Uqeqesho ebantwaneni

Bonke abantwana abaziphathi kakuhle ngamanye amaxesha. Njengomzali, kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kuphendula uthini. Umntwana wakho ufuna imigaqo yokuqonda indlela yokuziphatha.

Uqeqesho lubandakanya isohlwayo kunye nomvuzo. Xa uqeqesha abantwana bakho, ubafundisa indlela yokuziphatha elungileyo nengalunganga. Uqeqesho lubalulekile ku:

• Khusela abantwana kwingozi
• Fundisa ukuzeyisa
• Ukuphuhlisa izakhono ezilungileyo zentlalo

Wonke umzali unendlela yakhe yobuzali. Unokuba ngqongqo okanye ungabekwa mva. Isitshixo kuku:

• Cwangcisa ulindelo olucacileyo
• Yiba ngokungaguquguqukiyo
• Yiba nothando

AMACEBISO OKUQEQESHA OKUSEBENZA

Zama ezi zikhombisi zomzali:

Umvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle. Kangangoko unako, zama ukugxila kokuhle. Yazisa abantwana bakho ukuba uyonwaba xa besenza ngendlela onqwenela ngayo. Ngokubonisa ukuvunywa kwakho, ukhuthaza isimilo esihle kwaye unceda ukwakha ukuzithemba.

Vumela iziphumo zendalo zifundise umntwana wakho. Ngelixa kungelulanga, akufuneki uhlale uthintela izinto ezimbi ukuba zenzeke. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhathazekile yinto yokudlala kwaye uyayaphula, mfundise ukuba akasenayo loo nto yokudlala.

Cinga ngeminyaka yomntwana wakho xa ubeka imida okanye ukohlwaya. Musa ukulindela okungakumbi kumntwana wakho kunokuba umntwana wakho enokukwenza. Umzekelo, umntwana omncinci akakwazi ukulawula intshukumisa yokuthinta izinto. Endaweni yokuzama ukumxelela ukuba angachukumisi, beka izinto ezibuthathaka ngaphandle kokufikelela. Ukuba usebenzisa ukuphuma kwexesha, beka abantwana bakho ngexesha lokuphuma ngomzuzu omnye ngonyaka ngamnye. Umzekelo, beka umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-4 ngexesha lokuphuma kwimizuzu emi-4.

Cacisa. Yazisa umntwana wakho kwangethuba ukuba uza kube wenzani ngengqeqesho. Musa ukuyenza kubushushu bomzuzwana. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba yeyiphi indlela yokuziphatha ekufuneka itshintshe kwaye uza kwenza ntoni ukuba ayenzi njalo.

Xelela umntwana wakho kanye le nto uyilindeleyo kuye. Endaweni yokuthi, "Igumbi lakho lonakele," xelela umntwana ukuba kufuneke athathwe okanye acocwe. Umzekelo, xelela umntwana wakho ukuba abeke izinto zokudlala alungise ibhedi. Chaza ukuba siyakuba siphi isohlwayo ukuba akalihoyanga igumbi lakhe.

Musa ukuphikisana. Nje ukuba ubeke ulindelo, sukutsala kwingxoxo malunga nokufanelekileyo. Sukuqhubeka nokuzikhusela xa sele uyichazile into oyifunayo. Khumbuza umntwana wakho malunga nemigaqo oyibekileyo kwaye uyiyeke kuloo nto.

Yiba ngokungaguquguqukiyo. Sukutshintsha imithetho okanye ukohlwaya ngokungacwangciswanga. Ukuba ngaphezulu komntu omdala omnye uyamqeqesha umntwana, sebenzani kunye. Kuyadida umntwana wakho xa omnye umnakekeli esamkela isimilo esithile kodwa omnye umkhathaleli ohlwaya indlela efanayo yokuziphatha. Umntwana wakho unokufunda ukudlala omnye umntu omkhulu komnye.

Bonisa intlonipho. Mphathe ngentlonelo umntwana wakho. Ngokuhlonela umntwana wakho, wakha intembelo. Ziphathe ngendlela ofuna ukuba umntwana wakho aziphathe ngayo.

Landela uqeqesho lwakho. Ukuba uxelela umntwana wakho ukuba uza kuphulukana nexesha lakhe leTV namhlanje ukuba uyabetha, zilungiselele ukucima umabonwakude wosuku.

Sukwenza izoyikiso ezinkulu zesohlwayo ongasoze uzenze. Xa usoyikisa isohlwayo kodwa ungalandeli, umntwana wakho ufunda ukuba awuthethi nto uyithethayo.

