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Uthando olutsha lunokukwenza uzive ngathi uyahamba uphambene. Awunakutya okanye ulale. Ufuna ukuyifumana ...konke ixesha. Abahlobo bakho balahla amagama anje ngo "kuthatheka" (kwaye awubaphiki). Kodwa nokuba ubukhe wanaye kunye nomntu amashumi eminyaka, uthando luyaqhubeka nokuvuselela ingqondo yakho ngeendlela ezibalaseleyo, ungasathethi ke ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buchaphazela njani impilo yakho. Ngeliphandle, uthando luya ngqo entlokweni yakho-ngokoqobo. Fumanisa ukuba ingqondo yakho ibandakanyeka njani kwezothando.

Uthando olutsha

Abanye bayibiza ngokuba "kwinqanaba lenkanuko." Kodwa ezinye zeendlela uthando olutsha oluchaphazela ngayo ingqondo yakho ziya kuqhubeka okoko ukunye neqabane lakho-nokuba ubudlelwane benu buthatha iminyaka engama-50, utshilo uHelen Fisher, Ph.D., isazi ngebhayoloji kunye nombhali Kutheni Sithanda.

Kweli nqanaba lokuqala, uFisher uthi eyona ndawo iphambili yento enxulumene nothando yindawo yecandelo le-ventral tegmental (VTA). Ilawula inkqubo yakho yomvuzo, kwaye idlala indima enkulu kwiimvakalelo zakho zomnqweno, amandla akho okugxila, kunye nenqanaba lamandla akho. Njani? I-VTA yakho ivuselela imveliso ye-dopamine-isivuseleli sendalo esikhukula eminye imimandla yentloko yakho kwaye sivelise ukuphakama okufana neziyobisi, utshilo uFisher. Uziva uchwayitile kwaye unovuyo, kwaye mhlawumbi ungacacanga xa ucinga ngeqabane lakho, uyachaza.

Uthi kukwakho nomsebenzi kwindawo yengqondo yakho ebizwa ngokuba yi-insular cortex, elawula iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo. Oku kuchaza icala elinzima ngamanye amaxesha, elincinci nje elincinci lothando olutsha olunokwenza kube nzima kuwe ukulala okanye ukutya ngesiqhelo, wongeza uFisher.

Iinyanga ezininzi ukuya kubudlelwane obunothando

I-cortex yakho ye-insular iye yanyibilika, oko kuthetha ukuba uyi-nutso encinci kunokuba wawunjalo xa uthando lwakho lwaluthatha iphiko. Uya kuziva unxunguphele kwaye unamathele kunangaphambili, kwaye umdla wakho wokulala kunye nokulala kungenzeka ukuba ubuyele kwiindawo zabo eziqhelekileyo, utshilo uFisher.

Kukho ukwanda kwimveliso yengqondo yakho ye-dopamine evuselelayo nanini na xa ucinga ngeqabane lakho. Kodwa ngekhe azilawule iingcinga zakho ngendlela awenza ngayo ukuqala kwakho ukuthandana, ucebisa uFisher.

Uphando oluvela e-UK lubonisa ihomoni elawula amanqanaba e-cortisol yobuchopho-ethi i-spike xa unoxinzelelo-ikwathande ukuphawula xa ungekho neqabane lakho. UFisher uthi iyavakala into yokuba ungaziva ukhuseleke kancinci kwaye uxinezeleke ngakumbi xa wohlukene nothando lwakho. (Ezi ezinye iiNzuzo zeMpilo ezi-9 zothando zinokumangalisa nazo).

Uthando lwexesha elide

Nangona abanye bethetha ngenye indlela, uphando lukaFisher lubonisa ukuba iVPA yakho isavutha xa ucinga ngendoda yakho. "Emva kweminyaka emininzi, sabona uhlobo olufanayo lokukhululwa kwe-dopamine kunye nemincili xa abantu becinga ngamaqabane abo," utshilo. Umsebenzi kwi-pralidum yakho yangaphakathi ukhule kancinci-loo mmandla unokunxulunyaniswa neemvakalelo zokuncamathisela okunzulu, utshilo uFisher.

“Kukwakho umsebenzi kwimimandla emibini enxulunyaniswa nokuziva uzolile kunye nokuthomalaliswa kweentlungu,” uyacacisa, ebhekisa kwi-raphe nuclei kunye ne-periaqueductal grey. Uthi kukho nophando olubonisa ukuba abantu abakubudlelwane bothando banokunyamezela iintlungu ezingaphezulu kwabangabodwa.

Ke nokuba uthando lwakho lutsha okanye sele lukhulile, iingcinga zeqabane lakho zibambe ingqondo yakho ngeendlela ezimangalisayo. Uthando alutshintshi njengoko abantu becinga njalo, kwanasemva kweminyaka emininzi, utshilo uFisher. Kwaye ungalulawula ngokutsha olo thando lutsha kunye nokwandisa i-orgasm yakho ngokuvavanya enye yezi 6 zeMveliso eziSini ezingamanyala kwigumbi lokulala .... okanye naphina naphi na (zama nje ukuba ungabanjwa!).

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