Ngaba ubudlelwane bakho bonakalisa impilo yakho esempilweni?

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• Umlingane wakho uluNgcono kunawe
• Umlingane wakho unomona wokulahleka kobunzima bakho
• Iqabane lakho liLichitha ixesha oLichitha ukubila
• Iqabane lakho liyonwabisa xa utya
• Umlingane wakho ucinga ukuba ujonge ngcono kubunzima obahlukileyo
• Iqabane Lakho Lophula Iinzame zakho Zokutya
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Kubonakala ngathi ubudlelwane obude buhlala, ixesha elide uluhlu lwezinto onokulwa ngazo. Kwaye isikhubekiso esikhulu kwizibini ezininzi kule mihla zizimo zengqondo ezahlukeneyo malunga nokutya kunye nokomelela. Ungumthanjiswa othanda i-yoga; Ufunga ngokutya kwepaleo kunye neCrossFit. Kodwa ukungavisisani malunga nendlela ojonga ngayo ukuba sempilweni akufuneki kuqhushumbe ubudlelwane bakho. Ngapha koko, utshilo u-Alisa Ruby Bash, i-LMFT, ingcali kwezobudlelwane eBeverly Hills, eCalifornia, inokukuzisa kufutshane.

Umlingane wakho uluNgcono kunawe

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Ukulungiswa: Iindaba ezilungileyo, ngokutsho kweBash, kukuba ukuba i-athletic ibalulekile kwiqabane lakho, iya kuvela kwangoko kubudlelwane ngexesha apho unokuyithatha ngokulula okanye uyishiye. Ukuba benikunye ixeshana, eli xhala mhlawumbi lithetha ngakumbi ngawe kunaye. "Kuya kufuneka ujonge ukungazithembi kwakho. Wakhetha! Sukuyicwangcisela eyakho imicimbi," utshilo, esithi, ukuba yena (okanye yena) ebefuna iqabane njengakwi-dodgeball enokhuphiswano njengaye, ngewayethethile enye yamantombazana kwiqela lakhe. Kwaye ukuba usakhathazekile? Mbuze nje.

Umlingane wakho unomona wokulahleka kobunzima bakho

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Ukulungiswa: Sizakuyitsho nje: Amadoda abonakala ngathi anciphisa ubunzima ngokulula kakhulu kunabafazi kwaye, ngokunyanisekileyo, uyanuka. Kulula ukujika izinto zibe lukhuphiswano kodwa ekugqibeleni ukuba omnye wenu uphilile emva koko niyaphumelela nobabini. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka uzame kwaye wenze umzamo weqela, utshilo uBash. "Ukufumana impilo entle kunye licebo elihle," utshilo. "Ninokusebenza kunye njengeqela ukugcina ukutya okunempilo endlwini, ukupheka ukutya, ukuxhasana kunye nokuba sonwabele imivuzo kunye."

Iqabane lakho liLichitha ixesha oLichitha ukubila

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Ukulungiswa: Ukuzinikela kwiklasi yakho yeZumba oyithandayo ayiyonto imbi; wonke umntu kufuneka azenzele into. Ingxaki iza kuba sonke sinexesha eliqingqiweyo, ucacisa uBash. Kodwa akufuneki uyeke ukugcina enye inkampani ebalulekileyo esofeni neNetflix. “Zama ukummema ukuba ahambe nawe,” uyacebisa. "Kwaye ukuba akanamdla, yenze eyona nto iphambili ekucwangciseni ixesha kunye ukwenza into eniyonwabelayo nobabini."

Iqabane lakho liyonwabisa xa utya

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Ukulungiswa: Amadoda ahlala elindele lukhulu malunga nendlela umfazi "kufuneka" adle ngayo (enkosi kakhulu, iintengiso zeCarl's Jr.!) Kodwa akukho mntu ubeka indlela yokuba abafazi bafumane ukutya. Amanye amantombazana aphumelela kwiisaladi, amanye athanda ukugcwala ipitsa kunye namaphiko, ngelixa abanye bethu begcina itshokholethi kwidrowa yethu yangaphantsi njengemikhwa elungiselela i-chococalypse. Yonke into ilungile, utsho uBash, wongeza ngelithi ukuba indoda yakho iyakugezela ngento oyityayo okanye ongatyiyo, eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuyibamba kukumgezela emva. "Jika isiqhulo kuye kwaye ungazicingeli kakhulu," uyachaza. "Ukuba awucingi ukuba yinto enkulu, naye ngekhe ayenze."

Umlingane wakho ucinga ukuba ujonge ngcono kubunzima obahlukileyo

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Ukulungiswa: Sonke sivile ukuba "amakhwenkwe athanda into encinci ukubamba ebusuku" kodwa nokuba umalunga ne-bass okanye i-treble (okanye i-symphony eyonwabileyo yazo zombini) ukuba umzimba wakho ukhangeleka njani kufuneka kube kuwe. UBash uhlangana nalo mbandela kakhulu kunye nabaxumi bakhe, kwaye uthi ngelixa abanye abantu basetyhini banokuyibona njengothomalalisayo okanye ekhululayo, abanye baziva benoloyiko. “Ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukuba akufumane unomtsalane kodwa ekugqibeleni kufuneka unyaniseke kuwe,” uyachaza, wongeza ukuba kufuneka umxelele nje indlela amagqabaza akhe akwenza uvakalelwe ngayo kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba uya kuyiyeka.

Iqabane Lakho Lophula Iinzame zakho Zokutya

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Ukulungiswa: Akukho nto ikhathaza ngaphezu kokuqalisa uSuku lokuqala lwendlela yakho entsha yokuphila esempilweni, emva kokucoca yonke inkunkuma kwi-pantry yakho, kunokuba ujike ufumane iqabane lakho limi apho liphethe igallon ye-mint chip. Ukuba kwenzeka nje kube kanye, jongana nomba-Ngaba ukwehla kobunzima bakho kumenza azive engakhuselekanga malunga nobudlelwane? Ngaba wayezama ukwenza into entle?—kwaye uyavuma ukuba ayisayi kuphinda yenzeke. Kodwa ukuba iba yingxaki eqhubekayo, inokuba ngumqondiso woxhatshazo ngokweemvakalelo, utshilo uBash. "Ukuba umntu othile uyasokola ukunciphisa umzimba kwaye omnye uhlala ezama ukonakalisa loo nto, oko kuthetha ukuba bazama ukumkhohlisa lo mntu kwaye banokuba nakho ukubenza babe likhoboka lokutya," ucacisa. "Ukuba akazukuyeka kwaye akazukuya kwicounselling kunye nawe, ngumaphuli wentengiselwano."

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