Eli bhinqa libaleke iiMayile ezingama-26.2 ecaleni kwendlela yeBoston Marathon ngelixa liTyhala iQuadriplegic Boyfriend

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Iminyaka, ukubaleka ibiyindlela yokuze ndiphumle, ndikhululeke kwaye ndithathe ixesha lokuzibandakanya. Inendlela yokundenza ndizive ndomelele, ndixhotyisiwe, ndikhululekile, kwaye ndonwabile. Kodwa andizange ndiyiqonde ngokwenyani ukuba yayithetha ntoni na kum de ndijongane nobona bunzima bukhulu ebomini bam.

Kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo isithandwa sam uMat, endandinaye iminyaka esixhenxe, wandifowunela ngaphambi kokuba aye kudlala umdlalo webhola yomnyazi kwindawo awayekuyo. Ukunditsalela umnxeba phambi komdlalo yayingengomkhwa kuye, kodwa Ngale mini wayefuna ukundixelela ukuba uyandithanda kwaye wayenethemba lokuba ndiza kumphekela isidlo sangokuhlwa ukuze nditshintshe. (I-FYI, ikhitshi ayisiyondawo yam yobungcali.)

Ngoburharha, ndavuma ndaza ndamcela ukuba atsibe ibhola yomnyazi aze agoduke ukuze achithe ixesha nam. Undiqinisekisile ukuba umdlalo uzakukhawuleza kwaye uzakuba sekhaya kungekudala.

Emva kwemizuzu engamashumi amabini, ndaphinda ndabona igama likaMat efowunini yam, kodwa xa ndiphendulayo, ilizwi kwelinye icala yayingenguye. Ndabona kwangoko ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle. Indoda eyayisemnxebeni yathi uMatt wonzakele yaye kufuneka ndifike ngokukhawuleza kangangoko ndinako.

Ndayibetha inqwelo yezigulana ndaza ndabona uMatt elele phantsi nabantu bemngqongile. Xa ndifika kuye, wayekhangeleka ephilile, kodwa wayengakwazi nokushukuma. Emva kokuba sibalekiselwe kwi-ER kunye nokuvavanywa kaninzi kunye novavanyo kamva, saxelelwa ukuba uMatt wenzakele kakhulu umqolo wakhe kwiindawo ezimbini ezantsi kanye entanyeni kwaye ukhubazekile ukusuka emagxeni kuye ezantsi. (Idibeneyo: Ndingu-Amputee kunye noMqeqeshi-Kodwa khange anyathele i-Gym ndide ndibeneminyaka engama-36)

Ngeendlela ezininzi, uMat unethamsanqa lokuphila, kodwa ukusukela ngala mhla kwafuneka abulibale ngokupheleleyo ubomi awayenabo ngaphambili kwaye aqale ekuqaleni. Ngaphambi kokuba enze ingozi, mna noMat sasizimele ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye. Asizange sibe sisibini esenza yonke into kunye. Kodwa ngoku, uMatt wayefuna uncedo ekwenzeni yonke into, kwanezona zinto zisisiseko njengokurhawuzelelwa ebusweni, ukusela amanzi, okanye ukusuka kwindawo A ukuya kwaB.

Ngenxa yoko, ubudlelwane bethu kwafuneka buqale ekuqaleni njengoko sasilungelelanisa nobomi bethu obutsha. Ingcinga yokungabikho kunye, nangona kunjalo, yayingengombuzo. Sasizakusebenza ngeli qhuma nokuba kwenzeka ntoni.

Into ehlekisayo ngokulimala komnqonqo kukuba bahluke kumntu wonke. Ukusukela oko wenzakalayo, uMatt ebesiya kunyango olunamandla lomzimba kwiziko lokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo elibizwa ngokuba luhambo oluya phambili amaxesha amane ukuya kwamahlanu ngeveki-eyona njongo iphambili kukuba, ngokulandela le mithambo ikhokelwayo, ekugqibeleni uya kufumana ezinye ukuba ayizizo zonke ukuhamba kwakhe.

Yiyo loo nto sasiqala ukumfaka kwinkqubo ngo-2016, ndamthembisa ukuba ngenye indlela, siza kuyibaleka kunye iBoston Marathon kunyaka olandelayo, nokuba loo nto ithetha ukuba mandimtyhale ngesitulo esinamavili indlela yonke. . (Eyeleleneyo: Yintoni Ukubhalisela uMdyarho weBoston owandifundisayo malunga nokuSeta iiNjongo)

Ke, ndiye ndaqala uqeqesho.

Ndandibaleka ii-marathons ezine okanye ezintlanu ngaphambili, kodwa iBoston yayiza kuba yeyona marathon yam yokuqala. Ngokubaleka ugqatso, bendifuna ukunika uMatt into aza kujonga kuyo, kwaye kum, uqeqesho lundinike ithuba lokubaleka ixesha elide ngaphandle kwengqondo.

Ukusukela oko wafumana ingozi, uMatt ebexhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kum. Xa ndingasebenzi, ndiqinisekisa ukuba unayo yonke into ayifunayo. Ekuphela kwexesha endifika ngalo ngokwenene kum kuxa ndibaleka. Ngapha koko, nangona uMat ekhetha ukuba ndimngqongile kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ukubaleka yeyona nto aya kundityhalela ngaphandle komnyango, nokuba ndiziva ndinetyala ngokushiya kwakhe.

