Nceda umntwana wakho akwazi ukumelana noxinzelelo

Abakwishumi elivisayo bajongene noxinzelelo olwahlukileyo. Kweminye, izama ukulinganisa umsebenzi wesingxungxo kunye neentaba zomsebenzi wesikolo. Abanye banokufuneka bancede ekhaya okanye bajongane nokuxhatshazwa okanye ukunyanzeliswa koontanga.Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, ukuqala kwindlela yobuntu obukhulu kuneengxaki zako ezizodwa.

Unokumnceda umntwana wakho ngokufunda ukuqonda iimpawu zoxinzelelo kunye nokufundisa umntwana wakho iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana nazo.

Imithombo eqhelekileyo yoxinzelelo kulutsha ibandakanya:

• Ukukhathazeka ngomsebenzi wesikolo okanye kumabanga
• Uxanduva lokujinga, olufana nesikolo nomsebenzi kunye nemidlalo
• Ukuba neengxaki nabahlobo, ukuxhatshazwa, okanye uxinzelelo lweqela loontanga
• Ukuba neentlobano zesini okanye uziva uxinzelelo lokwenza njalo
• Ukutshintsha kwezikolo, ukuhamba, okanye ukujongana neengxaki zezindlu okanye ukungabi namakhaya
• Ukuba neengcinga ezimbi ngabo
• Ukuhamba notshintsho lomzimba, kuwo omabini amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana
• Ukubona abazali babo beqhawula umtshato okanye ukwahlukana
• Ukuba neengxaki zemali kusapho
• Ukuhlala kwikhaya elingakhuselekanga okanye elumelwaneni
• Ukufumanisa ukuba wenzeni emva kwesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo
• Ukungena kwikholeji

Funda ukuqaphela iimpawu zoxinzelelo kulutsha lwakho. Qaphela ukuba umntwana wakho:

• Izenzo unomsindo okanye ucaphuka
• Ukulila rhoqo okanye kubonakala ngathi kuyalila
• Ukurhoxa kwimisebenzi nakubantu
• Unengxaki yokulala okanye ulala kakhulu
• Kubonakala ngathi ukhathazeke kakhulu
• Itya kakhulu okanye ayonelanga
• Izikhalazo zentloko okanye isisu
• Kubonakala ngathi udiniwe okanye awunamandla
• Sebenzisa iziyobisi okanye utywala

Funda imiqondiso yeengxaki zempilo yengqondo ukuze ufumane uncedo kumntwana wakho:

• Iimpawu zoxinzelelo kulutsha
• Iimpawu zokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo

Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uphantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu, unokumnceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuwulawula. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso:

• Chithani ixesha kunye. Zama ukuchitha ixesha uledwa kunye nomntwana wakho veki nganye. Nokuba umntwana wakho akayamkeli, baya kuqaphela ukuba ubenzile. Ukuzibandakanya ngokulawula okanye ukuqeqesha iqela labo lezemidlalo, okanye ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yesikolo. Okanye, yiya nje kwimidlalo, kwiikonsathi, okanye kwimidlalo abandakanyeka kuyo.
• Funda ukuphulaphula. Mamela ngokungafihlisiyo kwinkxalabo neemvakalelo zomntwana wakho, kwaye nabelane ngezinto ezakhayo. Buza imibuzo, kodwa ungatolikisi okanye ungene ngaphakathi ngengcebiso ngaphandle kokuba ubuziwe. Olu hlobo lonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lunokwenza umntwana wakho afune ngakumbi ukuxoxa ngoxinzelelo lwakho kunye nawe.
• Yiba ngumzekelo. Nokuba uyazi okanye awazi, umntwana wakho ujonge kuwe njengomzekelo wokuziphatha okunempilo. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukugcina uxinzelelo lwakho luphantsi kolawulo kwaye ululawule ngeendlela ezisempilweni.
• Yenza umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe. Ukufumana imithambo rhoqo yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokubetha uxinzelelo, kubantu abadala nakwishumi elivisayo. Khuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba bafumane umthambo abawonwabelayo, nokuba liqela lezemidlalo okanye eminye imisebenzi efana neyoga, ukunyuka udonga, ukuqubha, ukudanisa, okanye ukuhamba intaba. Usenokucebisa ukuba uzame umsebenzi omtsha kunye.
• Gcina ukulala. Ulutsha lufuna uninzi lwamehlo avaliweyo. Ukungalali ngokwaneleyo kwenza kube nzima ukulawula uxinzelelo. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ulala iiyure ezisi-8 ubuncinci ubusuku bonke. Oku kunokuba ngumceli mngeni phakathi kweeyure zesikolo nomsebenzi wesikolo. Enye indlela yokunceda kukunciphisa ixesha lesikrini, zombini iTV kunye nekhompyuter, ngorhatya ngaphambi kokulala.
• Fundisa izakhono zolawulo lomsebenzi. Fundisa umntwana wakho iindlela ezisisiseko zokulawula imisebenzi, enje ngokwenza uluhlu okanye ukwaphula imisebenzi emikhulu kwiincinci kunye nokwenza isiqwenga esinye ngexesha.
• Ungazami ukusombulula iingxaki zomntwana wakho ofikisayo. Njengomzali, kunzima ukubona umntwana wakho ephantsi koxinzelelo. Kodwa zama ukuxhathisa ukusombulula iingxaki zomntwana wakho. Endaweni yoko, sebenzani kunye ukucinga ngezisombululo kwaye vumela umntwana wakho afike nezimvo. Sebenzisa le ndlela kunceda ulutsha lwazi ukujongana neemeko zoxinzelelo lodwa.
• Gcina ukutya okusempilweni. Njengabantu abadala abaninzi, ulutsha ludla ngokufikelela amashwamshwam angenampilo xa ephantsi koxinzelelo. Ukubanceda ukuba bamelane nomnqweno, gcwalisa ifriji yakho kunye neekhabhathi ngemifuno, iziqhamo, ukutya okuziinkozo kunye neeproteni ezibhityileyo. Tsiba iisoda kunye nekhalori ephezulu, ukutya okulula okuneswekile.
• Yenza izithethe zosapho. Iinkqubo zosapho zinokuthuthuzela umntwana wakho ngexesha loxinzelelo. Ukuba nesidlo sangokuhlwa sosapho okanye ubusuku be-movie kunokunceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo losuku kwaye kukunike ithuba lokudibanisa.
• Musa ukufuna ukugqibelela. Akukho namnye kuthi owenza yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo. Ukulindela ukugqibelela kulutsha lwakho akunangqondo kwaye kongeza nje uxinzelelo.

Shayela umboneleli wakho wezempilo ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ngathi:

• Ukoyiswa luxinzelelo
• Uthetha ngokuzenzakalisa
• Ukhankanya iingcinga zokuzibulala

Fowuna kwakhona ukuba ubona iimpawu zoxinzelelo okanye unxunguphalo.

Ulutsha-uxinzelelo; Ukuxhalaba-ukumelana noxinzelelo

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