Kutheni kufuneka uyeke ukuzama ukuyenza yonke loo nto
Umxholo
- Kutheni ufuna ukwenza yonke into?
- Iimpembelelo zangaphandle zinokukucenga.
- Okona kulolonga "kokona kulungileyo" yeyona nto uyithandayo.
- Kwenzeka ntoni xa usenza izinto ozithiyileyo?
- Ukungena ngokwakho kubalulekile.
- Uphengululo lwe
Kwiminyaka yeClasspass kunye nezifundo ze-boutique zininzi, kunokuba nzima ukukhetha nje Nye umthambo ofuna ukunamathela kuwo. Ngapha koko, ingumbono * olungileyo * wokudibanisa ukusebenza kwakho ukugcina umzimba wakho uqikelela kunye nokuthintela ukugqitha. Oko kuthethiweyo, ngokuqinisekileyo kuyenzeka ukuba udlulele phezulu ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzilolonga, ngakumbi xa izinto ezinje ngemidiya yoluntu kunye noxinzelelo loontanga kungena kudlala. Ukuba awukho kunyango olunzima kodwa bonke abahlobo bakho, kunokuba kukuhenda ukuba uzimanye nebhokisi ebiza kakhulu yeCrossFit, nokuba awufuni nyani. Sonke sizama ukuzama izinto ezintsha, kodwa kukho umgca olungileyo phakathi kokuzama iindlela ezintsha zokufumana ukubila kwakho nokuzinyanzela ukuba wenze into ongayithandiyo. Ngoko unokuwubona njani umahluko kwaye kutheni ubalulekile? Sathetha neengcali ukufumanisa. (BTW, nazi iimpawu ezintlanu zokuxela ukuba uzilolonga kakhulu.)
Kutheni ufuna ukwenza yonke into?
Esona sizathu sikhulu sokuba abantu bazame ukulingana kwimisebenzi emininzi eyahlukeneyo sesinye esenza ingqiqo eninzi."Ngelixa kukho izibonelelo zokuwela uqeqesho, esona sizathu siphambili sokuba abantu bathande ukuzama ukuyenza yonke into xa kusiziwa emzimbeni kukuba bafuna ezona ziphumo zibalaseleyo, amaxesha amaninzi kwelona xesha lifutshane," ucacisa uJessica Matthews, umqeqeshi oyintloko kunye nomqeqeshi wezempilo kwi-American Council kwi-Exercise kunye noprofesa we-kinesiology kwiYunivesithi yasePoint Loma Nazarene. Ngelishwa, ukucudisa kuzo zonke ezi ndlela zokuzilolonga akuqinisekisi iziphumo ezingcono kunokubambelela nje kwimisebenzi embalwa eyahlukeneyo oyithandayo kunye nolungelelanisa omnye nomnye. "Abantu bathambekele ekuziva benengcinezelo okanye isidingo esingxamisekileyo sokuphonononga yonke imeko yokomelela komzimba kuba iklasi nganye okanye indlela yoqeqesho ithathwa njengeyona 'ibalaseleyo' okanye 'ingcono kunaleyo bayenzileyo ngaphambili okanye abayenzayo ngoku," Utsho uMatthews.
Iimpembelelo zangaphandle zinokukucenga.
Ah, imidiya yoluntu. I-Facebook kunye ne-Instagram zidale uluntu olomeleleyo olomeleleyo olukhuthazayo, oluxhasayo, kwaye luzele lulwazi. Kwangelo xesha, kubalulekile ukuba ubukrelekrele malunga nokuba yeyiphi imithombo oyithembileyo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba usebenzise lonke ingcebiso oyifumana kwi-intanethi. "Ishishini lokutya ukutya kunye nokuzilolonga liyachuma ngokuthengisa umbono wokuba ubuchule obutsha obuhamba phambili yimfihlo yokutshintsha," utshilo uDanielle Keenan-Miller, Ph.D., umlawuli weKlinikhi ye-UCLA Psychology kunye nonyango kwezobucala. "Indlela yokuthumela i-'fitspo' kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo yonyuse ukuvezwa kwethu kwemihla ngemihla kwimiyalezo emalunga nokutya kunye nokuzilolonga, kwaye ezo ngcebiso zinokuziva zinamandla ngakumbi xa zivela kubantu esibathandayo okanye esibathandayo." Kodwa uKeenan-Miller uthi kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba into esebenzela omnye umntu ayinakusebenzela wena. Akukho ubungakanani obulingana-bonke ukuzilolonga, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufumane into oyithandayo kwaye uya kufuna ukunamathela kuyo, kunokuba uye kuyo nayiphi na into eqhubekayo ngoku.
