Umfundisi-ntsapho we-Queer Yoga uKathryn Budig Wamkela iQhayiya njengolona 'guqulelo lokwenyani' lwaKhe

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UKathryn Budig akangomntu othanda iilebheli. Ungomnye wabona titshala badumileyo beVinyasa emhlabeni, kodwa waziwa njenge-pepper burpees kunye nokutsiba iijack kungena ukuhamba kwesinye isiko. Ushumayela ngobuhle bokubila, ubukrakra, kunye namandla, kodwa uya kuhlala ezisongela kumalaphu acocekileyo nakwimfashini ebengezelayo, njengoko kungqinwa ngu-Instagram wakhe. Ke xa ubuza uBudig-owayetshate intatheli yezemidlalo kunye nombhali uKate Fagan emva koqhawulo-mtshato nomyeni wakhe-ukuba achaze isini sakhe, akakuthandi ukwenza njalo.

"Ndiyakholelwa ukuba uthando alunakubekwa ilebheli," utshilo ngexesha lokusondeza umnxeba ovela eCharleston, eSouth Carolina, ngelixa uFagan egaya ngasemva. "Kodwa njengomntu owayetshate nendoda, ndaye ndazichaza esidlangalaleni njengelungileyo, xa ngaphakathi, ndandisazi ukuba ndithandana nabantu besini esinye - kodwa kwakhona, andizithandi iilebheli." UBudig uthi xa wayeqala ukuziva enyanzelekile ukuba ahlele ubuntu bakhe ngokwesondo, wayethembele kwigama elithi 'ulwelo,' kodwa uye watshintsha iigiya. Ngoku ndiyayithanda i-'queer' kuba le nto nje intle, ibinzana eliquka konke elindenza ndonwabe. (Idibeneyo: I-LGBTQ Uluhlu lweSini kunye neNkcazo yezoSondo amaLungu kufuneka azi)

Kwaye u-Budig akonwabanga, ngokungathandabuzekiyo wonwabile-imeko yokuba nesandi esinamandla kwiiklasi zakhe ezikwi-Intanethi. (Njengomfundi wexesha elide we-Budig's, andizange ndikwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ndiqaphele utshintsho kumlingiswa wakhe kwiminyaka edluleyo.) Ngelixa umxholo wakhe uhleli uhlala unomphefumlo, umnandi, kwaye uhlala uhlekisa kwiminyaka (uya kukukhaba kodwa yenza iziqhulo malunga nepuggle yakhe uAshi endleleni), uBudig uye wabonakala ethamba kwindlela akuyo ngoku, ewola izinto azenzayo, kwaye ekhuthaza abafundi bakhe ukuba benze okufanayo.

“Ibiyindaleko enkulu kum, kwaye ndonwabile ngayo,” utshilo, evuma ukuba oko watshata noFagan ngo-2018, uphuhliswe waba “lolona guqulelo lokwenyani” kuye. "Ngokucacileyo, ukuthandana noKate kwakuyinxalenye enkulu yayo - kwavula amehlo am kwizinto ezininzi. Umsebenzi wam njengotitshala kukwenza abafundi bazive bekhuselekile kwaye bamkelekile. Akunakwenzeka ukukholisa wonke umntu, kodwa ibe yinto enkulu Inxalenye yeeklasi zam ngoku ukuba zinikeze uguquko oluninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye ndikhetheke kwezinye iilwimi endizikhethileyo - kude kube lula ukuzama ukubandakanywa ngakumbi kwizimelabizo zesini. izolo kunye ne-cringe, kodwa leyo yinkqubo yokutshintsha kwaye uhlala uzama ukwenza ngcono. "

Ndiyakholelwa ukuba uthando alufanele lubhalwe ilebheli.

