Usixelele: URakeli weMpilo yaseHollaback

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Inombolo ye-1 endiyenzayo ndisenzela impilo yam kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokwam bubomi bam nokukhetha kwam. Zombini iHollaback Health kunye nebhlog yam yobuqu, Ubomi kunye neZifundo zikaRachel Wilkerson, zonke zimalunga nokubanayo-ungaceli mvume, ungafuni mvume, kwaye ungaziva unetyala kakhulu ngalo lonke ixesha. Ndizakuthi, "Uxolo andixolanga" ngokuba ungubani, wenza ntoni, kwaye ufuna ntoni. Andizukulalanisa kwizinto endizikhathaleleyo, ezinkulu nezincinci, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo andizukuchitha ubomi bam ndicela uxolo ngokuzenza. Ke kufuneka ndibenabo ukuba bazive bonwabile ngam kwaye ndiziva ndiphilile kwaye ndilungelelene kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bam.

Ndicinga ukuba abantu abaninzi-ngakumbi abafazi-bagcina iingcinga zabo, iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo kunye namaphupha ebhotile. Ukugcina izinto ngaphakathi akunampilo; iyakukrazula kwaye ikwenze uxinzelelo kwaye ikwenze ngezinye iindlela. Abasetyhini bacinga (kwaye bahlala bethetha ngokuvakalayo, ngokudabukisayo), "Oo, bubudenge obu," okanye "Akukho mntu ukhathaleleyo ndicinga ntoni," okanye "Andilunganga ngokuziva ngale ndlela." Umh, ndiyayikhathalela into oyicingayo! Awukhathali njani? Ngaba awucingi ukuba indlela oziva ngayo okanye into odibana nayo ibalulekile? Kum, ukuba neblogi ibotshelelwe ngokuthe ngqo kukuzithemba, kuba uthi kuwe (kunye nehlabathi), "Heyi! Into endiyicingayo ibalulekile." Kwelinye icala, akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nebhlog ukuze uziveze ngokuzithemba; ungakwenza oko nabahlobo bakho, usapho, kunye nosebenza nabo yonke imihla.

Xa ndinestresi (esinqabileyo, ngokungagungqi, kuba ndiye ndenza into ephambili!), Ndiyathanda ukuthatha inyathelo. Ndizama ukusombulula ingxaki ekhoyo ngendlela esebenzayo, kwaye xa sele yenziwe (okanye ukuba andikwazi nje ukuthatha inyathelo, kuba ngelishwa kunjalo ngamanye amaxesha), ndibuyela kwizinto endizaziyo ukuba ziya kundenza ndizive. okulungileyo: ukubhala, ukufunda incwadi enhle, ukudibanisa nabahlobo kunye nosapho, ukuphuma ngaphandle (umoya omtsha kunye nelanga lisebenza ngokumangalisayo!), kunye nokuzivocavoca. Ndiqalile ukuthatha iiklasi ze-yoga kwaye ndiyazithanda ngokulinganisela kunye nolonwabo.

Ke imfihlelo yam yokuhlala uphilile ilula: Kuya kufuneka usebenze entlokweni yakho ngaphambi kokuba usebenze kubum. Ukuba sempilweni, andikhathazeki kangako ngokwasemzimbeni (njengokuba zingaphi iikhalori endizityayo okanye zingaphi iimayile endizigijimileyo) nangakumbi malunga nengqondo. Xa ndiziva ndomelele kwaye ndiqinisekile ngenxa yokuba ndingowam kwaye ndizibonakalisa, amanye amalungu okuba sempilweni (ukutya kakuhle, ukusebenza, ukulala ngokwaneleyo, njl. njl.) kuza kakhulu ngokwemvelo.

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