Lo Mfazi uyazisola ngokuphulukana nobunzima ngenxa yomtshato wakhe

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Uninzi lwabatshakazi abaza kuba #sweatingforthewedding kwiinzame zokujonga okona kulungileyo kumhla wabo omkhulu. Kodwa u-Alyssa Greene ongumkhuthazi wokomelela komzimba ukhumbuza abantu basetyhini ukuba bangayithathi kude. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni Ndenza isigqibo sokungalahli ubunzima bomtshato wam)

Kwiposti ye-Instagram yakutshanje, uGrene wajonga ngasemva kwinkqubo yocwangciso lomtshato kwaye wanqwenela ukuba ngewayengazange abe nzima kuye. "Kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo bendicwangcisa umtshato wam. Bendixinezelekile andikwazi ukutya, bendingenawo umdla wokutya. Ndingakhala ukuba kufuneka ndiphumle ndingacwangciswanga," ubhale watsho. "Umtshato wakho ngamava obomi obumangalisayo; kwaye ngandlela thile simiselwe ukuba sikholwe ukuba sincinci ... sibahle kakhulu kwaye kufanelekile ukunxiba ilokhwe esiba yiyo. Kodwa ngubani owamisela loo mgangatho?!?"

UGreene ukusukela ngoko wafumana bonke ubunzima emva kwaye wafumana ukonwaba, ukulingana okunempilo. Kwaye ungummeli omkhulu wokuqina komzimba, elumkisa abalandeli bakhe malunga nobungozi bokutya okunemiqathango.

"Ndicinga ukuba amaxesha amaninzi abantu basetyhini babeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kubo ukuba baphulukane nobunzima bomtshato xa sele bebahle njengoko kunjalo," uxelela Ubume. "Kuphantse kufana nokutya okungafunekiyo. Uhamba iinyanga neenyanga uthintela kwaye emva koko uthini? Abasetyhini kufuneka bakhumbule ukuba kukho umahluko phakathi kokulahleka kwesisindo, ukufumana 'ukulungela' kunye nokuya kude kakhulu, ukuzinyanzela ukuba ulahle yonke iponti yokugqibela. Akukho nto akulunganga ngokufuna ukubonakala umhle, kodwa kufuneka uzibuze, ngeliphi ixabiso? "

Khumbula: "Ufanele uzive ungoyena mntu mhle ngaphakathi nangaphandle ngomhla womtshato wakho, kwaye ungaziva ungonelanga ngenxa yenani elithile olibonayo."

Ke nokuba uzama ukumila umcimbi wakho omkhulu, iimvakalelo zakhe zisisikhumbuzo esihle sokubeka impilo yakho kunye ulonwabo Ekuqaleni.

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