaphezulu kwesini esinye." Abanye abantu abachonga njengabantu abatshatileyo bayichaza njengokutsaleleka kubo bobabini isini 1) njengabo no-2) ngokungafaniyo nabo, utshilo uLeclaire, ngokunqwala kwisimaphambili "bi" (esithetha ukuba zimbini). (Nantsi isikhokelo esipheleleyo sokuba zithini izini kunye nendlela yokwazi ukuba unokuba bi.)

Yima, ke yintoni umahluko phakathi kwepansexual kunye nesini?

Nantsi eyona ndlela yokucinga ngayo: Ubufanasini kukutsala umntu nokuba yesini sabo, ngelixa ubungqingili kukutsala ngaphezulu kwesini esinye.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba "kuthekani ukuba ndibabini?" AWUKHO wedwa; abanye abantu bachonga njengeBiPan (okanyeZombini isini esibini kunye ne-pansexual). Nangona kunjalo, ngesiqhelo, abo bachonga njenge-pansexual bayakwenza oko kuba kulunga kubo ngcono kunenye into engeyoyesini esinye, njengokwabelana ngesondo.

Okubangel 'umdla kukuba, kukwakho necandelo elikhulu lenkcubeko ekusetyenzisweni kwala magama, utsho uMosley: "Izinto ezifana nobudala, uhlanga, kunye nendawo yokuhlala zinokudlala indima enkulu kwinto ekhethwa ngumntu." Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, uye waqaphela ukuba abantu abakwishumi elivisayo kunye nama-20 kunokwenzeka ukuba basebenzise igama elithi 'pansexual' xa kuthelekiswa nabo bakwisithuba seminyaka engama-30 ukuya phezulu, ekunokwenzeka ukuba babe ne-ID 'njenge-bisexual.'

"Eyona nto ixhomekeke kuyo, enyanisweni, lukhetho lomntu siqu, kunye nelungelo lakho lobuqu lokuqinisekisa ubungqina bakho ukuba ubona kufanelekile njani," utshilo uLeClaire. "Ndizichonga ngokwam njenge-pansexual, kodwa ndiyibona iphantsi kwe-ambrela enkulu ye-bi + yesini." Uninzi lwabantu oluchonga ngokuchonga okungafaniyo nobufanasini luyavuma ukuba kukho indawo yazo zombini / zonke izazisi ezikhoyo ngaxeshanye. (I-FYI, kukho igama elitsha lesini esine-sex, sex skoliosexual, esinokuphikisana, kodwa kulungile ukwazi ngokunjalo.)

Yazi oku: Nokuba umntu uchonga ukuba ulala nabantu besini esinye okanye i-pansexual (okanye nabuphi na ubume baloo nto), lukhetho lwabo. Njengomgaqo ngokubanzi, ukuba umntu uthi bachonga njengento, bakholwe. Ukuba umntu uchonga njenge-pansexual / bisexual / njl. kodwa ayijongi okanye wenze ngendlela olindele ukuba umntu onesazisi ajongeke enze ngayo, yile Nina ingxaki. Ukupolisa isazisi somntu akupholanga phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko. (Izinto ezihambelanayo: Kutheni ubuza umhla wakho ukuba "uQueer ngokwaneleyo" akalunganga)

Ixhaphake kangakanani ipansexuality?

Lo mbuzo phantse awunakuphendulwa, utshilo uMosley. "Akukho phando lwaneleyo malunga ne-pansexuality yokwazi ukuba ixhaphake kangakanani, kwaye kunqabile ukuba uphando lunike olo khetho kubathathi-nxaxheba."

Ingxelo enye ye-2018 yeKomiti yamaLungelo oLuntu yafumanisa ukuba i-14 ekhulwini ye-LGBTQ + ulutsha luchonga njenge-pansexual, ephezulu kakhulu kunengxelo efanayo evela kwi-2012, ebonisa ukuba i-pansexuality iya ixhaphake. Nangona kunjalo, akukho datha iqinisekileyo malunga nokuba yiyiphi ipesenti yabantu bonke abayi-pansexual.

Ndiyazi njani ukuba ndiyintlobano yesini?

Akukho Vavanyo lwePansexual olusemthethweni ekufuneka uluthathile kwaye uludlulise ukuze uchonge iilebheli, kwaye akukho luvavanyo lunokukuxelela ngokucacileyo ukuba uyipansexual okanye awukho. Nokuba utsalane ngesondo okanye uyathandana okanye ubandakanyeka kubantu besini esahlukileyo oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uchonge njenge-pansexual. U-pansexual kuphela ukuba isazisi siziva silungile (okanye siziva uninzi ekunene) kuwe. (Idibeneyo: Njani "ukuphuma" kuphuculise impilo yam kunye nolonwabo)

Abanye abantu bafumanisa ukuba ukuba nexesha okanye inkqubo-sikhokelo yezinto abaziphilayo kunye namava abo kungakhulula, utshilo uMosley. "Kunyango lwam kunye nophando kunye nabantu be-pan / queer / bi +, ndihlala ndisiva ukuba ukuba neleyibhile kunye nolwimi lubanxibelelanisa noluntu, kunciphisa ukuzimela, ukudibanisa nezixhobo, kwaye kunokonyusa," utsho. U-LeClaire uyavuma, wongeza ukuba "ukufumana isazisi oziva ngathi ungangxola kwaye ngokuzingca urhulumente kunokubaxhobisa kwaye kukhulule." Kodwa kwakhona, oko kumgca wakho wexesha. Themba, uluntu lwakho luya kuba lapho kuwe xa ulungile. (Eyeleleneyo: Kuthetha ukuthini ngokwenene ukuba Queer?)

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungaba ne-pansexual, uMosley uthi ukukhangela i-unicorn yesini linyathelo lokuqala. "Iyadibana kwaye iya kukuvumela ukuba ucinge ngezinto zakho ezahlukeneyo (ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni) ecaleni kwesazisi sakho, ukubonakaliswa kwesini, kunye nokwabelana ngesondo."

U-LeClaire uthi iZiko leZibonelelo zoLuntu oluNgesini kunye nencwadiIndlela Queer! Amabali omntu avela kwisini esinye, kwi-pansexual, polysexual, sex-fluid, kunye nezinye iimbono ezingezo-monosexualngoFaith Beauchemin zizixhobo ezilungileyo.

Gcina ukhumbula: "Ulonwabo kunye nemiceli mngeni onokuthi ube nayo njenge-pansexual ayenzeki ngokuzimeleyo kwezinye izazisi," utshilo uGqr. Mosley. "Ke, ndiyathanda ukukhuthaza abantu ukuba benze umba omncinci wokufumana imithombo efanelekileyo ngokufanelekileyo kwiimfuno zabo ngalo mzuzu [kunye nezinye izazisi ezinje ngesini, ubuhlanga, udidi, kunye nenqanaba lokufuduka]." Kwaye loo nto, i-Twitter, iTumblr, kunye ne-Instagram zezona ziphambili. Ngokukrakra, ii-hashtag zinokuba nokusetyenziswa okunzulu.

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