Ukwahlulahlula: Ngaba ngumkhwa ombi okanye ukuSebenza kweBongo?

Umxholo

• Ibangelwa yintoni?
• Ukulala
• Ulwazi olugqithisileyo
• Ukugqithisa, uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo
• Ngaba yinto embi?
• Okulungileyo
• Ayintle kangako
• Ukubuyela kwakhona kwindawo xa ufuna njalo
• Zithobe
• Gcina umkhondo xa uzowona owona mmandla
• Ziqhelise ukukhumbula
• Sebenzisa iindlela zokuphulaphula
• Ziqhelanise nokuzikhathalela
• Ungalufumana nini uncedo
• Umgca wezantsi

Wakhe wahlulwa phakathi kwincwadi ende, enzima kwaye uyaqonda ukuba awufundanga nelinye igama kwimizuzu eli-10? Okanye uqale ukucinga ngesidlo sasemini xa umntu osebenza naye onomdla eqhubeka ixesha elide entlanganisweni?

Phantse wonke umntu uphuma amaxesha ngamaxesha. Inokwenzeka rhoqo ngakumbi xa uziva udikiwe okanye uxinezelekile, okanye xa ukhetha ukwenza enye into.

Kukwayinto eqhelekileyo ukuba namava esithuba esingapheliyo okanye inkungu yengqondo ukuba ujongana nosizi, ukwahlukana okubuhlungu, okanye ezinye iimeko zobomi ezinzima. Kwezi meko, ukucandwa kwemida kungasebenza njengeqhinga lokulwa nohlobo, olungeyonto imbi.

Ukucandwa komhlaba kuthathelwa ingqalelo njengohlobo lokwahlukana, kodwa yona iwela esiphelweni sobume.

Ibangelwa yintoni?

Rhoqo, ukucandwa komhlaba kuthetha ukuba ingqondo yakho itshintshele kwi-autopilot. Oku kunokwenzeka xa ingqondo yakho iqonda ukuba ungawugqiba umsebenzi wakho wangoku, nokuba kukusonga impahla okanye ukuhamba uye emsebenzini, ngaphandle kokucinga nyani ngayo. Ke uya kwimowudi emiselweyo.

Okwangoku, ezi zinto zilandelayo zinokukwenza ukuba uthambekele ekukhetheni umhlaba, nokuba ngowuphi umsebenzi yenza kufuna ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo.

Ukulala

Cinga emva kwexesha lokugqibela ongakhange ulale ngokwaneleyo. Ebudeni bemini, usenokuziva unenkungu, uphazanyiswa ngokulula, okanye ungacacanga.

Isenokungabonakali ngathi yinto enkulu, kodwa ukuphulukana nokulala kunokuthatha umthwalo omkhulu ekusebenzeni kwengqondo yakho kwaye kukwenze uthambekele ekucwangcisweni. Oku kunokuba yingozi ngakumbi xa uqhuba okanye usebenza noomatshini.

Ulwazi olugqithisileyo

Ukuba ukhe wakuphatha okuninzi, ulwazi olubalulekileyo ngexesha elinye - yithi, xa uqala umsebenzi omtsha-ungaziva udidekile kwaye ungaqinisekanga ukuba ungaqala ngaphi. Mhlawumbi ingqondo yakho yaqala ukubhadula xa uzama ukugxila ekufunxeni ulwazi.

Kulapho ukucandwa kwemida kungangena ngokufanelekileyo. Unokuziva ngathi ukhutshiwe, kodwa ingqondo yakho ingaqhubeka nokuqhubekeka ngasemva.

Inkqubo efanayo inokwenzeka kwakhona ngexesha lokugxila okuphezulu, njengesiqhelo somdaniso ochanekileyo. Iinyawo zakho ziyazi amanyathelo, kodwa ukuba ucinga ngale nto uyenzayo naye nzima, unokwenza impazamo. Ke, ingqondo yakho ikhaba kwi-autopilot, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba uyazi, ugqibe inkqubo ngokugqibeleleyo.