Okona kulolonga "kokona kulungileyo" yeyona nto uyithandayo.
Isenokungabonakali ngathi ibalulekile nokuba uyonwaba ngexesha lokuzilolonga, ngakumbi njengoko imithambo enzima ayilungiselelwanga ukuba yonwabise (ukujonga, umgama omde weenduli). Kodwa indlela oziva ngayo ngaphambi, ngexesha nasemva kokuzilolonga kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokombono wokuziphatha, uphando lubonisa ukuba okukhona usonwabela umthambo, kokukhona uya kubambelela kwindlela yokusebenza rhoqo yexesha elide, utshilo uMatthews. Siyazi ukuba ukukwazi ukubambelela kwisicwangciso kwixesha elizinzileyo yindlela ofikelela ngayo ezona ziphumo zibalaseleyo, nokuba injongo yakho kukwehla kobunzima bomzimba, ukwenza i-PR'ing lift, okanye ukugqiba umdyarho ngexesha elithile. "Ekupheleni kosuku, eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza umthambo yile uyenzayo kwaye uyakonwabela ukuyenza," wongeze watsho.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa usenza izinto ozithiyileyo?
Ngaphandle kokwenza ukuba kuncinci amathuba okuba uyenze kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kwindawo yokuqala, ukusebenza ongakuthandiyo kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yakho yengqondo. “Ukuzama ukwenza konke oko kunokukhokelela ekudinweni ngokugqithiseleyo, ukuxhalaba, kunye nokungazithembi,” utsho uMike Dow, Psy.D., ingcali yezempilo yengqondo kunye nombhali wencwadi Ukuphilisa iBrain eyaphukileyo. Ngaphezu koko, xa uzisasaza ubhityile kakhulu, uzibekela ukusilela. "Ukuthatha kakhulu kwaye emva koko ungaphumeleli kunokukwenza uzive kakubi ngawe, kodwa ukubeka injongo onokuyifikelela (kunye nokugcina) kunokwenzeka ukuba uncede ufezekise impilo yomzimba kunye nempilo yengqondo ngexesha elifanayo." Ngamanye amazwi, yigcine ilungelelene kwaye uya kuphelela wonwabile kwaye usempilweni. (Nalu ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga neenzuzo zempilo yengqondo zokuzilolonga.)
Ukungena ngokwakho kubalulekile.
Ngoko unokuqiniseka njani ukuba awuweli kumgibe "wokwenza yonke into"? Ndixelela izigulana zam rhoqo: Uyingcali kuwe,” utsho uDow. “Abantu badla ngokonwaba xa ubomi babo buhambelana nezinto abazithandayo, izinto abazithandayo, namandla abo. Thatha umzuzwana ujonge kwelo cwaka, nelizwi elincinci ngaphakathi kwakho ngokwenyani-ukunceda ubone ukuba ngaba ukuzilolonga okuthile yinto oyithandayo. "Ukukhumbula ukhetho lwakho lomthambo kunokwenza umahluko omkhulu. Umzekelo wendlela onokukwenza ngayo oku, uKeenan-Miller ucebisa ukuba uzibuze ngokwakho ukuba ingaba ufuna ukuzama into entsha kuba le nkqubo iyakonwabisa okanye unethemba lokuba ikhokelela kwinjongo ethile. "Ukuba uyonwabile kunokuba kunjani ukuzama ukuzilolonga okuthile, qhubeka uyinike umfanekiso, utshilo. "Ukuba kuphela njongo uziva uchulumancisa, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba akusoloko kunjalo ukuba kukho eyona ndlela ilungileyo kuyo nakuphi na ukomelela okanye injongo yokutya." Ngapha koko, wonke umntu, kwaye yintoni emsebenzelayo, wahlukile. "Ukukhetha indlela ehambelana neyakho. ukomelela kunye nobuthathaka kubaluleke kakhulu kwimpumelelo kunokulandela isicwangciso esisebenzele omnye umntu.