Ubushushu bomsindo

Umsindo wobushushu awuthandeki kwaye uyaphazamisa isimilo okanye ukudubuleka kweemvakalelo. Zihlala zivela ekuphenduleni kwiimfuno ezingafezekiswanga okanye kwiminqweno. Umsindo kunokwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke kubantwana abancinci okanye kwabanye abangakwaziyo ukuveza iimfuno zabo okanye ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo xa bekhathazekile.

Umsindo wobushushu okanye isimilo "sokulingisa" sesendalo ngexesha lobuntwana. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bafune ukuzimela njengoko befunda ukuba bangabantu abahlukileyo kubazali babo.

Lo mnqweno wokulawula uhlala ubonakala usithi "hayi" rhoqo kwaye ube nomsindo. Umsindo uba mandundu kukuba umntwana usenokungabi naso isigama sokubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe.

Ukudumba kuhlala kuqala kubantwana abanenyanga ezili-12 ukuya kwezi-18 ubudala. Ziya zisiba mandundu phakathi kweminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwe-3, ze zinciphise de kube yiminyaka eyi-4. Ukudinwa, ukulamba, okanye ukugula kunokwenza ukuba umsindo ube mandundu okanye uqhubeke rhoqo.

XA UMNTWANA WAKHO ENESITRAM

Xa umntwana wakho enomsindo, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale uzolile. Kuyanceda ukukhumbula ukuba umsindo udla ngokuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Ayilotyala lakho. Awunguye umzali ombi, kwaye unyana okanye intombi yakho ayingomntwana ombi. Ukukhwaza okanye ukubetha umntwana wakho kuya kuyenza mandundu imeko. Impendulo ethe cwaka, enoxolo nomoya, ngaphandle "kokunikezela" okanye ukophula imithetho oyibekileyo, kunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye kunenze nizive ngcono nobabini.

Unokuzama ukuphazamiseka kancinci, utshintshele kwizinto ezenziwa ngumntwana wakho okanye enze ubuso obuhlekisayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho unomsindo kude nekhaya, khokelela umntwana wakho kwindawo ethe cwaka, enje ngemoto okanye kwigumbi lokuphumla. Gcina umntwana wakho ekhuselekile de umntwana aphele.

Umsindo wobushushu yindlela yokuziphatha efuna ukukhangela. Isicwangciso esinye sokunciphisa ubude kunye nobukrakra bomsindo kukungahoyi isimilo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhuselekile kwaye akonakalisi, ukuya kwelinye igumbi endlwini kunokwenza mfutshane isiqendu kuba ngoku idrama ayinabaphulaphuli. Umntwana wakho unokulandela kwaye aqhubeke nomsindo. Ukuba kunjalo, sukuthetha okanye wenze into de isimilo siyeke. Emva koko, thetha ngokuzolileyo ngalo mbandela kwaye unikezele ngezinye iindlela ngaphandle kokunikezela kwibango lomntwana wakho.

UKUTHINTELA IINDAWO ZOKUGQIBELA

Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyatya kwaye ulele ngamaxesha abo aqhelekileyo. Ukuba umntwana wakho akasalali, qinisekisa ukuba basenexesha elithe cwaka. Ukulala phantsi kangangemizuzu eli-15 ukuya kwengama-20 okanye uphumle ngelixa ufunda amabali kunye ngamaxesha aqhelekileyo emini kunokunceda ekuthinteleni umsindo.

Ezinye iindlela zokuthintela ukuqumba kubandakanya:

• Sebenzisa ithoni yokunyusa xa ucela umntwana wakho ukuba enze into. Yenze ivakale njengesimemo, hayi iodolo. Umzekelo, "Ukuba ubeka iimittens zakho kunye nomnqwazi, siya kuba nakho ukuya kwiqela lakho lokudlala."
• SUKULWA nezinto ezingabalulekanga ezinje ngokuba unxibe izihlangu umntwana wakho nokuba uhlala esihlalweni esiphakamileyo okanye kwisihlalo esiphakamisayo. Ukhuseleko yeyona nto ibalulekileyo, njengokungasibambi isitovu esishushu, ukugcina isihlalo semoto sibhincile, nokungadlali esitratweni.
• Nika ukhetho xa kunokwenzeka. Umzekelo, vumela umntwana wakho akhethe iimpahla azakuzinxiba kunye namabali aza kuwafunda. Umntwana oziva ezimele kwiindawo ezininzi uya kuba nakho ukulandela imigaqo xa kunyanzelekile. MUSA ukunika ukhetho ukuba umntu akakho ngokwenene.

XA UFUNA UNCEDO

Ukuba umsindo uya usiba mbi kwaye awucingi ukuba ungabalawula, funa ingcebiso kumboneleli wakho wezempilo. Fumana uncedo ukuba awukwazi ukulawula umsindo wakho kunye nokukhwaza okanye ukuba unexhala lokuba ungasabela kwindlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho ngokohlwaya ngokwasemzimbeni.

IAmerican Academy of Pediatrics icebisa ukuba ubize ugqirha wabantwana okanye ugqirha wosapho ukuba:

• Iimfesane ziba nzima emva kweminyaka engama-4
• Umntwana wakho uzenzakalisa okanye azenzakalise okanye abulale ipropathi ngexesha lomsindo
• Umntwana wakho ubamba umoya wakhe ngexesha lomsindo, ngakumbi ukuba bayaphela
• Umntwana wakho uphupha kakubi, eguqula uqeqesho lwendlu yangasese, intloko ebuhlungu, isisu esibuhlungu, ixhala, ukwala ukutya okanye ukulala, okanye ukunamathela kuwe

Ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha

IAmerican Academy yePediatrics iwebhusayithi. Iingcebiso eziphambili zokusinda kumsindo. www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/nxibelelwano-discipline/Pages/Temper-Tantrums.aspx. Ukuhlaziywa ngo-Okthobha 22, 2018. Kufikeleleke ngoMeyi 31, 2019.

UWalter HJ, uDeMaso DR. Ukuphazamisa, ukulawula impembelelo, kunye nokuphazamiseka kokuziphatha. Ku: Kliegman RM, St Geme JW, Blum NJ, Shah SS Tasker RC, Wilson KM, ii-eds. Incwadi kaNelson yeNcwadi yePediatrics. Umhla wama-21. IPhiladelphia, PA: Elsevier; 2020: isahluko 42.