Ukugqithisa, uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo

Ukongeza kulwazi olugcweleyo, ukugcwala ebomini ngokubanzi kunokushiya uzive ungekho kumdlalo wakho.

Unokuziva ngathi uhamba nje kubomi bemihla ngemihla, kodwa ungacingi ngale nto uyenzayo. Ekugqibeleni, uphuma kule nkungu ungazikhumbuli kangako ukuba lingakanani ixesha elidlulileyo okanye indlela ophumelele ngayo.

Oku kuhlala kukuziqhelanisa nokukunceda ugcine uxinzelelo kunye nokuxinana kude kude uzive uxhobile ukujongana nabo. Ukuba udlulile kulo naluphi na uhlobo loxinzelelo, olu tyekelo lommandla ngaphandle komda wokuzahlula kakhulu.

Xa ujongene noxinzelelo olugqithisileyo, abanye abantu baphendula ngokuvala, okanye ngokuzikhusela ngokupheleleyo. Ukucima ukwahlulahlulahlula ngaphakathi kungenza inkqubo ye-nervous system, engakhokelela ekungabikho ngokupheleleyo kobukho.

Ngamanye amagama, unga:

• ukuqonda ukuba ungubani
• ukukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho
• ukulawula ukunyakaza komzimba

Ukwahlulahlula kunokubandakanya ukulahleka kwememori okanye izikhewu, ngenxa yoko awunakukhumbula okwenzekileyo.

Ngaba yinto embi?

Ubukhulu becala, ukucandwa komhlaba akulunganga kwaphela. Yinxalenye yesiqhelo yokusebenza kwengqondo, kwaye ihlala iluncedo.

Okulungileyo

Ukuvumela ingqondo yakho ibhadule kunokhulisa ubuchule bakho kunye nokukunceda usombulule iingxaki ngokukuko.

Kwaye, xa ubandakanyeka ngokwenene ekwenzeni into oyithandayo, nokuba kukuzoba, ukusebenza, ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo, okanye ukufunda incwadi yakho oyithandayo, unokuziva ungena ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungakuqapheli okwenzekayo okukujikelezile. Ngenxa yoko, uyonwaba ngakumbi kulo msebenzi.

Ngaphezu koko, uphononongo lwango-2017 oluhlola iindlela abantu abacinga ngazo ngamaxabiso obuqu afumene ubungqina bokuxhasa ikhonkco phakathi kokucandwa kwemida kunye nokucinga okunzulu.

Kwisifundo, abathathi-nxaxheba abangama-78 bafunda amabali amafutshane angama-40 malunga namaxabiso akhuselweyo, okanye amaxabiso ahlala ejongwa njengabalulekileyo okanye angcwele. Ukufunda amabali kusebenze uthungelwano lwendlela emiselweyo, indawo enye kwingqondo esebenzeyo xa ukhupha indawo.

Ayintle kangako

Ukwahlulahlula yenza ngamanye amaxesha unemiphumo engathandekiyo.

Ukuba ulungele ukujamelana nento enzima, njengempikiswano neqabane lakho okanye intetho evela kumphathi wakho, unokuziva ungonwabi kangako ngalo mzuzu. Ukucwangciswa kwemida kunokuthintela ekuceliseni umngeni ezi mvakalelo njengoko zisiza.

Ke, kukho wonke umba wokhuseleko, ngakumbi xa ukwindawo engaqhelekanga. Mhlawumbi ukhuphela ngaphandle ngelixa uqhuba kuhola wendlela kuba uqhube ngendlela efanayo yonke imihla kule minyaka isixhenxe idlulileyo. Okwangoku, nangona uyazi kakuhle indlela, ukuphulukana nokugxila xa uqhuba kungakhokelela kwingozi.

Ukwahlulwa kunokuba nomsebenzi okhuselayo xa abantu, ngakumbi abantwana, bengenako ukubaleka kumava abuhlungu okanye oxinzelelo. Nangona kunjalo, isenokungabi yeyona mpendulo ilungileyo kwimeko okuyo unako suka kude.