Kathryn Budig

Ukuzibophelela kukaBudig ekuziphuculeni kwakhe kwaqala kwangethuba - umfundisi owazalelwa eKansas, eNew Jersey uthi waqala ukuziqhelanisa neyoga esengumntwana. Ngexesha lokuthweswa kwakhe isidanga kwiDyunivesithi yaseVirginia, wayesele enothando olupheleleyo, echitha iiyure ezimbini ngosuku efuna iiklasi zeAshtanga. Kodwa oku kunyanzeleka ekugqibeleni kwakhokelela ekudinweni, kwaye emva kokufumana ukwenzakala okuninzi, watshintsha umbono wakhe waqala ngokuhlakulela umkhuba athi uziva ukondla umoya wakhe kwaye unyanisekile ngakumbi kwindlela afuna ukubonisa ngayo abafundi bakhe. Wadibana nendoda awayeza kutshata nayo njengoko wayeqala ukuziva enolwalamano kunye neyoga, kodwa emva konyaka, uBudig ukhumbula eqonda ukuba unokuzifumanisa ngakumbi phambi kwakhe.

U-Kate ngokuqinisekileyo wayelitshitshisile ilizwe lam phantsi kwalo lonke uhlobo, utshilo. "Ndanditshatile unyaka kunye nomyeni wam wangaphambili, kwaye sasihlangene iminyaka emine ngelo xesha. Ndaye kumsitho weNgqungquthela ye-ESPNW eSouthern California kwaye uKate wayesebenza njengepaneli. Wayemhle kakhulu kwaye unetalente kwaye uyamangalisa kwaye kwangoko ndamthanda. " (Eyeleleneyo: Iithoyi zeSex zokuthenga kumaShishini amaNcinci kuMbhiyozo wokuZingca)

UBudig ukhumbula engqiyame kumhlobo wakhe kulo msitho kwaye esebeza, "oh thixo wam, mhle kakhulu," apho umhlobo waphendula wathi, "'ngena emgceni - wonke umntu uyamthanda." Njengokuba uthando lukaBudig lwalukhula, intombi yakhe yayiqhula ngelithi mhlawumbi umntu osandul 'ukutshata kufuneka aqale ngokutshata umtshato wesibini.

"Kwakukho umqondiso othile!" uyahleka. "Kodwa kwaqhubeka nokukhanya kwinto yokuba ndandingonwabanga kubudlelwane endandikuyo, kwaye kungengenxa yokuba ndandingenaye umfazi-ndandingonwabanga kuba ndingakhange ndikhethe iqabane elifanelekileyo ukuba ndiphile nalo, kwaye bendisazi oko okwethutyana. "

Okwangoku, uBudig uthi akazisoli malunga nexesha elidlulileyo kwaye ukholelwa ukuba akakhange abone ukungazaliseki komtshato wakhe wokuqala, ngekhe abenakho ukubona amandla atsala amandla aziva kuFagan. Andinanto ngaphandle kokubulela, utshilo. "Uqhawulo-mtshato aluyonwabisi, kodwa lundenze umfundisi-ntsapho onovelwano - ndiyabaqonda abafundi bam ngakumbi kwaye ndiyakwazi ukubona izinto ngeelensi ezahlukeneyo. Kukho isilivere eninzi apho. "

U-Budig uthi ukudibana no-Fagan kukhuthaze iimvakalelo awazibambayo ngokungazi. "Ndingomnye wamantombazana amancinci akhulele kwiintsomi," utshilo. "Ndandiyazi ukuba kuninzi kakhulu - ngendlela yobudlelwane bokwenyani. [Ubudlelwane bam obudlulileyo] bandifundise ukuba ndingaze ndizinze."

Ngelixa uBudig eye wakrola eyakhe intsomi kunye noFagan, ubudlelwane babo abuzange bube ngaphandle komzabalazo. Nangona abahlobo bakhe kunye nosapho bakhe basamkela kwangoko isigqibo sakhe sokufaka uqhawulo-mtshato kwaye balandele ubudlelwane obutsha, uninzi lwabafundi bakhe kunye nabalandeli be-Intanethi bebengaphantsi kwenkxaso, beshiya izimvo ezikhohlakeleyo kwizithuba zakhe ze-Instagram kwaye bengayilandeli iakhawunti yakhe emihlambini.

