Ixesha lokuphuma

Ixesha lokuphuma liyindlela yokuba ngumzali ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba bayeke ukwenza izinto ongafuniyo ukuba bazenze. Xa umntwana wakho engaziphathi kakuhle, ungamsusa ngokuzolileyo umntwana wakho kulo msebenzi kwaye umenze ukuba aphume. Umntwana wakho uhlala eyeka ukwenza isimilo ukuthintela ukuya ngaphandle. Ixesha lokuphuma lisebenza ikakhulu nabantwana, iminyaka emi-2 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala.

Xa ubeka abantwana ngaphandle, ubabonisa ngezenzo ukuba awuzithandi iindlela zabo zokuziphatha. Isebenza ngcono kunokukhwaza, usongele okanye ubethe.

Ixesha lokuphuma lisusa umntwana wakho ekuziphatheni. Inika wena nomntwana wakho ixesha lokuzola kwaye nizilawule. Abantwana ekuhambeni kwexesha nabo banexesha lokucinga ngento abayenzileyo.

Khetha enye okanye ezimbini zokuziphatha ofuna ukusebenza kunye nomntwana wakho. Sebenzisa ixesha lokuphuma ngokungaguquguqukiyo kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha. Qaphela ukuba ungasebenzisi ixesha elininzi ngaphandle. Yisebenzise kuphela indlela yokuziphatha ofuna ukuyiyeka.

Yazisa abantwana kwangethuba ukuba uza kusebenzisa ixesha lokuphuma. Umzekelo, baxelele, "Ngexesha elizayo xa usilwa nezinto zokudlala, wonke umntu uza kuphuma imizuzu emi-3. Ndiza kukuxelela xa kuphele imizuzu emi-3."

Khetha indawo ngaphambi kwexesha. Qinisekisa ukuba yindawo ekruqulayo kude neTV kunye nezinto zokudlala. Akufanelekanga ukuba yindawo emnyama okanye eyoyikisayo. Ukuba abantwana bakho bancinci, qiniseka ukuba uyababona. Ezinye iindawo ezinokusebenza zibandakanya:

• Isitulo epasejini
• Ikona yegumbi
• Igumbi lokulala
• Ibhedi yomntwana

Xa abantwana bengaziphathi kakuhle, banike isilumkiso sokuba bayeke. Baxelele, "Akukho kubetha. Oko kubuhlungu. Ukuba awuyeki ukubetha, uyakubanexesha lokuphuma."

• Xa abantwana beyeka ukungaziphathi kakuhle, bancome ngokulawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo.
• Xa abantwana bengayeki ukungaziphathi kakuhle, baxelele ukuba baphume ngexesha. Yitsho kube kanye: "Ukubetha kubuhlungu. Udinga ixesha lokuphuma."

Cacisa kwaye uzolile. Musa ukucaphuka. Xa ukhwaza kwaye ukhathaza, unika abantwana bakho isimilo esibi.

Abanye abantwana banokuhamba ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba ubaxelele. Xa abantwana bengahambi bodwa, bakhokele okanye ubathwale uye nabo kwindawo yokuphumla. Sukungxola okanye ukubetha kwindlela eya kwixesha lokuphuma.

Beka umntwana wakho ngexesha lokuphuma umzuzu omnye ngonyaka, kodwa ungabi ngaphezu kwemizuzu emi-5. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uneminyaka emi-3 ubudala, ixesha lokuphuma liyimizuzu emi-3.

Abantwana abadala bangaxelelwa ukuba banexesha lokuphuma bade bakulungele ukubuyela kwimisebenzi yabo kwaye baziphathe. Ngenxa yokuba bathatha isigqibo xa bekulungele, bafunda ukulawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo.

Ukuba abantwana bakho abahlali ngexesha labo ngaphandle kwamabala, babambe ngobunono apho. Musa ukuthetha nabo okanye ubanike ingqalelo.

Ukuba useta ixesha kwaye umntwana wakho wenza ingxolo okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle ngexesha, setha kwakhona isibali-xesha. Ukuba umntwana uyabhadula, khokela umntwana abuyele kuloo ndawo kwaye asete ixesha kwakhona. Umntwana kufuneka athule kwaye aziphathe kakuhle de kube ixesha liphelile.

Xa ixesha liphelile, vumela abantwana babuyele kwimisebenzi yabo. Sukuthetha malunga nokuziphatha gwenxa. Ekugqibeleni abantwana bafumana umyalezo kunye nexesha lokuphuma.

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