Ukuba uqhubeka nokwahlulahlula ukuphendula kuzo zonke iintlobo zoxinzelelo, ngekhe usebenzise ezinye, iindlela eziluncedo ngakumbi zokuhlangabezana.

Ukubuyela kwakhona kwindawo xa ufuna njalo

Ukuphupha kusengaphambili ngelixa usenza imisebenzi yasekhaya okanye umsebenzi ofuna umsebenzi omncinci wokusebenza kwengqondo kulungile. Kodwa ngaba ukucanda umhlaba ngelixa umphathi wakho esiya kwiingcebiso ezibalulekileyo zeprojekthi yakho enkulu elandelayo? Akunjalo kakhulu.

Ukuba uhlala ujonge ngaphandle ngexesha elingafanelekanga, ezi ndlela zinokukunceda ugcine ujoliso lwakho xa ulifuna.

Zithobe

Iindlela zokwenza isiseko kunokuba luncedo olukhulu xa ufuna ukuyeka ukucanda umhlaba. Ukwenza isiseko ngokulula kuthetha ukuba uthatha amanyathelo okuzikhusela kumzuzu wangoku.

Unokwenza oku ngo:

• ukuphefumla ngevumba elimnandi, njengeoyile ebalulekileyo
• ukuzolula okanye ukutsiba endaweni
• ukuqhuba amanzi abandayo okanye ashushu ezandleni zakho
• ukuncanca kwiilekese ezinzima kunye nencasa ebabayo (isinamon, ipermermint, okanye iilekese ezimuncu lukhetho olukhulu)

Gcina umkhondo xa uzowona owona mmandla

Ihlala iluncedo ekubhaleni inqaku elikhawulezayo nanini na xa uqaphela ukuba ukhethile. Ukuba awazi njalo ukuba kusenzeka nini, ungacela umntu omthembileyo ukuba akuncede.

Ukungena kwezi ziqendu kunokunika ukuqonda kuzo naziphi na iipateni zokujikeleza kwengqondo kunye nokukunceda uqaphele iingcinga zakho ngaphambi kokukhetha. Nje ukuba ube nolwazi ngakumbi ngezi patheni, ungathatha amanyathelo wokuzitshintsha.

Ziqhelise ukukhumbula

Ukuziqhelanisa nokucinga kunokukunceda wandise ukuqonda kwakho okwenzekayo kumzuzu ngamnye. Oku kunokunceda kakhulu ukuba uhlala ujonge indawo ngelixa usenza imisebenzi engadingi mandla mandla engqondo.Endaweni yokuvumela iingcinga zakho zibhadule, jolisa kwinto oyenzayo.

Ukuba uhlamba izitya, umzekelo, hlala ukho ngokucinga ngevumba lesepha, uburhabaxa besiponji, ubushushu bamanzi, kunye nolwaneliseko oba nalo xa ufumana imbiza emdaka ngokwenene ecwebezelayo.

Ukuzilolonga ukuphefumla nako kunokunceda. Ukugxila kwimpefumlo nganye oyikhuphelayo kunye nokukhupha kunokukunceda ujolise ulwazi lwakho ngokulula. Oku ngamanye amaxesha kunokukunceda uhlale ukhona ngelixa uqhuba-ngakumbi ukuba ubambekile kwizithuthi, kuba imithambo yokuphefumla ikwanceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.

Sebenzisa iindlela zokuphulaphula

Ukuba uzibamba uzikhethela xa umamele abanye abantu bethetha, zama ukubandakanya izakhono zokumamela xa unxibelelana nabanye.