“Ndicinga ukuba abantu baziva ngathi kukho inqanaba lokungcatshwa,” utshilo. "Ndicinga ukuba abantu banamathele kwinto abafuna ukuba uthando lubukeke ngayo, nangona bengazi ukuba kwenzekani ngokwenene kubudlelwane babo bonke aba bantu babona ngesikrini sefowuni okanye kwiiklasi. Ngoko ndicinga ukuba kwakukho inqanaba. yokungcatshwa kunye netoni ye-homophobia. " (Eyeleleneyo: Dibana ne-FOLX, i-TeleHealth Platform eyenziwe ngabantu be-Queer for Queer People)

U-Budig uthi ukuhlaselwa kwe-intanethi kwi-intanethi kwakunzima kwisisu - kungekhona ngenxa yokuba wayekhathazekile ukuba ukuhla kweendaba ezentlalo ezilandelayo kuya kuthintela njani umsebenzi wakhe, kodwa ngenxa yokuba wayeziva ukuba impendulo ibonisa ukuzinza kwabantu abaxhatshazwayo kunye nokuzingisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni inkqubela phambili yenziwe kumelo lwe-LGBTQ. "Kwakukuncinci malunga nokuxhalaba malunga nomsebenzi wam kwaye ngakumbi malunga nokuziva lusizi olunzulu malunga noluntu, utshilo. "Ingcaciso ebuhlungu kakhulu apho sikhona njengenkcubeko kunye nokuvusa okukhulu."

UBudig ukwatsho ukuba ukusabela okungakholelwayo kubaxhasi akuloncedo ncam. “Abantu abayazi indlela ebuhlungu ngayo ukuthi, ‘Andikholelwa ukuba oku kusenzeka ngo-2021 — ukugxeka abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana obufanayo akunakuba yinto yokwenyani!’ utshilo. "Kuyathandeka ukuba khange badibane nabo ngokobuqu, kodwa abantu kuluntu lwe-LGBTQ bayaqhubeka nokuzifumana rhoqo."

“Eyona nto intle [malunga nokuvuleleka ngesini sam] kukuba abantu abaninzi bandixelele ukuba abayiqondi kwaye bayafuna,” utshilo.

UKathryn budig

Okwangoku, uBudig uthi ubukhulu becala, yena noFagen babe "nethamsanqa" ngokubhekisele kumava abo okuzonda abantu abathandana besisini esinye kodwa uyavuma ukuba esi sibini senza umzamo wokudibanisa iindawo kunye nabantu abaziva bengakhuselekanga.

Kukho icala eliqaqambe ngokungathethekiyo kwimeko yokuba sesichengeni kweBudig ekwabelwana ngayo malunga nolwalamano kunye noFagan. Inxalenye entle ibikukuba abantu abaninzi bandixelele ukuba abayiqondi kwaye bafuna ukuyenza, utshilo. "Ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kubantu abafuna ukuqonda kwaye mhlawumbi abanamava angaphandle kwelizwe elingenazinto zininzi kwaye abanako ukuzisonga iingqondo zabo ngokuqhawula umtshato wathandana nomntu obhinqileyo." U-Budig uthi ukungafihli kwakhe kukwakhuthaze abanye abantu basetyhini abanezinto ezifanayo zokugcina ukufikelela. “Ndinabafazi abaninzi abafikelela kum ngamabali abo afanayo abavakalisa umbulelo wam ngokuvuleleka kwaye esidlangalaleni,” utshilo. "Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukungafihli ngakumbi esinokukunika, abantu abaninzi banokuziva bebonakala kwaye bekhuselekile." (Eyeleleneyo: Ndimnyama, ndiQueer, kunye nePolyamorous: Kutheni le nto ibalulekile kooGqirha bam?)

Njengokuba uBudig eqhubeka ngokuziphendukela buqu nangobungcali (usandula ukumilisela iqonga lakhe le-yoga elikwi-Intanethi elibizwa ngokuba yiHaus yasePhoenix), ubonakalisa ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye unethemba eliqaqambileyo ngekamva.

"Andizange ndibe nebali elimangalisayo eliza kuphuma - yam yayininzi malunga nokuwela kuyo," utsho. "Ndiyakholelwa ekubeni sonke siyimveliso yenkcubeko yoosolusapho kwaye sinako ukuyikhulula imfuno yokubeka ubungqingili kwaye sibhale isini. Ndingathanda ukuba abantu bayiyeke le miqathango ingqongqo yokuba cinga bazi. Ukuba abantwana bakhuliswe bengenalo uluvo lokuba 'ipinki ithetha intombazana' kwaye 'luhlaza kuthetha inkwenkwe,' singabanika inkululeko yokuba ngabantu nje. "

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