Endaweni yoko, khetha isohlwayo onokuthi kwaye uzimisele ukukwenza. Umzekelo, ukuba abantwana bakho bayalwa, yithi: "Ukulwa kufuneka kuyeke ngoku, ukuba awuyeki, asizukuya kwimidlalo bhanyabhanya." Ukuba abantwana bakho abayeki ukulwa, sukuya kwiimuvi. Abantwana bakho baya kufunda ukuba uyayithetha into oyithethayo.

Zola, ube nobuhlobo, kwaye uqine. Umntwana unokuba nomsindo, alile, okanye abe lusizi, okanye aqale umsindo. Ukuziphatha kwakho kuzolile, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba abantwana bakho bafanise indlela abaziphethe ngayo emva kweyakho. Ukuba uyabetha okanye uyabetha, uyabonisa ukuba kwamkelekile ukusombulula iingxaki ngobundlobongela.

Khangela iipateni. Ngaba umntwana wakho uhlala ecaphuka aze enze into efanayo okanye kwimeko efanayo? Ukuba uyayiqonda into ebangela isimilo somntwana wakho, unokukwazi ukuyikhusela okanye ukuyiphepha.

Lazi ixesha lokucela uxolo. Khumbula ukuba ukuba ngumzali ngumsebenzi onzima. Ngamanye amaxesha uyakuphuma kulawulo kwaye ungaziphathi kakuhle. Xa oku kusenzeka, cela uxolo emntwaneni wakho. Mxelele ukuba uza kuphendula ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwixesha elizayo.

Nceda umntwana wakho abe nomsindo. Vumela abantwana bakho ukuba baveze iimvakalelo zabo, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, bancede bakwazi ukujamelana nomsindo kunye nokudana ngaphandle kogonyamelo okanye ubundlongondlongo. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nokujongana nomsindo:

• Xa ubona umntwana wakho eqala ukusebenza, phazamisa ingqalelo yakhe ngomsebenzi omtsha.
• Ukuba ukuphazamiseka akusebenzi, ungamhoyi umntwana wakho. Ngalo lonke ixesha usabela kumsindo, uvuza isimilo esingathandekiyo ngononophelo olongezelelekileyo. Ukuthethisa, ukohlwaya, okanye nokuzama ukuqiqa nomntwana kunokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho aziphathe ngakumbi.
• Ukuba uphakathi kwabantu, msuse umntwana ngaphandle kwengxoxo okanye ingxabano. Linda de umntwana aphole phambi kokuba aqalise imisebenzi yakho.
• Ukuba umsindo ubandakanya ukubetha, ukuluma, okanye enye into eyingozi, SUKUYIBEKA ngoyaba. Xelela umntwana ukuba indlela yokuziphatha ayizukunyanyezelwa. Hambisa umntwana kude imizuzu embalwa.
• Khumbula, abantwana abanakuziqonda iingcaciso ezininzi. SUKUZAMA ukuqiqa. Nika isohlwayo ngoko nangoko. Ukuba uyalinda, umntwana akazukudibanisa isohlwayo nokuziphatha.
• SUKUYALELA kwimithetho yakho xa unomsindo. Ukuba uyanikezela, umntwana wakho ufundile ukuba umsindo uyasebenza.

Oko kufuneka ukwazi malunga nokubetha. Iingcali zifumanise ukuba ukubetha:

• Unokwenza abantwana babe ndlongondlongo ngakumbi.
• Unokuphuma kulawulo kwaye umntwana angonzakala.
• Ufundisa abantwana ukuba KULUNGILE ukwenzakalisa umntu abamthandayo.
• Ufundisa abantwana ukuba boyike umzali wabo.
• Ufundisa abantwana ukuba bakuphephe ukubanjwa, kunokuba bafunde indlela yokuziphatha elungileyo.
• Ngamana angabethelela isimilo esibi ebantwaneni abenza nje ukufumana ingqalelo. Nokuba ingqalelo engalunganga ibhetele kunokungahoyi.

Ufuna nini uncedo. Ukuba uzame iindlela ezininzi zokuba ngumzali, kodwa izinto azihambi kakuhle ngomntwana wakho, licebo elihle ukuthetha nomboneleli wezempilo womntwana wakho.

Kuya kufuneka uthethe nomboneleli womntwana wakho ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho:

• Ukungahloniphi bonke abantu abadala
• Ihlala isilwa wonke umntu
• Ibonakala idandathekile okanye iblue
• Kubonakala ngathi ayinabahlobo okanye imisebenzi abayithandayo

Ukubeka imida; Ukufundisa abantwana; Ukohlwaya; Ukhathalelo lomntwana-uqeqesho

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