Kutheni Kulungile ukuba awuzange uzibethe zonke iinjongo zakho kulo nyaka

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Sonke sineenjongo. Kukho ezincinci, zemihla ngemihla (ezinje, "Ndizakubaleka imayile enye namhlanje"), kwaye ke kukho iinjongo ezinkulu, zonyaka esizithathela phantsi kwelebheli eyoyikisayo "isisombululo." Xa wawuchaza izigqibo zakho zika-2016, usenokuba ucinga ukuba ngoku, kwiinyanga ezili-12 kamva, ubuya kuba sele wehlile ubungakanani ngenxa yobunzima obububo. kucingelwa ukuba ulahlekelwe okanye ekugqibeleni ungade ukhuphe iminqweno yakho yetshokholethi ngokulungileyo. Apha siselunxwemeni luka-2017, kwaye mhlawumbi awukho kufutshane nalapho ubucinga ukuba uya kuba. Mhlawumbi ithatha ixesha elide kunoko belilindelwe, okanye mhlawumbi uye waqonda ukuba ayizukwenzeka kwaphela.

Kulungile. Ngamanye amaxesha izigqibo azisebenzi, utshilo uGina Van Luven, isithethi sempilo, umbhali kunye nomqeqeshi. Rhoqo xa oko kusenzeka, uzibetha. Kwaye le nkqubo, ukuba ucinga ngayo, ayikusi ndawo naphi na ukufikelela kwiinjongo zakho. Kukwenza uzive ungalunganga. “Ukuzihlamba kukuzibetha ngokupheleleyo,” utshilo uVan Luven.

Isisombululo esingcono: Fumana indlela yokuqhubela phambili. U-Erin Clifford, umqeqeshi ophilileyo, uthi kufana nokulwa neqabane lakho. Uyazi ukuba akuyompilo ukuhlala uhlaziya ingxabano enye ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye isimo sengqondo esifanayo kufuneka sisebenze xa ufika ngokufutshane kwiinjongo zakho. "Akuncedi mntu ukuzibetha ngento engazange yenzeke ngaphambili," utshilo.

Unokuhendeka ukuba uphephe ukuphoxeka ngokupheleleyo ngokusishiya izigqibo kulo nyaka. Kodwa kukho ixabiso kwisenzo sokwenza iinjongo kunye nokusebenza kuzo, nokuba awuhlangabezani nazo. "Enye yezona zicaphulo endizithandayo kukuba, 'Imalunga nenkqubela phambili hayi imfezeko,' utshilo uClifford. (Idibeneyo: Iingcali ezingama-25 zabelana ngeeNgcebiso zazo ukufezekisa nayiphi na injongo)

Masithi ukhabe unyaka unenjongo yokulahla iiponti ezili-10, kwaye ulahlekelwe sisibini kuphela. "Bhiyozela iiponti ezimbini ezilahlekileyo!" UVan Luven utsho. Injongo yakho yokulahleka kwesisindo inokukunceda ukuba wenze imikhwa esempilweni. Mhlawumbi ngoku ubetha ijimu rhoqo okanye unqwenela isaladi phezu kwee-cheeseburgers. Ezo zizinto onokuzingca ngazo, nokuba sithini isikali. “Kukho ukhetho olulungileyo olwenziwayo kwinkqubo eyenza ukuba ibe ngamava anomvuzo, ngoko ke gxila kwezo zinto,” utshilo uVan Luven.

Emva kokucinga ngezinto ozifumeneyo kunene, cinga malunga nokuba kutheni iinjongo zingakhange zikusebenzele. "Ukuba uhlala ungazifezekisi iinjongo zakho, kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba kutheni," utshilo uVan Luven. Ngaba usukelo lwaluphakame kakhulu okanye lwalungenakulinganiswa? Ngaba yayingekho ngqiqweni ngokupheleleyo? Ngaba ubuzenza nzima kuwe ngokungazi? “Kulapho umlingo ukhoyo: ukugrumba kwaye ufumanise ukuba kutheni wenza ukhetho olubi endaweni yokukhetha olusempilweni,” utshilo uVan Luven.

Thatha ezo zifundo kwaye uzisebenzise ukubumba izigqibo zakho zango-2017. Ukuba ufuna ukunciphisa umzimba, ungene phakathi ukuba ufuna ukunciphisa umzimba kwaye uza kuyenza njani. "Kulapho uninzi lwezigqibo zabantu kunye neenjongo zisilele khona ngaphambili, ukuba abanaso isicwangciso sokwenyani," utshilo uClifford. Ngaba uya kujoyina umthambo okanye uqeshe umqeqeshi? Okanye weqa ukuqhuba kwakho kwesiqhelo ngesidlo sakusasa kwaye wenze i-oatmeal endaweni yoko? Cwangcisa isicwangciso esifanelekileyo, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba siya kusebenza kakuhle nendlela ophila ngayo. Umzekelo, ukuba awunguye umntu wakusasa, musa ukuzibophelela ekusebenzeni phambi kokuba uye eofisini, utshilo uClifford.

Zibuze ukuba kutheni eso sigqibo sibalulekile kuwe. Kusenokuthatha imbonakalo ethile (uClifford ucebisa ukuba ubhale ijenali ukuba uze neyakho "kutheni"), kodwa ukuchonga isizathu esisemva kwenjongo kunokukunceda uhlale ukhuthazekile xa amaxesha esibanzima. Ungahlala usendleleni ngokubona ukuba ubomi bakho buya kuba njani wakuba ulufikelele usukelo. Bhala ezinye iingcinga kwakuloo jenali okanye ubeke iikowuti ezikhuthazayo okanye iifoto ezijikeleze indlu yakho okanye kwivor yakho yemoto apho ungazibona khona yonke imihla, utshilo uClifford. Okokugqibela, fumana amalungu osapho okanye abahlobo abaya kukhangela kunye nawe kwaye bakubambe uxanduva. "Banjengabadlali bakho abavuyisayo," kusho uClifford.

Sukucinga ngomnye umzuzwana malunga nantoni khange kwenzeke ngo-2016. Ngunyaka omtsha, kwaye uqala ukusuka ekuqaleni. "Uzibophelele ngoku," utsho uClifford. "Uyaqala ngoku." Kwaye yonke imihla oyisondeza intshi kuyo nayiphi na into oceba ukuyifezekisa kukuwina ngaphakathi kwayo.

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