Kutheni Kulungile Ungawuthandi Umzimba Wakho Ngamanye amaxesha, Nokuba Uyawuxhasa uMzimba

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URaeann Langas, oyimodeli yaseDenver, ngowokuqala ukukuxelela ukuba yeyiphi impembelelo enkulu kuye intshukumo eyakhayo emzimbeni. “Bendisokola ngenkangeleko yomzimba ubomi bam bonke,” utshilo kutshanje Ubume. "Kwakungekho de ndaqala ukubona kunye nokufunda malunga naba bantu batsha bangumzekelo, abakhuthaza ukuzithanda kwinqanaba ngalinye, apho ndaqala ukuqonda indlela omangalisa ngayo umzimba wam."

Yisizathu sokuba aqale ibhlog yakhe, ezinikele ukungqina ukuba ifashoni yimfashini, nokuba ungakanani na. Nokuba ubungakanani 2 okanye 22, abantu basetyhini bafuna (kwaye kufanelekile) ukuba banxibe izinto ezibonakala zilungile kubo kwaye zibanika amandla, utshilo. "Ukuhamba kakuhle komzimba kuye kwanceda ekuqhubekekeni."

Oko bekutshiwo, URaeann ukwacaca ngokucacileyo malunga nenyaniso yokuqonda Njani ukuthanda umzimba wakho kuyinyani, kunzima ngokwenene kwaye uneengcinga neemvakalelo ezingalunganga malunga nawe kuyindalo kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. "Ndicinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba nabo abo mama bahlala bethumela malunga nokuzingca ngemizimba yabo banethuba elininzi xa bezele ukuthandabuza," utshilo. "Yinto oyenzayo ngala mathuba abaluleke kakhulu."

Ibhlogi yefashoni eneminyaka engama-24 ubudala ibonise ezo mvakalelo kwiposti ye-Instagram yamva nje apho avule khona malunga nendlela yokuthanda umzimba wakho yinkqubo, hayi into eyenzekayo ngobusuku. "Baninzi abantu basetyhini abandibuza ukuba bangaqala njani ukuthanda umzimba wabo, kwaye ndihlala ndisithi luhambo lobomi bonke," ubhale watsho. "Kuya kufuneka usebenze kubudlelwane bakho nomzimba wakho yonke imihla."

Amagama kaRaeann obulumko aphefumlelwa kukuhlangana kwakhe nomfoti wakhe, wabelana. Ugqibe kwelokuba andivulele indlela akuyo kwindawo apho aqaphela ukuba umzimba wakhe utshintshile kwaye akonwabanga ngayo, utshilo. "Ngokwenene ndenze ukuba ndicinge ngendlela abantu basetyhini abanzima ngayo kubo kwaye kunzima nokuba kulindeleke ukuba uwuthande umzimba wakho ngoku kananjalo kuzo zonke izigaba zayo ebomini. "

Ngelixa kumnandi ukuba siphila kwixesha apho sihlala sikhuthazwa ukuba sizithande, kuyothusa, kunokuza noxinzelelo oluninzi. URaeann uqhuba athi, "ngumzabalazo oqhubekayo ukwamkela yonke indawo yakho. "Kufana nokunyaniseka kubudlelwane. Ezinye iintsuku zimnandi-uyintloko phezu kwezithende zothando-kodwa ezinye iintsuku zinzima kwaye zifuna umsebenzi omningi."

Njengabantu, sinomdla wokuzigxeka, kodwa yile nto uyenzayo emva ukuba nezo ngcinga zingalunganga ekufuneka ujonge kuzo. "Zininzi iintsuku apho ndizibamba khona ndisithi 'Owu Nkosi yam, isisu sam sijongeka sisoyikeka kule lokhwe' okanye nokuba yintoni na," utshilo uRaenne. "Kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha ndithetha into enje, ndiye ndicele umngeni ukuba ndithethe into entle ukuze nditshintshe ithowuni yencoko endiba nayo nam."

Okukwintsusa? Ukuphila kakuhle komzimba ayilohambo olulandelelanayo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo alulula. Ngokuqinisekileyo, usenokutyibilika ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ubuyele kwimiyalezo yetyhefu eluntwini ekuthumelele yona ubomi bakho bonke. Oku akukwenzi ukuba usilele, kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba unesimo sengqondo esibi. Kuthetha nje ukuba ungumntu kwaye kulungile. Njengoko uRaeann ebeka: "Qhubeka nokuleqa inzondo ngobubele nothando kuba amagama anamandla, kwaye ekugqibeleni uza kubona-kwaye kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuziva- utshintsho.

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