Kutheni iincoko zingahambi kakuhle kunye nendlela yokuzilungisa

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Ukucela umphathi ngenkuthazo, ukuthetha ngombandela ophambili wobudlelwane, okanye ukuxelela umhlobo wakho ozibandakanyayo ukuba uzive ungakhathalelwanga. Ngaba uziva ungcangcazela kukoyika nokucinga malunga noku kunxibelelana? Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo, utsho uRob Kendall, umbhali wale ncwadi intsha Ukubetha kakhulu: Kutheni iincoko zihamba gwenxa kwaye uzilungisa njani. Nokuba ezona nkohliso zikhohlisayo zinokwenzeka ngedrama encinci-kwaye ii-tweaks ezimbalwa ezilula zingakhokelela kwiziphumo eziphambili. Apha, iindlela ezine ezilula zokusebenzisa kuyo nayiphi na intetho.

Yenze Ngobuso

Ewe, i-imeyile ilula ngaphezu kokudibana nomntu, kodwa ikwayindlela elula yokwenza ukungaqondani okukhulu, ulumkisa uKendall. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba isihloko siza kuba yimpikiswano-okanye nokuba nje kunzima-ukubambelela kwiincoko zomntu, apho ithoni, ulwimi lomzimba, kunye nembonakalo yobuso inokunceda ukuhambisa kanye le nto uyifunayo.

Chonga ixesha nendawo

Kwiiconvos ezikhohlisayo, i-legwork encinci inokuhamba indlela ende ekukhuseleni iziphumo ozifunayo. Ukuthetha nomphathi wakho malunga nokunyuselwa? Thatha iiveki ezimbalwa ukumisa ishedyuli yakhe. Ngaba ufika e-ofisini kwangoko okanye ukhetha ukuhlala de abanye abantu bahambe? Ngaba ukwimo entle phambi okanye emva kwesidlo sasemini? Uhlala nini ezinzwaneni kuba umphathi wakhe uyamdinga ukuze athethe? Ngokufumana ingqiqo yesingqisho sakhe, unokucwangcisa intlanganiso kwenye yebhloko zexesha xa kunokwenzeka ukuba abe nokwamkela ngakumbi ukubuza kwakho, utshilo uKendall. Kwaye okufanayo kuya kumfo wakho, abahlobo bakho, okanye umama wakho. Ukuba uyazi ukuba umntu akayiyo i-owl ebusuku, musa ukubiza loo mntu emva kwesithoba ukuba unento enkulu yokuxoxa.

Ixesha lokufowuna liphume rhoqo

“Naxa uqala incoko ngezona njongo zintle, izinto zinokuhamba kakubi,” ulumkisa ngelitshoyo uKendall. Kodwa endaweni yokujonga ingxoxo njengokusilela okupheleleyo, uKendall uxhasa ukubiza ixesha xa uziva ukuba iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho ziyanyuka. Ukuthatha ikhefu lemizuzu emihlanu kuyanisusa nobabini ebushushwini bencoko, kwaye kunganinika ixesha lokujonga ukuba uvelaphi omnye umntu, utshilo uKendall.

Qala iNdlela elungileyo

Ewe uyacaphukisa umhlobo wakho ongenamdla wokuhlala urhoxisa umzuzu wokugqibela, kodwa qalisa incoko ngokumxelela ukuba wonwabe kangakanani na xa nidibene, okanye nize nomzekelo wakutshanje wexesha angakhange alifakele. Emva koko, cacisa indlela oziva ngayo xa esenza i-flake, kwaye ubuze ukuba ikhona into onokuyenza ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ayenzeki. "Xa uqala nge-negative, omnye umntu uya kuzikhusela ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uya kuba nzima ukuba azive izinto ezikuxhalabisayo," kuchaza uKendall.

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