Ibe yindlela emangalisa kakhulu kum yokuba ndibaleke kwinyani okanye ndithathe ixesha lokulungisa zonke izinto ezenzekayo ebomini bethu. Kwaye xa yonke into ibonakala ngathi ingaphandle kolawulo lwam, ixesha elide lingandinceda ndizive ndisekelwe kwaye ndikhumbuze ukuba yonke into iya kulunga. (Idibeneyo: 11 Iindlela eziXhaswa yiNzululwazi zokuSebenza zilungile kuwe)

UMat wenza itoni yenkqubela phambili kunyaka wakhe wokuqala kunyango lomzimba, kodwa akazange akwazi ukubuyisa nayiphi na into ayenzayo. Kunyaka ophelileyo, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndilubaleke ngaphandle kwakhe. Ukuwela umgca wokugqibela, nangona kunjalo, khange ndizive ndilungile ngaphandle kukaMatt ecaleni kwam.

Kunyaka ophelileyo, enkosi ngokuzinikela kwakhe kunyango lomzimba, uMatt uqalile ukuziva uxinzelelo kumalungu omzimba wakhe kwaye uyakwazi nokushukumisa iinzwane zakhe. Le nkqubela phambili indikhuthaze ukuba ndifumane indlela yokubaleka naye uMdyarho weBoston ka-2018 njengoko wayethembisile, nokuba oko kuthetha ukumtyhala kwisitulo sakhe esinamavili indlela yonke. (Idibeneyo: Yintoni abantu abangayaziyo ngokuhlala befanelekile kwisihlalo sabakhubazekile)

Ngelishwa, siwuphosile umhla wokugqibela womdyarho wokuthatha inxaxheba "njengeembaleki ezikhubazekileyo".Ke, njengoko ithamsanqa belinokuba nalo, safumana ithuba lokudibana neHOTSHOT, umvelisi wasekhaya wezemidlalo wokudubula iziselo ezijolise ekuthinteleni nasekunyangeni ukuxinana kwezihlunu, ukubaleka indlela yomdyarho kwiveki phambi kokuba ivulele iimbaleki ezibhalisiweyo. Sisonke sisebenzele ukwazisa kunye nemali yohambo oluya Phambili nge-HOTSHOT ngesisa enikela ngeedola ezingama-25,000. (Idibeneyo: Dibana neQela eliKhuthazayo loTitshala eliKhethiweyo ukuba libaleke iBoston Marathon)

Xa besiva into esasiyenza, iSebe lamaPolisa laseBoston lathi liza kusinika amapolisa ahamba nawo ukuya kuthi ga apho. Yiza “usuku lomdyarho,” mna noMat sothuke saza saba nembeko kukubona izihlwele zabantu zilungele ukusivuyisa. Njengokuba iimbaleki ezingama-30,000 + zizakwenza ngeMarathon ngoMvulo, siqale kwindawo esemthethweni yokuQala eHopkinton. Ngaphambi kokuba ndazi, besimkile, kwaye abantu bade bazimanya nathi apha endleleni, bebaleka iinxalenye zomdyarho nathi ukuze singaziva sodwa.

Esona sihlwele sikhulu senziwe ziintsapho, izihlobo, kunye nabantu esingabaziyo abasincedayo basijoyina e-Heartbreak Hill kwaye basikhapha de sayofika kumjikelo wokugqibela eCopley Square.

Yayingumzuzu wokugqibela xa mna noMat sathi sinyembezana sobabini, sinebhongo kwaye sasonganyelwa yinto yokuba ekugqibeleni senza into ebesizimisele ukuyenza kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni ndibaleka iBoston Marathon iinyanga ezi-6 emva kokuba noMntwana)

Baninzi ke abantu abeza kuthi ukusukela kwengozi beze kusixelela ukuba siyakhuthaza kwaye baziva bekhuthazwa sisimo sethu sengqondo esihle xa bejamelene nemeko ebuhlungu enjalo. Kodwa asizange siyive loo nto ngokwethu de sawugqiba umgca wokugqibela saza sangqina ukuba sinokwenza nantoni na esibeka iingqondo zethu kuyo nokuba akukho mqobo (mkhulu okanye mncinane) wawuza kusithintela.

Kwakhona kwasinika utshintsho kwimbono: Mhlawumbi sinethamsanqa. Kubo bonke obu bunzima nakuzo zonke izithintelo ebesijongene nazo kule minyaka mibini idlulileyo, sifunde izifundo zobomi abanye abantu abalinda amashumi eminyaka ukuba baziqonde ngokwenene.

Oko abantu abaninzi bakugqala njengoxinezeleko kubomi bemihla ngemihla, enoba ngumsebenzi, imali, imozulu, iimoto, kukuhambahamba epakini kuthi. Ndinganika nantoni na ukuba uMat azive endiwola okanye andibambe ngesandla kwakhona. Ezo zinto zincinci sizithathela ingqalelo yonke imihla zezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu, kwaye ngeendlela ezininzi, sinombulelo ngokuba siyayazi ngoku.

Lilonke, olu hambo lulonke luye lwaba sisikhumbuzo sokuxabisa imizimba esinayo kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, yiba nombulelo ngokukwazi ukuhamba. Awusoze wazi ukuba inokususwa nini loo nto. Yonwabele, yonge, kwaye uyisebenzise kangangoko unakho.

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