Oku kubandakanya:

• ukunqwala kunye nokusebenzisa ezinye iindlela ezingabonisi ukuthetha ukubonisa ukuzibandakanya kwakho
• ukushwankathela okanye ukuphinda abakuthethayo ukubonisa ukuqonda kwakho
• ukubuza imibuzo ecacisa ukuba uziva udidekile okanye awuqinisekanga

Ziqhelanise nokuzikhathalela

Iindlela ezilungileyo zokuzikhathalela zinokukunceda ulawule uxinzelelo kwaye ukoyike ngokulula ngakumbi, ezinokwenza ukuba ukucandwa komhlaba kungabi lula.

Ukuzinakekela kunokubandakanya ezempilo kunye nezenzo zempilo, ezinje:

• ukutya ukutya okunesondlo
• ukulala ngokwaneleyo
• ukwenza ixesha lokuzilolonga

Inokubandakanya izinto ezinje:

• ukuchitha ixesha nabantu obathandayo
• ukwenza ixesha lezinto ozithandayo kunye neminye imisebenzi oyithandayo
• ukunxibelelana nokunxibelelana namaqabane athandanayo malunga nemiceli mngeni okanye izinto ezichaphazela nina nobabini

Kubalulekile ukuzikhathalela nasemsebenzini, ngakumbi xa unomsebenzi onzima okanye oxinzelelekileyo. Mfutshane, ikhefu eliqhelekileyo lokuzolula, ukuphumla, kunye nokutya okukhuthazayo kunokunyusa imveliso kunye noxinzelelo.

Ungalufumana nini uncedo

Ngokubanzi, awudingi ukuba nexhala lokwahlulahlula umhlaba ngamanye amaxesha, ngakumbi ukuba oko kwenzeka ikakhulu xa uxakeke ngumsebenzi kwaye kubonakala ngathi akunaziphumo zibi kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.

Kodwa ukuphupha rhoqo, ukubhadula kwengqondo, okanye inkungu yengqondo ngamanye amaxesha inokuba ziimpawu zeminye imiba, kubandakanya i-ADHD kunye noxinzelelo.

Kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nengcali yezempilo ukuba ukucandwa kwakho kukhatshwa zezinye iinkqubo, kubandakanya:

• kunzima ukugxila okanye ukulawula ixesha
• ukungazinzi okanye ukucaphuka
• ingxaki yokulawula imood okanye iimvakalelo zakho
• ukuqhubeka kwemood
• iingcinga zokuzibulala okanye ukuzenzakalisa

Kuba ukwahlukana kunokuba yinto enzulu, kuhlala kububulumko ukuthetha nonyango ukuba uzikhupha rhoqo okanye ukholelwa ukuba ufumana iziqendu ezingafaniyo.

Ezinye zeempawu zokuzahlula zibandakanya:

• Ukucandwa komhlaba ngexesha loxinzelelo
• gcwalisa ngokupheleleyo into eyenzekayo
• ungaqapheli xa uphuma ngaphandle
• Iziganeko ezothusayo ezidlulileyo, ngakumbi ezo ungekazithethi

Iingcali zonyango zibonelela ngesikhokelo kunye nenkxaso engenasigwebo njengoko bekunceda ukuba ujonge izizathu ezinokubakho zokucandwa komhlaba kunye nokuphuhlisa iindlela zokunceda.

Abantwana abahlangabezana nohlobo oluthambileyo lokuhlutha izinto olubizwa ngokuba kukungabikho koonobumba banokubonakala ngathi baphumile. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ephupha emini kodwa engaphenduli xa uzama ukufumana ingqalelo, licebo elihle ukubona ugqirha wabantwana.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukungena kummandla ngelixa wonwabile ukubaleka okuhle kwaye uziqonde ukuba ulahlekile kwingoma yemizuzu embalwa edlulileyo mhlawumbi ayisiyiyo into ekufuneka ukhathazekile ngayo.

Kwelinye icala, ukuba uhlala uthambekele kulo lonke ixesha kwaye kubonakala ngathi awukwazi ukuyeka, isenokuba lixesha lokuthetha nonyango. Unyango lunokuhlala lunenzuzo xa ukucandwa komhlaba okanye ukwahlukana kuchaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.

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