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Ekuqaleni kuka-2016, uKari Leigh wazifumana emi kwigumbi lakhe lokuhlambela iinyembezi zisihla ebusweni bakhe emva kokuzilinganisa. Ngeepawundi ezingama-240, wayengoyena mntu unzima kunabo bonke awakha waba nabo. Wayesazi ukuba kukho into ekufuneka itshintshile, kodwa wayengazi ukuba uqale ngaphi.

Ngokunikwa kwimbali yakhe eneengxaki zokutya, ukutya kwe-yo-yo, kunye nokuxhomekeka kukutya okuthuthuzelayo, uKari wayesazi ukuba unendlela ende eza kuhamba phambi kwakhe. "Ndiyazi ukuba kufuneka ndiphuhlise isicwangciso somdlalo kunye nochwephesha ukuba ndikhe ndafuna ukufunda ukubakho ngoxolo engqondweni nasemzimbeni wam," uxelele. Ubume. Ke wenza idinga nogqirha wakhe.

UKari ushiye eso sigqibo enoxilongo lokudakumba kunye nomyalelo owomeleleyo wama-antidepressants. Kwakhona ugqirha wamxelela ukuba kufuneka aqalise ukwenza umthambo aze azinyamekele kakuhle ukuba ngokwenene wayefuna ukuziva bhetele ixesha elide. UKari uthi: "Leyo yayiyinto yokugqibela endandifuna ukuyiva." "Ngelo xesha, andizange ndiqonde ukuba kufuneka ndibeke nomsebenzi, nokuba ipilisi ayiyi kulungisa iingxaki zam."

Into uKari ekwakusafuneka ayazi kukuba umzabalazo wakhe kunye nomzimba wakhe wawusekelwe kubuntwana bakhe obunesidima kunye nobomi obudala obunoxinzelelo.

U-Kari uthi uqale unyaka omtsha wesikolo esiphakamileyo, okokuqala ukuba wahlazeka umzimba. Utitshala wam wandibiza ukuba ndibhale into ebhodini, kwaye intombazana ehleli ngasemva kweklasi yaqala ukwenza izandi zokungqisha ngokungathi bendlovu enkulu, utshilo. "Khange ibethe kum ndade ndaya phezulu apho ndeva wonke umntu eqala ukuhleka. Phambi kwalonto, khange ndicinge ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngam. Kodwa emva kwaloo mava, ndacinga ukuba ndimkhulu." (Idibeneyo: Abantu baThatha kwi-Twitter ukuba babelane ngeXesha lokuqala ababenamahloni ngalo mzimba)

Ukusukela ngoko ukuya phambili, ukuya kuthi ga kwi-20s yakhe yokuqala, uKari walwa nokuphazamiseka ekutyeni, kunye nobunzima bakhe behla ukuya kumakhulu asezantsi ngelinye ixesha. "Xa ndandisesikolweni samabanga aphakamileyo, ndayeka ukutya kwaye ndaqalisa ukubaleka ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye ndalahlekelwa njengeepounds ezingama-60 ngehlobo elinye," utsho. "Emva koko, emva kokuba ndiphumelele, ndaqala ukwazisa ukutya ebomini bam kwakhona kodwa ndazibona ndisitya kakhulu emva koko ndacoca kuba ndandiziva ndisoyikeka ngokutya kwasekuqaleni."

Oku kwaqhubeka de uKari wayeneminyaka engama-30 ubudala. Wayezama nokutya okwahlukeneyo, iinkqubo zokuzilolonga, ukucoca-nantoni na anokuyifumana ukuze anciphise umzimba. Kodwa uye wafumana ubunzima endaweni yoko.

Okubi nangakumbi kukuba, ngo-2009, uKari waphulukana nomntakwabo kwingozi embi eyabangela ukuba ihlabathi lakhe liwohloke. Umothuko weendaba wakhokelela kumakhulu wakhe, owayekhulise uKari, kuxinzelelo olunzulu.

“Kwakamsinya nje akuba umakhulu efumanise ukuba umntakwethu uswelekile, kwacinywa izibane kuye,” utshilo uKari. "Kwaba ngathi ngephanyazo waphambana-wayeka ukuvuka ebhedini, wayeka ukuthetha, wayeka ukutya-wavele wancama. Ke ngoku ubhuti wam wasweleka kwaye kwangolo suku ndaphulukana nomakhulu wam-owayekhona ngokomzimba kodwa wayekhona. akusengomntu mnye. "

Emva koko, uKari waba ngumgcini oyintloko katatomkhulu wakhe, owaye kuphela kotata awayemazi. Wasweleka ngaphantsi kweminyaka emibini kamva. Uthi: “Andizange ndiphulukane nomntu ngaphambili. Kodwa kwiminyaka nje emibini, ndaziva ngathi ndilahlekelwe ngumntu wonke endikhe ndamthanda.

"Kunyaka ophelileyo onesiqingatha, ndiye ndafunda ukuba azikho iipilisi zomlingo," utshilo. "Ngelixa ezo pilisi zimhlophe zazithomalalisa incoko engapheliyo entlokweni yam, azizange zincede ekulungiseni oko kwakuqhubeka ngaphakathi. Kwathi xa kungekho nto yatshintshayo emva kweeveki ezisibhozo, ndaqonda ukuba kuza kufuneka ndiyifunxe, ndijongane nam. ndidlule, ndaze ekugqibeleni ndaba seluxolweni nomphefumlo wam-kwaye akukho namnye onokundenzela lonto kodwa ndim. "

Waqala ukulandela abantu kwimidiya yoluntu abafumene inkuthazo kunye nethemba. Waqala ukwenza ushicilelo kumlo wokuzama ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe ngcono kwaye wafunda incwadi yokuzinceda Iihambo zomphefumlo wakho.

“Yayingeyonto yokutya okanye ubunzima, yayimalunga nezi zihlandlo zilusizi kakhulu endandihamba nazo ngalo lonke ixesha,” utshilo. "Nje ukuba ndiqale ukuyishiya yonke loo nto, ngokwendalo ndiye ndaqala ukuzenzela ukhetho olungcono." (Eyeleleneyo: Iindlela ezili-9 zokulwa nokudakumba ngaphandle kokuthatha ii-Antidepressants)

Ukusukela ngoko, uKari ugxile kakhulu kwisondlo kwaye usebenza ekhaya izihlandlo ezine ukuya kwezihlanu ngeveki ukugcina impilo esempilweni. "Kwiintsuku zokuqala ezingama-60, ndilahlekelwe ziiponti ezingama-30, into eninzi kum, ngakumbi xa ndicinga ukuba ndenze ngendlela eyiyo," utshilo. Namhlanje, ulula ngakumbi ngama-75 eepawundi kwaye uziva engcono kunangaphambili.

Oko akuthethi ukuba akanazo iintsuku zakhe ezimbi. Kodwa uhambo lukaKari lokuzithanda luye lwamnceda ukuba alungele ukujongana nala maxesha anzima. “Kusekho iintsuku endingafuni kuvuka ebhedini-sonke siyenzile,” utshilo. "Kodwa ngoku ndinamandla okumelana nezo mvakalelo."

"Ewe, ndingathanda ukulahlekelwa ubunzima kunye neetoni phezulu kuyo yonke indawo. Kodwa ukuba oko akwenzeki, kulungile," uyaqhubeka. "Okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukuba ekugqibeleni ndiwukhathalele umzimba wam kunene indlela, kwaye yinto endiza kuqhubeka ndiyenza kwaye ndizingca ngayo."

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