Xa unyango lomhlaza womntwana wakho luyeka ukusebenza

Ngamanye amaxesha olona nyango lulungileyo alwanelanga ukumisa umhlaza. Umhlaza womntwana wakho usenokunganyangeki ngamachiza alwa nomhlaza. Inokuthi ibuye okanye iqhubeke nokukhula ngaphandle konyango. Eli inokuba lixesha elinzima kuwe nakwintsapho yakho njengoko usenza izigqibo ngonyango oluqhubekayo kunye nolandelayo.

Akusoloko kucacile ukuba kufuneka uyeke nini unyango olujolise kumhlaza.Ukuba unyango lokuqala aluzange lusebenze, oogqirha bahlala bezama iindlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngokwesiqhelo, ithuba lokuphumelela liyehla ngomgca ngamnye omtsha wonyango. Usapho lwakho kunye nabanikezeli ngononophelo lwempilo yomntwana banokufuna ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngaba unyango oluqhubayo olujolise kumhlaza lufanele na iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezibangela umntwana wakho, kubandakanya iintlungu kunye nokungonwabi. Unyango lweziphumo ebezingalindelekanga kunye nentlungu ehambelana nomhlaza kunye neengxaki zawo azipheli.

Ukuba unyango alusasebenzi okanye ugqibe kwelokuba uyeke unyango, ugqaliselo lokhathalelo luya kutshintsha kunyango lomhlaza ekuqinisekiseni ukuba umntwana wakho ukhululekile.

Nokuba akukho themba lokuba umhlaza uza kuphela, ezinye iindlela zonyango zinokugcina amathumba angakhuli kwaye zinciphise iintlungu. Iqela lokhathalelo lwempilo lomntwana wakho linokuthetha nawe malunga nonyango ukuthintela iintlungu ezingeyomfuneko.

Ukuba awukenzi njalo, kuya kufuneka wenze izigqibo malunga nokuphela kobomi bomntwana wakho. Kunzima ngokumangalisayo nokuba ungacinga ngayo, kodwa ukukhathalela le micimbi kunokukunceda ujolise ekwenzeni okona kulungileyo ebomini bomntwana wakho. Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe zibandakanya:

• Zeziphi iintlobo zonyango oza kuzisebenzisa ukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale kamnandi.
• Nokuba ngaba okanye awunayo i-do musa ukuvuselela iodolo.
• Apho ufuna umntwana wakho achithe iintsuku zakhe zokugqibela. Ezinye iintsapho zikhululekile ngakumbi esibhedlele apho ugqirha alapha khona ngekona. Ezinye iintsapho ziziva zibhetele kutyelelo lwasekhaya. Intsapho nganye kufuneka yenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo kubo.
• Ungakanani ukubandakanya umntwana wakho kwizigqibo.

Isenokuba yeyona nto inzima ekufuneka uyenzile, kodwa ukutshintsha ukugxila kunyango lomhlaza ukukhusela umntwana wakho kunyango olungazukunceda kunokuba yeyona nto ilungileyo emntwaneni wakho. Unokukwazi ngcono ukuyiqonda into ahamba kuyo umntwana wakho, kunye nezinto ezifunwa ngumntwana wakho kuwe, ukuba unyanisekile ngokwenzekayo.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzivelele ngokwakho. Izibhedlele ezininzi kunye nemibutho ineenkonzo zokunceda abantwana nabazali bahlangabezane nemicimbi yokuphela kobomi.

Abantwana bahlala bekwazi ngaphezu kwabazali babo. Bajonge indlela yokuziphatha kwabantu abadala kwaye bamamele into abayithethayo. Ukuba uyaziphepha izifundo ezinzima, unokunika umntwana wakho umyalezo wokuba izihloko azivumelekanga. Umntwana wakho unokufuna ukuthetha, kodwa angafuni ukukucaphukisa.

Kwelinye icala, kubalulekile ukuba ungamtyhali umntwana wakho ukuba athethe ukuba akakakulungeli.

Ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kunokukunika imikhondo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubuza imibuzo malunga nokufa, inokuba ngumqondiso wokuba bafuna ukuthetha. Ukuba umntwana wakho utshintsha umxholo okanye ufuna ukudlala, umntwana wakho unokwanela okwangoku.

• Ukuba umntwana wakho mncinci, cinga ukusebenzisa iithoyi okanye ubugcisa ukuthetha ngokufa. Usenokuthetha ngento eyenzekayo ukuba unodoli uyagula, okanye uthethe ngencwadi malunga nesilwanyana esifa.
• Buza imibuzo evulelekileyo enika umntwana wakho ithuba lokuthetha. "Ucinga kwenzeka ntoni kuMakhulu xa esweleka?"
• Sebenzisa ulwimi oluza kuqondwa ngumntwana wakho. Amabinzana afana nokuthi "dlula" okanye "ulale" anokumphazamisa nje umntwana wakho.
• Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba abayi kuba bodwa xa besifa.
• Xelela umntwana wakho ukuba iintlungu ziya kuphela xa eswelekile.

Inqanaba lamandla omntwana wakho liya kudlala indima ephambili kwindlela yokuchitha iiveki okanye iinyanga ezizayo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, gcina umntwana wakho ebandakanyeka kwimisebenzi yesiqhelo.

• Namathela kwiinkqubo ezifana nokutya kosapho, imisebenzi yasekhaya kunye namabali okulala.
• Vumela umntwana wakho abe ngumntwana. Oku kunokuthetha ukubukela umabonwakude, ukudlala imidlalo, okanye ukuthumela iitekisi.
• Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale esikolweni ukuba kunokwenzeka.
• Xhasa ixesha lomntwana wakho nabahlobo. Nokuba ubucala, emnxebeni, okanye kwi-Intanethi, umntwana wakho unokufuna ukuhlala enxibelelana nabanye.
• Nceda umntwana wakho azibekele usukelo. Umntwana wakho unokufuna ukuthatha uhambo okanye afunde into entsha. Iinjongo zomntwana wakho ziya kuxhomekeka kwimidla yabo.

Ngelishwa njengoko kunjalo, kukho iindlela onokuthi umncede ngazo umntwana wakho ukuba alungele ukufa. Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba loluphi utshintsho olwenzekayo emzimbeni. Ugqirha womntwana wakho unokukunceda ngale nto. Ngelixa kungcono ukuba ungabandakanyi iinkcukacha ezoyikisayo, ukwazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kunokunceda umntwana wakho azive enexhala.

• Yenza iinkumbulo zosapho. Unokuhamba ngeefoto kwaye wenze iwebhusayithi okanye incwadi yezithombe kunye.
• Nceda umntwana wakho avalelise kubantu abakhethekileyo ngobuqu okanye ngeeleta.
• Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba yeyiphi impembelelo engapheliyo abaya kuyishiya ngasemva. Nokuba ibingunyana olungileyo kunye nomntakwenu, okanye ukunceda abanye abantu, xelela umntwana wakho ukuba bawenze njani umhlaba waba yindawo engcono.
• Thembisa ukuba uyakulunga xa umntwana wakho esweleka kwaye uza kukhathalela abantu kunye nezilwanyana ezithandwa ngumntwana wakho.

Ukuphela kokhathalelo lobomi - abantwana; Ukhathalelo lokuthambisa - abantwana; Ukucwangciswa kokhathalelo kwangaphambili - abantwana

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