Ukufumana inkxaso xa umntwana wakho enomhlaza

Ukuba nomntwana onomhlaza yenye yezona zinto zinzima oya kujongana nazo njengomzali. Ayizaliswanga nje inkxalabo kunye nenkxalabo, kuya kufuneka ugcine umkhondo kunyango lomntwana wakho, utyelelo lonyango, i-inshurensi, njalo njalo.

Wena neqabane lakho niqhele ukulawula ubomi bentsapho yakho wedwa, kodwa umhlaza wongeza umthwalo ongaphezulu. Funda ukuba ungalufumana njani uncedo kunye nenkxaso ukuze ukwazi ukumelana ngokulula. Ngale ndlela uya kuba nexesha elininzi kunye namandla okuba ubekhona ukuba nomntwana wakho.

Umhlaza wobuntwana unzima kusapho, kodwa kunzima nakwizihlobo nabahlobo bosapho. Bazise ukuba umntwana wakho uphathwa ngumhlaza. Cela uncedo kumalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo kwimisebenzi yasekhaya okanye ukukhathalela abantwana bakowenu. Ukuba nomntwana onomhlaza yingxaki kusapho lwakho, kwaye abanye abantu banako kwaye baya kufuna ukunceda.

Unokufuna ukuxelela abantu kwindawo ohlala kuyo, emsebenzini, esikolweni, nakwezenkolo. Kuyanceda xa abo bakungqongileyo beqonda ukuba uhlangabezana nantoni. Kwakhona, abantu banokukunceda ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Banokuba nebali elifanayo kwaye banokunika inkxaso, okanye banokwazi ukukunceda ukuba usebenze ngeendlela ezithile okanye ugubungele utshintsho lomsebenzi.

Kunokuba nzima ukugcina wonke umntu ehlaziywa kwinto eyenzekayo. Ukuphindaphinda iindaba kunokuba yindinisa. I-imeyile ekwi-Intanethi okanye iinethiwekhi zentlalo yindlela entle yokuhlaziya abantu ebomini bakho. Unokufumana amagama anomusa enkxaso ngale ndlela. Unokufuna ukubuza elinye ilungu losapho ukuba libe lelona nqaku lokuhlaziya abantu kwaye ubazise ngento abanokuyenza ukunceda. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba ufumane inkxaso ngaphandle kokuyilawula.

Nje ukuba wazise abantu, ungoyiki ukubeka imida. Ungaziva unombulelo kuba abantu befuna ukunceda. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha olo ncedo kunye nenkxaso kunokuba nzima. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe nakusapho lwakho kukujolisa ekukhathaleleni umntwana wakho nakwabanye. Xa uthetha nabanye:

• Thetha ngokuphandle nangokunyanisekileyo
• Bonisa kwaye uxelele abanye ngendlela wena nomntwana wakho enifuna ukuphathwa ngayo
• Yazisa abantu ukuba banika wena okanye umntwana wakho ingqalelo enkulu

Uninzi lwabanikezeli bezempilo kunye namaqela akhoyo ukukunceda ujongane nokuba nomntwana onomhlaza. Unokufikelela ku:

• Iqela lakho lokhathalelo lwempilo
• Abacebisi bezempilo yengqondo
• Amaqela enkxaso kwi-Intanethi nakwezentlalo
• Amaqela oluntu
• Iiklasi zesibhedlele sasekhaya kunye namaqela
• Inkonzo yebandla
• Iincwadi zokuzinceda

Thetha nonontlalontle esibhedlele okanye isiseko sendawo ukufumana uncedo ngeenkonzo okanye iindleko. Iinkampani zabucala kunye nemibutho yoluntu nayo inokunceda ekufakweni kweinshurensi kunye nokufumana imali yokuhlawula iindleko.

Ngokuzikhathalela ngokwakho, uya kubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba onwabele njani ebomini.

• Zilolonge rhoqo kwaye utye ukutya okusempilweni. Ukunyamekela umzimba wakho kunokukunika amandla okusebenza nomntwana wakho kunye nababoneleli. Umntwana wakho uya kuxhamla ngokuba nabazali abasempilweni.
• Thatha ixesha elikhethekileyo lokuba wedwa kunye neqabane lakho kunye nabanye abantwana kunye nabahlobo. Thetha ngezinye izinto ngaphandle komhlaza womntwana wakho.
• Zenzele ixesha lokwenza izinto othanda ukuzenza ngaphambi kokuba agule umntwana wakho. Ukwenza izinto ozithandayo kuya kukunceda uhlale ulungelelene kwaye unciphise uxinzelelo. Ukuba uziva uzolile, uya kuba nakho ukumelana noko kuza nendlela yakho.
• Kusenokufuneka uchithe ixesha elininzi kumagumbi okulinda. Cinga ngento ethuleyo oyithandayo, njengokufunda iincwadi okanye iimagazini, ukunitha, ubugcisa, okanye ukwenza iphazili. Zisa ezi zinto kunye nawe ukuze wonwabe ngelixa ulindile. Unokwenza imithambo yokuphefumla okanye iyoga ukunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.

Ungaziva unetyala ngokuzonwabisa ebomini. Kusempilweni ukuba umntwana wakho akubone uncuma kwaye uve uve uhleka. Oko kwenza ukuba kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho azive enethemba.

Ezi webhusayithi zinamaqela enkxaso kwi-Intanethi, iincwadi, iingcebiso kunye nolwazi malunga nokujongana nomhlaza wabantwana.

• Umbutho woMhlaza waseMelika-www.cancer.org
• Iqela le-Oncology yaBantwana - www.childrensoncologygroup.org
• Umbutho waseMelika woMhlaza woMntwana- www.acco.org
• Unyango lokuKhangela uMhlaza waBantwana- curesearch.org
• IZiko leSizwe loMhlaza-www.cancer.gov

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