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Malunga nezigulana ezingama-700 kwisibhedlele iBoston Israel Deaconess Hospital-eyinxalenye yesifundo sokuqala esibhedlele-akufuneki ukuba uzikhathaze ngalo mzuzu. Banokufikelela ngokupheleleyo kumanqaku oogqirha babo, mhlawumbi ngexesha lokuqeshwa okanye kamva ngokusebenzisa i-database ye-intanethi, njengoko kukhankanyiwe kutsha nje. INew York Times inqaku.

Kwaye nangona oku kunokubonakala ngathi yingcinga yenoveli, uStephen F. O'Neill, uLICSW, JD, umphathi wentlalontle kwezonyango lwengqondo kunye nokhathalelo oluphambili eBeth Israel ubongoza ukuba: kanye kwiingxelo zabo, yaye uninzi lwethu apha [eBeth Israel] siye sakwenza oku ngokuphandle.”

Injalo loo nto: Ukufikelela kumanqaku akho onyanga lilungelo lakho (qaphela: imithetho iyahluka ngokwamazwe kwaye ukuba ingaba yingozi kuwe nangasiphi na isizathu, ugqirha uvumelekile ukuba anike isishwankathelo). Kodwa abantu abaninzi abayiceli. Kwaye oogqirha abaninzi baneentloni ekwabelaneni. Ngelishwa, uninzi lweengcali zonyango ziqeqeshelwe ukuzikhusela, utshilo u-O'Neill. "Kwisikolo esiphumelele isidanga, unjingalwazi wakhe wathi, 'Zimbini iintlobo zonyango: ezo ziye zamangalelwa kwaye ezingakhange zenze njalo."

Ngaba uqhuba umngcipheko wokukhubekisa okanye ukudida isigulana ngokuhambisa incwadi yamanqaku, emva koko? Lishishini elinobungozi. Kwaye u-O'Neill uyavuma ukuba ukwazi ukuba ukwisiphelo sokufumana inqaku lakhe kuyayitshintsha indlela abhala ngayo (utshintsho ikakhulu luza ngohlobo luqinisekisa ukuba uya kuluqonda ulwimi lwakhe, utsho). Kodwa ngokoqobo, iingenelo zingaphezu kweengozi, uthi: “Ukuba sihambisa iindaba ezimbi, silindele ukuba abaguli bangayi kukhumbula ngaphezu kwama-30 ekhulwini oko sikuthethayo. Ngeendaba ezimnandi, silindele ukuba bakhumbule ama-70 ekhulwini. , ulahlekile ulwazi. Ukuba izigulane zinokubuyela kwaye zikhumbule, oko kuyanceda. "

Ngapha koko, ukufikelela kumanqaku kunciphisa iifowuni ezingeyomfuneko ezivela kubantu abafuna ukucaca kwiseshini, kunciphisa uxinzelelo kwinkqubo iyonke. Kwaye uphononongo lwakutsha nje kwi Izibhengezo zoNyango lwaNgaphakathi bafumanise ukuba abantu ababone amanqaku abo e-doc banelisekile kukhathalelo lwabo kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba banamathele kwiimeds zabo.

Kwabaninzi, ukwabelana ngenqaku sesinye nje isixhobo sokwakha ubudlelwane besigulane nonyango. Ngelixa ekuqaleni babenexhala lokuba ukuziqhelanisa kunokwenza ukuba abaguli abanesifo sokubaleka babaleke (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba bebecinga ukuba ubhala izinto ezimbi ngabo?), U-O'Neill uqaphele okuchaseneyo: Ukwazi ukuba (nangaliphi na ixesha) isigulana siyakubona oko wabhala amanqanaba okuthembana adityanisiweyo, evelisa isiphumo sokuzola.

Kodwa le nkqubo ayilingani kwaphela-kwaye ngoku, zimbalwa kuphela ezinye iindlela zonyango elizweni jikelele ezisetyenziselwa ukuvula amanqaku ukusuka kubanyangi ukuya kwizigulana. "Inxalenye yomsebenzi wethu kukufumanisa ukuba ngubani lo uza kusebenza ngokumangalisayo kwaye ngubani lo uza kuba ngumngcipheko." Kwaye inkcaso iyindalo. Ukuba ugqirha ubhala utoliko lwento abacinga ukuba iqhubeka nomntu, umzekelo, kwaye ufuna isigulana ukuba senze oko kufunyanwa ngexesha laso, ukubona inqaku kwangoko kungaphazamisa ukuhamba kwonyango, u-O'Neill uyacacisa.

Kwaye ngokukwazi ukubona amanqaku ekhaya kufika inyaniso yokuba awukwazi ukuba ngubani ofunda phezu kwegxalaba lesigulana. Kwiimeko zobundlobongela basekhaya okanye ukuthandana, ukuba nomxhaphazi okanye iqabane elingalindelwanga likhubeke kumanqaku kunokuba yingxaki. (Qaphela: Kukho izikhuselo zokuthintela oku ukuba kungenzeki, utshilo u-O'Neill.)

Undoqo: Kufuneka uzazi wena. Ngaba uya kuthi phithi yimibuzo enje, "Lithetha ntoni eli gama?" okanye, "Ngaba ukuba ngokwenene wayethetha?" EBeth Israel, malunga nesinye kwisithathu sezigulana eziye zafumana ithuba lokungena kule nkqubo siye senjenjalo. Kodwa abanye abaninzi abafuni. Njengoko u-O'Neill ekhumbula, "Esinye isigulana sathi, 'Kufana nokucoceka imoto yakho kumatshini xa sele egqibile, akukho mfuneko yokuba ndijonge phantsi kwentloko.'"

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