Ingqondo Yakho Iphezu: Ubutyala

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Ukuhambahamba unengxaki yokuziva unetyala akumnandi. Kwaye uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba yonke into ukusuka kumajoni akho omzimba ukuya ekuziphatheni kwakho iya kwi-haywire xa uzama ukuhlala nemfihlo ehlazo.

Yazi indlela Oziphethe ngayo

Nokuba kusekuseni emva kobusuku obukhulu ngaphandle okanye imizuzu emihlanu emva kokunikezela ngengxelo yobuxoki, iindawo ezininzi zobuchopho bakho ziyavutha xa uziphatha ngeendlela ezibangela ukuba netyala. Okokuqala nokuphambili, uphononongo oluvela kwi-UCLA lufumene iimpawu zokudumba kunye namanqanaba e-hormone yoxinzelelo i-cortisol zombini i-spike phantse kwangoko phakathi kwabantu abaziva beneentloni. Ezi khemikhali zobuchopho zinokujija ngokulala kwakho, imo, kunye nenkqubo yomzimba yokuzikhusela, zikwenza ube lula ukuba ujule kwaye ujike okanye wehle ngengqele ngelixa ujongene netyala lakho, uphando lubonisa.

Kwangaxeshanye, uthungelwano lwengqondo yakho yangaphambili (kunye neminye imimandla embalwa edityaniswe neemvakalelo zamandulo, ezihleli nzulu) ikhabela kwigiya, ifumana uphando kwiDyunivesithi yaseManchester e-UK Ngokusisiseko, la ngamalungu obuchopho bakho akwaziyo. Imoshile kwaye kufuneka uzive wonwabile ngayo. Isifundo esinye sifumanise ukuba ezinye iindawo zedosi yakho ziqala ukungcungcuthekisa ukuphendula ezo mvakalelo zinetyala. Oku kubandakanya i-lobe yethutyana engaphezulu, evumela ukuba uthelekise ezakho izinto ezimbi kunye nezabanye abantu kwisangqa sakho sentlalo. Kwakhona kumxube: ingingqi yengqondo yakho ekufutshane neseptal, ekuncedayo ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba lingakanani ityala okanye ukucaphuka okufunekayo ekuziphatheni kwakho.

Njengomhlobo onovelwano okanye ugqirha ohlawulwa kakuhle, le mimandla yobuchopho yahlukeneyo ikunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba kufuneka uzive kakubi kangakanani ngawe, uphando lwase-U.K. lucebisa. Kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, baya kukunceda ufumane iindlela zokuzixolela okanye ukoyisa iziphoso zakho-nokuba oko kuthetha 'ukuloba okanye ukubeka isiganeko ngasemva kwakho.

Iyure elandelayo okanye Usuku

Ukuphendula kumoya wakho wokuqala weemvakalelo ezimbi, ingqondo yakho iya kuzama ukufumana iindlela zokuziva ungcono ngawe, ibonisa uphando oluvela kuCarnegie Mellon kunye neYunivesithi yaseWashington eSt. Oku kuthanda ukuvela ngeendlela ezimbini ezinokuqikelelwa, ababhali besifundo bathi. Omnye: Uya kuba mnandi kakhulu okanye ube nobubele kubantu obangcatshileyo okanye obenzakeleyo. Isibini: Uya kuba mnandi ngakumbi okanye ube luncedo kuye wonke umntu. Wenza oku ukuze ulungelelanise izikali zakho zokuziphatha kwaye uzincede uzive ungaphantsi njenge-jerk, ababhali bophononongo bathi.

Enye, eyona ndlela imnyama yokuhlangabezana nale meko: Unokufuna iindlela zokuzohlwaya ngokwasemzimbeni, utsho uBrock Bastian, Ph.D., isazi ngengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseQueensland yaseOstreliya. UBastian kunye noogxa bakhe bafumanise ukuba abantu abafumana ityala babekwazi ukubamba izandla zabo kwibhakethi elinamanzi abandayo omkhenkce ixesha elide kunalawo angenazo iimvakalelo zokungalunganga. Abaphandi bagqiba kwelokuba iintlungu "zisenza ukuba sizive ngathi isikali sobulungisa silinganisiwe."

Ukuhlala ujikeleze ityala lakho (Ngokwenene)

Abantu bathetha ngokuziva "besindwa" ziintloni, kwaye uphando oluvela ePrinceton lubonisa ukuba ingaphezulu komzekeliso, uxela ukuba abantu abanengxaki yokuziva benetyala baziva ngathi imizimba yabo ikhulile. Ayisiyiyo yonke loo nto: Abathathi-nxaxheba abanetyala babenexesha elinzima lokugqiba imisebenzi enzima ngokwasemzimbeni kunabo bangenatyala. Abaphandi bathi le nto ibizwa ngokuba "kukuqonda okuqulathiweyo." Ngokusisiseko, ezona mvakalelo zinamandla zinamandla okuchaphazela indlela oziva ngayo ngokwasemzimbeni, kungekhona ngokweemvakalelo kuphela. (Ezinye iimvavanyo zifumene ukuthwala imfihlo nako kukwenza uzive usindwa ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye unomthwalo.)

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